this is why i hate girls

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<font color=darkorchid>hellokitty, target, and rac
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(no offense to my fellow ladies [;)

edit: WOAH this turned out WAY longer than expected.

so heres my story:

this year me & my best friend got SUPER close . always together , laughing and having fun . everyone knows us as best friends .

i am SUPER close with her mom and talk to her alot .

up until this year she was kind of fat, and honestly not very attractive. but this year she really, really thinned out and started wearing make-up and stuff & got SOO pretty . she's been getting alot of guy attention

this caused a major confidence boost .

she is the biggest brat EVER . like deffinition of the word . i get so mad at her sometimes . she yells at her mom for the stupidest stuff (and her mom takes it?), and its basicaly her way or the high way .

for example: there have been MANY times when i would be telling a story and she would talk over me , louder & louder, until i would just give up & let her tell the story . people would just look at me like "..? ***?" and at her like "umm..."

i HATE drama so i always kept my mouth shut until recently i started standing up for myself , and other people .

we are ALWAYS together and invite eachother places .

but recently she has been going lots of places with other people . i figured i cant get mad cause she's allowed to have other friends, ya know? but i was still kind of upset/jealous cause some of the people were people she would say she didnt like .

so the other night we were texting & i was like "do you, like, not like me any more?" and she said "why? what makes you say that?" and i explained to her what i just explain above .

she responded with telling me that i can never keep anything to myself, i dont know when i have to tone down my craziness, and that i talk to/tell her mom too much stuff . i accepted what she said cause i know it can be true . i apologized and we discussed eachothers flaws & stuff . i was really civil about it , but she got kind of pissed off . and i told her i wasnt trying to fight with her , and it was over .

next day we were cool, talking to eachother at cheerleading .

its been a day or two since then & i havent hung out with her at all .

today she was posting status's about how she is having a bunch of our mutuals friends over on facebook . how it was going to be awesome , etc .

i never got invited . i live in her neighborhood & go to her house all the time so its not like its a big deal to ask me to come .

EVERYONE in the world knows if i was having people over SHE would be the very first person i would call up.

so i was talking to my friend suzie about it & she thought it was so rude of her & didnt get why she was being so catty. she told me i should text her and she if she said anything .

convo:
"hey" -me
"hey" -her
"whats up?"
"at the food store"
"fun, hahah . getting oreos? (inside joke)"
"yeah, haha ."
"yummmmmyy (:"
"yup."
/end text convo

this was like 45 before everyone was going to be at her house . she didnt mention anything about it . so she obviously didnt want me coming .

so like ten minutes ago i text my friend suzie who gave me the idea to text alyssa . this is what she said
"dude, soo alyssa's mom told alyssa to invite you over because she knows that you know that she has people over & she was like NO. and i was like "***?""
then she texted me after that & said this:
"and we all wanted to go walk down to your house & she wouldnt let us"

like really? ugh.

/end vent .

opinions?


i dont really want to say anything to her because:
1) i HATE drama
2) i dont wanna sell suzzie out for telling me all of that stuff


but i really dont wanna just let this go, ya know?

ughhhhh
 
thats why guys are so much more fun to hang out with.
theyre less judgemental and dont start drama. [:
and the same kinda thing happened to me. and its like, you dont want to correct the person when you know they're lying or being rude and stuff because that would mean drama, but you eventually get sick of it.
lol. sorry, i vented on your vent [:
sorry your friends being like that. its messed up how that happens.
 
ya that's so shady. i feel like she might be jealous of you -- sounds like you're more likeable, so maybe she didn't want more attention on you than her? or she's just a witch. could be a combo of the two.

i hate girl drama, such a waste of time. i had my fair share last night. haha so brutal. it never ends, even my mom's circle of friends had drama.

honestly, i wouldn't stir the pot though, no point really. i know it's tough to lose touch with a best friend, and i'm sure eventually you guys might make up & be friends again, but for now, i'd say just hang out with other friends until she decides to be civil. no point in waiting around for her. some people just feed off drama (i know too many ppl like that) and she'll find anything to blame you for/gossip about you/accuse you of etc, so don't even bother with it for now.

hope everything works out :hug::hug::hug:
 
Wooow drama, much?

