The "Why I didn't speak to my sister for a week" trip report *** Now Complete :)

[Disney_Angel]

Have a great trip!!!

 

[mrsksomeday]

Its not going to be popular, but I have some sympathy for the sister. I just looked at the pre trip report and every moment was planned I know some planning is needed but how about some time to just go with the flow?

I respect your opinion, but her sister was totally out of line in my opinion.

Can you imagine how much planning, money, and time was spent to give them this fantastic vacation? How did they repay her? Complaining constantly and being totally ungrateful.

Marina, if you ever feel the need to take someone else with you, I would gladly go . There would be no complaining, no blisters, no coffee breaks, just fun, fun fun!!

 

[Baloo]

I totally agree with Mrssomeday!!!


Marina I hope you and Grumpy have a wonderful trip!!





Bon Voyage!!!

 

[marivaid]

Its not going to be popular, but I have some sympathy for the sister. I just looked at the pre trip report and every moment was planned I know some planning is needed but how about some time to just go with the flow?

It's going to surprise you but I agree with you,to a point. We DID overplan and that's partly to blame for the way this trip turned out.

My mom & I always plan our Disney vacations, though we don't plan "every moment". We know which park we want to be in, and then pick our ADRs accordingly. And it's not set in stone, we have on several occasions thrown the plan out the window and done something totally different.
But for us Disney is not the place to "go with the flow",we go to the beach for that. We knew they wouldn't have the possibility to come back for quite some time, and they had told us repeatedly that they wanted to experience as much as possible. We'd have five days at the beach to chill.

What's for sure is that I did a lousy job of preparing her, because to this day she still tells me she was shocked at the size of everything and the amount of walking.

 

[tikkipoo]

I also have to lay off with my planning for our family. DMOL is the same way as your sister. Her idea of a vaca is to lounge on the beach or at the pool the ENTIRE time. We just have to agree to disagree about that. Planning will be very difficult, because I, like you, am totally commando and feel that I pay and work 2 jobs to do this, I'm making every minute count!

About your itinerary, looks fine. I don't do EMH's, but I know some people enjoy them. I would go see Fantasmic! on the first. No reason to miss it. Hope you have a lovely trip.

 

[jjk]

Have a wonderful trip

 

[jillyb]

I don't know how someone as far away as you, gets to disney so much...it is amazing

It's called a weak dollar.

 

[karajeboo]

"I thought you wanted to see Chip and Dale?"
"Oh, who cares about some stupid guys in a costume!"

To my 7 year old daughter, these would be fightin words!

I could be wrong, but I don't believe that's Disney World's current slogan.



SWEET NIBLETS!!!!!

Again, my daughter would agree!!!

"You can take your fries and stick em where the sun doesn't shine... and don't forget the ketchup."

PLEASE tell me you said this out loud!!![/I]

Face it, ya just don't mess with the chipmunks!!!!

Jessi wasn't talking to me. Alex wasn't talking to anyone.

No great loss there!

I suspect - in Jess's case - that the only thing she's "crazy about" is fitted sheets.

Too funny!!!

Corn dog nuggets she said. Try them with mustard on. I figured if I didn't like them Grumpy'd eat them.
OMG they were so good !!!! How did I live 29 years without ever tasting this delicacy ?

Yup, we Americans really know how to make a delicacy!

We had made ourselves some custom shirts for tonight's party and kept getting compliments from people.

So where are the photos????

"Let's not go meet them yet."

Score one for Grumpy!!!

So, in a nutshell, this is what they did :
- Looked at Astro Orbiter.
- Went to the bathroom.
- Sat while not watching fireworks.
- Had coffee.

Unfreakin believable!!!


"Jessica told me to tell you we'd like to rest today, for a change."

You have got to be kidding!!!!!! You really are a saint!!!!

 

[team weasel]

It's going to surprise you but I agree with you,to a point. We DID overplan and that's partly to blame for the way this trip turned out.

My mom & I always plan our Disney vacations, though we don't plan "every moment". We know which park we want to be in, and then pick our ADRs accordingly. And it's not set in stone, we have on several occasions thrown the plan out the window and done something totally different.
But for us Disney is not the place to "go with the flow",we go to the beach for that. We knew they wouldn't have the possibility to come back for quite some time, and they had told us repeatedly that they wanted to experience as much as possible. We'd have five days at the beach to chill.

