This is the last year

[Mackey Mouse]

I just read this whole thread and thought...what are we discussing here.. getting unwanted cookies and not saying thanks.. or saying thanks and throwing the cookies away..or eating the cookies.........

I am asking that you all take a step back and keep in mind Christmas is a time of giving... and leave it at that.. please.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

LOL MM. No keeping records here...no time for that. I do recall tho feeling terrible about what you were going through in New Hampshire, as well as when you posted about Roy's health problems...I PM'd you both times to offer my support, and I'm not in the habit of PMing a whole lot of people here on the DIS, so yes, it did stick out in my mind. They just struck me as difficult situations to be in, and I let you know that at the time.

I thought perhaps these neighbors in Florida were the same ones who were less than gracious with you in the past with regard to invitations, and one has to wonder what's up with them, and how they could have been so rude to that extent.

 

[GAIL HAYDEN]

Originally posted by HauntedMansionGeek
At the risk of being your target again, I just want to say that I was raised with manners and politeness too.

But I was also raised with the idea these beliefs about generosity:

Give someone a gift, just because.

Don't brag about what you give.

And most important, never expect anything in return for your generosity.



I don't believe that EXPECTING a thankyou or anything else is in the spirit of generous giving. Those that don't give thanks are clods but that's not YOUR problem, it's theirs.

Of course, as usual, this is all just my crazy opinion. Sadly, it looks like I'm in the minority too but I'm used to it LOL!!

I was raised in a similar fashion and to believe it is more blessed to give than to recieve and also to say thank you for any act of kindness or consideration. Do I expect it, frankly, yes. To go further, I am really getting very tired of the boorish morons out there that cannot take the time to say please or thank you or excuse me. You are correct it is their problem, but, I find it offensive regardless.

 

[snoopy]

I personally would be thrilled if someone brought me homemade cookies, but I tend to agree with Blondie. People can be so rude nowdays, sadly. Its very rare that neighbors do that sort of thing for each other anymore. I remember my mother baking cakes and cookies for the neighbors not just at Christmas but all throughout the year. These days that is unheard of.

BTW, MM, Mare brings up a good point. Were the neighbors that didn't say thank you by any chance the rude neighbors who didn't show up for the bar-b-que you prepared for them this summer? If so, I'd definately scratch them off my list as future recipients. They don't sound like the type of people you'd want to waste your time or effort on. Perhaps next year you can find a local shelter or maybe a nursing home in which to give your cookies to? I bet they would be a heck of a lot more appreciative, and it would make you feel good knowing that someone appreciated and liked your cookies.

 

[Beauty]

I guess I'll ring in here too (go figure...LOL). But first you all have to remember that I live in H-E-double hockeysticks. There are -0- manners here...none. For example in Wal-Mart the other day two employees were walking down the isle loudly cussing in front of children. Manners???? Not one! I agree wholeheartedly with Blondie. People are just downright MEAN nowdays and the majority of them don't care about anyone but themselves. Its sad and even sadder at Christmas Time. I would also be curious as to what they said when you brought them.

I would love to have had the homemade cookies and you betcha I would have said thank you (I am a Old Fashined Southern Gal after all ) I say to heck with them MM! Give them to the people that you know will appreciate them, take them to nursing homes or to the less fortunate where you know they will be totally appreciated. Send them to me I'll let you know that you ruined my diet but I'll eat them and I'll say thank you! Or just crash on your couch and eat them all yourself (then you will look like me! )

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Originally posted by GAIL HAYDEN
I was raised in a similar fashion and to believe it is more blessed to give than to recieve and also to say thank you for any act of kindness or consideration. Do I expect it, frankly, yes. To go further, I am really getting very tired of the boorish morons out there that cannot take the time to say please or thank you or excuse me. You are correct it is their problem, but, I find it offensive regardless.

I couldn't agree with you more about being tired of the boorishness that we're surrounded with these days.
That's why I suggested earlier to MM that if doing all that work and not hearing a "thankyou" for it was not filling her heart with joy, then perhaps it was time for her to do something for herself instead.

I'm sorry MM seems so offended by my thoughts on the subject.

 

[marlasmom]

Beth, Judi, C. ANN, GailT, Gail Hayden, Jill, M. Hopkins, Jipsy, - thanks for your kindness. I CAN'T IMAGINE ANY OF YOU BEING DISCOURTEOUS - EVER. Snoopy - no cookies for the people who stood us up.

 

[marlasmom]

Oh and Blondie of course.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Of course!!!

 

[JAP]

MM you reminded me that I need to write a thank you note to our neighbor for the cookies she made us. She sent them over with her DD. I told her DD thank you but did not even think to call my friend. I feel a little ashamed right now.

I would except cookies from my neighbors that I did not know and give them a thank you note in the mailbox. I like to greet the new neighbors who come into our neighborhood by giving cookies. A thank you is common curtesy and I would be a little surprised if someone did not at least say thank you.