This is an emergency!

[coolshannie]

im talking to her on yahoo messenger if thats what you mean

 

[sjams]

now she said she doesn't want to talk about this subject anymroe because she is feeling better... i want to scream at her right now! she doesn't understand! i asked her the info. question and she just kind of blew it off and changed the subject! she said he sister doesn't seem to care! i dont know what to do at this point!

so this isn't happening right now??? Is she playing you? Not trying to be rude or mean, but she seems a bit aluff about it all suddenly!

 

[SplshMtn99]

CALL the police or the hotline......maybe they can IM her & talk to her.

 

[mommy*RN]

im talking to her on the computer and now i am appauled.. (sp?) she just told me that her sister does know about all this! yet her sister is doing nothing! do they teach them anything in school!!!! i learned how serious suicide really is in school and that even thinking about it should never be taken lightly and that you have to tell an adult right away and get your friend or whoever to seek help. Why cant she/they see that!

You seem very mature. Most teenagers (myself included many moons ago) don't really understand that death is permanent. They feel invincible...so when another threatens something like suicide - they tend to not believe him/her.

When I was 16 my sister's bf committed suicide the night before Thanksgiving. My sister didn't believe he would do it. I knew nothing about it...I was the last one to see him alive and always thought that I should have done something to stop it. Now I realize that there was nothing I could have done since I knew nothing...your friend has a chance to make a difference and save a life...I hope you can communicate to her how important this is!

 

[sjams]

he also just sent her a comment on some place saying he is not dead yet just very suckish.. and she still cant see how serious this is!

what???? and she doesn't see the potential danger here?

 

[SplshMtn99]

so this isn't happening right now??? Is she playing you? Not trying to be rude or mean, but she seems a bit aluff about it all suddenly!

I was starting to wonder something like that a while ago. I can't. I can't.

 

[mommy*RN]

he also just sent her a comment on some place saying he is not dead yet just very suckish.. and she still cant see how serious this is!

I'm not hip with IM'ing - but can she forward you his IM? Do they link the computer # to IM's that he might be traceable that way?

 

[sjams]

You seem very mature. Most teenagers (myself included many moons ago) don't really understand that death is permanent. They feel invincible...so when another threatens something like suicide - they tend to not believe him/her.

When I was 16 my sister's bf committed suicide the night before Thanksgiving. My sister didn't believe he would do it. I knew nothing about it...I was the last one to see him alive and always thought that I should have done something to stop it. Now I realize that there was nothing I could have done since I knew nothing...your friend has a chance to make a difference and save a life...I hope you can communicate to her how important this is!

totally agree, you need to get to her about the seriousness of this situation. You don't get a second chance a life.

 

[coolshannie]

what if i talk her down by telling her i lost a friend to suicide? i havent but maybe if she had a situation to compate it to she could see she needs to call somebody quickly. or maybe this is not a good idea.

 

[SplshMtn99]

can you get his IM name he's online & using?

We can call the hotline & give it to them to try reaching him. They are professionals. They'll now what to say.

 

[mommy*RN]

what if i talk her down by telling her i lost a friend to suicide? i havent but maybe if she had a situation to compate it to she could see she needs to call somebody quickly. or maybe this is not a good idea.

It's going to get hairy - she seems to be playing with you here. I mean if she is worried about this kid she would DO SOMETHING! I would say that to her. I'm sorry - at 13 I knew the difference between right and wrong...she is acting all wrong for someone who is worried here...

 

[sjams]

I'm not hip with IM'ing - but can she forward you his IM? Do they link the computer # to IM's that he might be traceable that way?

don't know,but good thought. YOU, call one of those hotlines and they should be able to tell you what and how to do that!
I am with you 'mommy rn' maybe the penpal is playing our OP!

 

[SplshMtn99]

I don't understand why you aren't calling the hotline with their IM names yet.

 

[mommy*RN]

I don't understand why you aren't calling the hotline with their IM names yet.

Yes OP - call the hotline with the IM names - I'm sure they can do something...they are like PI's!

 

[coolshannie]

1 moment i think im going to wake up my parents and tell them to call the police or call the hotlines. i dont know why i didn't think to ask them before i guess ive been freaking out, in the mean time im going to send her this message,
kara i know you told me to stop but i cant, i have lost friends to death maybe not suicide but death and death is permenant once he is gone he is gone and then there is nothing you could do to stop it but right now he is still here and you can stop it and you can call the police or talk to an adult you have to open your eyes kara you have to become stronger then this you have to for the sake of jonathon. If you want to see him live kara, you have to. SUICIDE IS A VERY VERY VERY SERIOUS MATTER! WE SPENT OVER 3 WEEKS TALKING ABOUT HOW SERIOUS IT REALLY REALLY IS! YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. YOU CANT JUST CHANGE THE SUBJECT KARA BECAUSE WHILE YOU ARENT THINKING ABOUT THIS WHAT IF HE DEICIDES HE DOESN'T WANT TO LIVE KARA. DEATH IS PERMENENT! . IF YOU REALY CARE ABOUT HIM YOU WILL DO SOMETHING!

 

[mommy*RN]

1 moment i think im going to wake up my parents and tell them to call the police or call the hotlines. i dont know why i didn't think to ask them before i guess ive been freaking out, in the mean time im going to send her this message,
kara i know you told me to stop but i cant, i have lost friends to death maybe not suicide but death and death is permenant once he is gone he is gone and then there is nothing you could do to stop it but right now he is still here and you can stop it and you can call the police or talk to an adult you have to open your eyes kara you have to become stronger then this you have to for the sake of jonathon. If you want to see him live kara, you have to. SUICIDE IS A VERY VERY VERY SERIOUS MATTER! WE SPENT OVER 3 WEEKS TALKING ABOUT HOW SERIOUS IT REALLY REALLY IS! YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. YOU CANT JUST CHANGE THE SUBJECT KARA BECAUSE WHILE YOU ARENT THINKING ABOUT THIS WHAT IF HE DEICIDES HE DOESN'T WANT TO LIVE KARA. DEATH IS PERMENENT! . IF YOU REALY CARE ABOUT HIM YOU WILL DO SOMETHING!

Sweetheart - go wake your parents...this is too much for you teens to be handling. Do it NOW please...

 

[SplshMtn99]

We've been at this for an hour. PLEASE pick up the telephone & call. I do NOT understand what you are waiting for. They are professionals. They can help.

 

[mommy*RN]

We've been at this for an hour. PLEASE pick up the telephone & call. I do NOT understand what you are waiting for. They are professionals. They can help.

I know - I'm tired...my dogs hafta go and I'm too worried to leave. *sigh*

 

[mommy*RN]

OP - post her reply to your pleading msg pls. I need to know if she is just playing around with you...

 

[sjams]

Sweetheart - go wake your parents...this is too much for you teens to be handling. Do it NOW please...

AMEN! This is too much for me!
Good luck OP! You are a smart gal and obviously have a HUGE heart! Again I am sorry that your penpal put you in this situation. She reached out for help then didn't take it. That is not your fault. You did the best you could.