What's for sure is that I did a lousy job of preparing her, because to this day she still tells me she was shocked at the size of everything and the amount of walking.

Don't do that. Don't second guess anything you did. You and Grumpy GAVE them a FREE trip to Disney. You tried everything in your power to make that a fun and memorable experience for them. I don't think you had any way of knowing how Jessi would react. Your planning and scheduling was only meant to allow them to see as much as possible, since they will probably never be back.

Reading your PTR actually made me sad. You were so excited. Anticipating seeing Disney through someone else's eyes. Someone who had never seen it before. You bought them all kinds of things to phsyc them up, and even arranged for them to have pocket money.

If you want to adopt an American sister with a slight Southern accent, I will gladly allow you to run me ragged on a free trip to Disney.

 

[marivaid]

It's called a weak dollar.

The weak dollar definitely helps, and we got lucky with relatively cheap flights this year.. that is, until this summer. Usually we book flights 6-8 months in advance. This time we barely had 2. You know how much I paid for my flight ? 1310 euros. Grumpy's was slightly less, but it was still about 2400 euros for the two of us. That's about $3700.

Weak dollar is great for us, but when just getting there costs so much, there really aren't any "savings". Not that it matters to us anyway Vacation is where we we spend all our money.

Don't do that. Don't second guess anything you did. You and Grumpy GAVE them a FREE trip to Disney. You tried everything in your power to make that a fun and memorable experience for them. I don't think you had any way of knowing how Jessi would react. Your planning and scheduling was only meant to allow them to see as much as possible, since they will probably never be back.

Reading your PTR actually made me sad. You were so excited. Anticipating seeing Disney through someone else's eyes. Someone who had never seen it before. You bought them all kinds of things to phsyc them up, and even arranged for them to have pocket money.

If you want to adopt an American sister with a slight Southern accent, I will gladly allow you to run me ragged on a free trip to Disney.

You're so sweet.
It's crazy I guess, but I still feel that it's my fault the trip went so badly. Maybe if I hadn't planned a thing we would have done more. Or maybe we would have done nothing at all ??

 

[DopeysMommy]

I am a newbie, who is fascinated by this thread.

Do NOT blame yourself for "overplanning"--it appears one needs to overplan Disney and then adjust as needed. If Alex and Jessi couldn't take the action, there are many MUCH nicer ways to handle it than by being passive aggressive and trying to ruin your trip. It would have been easy--and the adult way to handle it--by saying "we're tired, WE'RE going back to the room." there was no reason they needed to be childish and expect you to change plans because of their wants.

And please, their lack of funds makes me ill. They were your guests, and awful horrible ones at that.

Plan away. I may steal your itineraries when my time comes in 2010!!!

 

[disneyaddicted]

I have just been reading along since you started this TR, I don't call myself a lurker, I normally post on really good reports and this one is great, but my mother has awlays taught me if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all.
It's awful when you plan something and have great expectations for fun and then be met with so much ungratefulness, maybe because your sister doesn't really work she has no idea how to appreciate the time and money you spent on her for that trip.
I am a closet Hannah Montana fan, my DD 14 likes her so I use that as an excuse, "I only watch it because Reese does." Truth is I watch HM more than DD does. SHe had an Hannah Montana karaoke party, you had to come dressed as Hannah or someone from the show, it was fun. OH and last December we took a trip to disney and Reese started a rumor At Hollywood studios that Hannah Montana was at the spectacle of lights, by the time we made it to the other side of the park people were telling us HM was there.

Anywhoooooo, I hope you have the best trip this time around, I wish you dreams won, good food, happy CM's and bargain deals.

 

[princessjv]

It's going to surprise you but I agree with you,to a point. We DID overplan and that's partly to blame for the way this trip turned out.

That is what all us addicts do.

What's for sure is that I did a lousy job of preparing her, because to this day she still tells me she was shocked at the size of everything and the amount of walking.

She is a big girl. SHe should be able to prepare herself. You and Grumpy make too much effort to care for her. She is a grown up. Let her make her bed and sleep in it. All day, if she must.

It's called a weak dollar.

I was thinking the same thing... But airfare is killing people everywhere!

Don't do that. Don't second guess anything you did. You and Grumpy GAVE them a FREE trip to Disney. You tried everything in your power to make that a fun and memorable experience for them.

