Those married over 10 years

[meandtheguys]

Very nice point MF1! Also, realizing that our marriage is not up for negotiation, no matter how much we don't like one another...temporarily!

 

[MeanLaureen]

Originally posted by AZ JazzyJ
Ok, I am totally confused. What the heck is a My Fi? I used to have a Hi-Fi and my computer just got Wi-Fi and the last trip to Disney World we ate at Sci-Fi but I have no idea what I am supposed to do with a My Fi. Is that like a wireless high fidelity microwave from the future?
Jeff

Good thing you don't drink, Jeff because if you had a Mai Ti you might confuse your Wi-Fi for a Hi-Fi and you would be knee high in Oh My!

 

[mickeyfan1]

Originally posted by meandtheguys
............ realizing that our marriage is not up for negotiation, no matter how much we don't like one another...temporarily!

Exactly. There are days I really dislike DH and him, me. I was still thinking about this while I was walking the dogs just now. Maybe what it boils down to is that we love each other, period. What works for us would probably strain a few marraiges, he is out of town overnight at least once a week, often for 2 or 3 nights, like today he went to Vegas till Friday. I don't work outside the home, so I do the household stuff. Except the toilets. You have to be secure in your relationship, you have to trust your partner. I always know where DH is, if he is going to be late from the office, he calls to let me know. He doesn't have to "ask permission" to go out with a friend, he knows that it's not an issue. But what works for me........... I think if more people decided that thier marraige was not up for negotiation, they might think more about getting married. IT seems to me that there are a lot of people that are more interested in getting married than being married.

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Originally posted by AZ JazzyJ




Gymnasticsmom68 (by the way I am really impressed. If I get to be that old I hope I can still climb on a balance beam)

Jeff

I'd break my neck for sure, my daughter does gymnastics, which makes me a gym mom.

 

[cati]

DH and I will be married 20 years in a couple of weeks. When we got married we decided that our vows meant something. When we were first married divorce was just not an option for either one of us.

I can honestly say that I love my DH probably more today then back then. We have gone through so much together. We have cried, laughed, shared, had two children together.

Time - now I dont know what that is right now. I work 40 hours and husband is at the moment working anywhere from 65-80 hours per week. (I am of the month of July to be with kids - yahoo). Hopefully within a year DH wont have to work so much.

Also remember that just because something was not your fault, dont be afraid to say your sorry. Could be you hurt the others feelings by something that you are not even aware of at that time. Always be willing to talk to one another.

ALWAYS TELL EACH OTHER YOU LOVE THE OTHER EVERY DAY!!!

 

[Blueberry]

We have been married 28 years now and I am just as crazy about him now as then, probably more so...

He is my best friend, I spend every opportunity I can with him, even been known to call in sick (cough, cough) so we can spend an extra day together (I work saturdays so we only have one day a week). My friends make fun of me (in a nice way because I cannot wait to get home and see him nights) or because I might skip a girl party because I would rather be doing something with him that night...

I am not anti-social and i do socialize without him, but if I had a choice I would be with him. Never have as much fun without him as I do with him....I do have a life, so please do not flame me. I just know I am one lucky lady to have the wonderful guy I have in my life....

 

[WDWLVR]

We'll be celebrating 14 years this fall.

We've been through a lot together from my cancer when we were engaged, to losing my mom 7 years ago, to me losing my job through layoffs twice.

We survive as a couple by talking things out. It could be anything as simple as what to have for dinner in the coming week, to where we should go on vacation, to our plans for the future.

We love to do things together and most importantly we cherish our time together. That means we go grocery shopping together, to church together, and on vacation together.

He's my best friend plain and simple.

 

[AZ JazzyJ]

Originally posted by gymnasticsmom68
I'd break my neck for sure, my daughter does gymnastics, which makes me a gym mom.

Well that's a lot different then. No offense but I was envisioning a whole class of Granny Clampetts doing flips and yelling "JEEEDDD!!!" Don't take that wrong, I am sure you are more of an Elly Mae but something about a 68 year-old doing flips just had me on a mental journey kind of like Gilligan's Island without the coconut shells.

I had a friend named Jim and his mom was cool so you are in great company. All this still doesn't help me answer your question as to how to remove rust from babies. I'll see if I can find something on Google about that though.

Jeff

 

[Lorix2]

AZ Jazzy J - I just got home and realized what I written! LOL!.

Man, I don't know how I missed that one. My daughter was watching Terms of Endearment when I was posting and I was about to get ready for work. I was getting annoyed that the thread was getting nasty and I must have picked up perverse after I heard it used in a line I obviously didn't read my post before I hit the reply button.

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Originally posted by AZ JazzyJ
Well that's a lot different then. No offense but I was envisioning a whole class of Granny Clampetts doing flips and yelling "JEEEDDD!!!" Don't take that wrong, I am sure you are more of an Elly Mae but something about a 68 year-old doing flips just had me on a mental journey kind of like Gilligan's Island without the coconut shells.


