They Call Me MISTER PIG- He Said, She Said (9/1 Lights, Thunder, Fantasmic? Page 47)

[ChevyNat]

OMG, I just finished reading it, after seeing everyone saying good luck and keep the chin up... I'm sooo sorry... I just went through the exact same thing last year... I know how lost you feel... The support on this board was great and really helped me through some tough times.

I went to my Sister's place in Ottawa for a week with the kids (visit), when I came back home, my husband told me that he was leaving me, he had met someone else and that he did not love me anymore and that for some time now.... I was shocked, floored, beyond belief... He left and said that he had to sort things out for a while... He never said a word to the kids and out of our lives he was... after a time, I filed for divorced and got everything... he did not even want the kids... I'm still in dis-belief... but I moved on and I have a whole new life, and I focus on my kids and travel with them everywhere.
He sees them on Thursday for 1 hour (diner) and then comes and picks them up every other week-end (a few hours on Sat and a few hours on Sunday), they don't sleep over at his new girlfriend's place, she does not want them and says that they don't have room for them... I mean I can go on and on...

Be strong... I did not know how strong I could be, but I focussed on my kids and we worked through it... it was hard, yes and it still is sometimes... surround yourself with people that care and love you... and you will get through this... My best wishes and be strong...

 

[LuccaDrake]

"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong."

-Leo Rosten-


~Beka~

 

[stagemomx3]

How are you doing today?

 

[reelmom]

Becca,
Thinking of you and praying for your family as they go through the loss of a loved one.

 

[AURORA73]

You are in my thoughts and prayers. to you and the kids!

 

[disneyquilter]

Another one for today. Hang in there Becca!

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

-Eleanor Roosevelt-


~Beka~

Beka--this is a wonderful quote! When I read this today it helped me out in my personal life A LOT! Thanks so much

Becca--hang in there sister!! It will only get better. Just know that you are in everyone's thoughts and continuous prayers for you and your kids.

 

[stagemomx3]

 

[dreamer17555]

I am having a very hard time right now. He and I talked on Friday about trying to give us another shot. We would talk more about it today. We talked alright. I learned he took out a huge loan for an attorney in regards mostly to child custody. He basically said I am too emotional and that he is not sure if the Baby should be with me (Cat is his step daughter) I feel beyond stupid again.

On top of that one of my ex bf who is a good friend had is appendix rupture last night and is now in the hospital very very ill.

With all this and missing the funeral I can't seem to stop crying. I am so tired of being this sad.

-Becca-

 

[swwake]

I am glad to hear that he's willing to talk, but don't try to do this without professional counseling. He is destroying your emotions with the back and forth. And don't ever let him make you feel stupid. You are not stupid. You have done a great job of keeping it together. Let your kids be your strength. Katie helped me get through.

If you can see a therapist, together and apart, it will preserve your emotions because it will control, to some degree, what he is able to do. He may not realize the damage he is doing. It is so unfair.

I truly hope for the best for you and your family. That may mean that things will work out between the two of you and the family will become whole again. I will pray that the right thing for you and your kids will happen.

Talk to your attorney about what he said about fighting for custody. My experience is that kids under 5 are generally left with the mother, unless she has a drug or alcohol problem, or other issues. I think you are the most stable thing in his life right now, and the courts will likely let him stay with you.

Best of luck to you. I am thinking about you.

 

[creativeamanda]

I am having a very hard time right now. He and I talked on Friday about trying to give us another shot. We would talk more about it today. We talked alright. I learned he took out a huge loan for an attorney in regards mostly to child custody. He basically said I am too emotional and that he is not sure if the Baby should be with me (Cat is his step daughter) I feel beyond stupid again.

On top of that one of my ex bf who is a good friend had is appendix rupture last night and is now in the hospital very very ill.

With all this and missing the funeral I can't seem to stop crying. I am so tired of being this sad.

-Becca-

Becca: I am so sorry for your trials. I am so sorry for everything you are going through. Please take care of yourself. Remember he left you with the kids and therefore you have more of a leg to stand on. You are very much in my prayers.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Ooohh, I'm so sorry!



As a faithful reader of your TR, I'm here to listen

PM box is open for you and for Cat!

May I suggest a good song that helps me through hard times?

"Brave" by Idina Menzel.

Lyrics are in my PTR

 

[stagemomx3]

"Brave" by Idina Menzel.

I love that song!

Becca- Please, please, please talk to your lawyer about the "loan" and the child custody. HE is being very manipulative of your emotions and you need someone who is out to protect YOU!

 

[CRdisMom]

again hugs to you!

 

[Charleston Princess]

Becca, I am so sorry that you are having to go through all of this emotional "word I can't say on the DIS without getting banned."

 

[disneyquilter]

 

[sunnyday123]

I love that song!

Becca- Please, please, please talk to your lawyer about the "loan" and the child custody. HE is being very manipulative of your emotions and you need someone who is out to protect YOU!

I totally agree. Your emotional?? He just sideswiped you. You have every right to be emotional. Now is the time however, to get angry. He has no right to treat you this way, and play with your feelings and your head. Everything happens for a reason. I haven't read in a few days, but I hope you have an attorney. If he's taken out a large loan for one, it doesn't sound like he's going to be willing to work on anything, and he also sounds like he's been planning this for a while. Don't let him manipulate you or get even one step ahead. Be strong, you CAN get through this.

 

[Camster0307]

Oh Becca! to you and your children!

I wish I could jump on a plane and come out there to: #1 - kick HE's a** for treating you this way; and 2 - to just try and help you do what you need to do. I know it's all so overwhelming but you need to make sure you're protecting yourself.

Document EVERYTHING! My ex left to be with his girlfriend but it was never officially a "legal" separation; I kept a notebook and wrote down everything from the days and times he called to speak to the children to the dates I knew he was taking trips (and spending "our" money). If he said something that I thought was "odd" during one of our conversations - I wrote it down. Please, please, please try to keep track of everything he is doing and telling you. You're still legally married even though he has moved out - what he's doing behind your back now could come back to hurt you later.

 

[LuccaDrake]

Becca, I'm sorry to hear that you ended up missing the funeral and now have a sick friend in the hospital. I know it probably seems like someone's testing your strength right now and I think you are doing great! This is an awful time, but things can't get any worse. Just keep that in mind, it can only get better from here. And as far as people talking about legal advice, again there are free services out there and I would get in touch with them asap. I wish I could come over and help you! I'm very domestic! Anyways, you're in my thoughts and here is a quote for you today:

"We deceive ourselves when we fancy that only weakness needs support. Strength needs it far more."

-Madame Swetchine-



~Beka~

 

[kaysmommie]

Becca,
So sorry you have to deal with this jerk playing with your emotions. Please be strong and hang in there, things really will get better. hugs to your little ones too. Prayers for your friend too.

 

[Moonlitdreams82]

I'm so sorry that you have to feel this way. You are, as always, in my thoughts and prayers.