This is Us- Season six

[QueenIsabella]

I think Chrissy Metz is wearing padding. Her body shape seemed different in several of the scenes. Once I noticed it, I couldn't NOT see it.

Overall, I'm on Team Kate (not that you have to have a team, as others have said). The reason is, Toby is acting like he gets to make all the decisions--they WILL move to San Fran, they WILL buy this house, etc. Even if it's the right choice--and he does have good reasons, both for the move and the house--those are huge decisions that have to be made together--and both take some time to think through all the angles. He's thinking of his family, but in a different way--how will we provide what Jack needs in the future versus how do we provide what's best for him now. I also think they should have seriously discussed the LA job. He may well have been right, that it was too little money, but they should have taken a clear-eyed look at it. How much would they save not paying San Fran rents and commuting costs? Was there potential for growth, professionally and financially? If nothing else, it might have made Kate feel better about him rejecting the offer, if she had a chance to look at the details.

I also thought it was ridiculous that their "us time" weekend kept getting interrupted by work calls and texts. I know this happens--all too often--but, does this never happen when he's in LA for the weekend? All of a sudden, he's at his apartment instead of flying home, and the phone's going off constantly.

 

[bethbuchall]

I thought this was an interesting article about the episode. https://ew.com/tv/this-is-us-chriss...ight/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=news_tab

 

[bethbuchall]

I also thought it was ridiculous that their "us time" weekend kept getting interrupted by work calls and texts. I know this happens--all too often--but, does this never happen when he's in LA for the weekend? All of a sudden, he's at his apartment instead of flying home, and the phone's going off constantly.

I also thought it was ridiculous that Toby brought up that she couldn’t be with just him and had to FaceTime the kids when the one time we saw her talking with the kids, he was on a business call. I do think that they showed in one episode that he is taking more and more business calls when he’s in LA, too.

 

[AustinTink]

I also thought it was ridiculous that their "us time" weekend kept getting interrupted by work calls and texts.

I've literally never been on a vacation where my husband didn't have to take work calls. The work calls pay for the vacation. They don't bother me. It gives me time to check my emails, send some texts, what have you. I just don't see it as a big deal.

 

[FQLover]

I think it was during last week's episode (or the one before) that I mentioned to my daughter that Chrissy Metz's face seemed a lot thinner. I wasn't even aware of a contract promise to lose weight or anything, so I wasn't looking for possible changes in her. It just caught my attention. Now, I am wondering if she is wearing padding? It might have just been lighting angles or something, however.

 

[brockash]

I meant to also just go on record as saying, while yes they both are struggling and could have done better in different areas; the fact that Toby turned down a job in LA where he could've been with his family etc. without even discussing it with Kate is pretty mind-boggling and in my opinion shows that he prioritized, would rather or just simply was happier being without his kids and wife while working somewhere and with ppl. he really enjoyed as opposed to have the chance (because he really had no way of knowing) to not really like his job or the ppl. he worked with/felt valued at work etc., but be a full time dad and live with his wife and kids. He was the one that left the family home and their surroundings because at the time he couldn't find a job there...yes I get it sucks leaving a place that you really enjoy, but come on...then at least admit what it is. He could've gone back to them, but CHOSE not to. Yes, I get the money supposedly wasn't as good, but I highly doubt when you take out the constant traveling and 2nd home expenses out of it that it was really any less. To me, he unilaterally decided that he was not going to return to LA with no regard to his wife and kids, even though that's where they as a family were residing.

 

[mickey916]

I have long suspected that's why we haven't seen her in the "final scene" yet...I feel like there's going to be a big reveal that she's finally made progress in her weight-loss journey.

 

[brockash]

I also thought it was ridiculous that Toby brought up that she couldn’t be with just him and had to FaceTime the kids when the one time we saw her talking with the kids, he was on a business call. I do think that they showed in one episode that he is taking more and more business calls when he’s in LA, too.

And they're THEIR kids. That comment really threw me.

 

[TLSnell1981]

Team Toby. It's Kate's way or nothing a all.

 

[brockash]

I've literally never been on a vacation where my husband didn't have to take work calls. The work calls pay for the vacation. They don't bother me. It gives me time to check my emails, send some texts, what have you. I just don't see it as a big deal.