Jeff

I was born in 68 silly, I'm only 36. Heck if I was 68 my daughter would be too old for gymnastics too. LOL

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Originally posted by southernclass
I guess what I am asking is what is your "little secret" that keeps your marriage alive with all the cooking, cleaning, children, and bills.

My "little secret" is no little secret for DH and I still being married for 13 years this past May. We've been together for 16. Our "secret" and it's not even that...is GOD! He is the ONLY reason our marriage has lasted this long and I thank Him every chance I get for that.

 

[WebmasterAlex]

Ok Jeff... I've warned you and I've warned you... HOW DARE YOU INSULT FUNNEL CAKERS.. you can't really believe that any right thinking human being would prefer cotton candy to funnel cakes!!!!

 

[4nana]

Love, faith and hope till death do us part thru all the ups and downs.

We just celebrated our 40th anniversary. DH is my very best friend and soul mate for life. We have always done things together as a couple or as a family. Met him when I was 17, got married, were blessed with 4 children in 5 yrs, devoted our lives to raising our wonderful family and put them all thru college. Now they are adults, with their own homes, careers, families and they have blessed us with 10 1/2 grands who are the apples of our eyes!

Our duty is done....LOL
Now, it is our turn again and we are loving life!
It doesn't get any better than this.
Yep...we still kiss, flirt, hold hands.

May your love continue to blossom
~ Sandie

 

[KathyTX]

Originally posted by WebmasterAlex
...you can't really believe that any right thinking human being would prefer cotton candy to funnel cakes!!!!

Oh, great. Now you've done it.

You've insulted the Brits. They ASKED, politely, that you use the term "candy floss". But no! In your Yankee arrogance, you've insisted on using "cotton candy".

Seems extremely disrespectful, if you ask me.

Additionally, I'm not sure our friends across the water are even familiar with funnel cakes. A nice friend of mine moved here from London a couple of years ago, and I had to introduce her to funnel cakes and corn dogs... You really could make an effort to be more inclusive, don't you think?

Harumphhh.

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by workinggal
I wasn't trying to make it a debate. I just stated what was on my mind. And my marital status is my business. Whether I've been married once, ten times or none at all is irrelevant. My personal business is just that....PERSONAL!

Then why are you responding to a thread clearly labeled "those married over ten years?"

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by AZ JazzyJ
Ok, I am totally confused. What the heck is a My Fi? I used to have a Hi-Fi and my computer just got Wi-Fi and the last trip to Disney World we ate at Sci-Fi but I have no idea what I am supposed to do with a My Fi. Is that like a wireless high fidelity microwave from the future?

I got married when puppies were the oldest animals on earth. After dating Noah's wife before he met her (I think I actually introduced the two of them); I found Trina (she could tread water for a long time) and decided she looked like she had the right amount of clothes to fit the empty spot I had in the closet. I think our marriage works because we are complete opposite from each other. She is funny and crazy and I am quiet and conservative. We try to do something together every week even if it means I have to go with her to shop for fabric (no good can come from a trip to a fabric store). But I can't complain, what other woman would agree that for their anniversary a romantic evening would be suite tickets to see the Arizona Diamondbacks play the Tampa Bay Devil Rays? Don't tell her but I got her the cutest polo shirt from the team shop. It comes with a matching Diamondbacks hat.


Jeff

UMMM Duhhh, it is not pronounced FY it is short for Fiance' so it is pronounced FEE. JUst wanted to clear that up but thanks for the laugh.

 

[southernclass]

Originally posted by BibbidyBobbidyBoo
Oh come on workinggal- you took one tiny part of what you quoted and ran with it to debate it. That IS making it a debate. Her answer is not debatable... this thread is to answer for yourself, not question other people's answers... to do that is to make it a debate!

Yes, I'm "qualified" to respond on this thread... although I have no magical answer. I've been married over 14yrs now.

Thank you!

 

[AZ JazzyJ]

Now how did I get into this mess? I was minding my own business and thought I would share some of my secrets to how to stay married and the next thing you know I have a Webmaster dialing in from some tropical beach, I have a senior citizen wanting to take me out behind the pummel hourse to see my uncle Jed, and now I find out that just in time for Independance Day I've started an international incident which could result in the British coming again and this time we shouldn't fire until we see the whites of the funnel cakes. It's like a bad Lucy episode. All that is lacking is for LoriX Squared (you thought I forgot about that didn't you?) to say, "Jeff you have some splainin to do."

Oh and just so I can try to steer this Titanic back away from the ice machine, I asked Trina what she thought our secret was for being married so long and she said, "ear plugs". I have no idea what that means. I think she has been talking to grandma again.


Jeff

 

[southernclass]

Oh gosh, that is so funny??? You should be a comedian. I mean you must have a lot of free time on your hands with all the cute little remarks you make. Tell me why are you so intimidated by me?? Like I said, I will pray for you.

 

[KathyTX]

Jeff's driving the Titanic now???

Whoa, I thought I was on the cruise board for a minute!