dreamin in pa
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Hi everyone. I want to thank you all for the kind words. It really meant alot to me.
To make a long story a little shorter, all that stuff about DS trying to turn things around was just a scam on DH and I. We were tryng very hard with DS and trying to trust him more....life was going pretty good or so we thought. As of right now, we owe more money to the school for lunches that he borrowed (we have had to pay back over 150.00 in lunches he has borrowed since he moved in with us) after throwing away his packed lunch from home. I was so impressed with what I thought was his good behavior, I was going to put money into his lunch account so he could buy lunch once in a while. Once I logged into his account on-line, I found all the charges that start about 1 1/2 weeks after we thought things were getting better. I felt we were finally turning the corner but ended up just feeling stabbed in the back.
On top of all this, we got a call from his mom this weekend and found out that in the last month, DS had downloaded about 300.00 in "adult" movies on her cable bill.
She calls us complaining that she doesn't have the money to pay for that and hinted that we should help her pay for it. (She doesn't pay support and we have never asked for any.) Before the "supposed" turn around happened, we told her plenty of times what he had been doing. She chose not to believe us and always blamed someone else for what he did. (friends made him do it) She never took it seriously until it affected her. By the way, he was in trouble long before we were granted custudy and that is the main reason we have custody now. We have been and still are fighting a losing battle. We haven't given up on him but he hasn't hit bottom yet. When he does, we'll be there to help him pick up the pieces.
Please don't thing bad of me for that last bit. I believe some people just cannot accept help until they have hit bottom, whatever that may be. We have been in family counseling and he "played" the counselor too. I've been with his dad for 13yrs and he is my child too. All I want is for our children to grow up to be responsible adults and right now, I can't see the light at the end of tunnel for him.
Thank you for letting me ramble on here. I know I said I would keep this short but it just poured out tonight. You guys are the best.
To make a long story a little shorter, all that stuff about DS trying to turn things around was just a scam on DH and I. We were tryng very hard with DS and trying to trust him more....life was going pretty good or so we thought. As of right now, we owe more money to the school for lunches that he borrowed (we have had to pay back over 150.00 in lunches he has borrowed since he moved in with us) after throwing away his packed lunch from home. I was so impressed with what I thought was his good behavior, I was going to put money into his lunch account so he could buy lunch once in a while. Once I logged into his account on-line, I found all the charges that start about 1 1/2 weeks after we thought things were getting better. I felt we were finally turning the corner but ended up just feeling stabbed in the back. On top of all this, we got a call from his mom this weekend and found out that in the last month, DS had downloaded about 300.00 in "adult" movies on her cable bill.
She calls us complaining that she doesn't have the money to pay for that and hinted that we should help her pay for it. (She doesn't pay support and we have never asked for any.) Before the "supposed" turn around happened, we told her plenty of times what he had been doing. She chose not to believe us and always blamed someone else for what he did. (friends made him do it) She never took it seriously until it affected her. By the way, he was in trouble long before we were granted custudy and that is the main reason we have custody now. We have been and still are fighting a losing battle. We haven't given up on him but he hasn't hit bottom yet. When he does, we'll be there to help him pick up the pieces.Please don't thing bad of me for that last bit. I believe some people just cannot accept help until they have hit bottom, whatever that may be. We have been in family counseling and he "played" the counselor too. I've been with his dad for 13yrs and he is my child too. All I want is for our children to grow up to be responsible adults and right now, I can't see the light at the end of tunnel for him.
Thank you for letting me ramble on here. I know I said I would keep this short but it just poured out tonight. You guys are the best.

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that all goes well. Please post and let us know how things are.
Maybe one of these days I'll get motivated enough to get in shape. Between all the kids and running the house, exercise just seems too exhausting.
We're always here to offer your support.
so sorry to hear about the upcoming surgery. Just have patience and in no time you'll be going to town on the keyboard! Until then, just read us and peck away as desired but don't push yourself too hard! Take the time to recover properly.
just like one of the kids. Lucky, lucky me. 
UUUUGGGGGHHHHHHHH.
I'm just sitting here being vented on.
That's what I get for not
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lost 4.9# this week
Happy Birthday DL55! Wow what a great day to have a birthday, so much going on AND its Mardi Gras! Hope you're surrounded by happiness and love on your special day.
DL55! and
magsnden
hope your feeling better. My DD suffers from asthma full time so you could imagine how well sports or working out goes for her. At the gym they gave her a program base on her breathing capacity. It still takes the wind out of her though on bad days. Blue lips
. I don't think I would try it on the pita
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I was the same way with my DS. He is 18 now, but letting go that first time was a nail biter.