Things that could end a good relationship.

[PizzieDuster]

Chopping their hair off, getting fat, refusing to wear heels.

Losing his hair which goes to his ears, loose skin, skid marks.

 

[Bob NC]

Thermostat issues! I'm always cold, he is like a furnace. Finally, while pregnant, I learned what hot feels like and we could agree on temperature. It's a constant battle.


So fess up, what about you?

I sometimes threaten to crank up the A/C and then rip the thermostat off the wall and throw it in the woods.

 

[HM]

I love that so many of you also hate Miracle Whip. My inlaws used it. We used to spend every long Thanksgiving weekend at their house and having turkey sandwiches the next day meant no spread for me, until I started carrying real mayonnaise with me each year. That stuff is horrible.

 

[HM]

Putting together a piece of furniture. This was our first big fight. We didn't attempt to do it again for years.

 

[TheAviator]

Being the aviator and loving Miracle Whip both GREAT reasons to kick him out!

I don't ask anything I wouldn't do myself, staying in shape and dressing nice. I would bet 95% of men would agree with me. A sure fire way to turn your man off is to not abide by those very simple rules. Oh I should also add not doing anything about your grey hair is also a deal breaker, it's just a turn off

 

[TheAviator]

You and me both, sister.

Thinking that going unshaved and having messy hair looks cool. Not at your age, mister.

After 37 years of marriage, still forgetting daily where the dirty clothes hamper is located. (I really should move it to right beside his side of the bed).

The man puts molasses on his eggs. That is just beyond wrong.

But he puts up with me and I love him, so I'll keep him.

Ok so how are my requests any different than yours with the shaving and messy hair?

 

[tazdev3225]

Yeah, being a Yankee fan is a dealbreaker!

I married a drummer, so he's like a human metronome most of the time.

Thankfully DH is a Phillies fan although that was a problem for years as I was a Cardinals fan. My grandson wore me down.

DH is a drummer also and will drum on anything. Usually I can ignore it but in the car it drives me crazy.

My hubby can't seem to get his dirty clothes in the dirty clothes basket, all around it yes, inside of it.......never!

I cured DH of this problem early on. I did laundry - only what was IN the hamper. Refused to go around and pick up anything. He got the message when he had no clean socks and underwear for a week.

I will be married 32 years tomorrow and there are few things that bother me at this point. He wears old, worn out everything because they're comfortable. As long as he's presentable in public I can deal with it. My biggest pet peeve is trimming his toe nails in the living room. Just gross.

 

[njmom47]

I will also say I asked him to make a deal with me:

I will still love him when he loses his hair if he'll still love me when I put on weight.
So far so good (17 yrs)...he's lost more hair than I've put on weight though!

 

[jen0610]

I don't ask anything I wouldn't do myself, staying in shape and dressing nice. I would bet 95% of men would agree with me. A sure fire way to turn your man off is to not abide by those very simple rules. Oh I should also add not doing anything about your grey hair is also a deal breaker, it's just a turn off

Love me, love my gray hair. DH knows who has helped make me fully salt and pepper by the time I was 45. Plus, when I was coloring my hair, he wanted to know why I was going to the salon ALL THE TIME. Then when he heard the cost for keeping the grays away, he made the decision that salt and pepper was sexy on me. Glad he made that decision because #1 the cost of going to the salon was getting outta hand, #2 the amount of time spent at the salon was cutting into family time, #3 even if I could find a box color I really like (and I have looked), seeing as I have long thick hair, the cost of doing it at home as well as the time issue would need to be addressed again.

 

[aaarcher86]

Bigotry

Uncontrollable temper

Being a total pushover

Getting out of shape or unhealthy

 

[skylizard]

Acting like this........

 

[DawnM]

I think because the overall tone of this thread is lighthearted or about things we don't like 100% but put up with because we still love the person deeply.

I have more to say, but I will stop it at that.

Ok so how are my requests any different than yours with the shaving and messy hair?

 

[MagicallyDelicious]

Chopping their hair off, getting fat, refusing to wear heels.

You're single, right?