Reminds me of middle school, honestly.
I think it'll probably blow over when she realizes how stupid she was. Then again, you don't need someone with that much negative energy in your life. The more controlling she gets over other people, the more people will back away from her. IF things get really bad you may need to make an executive decision to cut this friendship off for good, and I know that sounds harsh.. But I've had to do it, myself, in a somewhat similar situation.
 

Time to let go, KT. :hug: I mean, you can still hang with her, but don't tell her as much as you used to.

I'm kinda in the same situation. My best friend and I have known each other since we were 2, and we've been BFFs since then. Ever since I got sick, things have been sooooo different between us. Now, we rarely ever hang out because she's always "busy" - WE LIVE FOUR HOUSES AWAY FROM EACH OTHER! For crap's sake, I haven't even met her boyfriend of a year!! She even invited a mutual friend to a movie outing, one where my mother was driving to a paying for, without telling me! The last straw was the other day, when she didn't want to sit next to me on the bus cause I sat in the front.
Whatever. When she needs me, I won't be available. And it's not like I can talk to her about it cause she'll just brush me off and say "I don't wanna fight, you know I don't like to fight so just stop". So, I don't talk to her as much. It hurts but hey, I only work with what I'm given. A rift between her mother and mine (let's just say her mother is a BIG GOSSIPER! she's worse than the middle school, and she's even done it to me and infront of me!) doesn't help matters.

So, yeah. Sorry for jacking the thread, but sever ties with her. Whenever she needs you, pretend to be busy. Revenge isn't always the maturest thing to do, but sometimes it's necessary to get your point across. And it feels damn good, too!
 
Just walk away and make new friends.
It seems hard, but in the end you'll be so much happier.
Don't announce your leaving, just stop talking to her asap.
 
heres my advice:

move to tennessee in the house for sale next dorr to me :D
 
I'm sorry Katie, but some girls are just like that.
Let her go. I'm sure you have loads of other great friends, who you can depend on.
:hug:
 
:hug:
She doesn't sound like a good friend anymore. It might be better to just leave it be, I mean, you don't need that drama in your life.
 
I'm sorry. I think we've all been there, and it sucks.
But from my experiences, girl drama tends to decrease as you get older, so just hang in there!
 
nuh uh...move next to me. Who cares about Rachel...its all about the awesome TOM...lol


really tom, REALLY?!

who has been talking to katie all day? me!
who reminded katie to harvest her crops on farmville? me!
who has a sun painted on the back of my ipod like her? me!

do you really want to go there?

i win :D
 
(no offense to my fellow ladies [;)

edit: WOAH this turned out WAY longer than expected.

so heres my story:

this year me & my best friend got SUPER close . always together , laughing and having fun . everyone knows us as best friends .

i am SUPER close with her mom and talk to her alot .

up until this year she was kind of fat, and honestly not very attractive. but this year she really, really thinned out and started wearing make-up and stuff & got SOO pretty . she's been getting alot of guy attention

this caused a major confidence boost .

she is the biggest brat EVER . like deffinition of the word . i get so mad at her sometimes . she yells at her mom for the stupidest stuff (and her mom takes it?), and its basicaly her way or the high way .

for example: there have been MANY times when i would be telling a story and she would talk over me , louder & louder, until i would just give up & let her tell the story . people would just look at me like "..? ***?" and at her like "umm..."

i HATE drama so i always kept my mouth shut until recently i started standing up for myself , and other people .

we are ALWAYS together and invite eachother places .

but recently she has been going lots of places with other people . i figured i cant get mad cause she's allowed to have other friends, ya know? but i was still kind of upset/jealous cause some of the people were people she would say she didnt like .

so the other night we were texting & i was like "do you, like, not like me any more?" and she said "why? what makes you say that?" and i explained to her what i just explain above .

she responded with telling me that i can never keep anything to myself, i dont know when i have to tone down my craziness, and that i talk to/tell her mom too much stuff . i accepted what she said cause i know it can be true . i apologized and we discussed eachothers flaws & stuff . i was really civil about it , but she got kind of pissed off . and i told her i wasnt trying to fight with her , and it was over .

next day we were cool, talking to eachother at cheerleading .

its been a day or two since then & i havent hung out with her at all .

today she was posting status's about how she is having a bunch of our mutuals friends over on facebook . how it was going to be awesome , etc .

i never got invited . i live in her neighborhood & go to her house all the time so its not like its a big deal to ask me to come .

