This is an emergency!

[mommy*RN]

i told her all of these things and she said no she cant call these numbers she doesn't want to talk to strangers about it, she doesn't know how serious this is she is 13.. i am almost 16 i dont think her sister knows all of this, im trying very hard to get her to call somebody or talk to her dad or somebody, and now she is really upset saying the whole thing is her fault and even her parents divorce was her fault and she is completely having a break down. I just dont know what to say or do anymore.

Can you get the kids name and call the hotline yourself? This IS serious and this boy needs help. The police have excellent methods of locating people. Try to get his birthday, age, name, parents name, address anything like that will help.

 

[mommy*RN]

If she is 13 - you can also tell her to talk to her parents.

 

[sjams]

IS your friend the one who is blaming herself or is it her sister?
Find out as much info you can from your friend right now...names, cities..just casually ask...if she won't call and she won't give you any info then you can't do anything else. I know that sound mean..but she is 13, you said and she doesn't know how serious this is..tell her A BUNCH of your MUCH older friends are giving you this advice from experience! She may not listen again, but worth a shot!

 

[coolshannie]

i will try and get some information out of her. it is her whom is blaming herself. if i got this right i believe her sister doesn't even know.

 

[mommy*RN]

i will try and get some information out of her. it is her whom is blaming herself. if i got this right i believe her sister doesn't even know.

Will you call the hotline?

 

[sjams]

Why on earth is he blaming the little sister??? Oh my! You need to do some fast talking! (to her not me)

Ditto! Will you call???

 

[coolshannie]

no no no no you have this all mixed up
ok he is not blaming anybody
the girl who knows who is my friend is blaming herself saying it is her fault that he is going to kill himself, because she told him something about her sister that made him even more upset then he already was. She did not do this intentionally to get him upset and did not know he would start to result to this.

 

[coolshannie]

i can call the hotline but all i know is the kid's name i dont even know what city or address or telephone number. and i havent found a right time to ask her this info. yet without blurting it abroputly out where she most like will just ask me what? and wont give me an answer..

 

[SplshMtn99]

OK, I had to go back to the beginning. Your sisters ex-boyfriend is in danger, right? I say WAKE UP YOUR SISTER & FIND OUT AS MUCH INFO FROM HER AS YOU CAN (NAMES, ADDRESS..... ) & CALL THE POLICE!!!!!

 

[sjams]

okay then, your friend also needs some help. She is not to blame for the choices someone else makes. She can't do this alone. She needs an adult to help her out. Does she have ANYONE? How about her sister? How old are these kids?

I think it the OP's penpals sisters ex. Did that make sense?

DO you have his last name too? You can call Atlanta police and tell then what is happening or again the hotline and they can advise you or take over from the info you give them

How about your friends area code? That may help too. He may live relatively close..

 

[coolshannie]

my friend is 13 her sister is my age 15 almost 16. let me give you alittle backround.. my friend feels as if she cant talk much to her parents who got divorced suddenly around halloween. she's only close to the dad right now but is to scared to talk to him about this, and im not sure she will tell her sister i will try to get her to but any suggestions? i know how serious this is and i really dont want to see a kid die because she doesn't realize how serious it is.

 

[mommy*RN]

okay then, your friend also needs some help. She is not to blame for the choices someone else makes. She can't do this alone. She needs an adult to help her out. Does she have ANYONE? How about her sister? How old are these kids?

Good point - are you chatting on the phone or computer right now? She needs to get help where she is right now - for herself and how to deal with this. I can't tell you what to say - but if you can get a CITY or his parents names or anything of the like it will help you. But she needs help where she is right now.

 

[mommy*RN]

my friend is 13 her sister is my age 15 almost 16. let me give you alittle backround.. my friend feels as if she cant talk much to her parents who got divorced suddenly around halloween. she's only close to the dad right now but is to scared to talk to him about this, and im not sure she will tell her sister i will try to get her to but any suggestions? i know how serious this is and i really dont want to see a kid die because she doesn't realize how serious it is.

If she is close to her dad tell her to CALL HER DAD! That is what parents are for and tell her HE will know what to do and make her feel better!

 

[coolshannie]

im talking to her on the computer and now i am appauled.. (sp?) she just told me that her sister does know about all this! yet her sister is doing nothing! do they teach them anything in school!!!! i learned how serious suicide really is in school and that even thinking about it should never be taken lightly and that you have to tell an adult right away and get your friend or whoever to seek help. Why cant she/they see that!

 

[sjams]

i can call the hotline but all i know is the kid's name i dont even know what city or address or telephone number. and i havent found a right time to ask her this info. yet without blurting it abroputly out where she most like will just ask me what? and wont give me an answer..

If this is happening NOW, then there isn't going to be a "right time" you just ask/demand

 

[mommy*RN]

If this is happening NOW, then there isn't going to be a "right time" you just ask/demand

I agree...if she asks why - you tell her. No beating around the bush here...someone's life is on the line.

 

[coolshannie]

now she said she doesn't want to talk about this subject anymroe because she is feeling better... i want to scream at her right now! she doesn't understand! i asked her the info. question and she just kind of blew it off and changed the subject! she said he sister doesn't seem to care! i dont know what to do at this point!

 

[sjams]

im talking to her on the computer and now i am appauled.. (sp?) she just told me that her sister does know about all this! yet her sister is doing nothing! do they teach them anything in school!!!! i learned how serious suicide really is in school and that even thinking about it should never be taken lightly and that you have to tell an adult right away and get your friend or whoever to seek help. Why cant she/they see that!

Lordy, Lordy...I don't know what else to tell you but to encourage her to tell her dad or to find out some more info and you make some calls with the #'s I gave you. I am sorry you are being put into this position..not fair to you.

 

[SplshMtn99]

you are on the computer with her? What's her screen name or anything. Let us google & see what we can find for location -- if she's ever post.

 

[coolshannie]

he also just sent her a comment on some place saying he is not dead yet just very suckish.. and she still cant see how serious this is!