 

[SpecialK]

I don't ask anything I wouldn't do myself, staying in shape and dressing nice. I would bet 95% of men would agree with me. A sure fire way to turn your man off is to not abide by those very simple rules. Oh I should also add not doing anything about your grey hair is also a deal breaker, it's just a turn off

There was a poll on the news this morning that stated that 75% of American men are overweight, and yet only 7% of women said they would change their husband's physical appearance when asked what one thing they would change about their partner.

Maybe some men would be happier if they weren't so shallow.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I think because the overall tone of this thread is lighthearted or about things we don't like 100% but put up with because we still love the person deeply.

I have more to say, but I will stop it at that.

Exactly this. Chopping hair off, getting fat, and not wearing heals are very superficial things. This is the kind of man women avoid at all cost.

Lets stop and think for a minute thou.....lets say its a serious relationship and your GF puts on some weight...your gonna ditch her? Lets say she cant wear heels due to foot or back issues....you kick her to curb? The reality is that many men probably do want all of these things...who doesnt like sexy heels, long hair, and a fit body? But hey, **** happens, you get older, you get an injury that prevents you from working out, heels are too painful, and your sick of maintaining those lengthy locks, so you chop your hair off. If i cant wear heels, im sure as heck not going to suffer in them because my bf likes it. There is sexy flat footwear out there believe it or not. I see many attractive women out on the street with flat sandals/shoes.

If these things turn out to be a deal breaker deep into the relationship, clearly to the guy its mostly about whats on the outside that counts, not the inside, and HE deserves to be dumped. However if its a fairly NEW relationship and you're getting turned off so quick, then I dont see anything wrong with ending the relationship if its clearly a problem for you.

 

[TheAviator]

Yes I'm single and happily so, not in a rush to change that unless I find what I'm looking for. I stay in shape so I don't see how it's a big deal to expect my partner to stay in shape. I just saw there was at least one woman on here that shares that view as well. Marriage is not a license to let yourself go, for men or women.

As for the grey that is fine if you and your partner are ok with that but I personally do not like grey, I get rid of mine and I would expect my partner to do so as well.

 

[Dani784]

Yes I'm single and happily so, not in a rush to change that unless I find what I'm looking for. I stay in shape so I don't see how it's a big deal to expect my partner to stay in shape. I just saw there was at least one woman on here that shares that view as well. Marriage is not a license to let yourself go, for men or women.

As for the grey that is fine if you and your partner are ok with that but I personally do not like grey, I get rid of mine and I would expect my partner to do so as well.

You'll be single a long time my friend. Women don't typically "let" themselves go. We can't help it. As we age and have children our bodies change in ways we can't control. I've had four kids in the past 7 years and it shows. Lucky for me, my hubby loves every curvy inch and stretch mark because he saw what I went through to earn them. They're my badges of honor for almost losing my life twice to bring four amazing children into his life.

Thank god all men aren't like you. Good luck finding a girl deeper than a puddle to share your shallow life with.

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[aaarcher86]

You'll be single a long time my friend. Women don't typically "let" themselves go. We can't help it. As we age and have children our bodies change in ways we can't control. I've had four kids in the past 7 years and it shows. Lucky for me, my hubby loves every curvy inch and stretch mark because he saw what I went through to earn them. They're my badges of honor for almost losing my life twice to bring four amazing children into his life.

Thank god all men aren't like you. Good luck finding a girl deeper than a puddle to share your shallow life with.

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I personally think there is a difference between bodies changing and letting yourself go.

 

[goofyintoronto]

I personally think there is a difference between bodies changing and letting yourself go.

Yes true. But he clearly did say "getting fat". Doesnt matter if your body changes or if you "let it go", the end result is the same. Youre fat. Which he doesnt like.

 

[aaarcher86]

Yes true. But he clearly did say "getting fat". Doesnt matter if your body changes or if you "let it go", the end result is the same. Youre fat. Which he doesnt like.

Maybe we just see it differently? I know what he said. But in my opinion me getting hips because I had kids and packing on 30 lbs is a world of difference. Bodies changing doesn't necessarily mean fat to me. I had put letting yourself go and becoming unhealthy on my own list.