EVERYONE in the world knows if i was having people over SHE would be the very first person i would call up.

so i was talking to my friend suzie about it & she thought it was so rude of her & didnt get why she was being so catty. she told me i should text her and she if she said anything .

convo:
"hey" -me
"hey" -her
"whats up?"
"at the food store"
"fun, hahah . getting oreos? (inside joke)"
"yeah, haha ."
"yummmmmyy (:"
"yup."
/end text convo

this was like 45 before everyone was going to be at her house . she didnt mention anything about it . so she obviously didnt want me coming .

so like ten minutes ago i text my friend suzie who gave me the idea to text alyssa . this is what she said
"dude, soo alyssa's mom told alyssa to invite you over because she knows that you know that she has people over & she was like NO. and i was like "***?""
then she texted me after that & said this:
"and we all wanted to go walk down to your house & she wouldnt let us"

like really? ugh.

/end vent .

opinions?


i dont really want to say anything to her because:
1) i HATE drama
2) i dont wanna sell suzzie out for telling me all of that stuff


but i really dont wanna just let this go, ya know?

ughhhhh


that's exactly what my best friend started doing. She used to be soo nice and fun to be around, but now since she's started wearing makeup, she's totally different and honestly, more bratty. And she was a little on the chubby side too, but it hasn't really gotten better. Idk; it just bugs me because she was so carefree and un-stuckup [if that's a word] before, and now it's as if she thinks every guy in the school likes her, and she talks to me like I should think it's a "privelege" to talk to her or something.. *sigh*. Haha okay, a little rant of my own. Sorry. But yeah, I totally get where you're coming from.

thats why guys are so much more fun to hang out with.
theyre less judgemental and dont start drama. [:
and the same kinda thing happened to me. and its like, you dont want to correct the person when you know they're lying or being rude and stuff because that would mean drama, but you eventually get sick of it.
lol. sorry, i vented on your vent [:
sorry your friends being like that. its messed up how that happens.

:thumbsup2 Definitely. Haha.
If I just want to hang out and goof off [and not to mention poke fun at each other xD], I would definitely go to my guy friends.
 
Honestly, she doesn't sound like a great friend. Since you did mention that you have been close, maybe you need to sit down with her, and have a chat over whats been happening lately. If she isn't willing, then it is her problem.

Hang in there. Girly drama sucks!
 
Ok I am a girl yes.
But I think that girl just started being a total b*tch.

Oh and before I forget, wat does "getting oreos" mean?.......
 
thanks guys (:
i really think i'm just not gonna talk to her for awhile .

i found out today that nobody thinks she is pretty/ popular as i do/did .
i guess you see your best friends in a better light
many people actualy said the only reason she had all the friends she did was because of me .


i'm mostly upset over this because i love her mom so much hahahah


but we cheer for the school together so i dont want to start a big thing .

but i do plan on having a party on saturday ;)



rachel: why dont YOU just come up here & stay with us like my mom wants you to ?!

tom: if i were to move im pretty sure it'd be more likely to be your neighbor than rachels (;
 
thats kinda like what happened to me last year.. i was really close with this girl since 3rd grade and everyone knew we were best friends. around april/may something happened and she didnt invite me to places and just stopped talking to me all together. i was really close with her whole family and her mom was like my second mom.. i even called her mom lol its hard at first but ill get better.. dont worry (:
 
Aww, I'm sorry, that stinks.
I TOTALLY know! Girls are FULL of drama! Ugh, it's super annoying when they act like brats, guys are way more mellow and easy going. Girls are nasty and mean. Not to mention we gossip like crazy ;] hahah

My cheer squad is full of mean brats who only care about themselves.
 
rachel: why dont YOU just come up here & stay with us like my mom wants you to ?!

tom: if i were to move im pretty sure it'd be more likely to be your neighbor than rachels (;

well have your mom call my mom!!
and she will totally go for it!
hahahahhahahha

and no, your moving next door to me!!!
 
KATIE!! IM HAVING A PARTY COME OVER TO MY HOUSE RIGHT NOW!!


that is really rude though. That happened to me with one of my friends around Middle School. Its like all she wanted to do is to get popular and follow the crowd. And actually she is still like that. I just dont understand those girls sometimes.
 


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