I think that's pretty different than the situation that Kate and Toby are in.
On another note though I have to say the more posts of yours I read the more I think most husbands would love to be married to someone like you. You seem very laid back, understanding, and very empathetic to any working husbands Your DH is one lucky guy! This whole situation obviously wouldn't be a blip on the radar if you were Kate. Definitely not a bad thing, just a different perspective.

 

[AustinTink]

I meant to also just go on record as saying, while yes they both are struggling and could have done better in different areas; the fact that Toby turned down a job in LA where he could've been with his family etc. without even discussing it with Kate is pretty mind-boggling and in my opinion shows that he prioritized, would rather or just simply was happier being without his kids and wife while working somewhere and with ppl. he really enjoyed as opposed to have the chance (because he really had no way of knowing) to not really like his job or the ppl. he worked with/felt valued at work etc., but be a full time dad and live with his wife and kids. He was the one that left the family home and their surroundings because at the time he couldn't find a job there...yes I get it sucks leaving a place that you really enjoy, but come on...then at least admit what it is. He could've gone back to them, but CHOSE not to. Yes, I get the money supposedly wasn't as good, but I highly doubt when you take out the constant traveling and 2nd home expenses out of it that it was really any less. To me, he unilaterally decided that he was not going to return to LA with no regard to his wife and kids, even though that's where they as a family were residing.

I honestly think he's become afraid to tell her things because she always blows up at him. That said, of course he should have told her about the LA job. Toby definitely has his flaws as well.

 

[AustinTink]

Your DH is one lucky guy!

I tell him that ALL the time! LOL.

It wasn't always easy. There have been plenty of fights and hurt feelings, but in the end when he was traveling every week I knew it was best for our family then and in the long run. I would always tell people I had it easy compared to military spouses whose partners would be deployed for months on end. You just have to adapt.

 

[DisneyJamieCA]

Team Toby. It's Kate's way or nothing a all.

I feel like you watched a different episode than I did

 

[prairie_girl]

I feel like you watch a different episode than I did

Right?

 

[kdonnel]

Team Toby. It's Kate's way or nothing a all.

It’s always the Pearson’s way or the highway. Kate is the worst about it though.

 

[QueenIsabella]

I've literally never been on a vacation where my husband didn't have to take work calls. The work calls pay for the vacation. They don't bother me. It gives me time to check my emails, send some texts, what have you. I just don't see it as a big deal.

We're no strangers to work interrupting family time--even back in the stone age, before cell phones, DH and I got them on the regular. There have even been times when DH has been locked in at work, or on such a demanding schedule, we barely saw him--even when he lived with us. So, I get that. I just found it really odd that when he flies home to be with the family, work doesn't intrude. But, because he's in town this weekend, there's a bunch of work calls and texts, and there's a big work party he needs to attend, etc.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I just found it really odd that when he flies home to be with the family, work doesn't intrude. But, because he's in town this weekend, there's a bunch of work calls and texts, and there's a big work party he needs to attend, etc.

I thought he'd been taking work calls at home all along - he had a conversation with Kevin a couple of episodes back where Kevin told him Kate didn't like him having the earphones in all the time, and Toby told Kevin that he used to take those calls in the room that was now Kevin's.

 

[TLSnell1981]

I feel like you watched a different episode than I did

Nope but I have watched 5+ seasons. My opinion isn't based on one episode.

 

[Christine]

FInally watched last night. I've never been Team Kate or Team Toby. I feel like I more side with Toby here. Certainly he made some mis-steps; the LA job should have been discussed for sure. But knowing Toby's mental health issues and how hard it has been for him, I do see where he just finally feels that he fits some place. That's really hard to find in a job. He apparently makes great money at this job, people like and respect him there, and he's finally got some self-worth that he hasn't had for a long time.

I also see that Kate is having that happen also and it's important for the little Jack to be familiar with a place; however, he's young still. I also feel like Kate's job is more easily transferrable that Toby's (but maybe night), and that it might be easier for her to find everything she needs in San Francisco (it's not like they are trying to move to Podunk USA). Just may take on it. Not 100% swayed to either side.

Basically we're gonna see that both of them are going to make a choice to do what is right for them and that's going to be based on them both floundering for much of their lives.

 

[Princesca]

I feel like it wasn't the work calls that bothered her so much as missing the old Toby who wasn't plugged into his work 24/7. Some people work to live and others live to work and it's hard to stay married when you disagree on a fundamental point like that. It's a philosophy shift that has broad implications. Sometimes you turn out not to like the next evolution of your spouse.