Things that could end a good relationship.

[TheAviator]

Why? Why do you care what he wants out of a woman or relationship?!

Some of you women have really gone off the deep end. Calling this guy a pig and bemoaning that he so offended you. I've got an idea, turn off your computer and go spend quality time with your husband, sheesh.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Really? Now you're calling me rude?! You are just trying to find something to be offended at. Did I call you out? No, so you must have seen yourself or your behavior in some of my comments.

If you , general you, are not happy with your body, don't take it out on some poor guy speaking the truth on Disney message board. Get active, get healthy and quit looking to be offended.

Apparently you don't get it, either. And, yep, what you said was rude.

I do not need to look for something to be offended about. It's right there in front of us. Just because it doesn't offend you, doesn't mean no one should be offended.

 

[phorsenuf]

If you marry someone a certain way and they do a 180 ( fit and healthy to overweight and lazy) it'd be a deal breaker. Of course something that's a deal breaker isn't going to be something he's attracted to in the first place.

But don't you think that there may be a reason that one would allow that to happen? Or do you think after being married for a period of time people just complacent with each other?

It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. My husband has put on some weight as have I. Yesterday was our 30th wedding anniversary. On my Facebook page I posted a side by side of us on our wedding day and just a few days earlier on our cruise. Looking at it, I think I like our current look better. Yes, we could both stand to lose a few pounds, and fully intend to but to me, we look healthier, we were dressed accordingly (not squished into our clothes) and looked nice. I think that's an important part, and that's accepting that you may be bigger and should present yourself accordingly. Would I like to be slim and trim again? Yes, but certainly not as small as I was 30 years ago!!

 

[ashley0139]

Let's be clear, I have called no one names, nor have I made ridiculous comparisons such as not wearing heels to being a serial killer. I'm simply dumbfounded that someone actually thinks that joking about not liking Miracle Whip or crunchy peanut butter being a deal breaker is the same as saying you expect your significant other to not get fat and to wear heels for their whole life. It's laughable. Then again, comparing societal expectations of hygiene to being a serial killer gives me a pretty good indication of where his brain is.

Also, I'm perfectly happy with my (skinny) body, but thank you to everyone who was concerned.

 

[pryncess527]

I'm in Georgia Bulldawg, born and raised, so if my husband were a Florida gator fan that probably would've been a dealbreaker.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

But don't you think that there may be a reason that one would allow that to happen? Or do you think after being married for a period of time people just complacent with each other?

It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. My husband has put on some weight as have I. Yesterday was our 30th wedding anniversary. On my Facebook page I posted a side by side of us on our wedding day and just a few days earlier on our cruise. Looking at it, I think I like our current look better. Yes, we could both stand to lose a few pounds, and fully intend to but to me, we look healthier, we were dressed accordingly (not squished into our clothes) and looked nice. I think that's an important part, and that's accepting that you may be bigger and should present yourself accordingly. Would I like to be slim and trim again? Yes, but certainly not as small as I was 30 years ago!!

That's just it though. You guys are HAPPY! And good for you guys!

But for some people it IS a deal breaker.

Aviator is apparently one of those people.

 

[goofyintoronto]

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[aaarcher86]

You would leave your hubby if he did a complete 180???

Not immediately, no. But if that's going to be his new lifestyle then I would definitely be considering it. Fitness and health is important to me and important for me to bring our children into. Him becoming sedentary and unhealthy would completely change how we are as a family - active, outdoorsy, athletic, etc.

My first reaction would be to see what the heck is going on. Typically super active people don't become lazy for n reason, but if it was just a change of heart it would be an issue. A health reason? We'd work through it. It's all situational, but I wouldn't start dating someone on that lifestyle because its not part of my values.

 

[goofyintoronto]

Not immediately, no. But if that's going to be his new lifestyle then I would definitely be considering it. Fitness and health is important to me and important for me to bring our children into. Him becoming sedentary and unhealthy would completely change how we are as a family - active, outdoorsy, athletic, etc.

Fair enough. Although as others have said, if he does a 180 im sure there's a reason for it. Ppl dont just turn their life around for no reason.

Btw I tried to retract my question but was too late. Lol

 

[pryncess527]

OK so do you want to jump on board with defending not brushing your teeth and not bathing as well?

Shaving is not comparable to brushing teeth and bathing. A woman does not have to shave her legs to be hygienic. Men do not shave their legs and that does not make them dirty.

Shaving is a cultural thing. A person who chooses not to engage in a cultural practice does not become disgusting. And I say that as someone who actually waxes because I so despise having body hair, but that is my personal choice.

 

[aaarcher86]

Fair enough. Although as others have said, if he does a 180 im sure there's a reason for it. Ppl dont just turn their life around for no reason.

Btw I tried to retract my question but was too late. Lol

Bah. I elaborated too after you quoted lol.

 

[goofyintoronto]

My first reaction would be to see what the heck is going on. Typically super active people don't become lazy for n reason, but if it was just a change of heart it would be an issue. A health reason? We'd work through it. It's all situational, but I wouldn't start dating someone on that lifestyle because its not part of my values.

Yup. Totally get it. Id say thats a normal approach that most ppl would take.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Yup. Totally get it. Id say thats a normal approach that most ppl would take.

Apparently not most people here lol.