Ditto! You are a such a kind sister for doing this for not only your sister, but her partner. You and your momma are awesome. Shame on those two lazy butts for not stepping up, and if anything else...at least pretend they were thankful. (shame on them.)



Looking forward to the rest. Have a wonderful time here (in the US) in a few days. Your schedule looks good. Lots of shopping. Be prepared to SWEAT.

 

[irky416]

I just got caught up. I'm glad you at least made it to the party. I was scared you wouldn't even get to go! I can't wait to hear more!

 

[karajeboo]

It's going to surprise you but I agree with you,to a point. We DID overplan and that's partly to blame for the way this trip turned out.

No way! The simple fact that you and Grumpy paid for this entire trip, so they could experience Disney, is so generous. The fact that Jessi and Alex bucked you every step of the way is flat out ungrateful. If they had said one or two times, "hey, would you mind if we didn't do that?" it would have been one thing. But how many ADRs did you miss because they were too tired? In my opinion, you and Grumpy suffered the most because you knew what you were missing.

They didn't know what they were missing, so they didn't really miss it, kwim?

 

[justplaingoofy]

It makes me sad that you might even consider that any of this was your fault Disney can be overwhelming for some. heck, one year I planned for my hubby and I to go to Disney for 6 days then we went over to Sandals in the Bahamas for 4 days to "recover". my hubby said he needs it after chasing me around a park for a week....
sometimes I think he never gets to see my face(only my backside)
when we're in Disney because I'm always ahead of him ...

In my opinion I think you need to have a "plan" at Disney. We always plan ahead to which park we are going to (incase we go to emh/ or avoid them) and also with the dining plan you do need to plan your adr's.

You seem like an intelligent, caring,& overly generous sister! I hope you and grumps have a fantastic trip and we are anxiously awaiting your return hope to hear all about it!

 

[lborne]

Well, had you not planned, this would be one very boring TR. I can see it now...

Day 1 -
Jess and Alex finally wake around 2 pm. Grumpy and I have been waiting for the knock on the door since 6 am. We order pizza and have it delivered to the room. Time for a nap. They wake up around 8 pm and we order pizza for the room. Time to call it a day.

Day 2 - 14 (See day 1)

Day 15 -
We are riding in the taxi to the airport for our flight home. Jess says she just does not get what is so special about Disney.

 

[team weasel]

Well, had you not planned, this would be one very boring TR. I can see it now...

Day 1 -
Jess and Alex finally wake around 2 pm. Grumpy and I have been waiting for the knock on the door since 6 am. We order pizza and have it delivered to the room. Time for a nap. They wake up around 8 pm and we order pizza for the room. Time to call it a day.

Day 2 - 14 (See day 1)

Day 15 -
We are riding in the taxi to the airport for our flight home. Jess says she just does not get what is so special about Disney.

 

[angela3676]

Well, had you not planned, this would be one very boring TR. I can see it now...

Day 1 -
Jess and Alex finally wake around 2 pm. Grumpy and I have been waiting for the knock on the door since 6 am. We order pizza and have it delivered to the room. Time for a nap. They wake up around 8 pm and we order pizza for the room. Time to call it a day.

Day 2 - 14 (See day 1)

Day 15 -
We are riding in the taxi to the airport for our flight home. Jess says she just does not get what is so special about Disney.

http://www.sweetim.com/s.asp?im=gen&ref=12

 

[Normangirls]

Um, I don't usually post much, but let me see if I got this right.

You planned and paid for the vacation. You asked for their input/preferences. You told them what the schedule was, and how much there was to do. You warned them that it would be very busy. And they behaved like this?

This has absolutely nothing to do with vacation styles (relaxed versus commando), physical abilities (scooters can and were used), or personal preferences (some people just don't get Disney). But it has everything to do with being grateful, being gracious, showing common courtesy, taking some initiative, trying something new and living up to your commitments.

You know very well your sister has issues with these things.

Don't try to cover up for her, and don't try to understand her point of view. Accept her for who she is, know that you did much more than any sister could be expected to do, and pity her tremendously in that she missed out ona chance of a lifetime -- how sad is that?

Hope your next trip (in 2 days?) goes well. Enjoy the Poly, and appreciate while you are there that some people never get to experience Disney, and some that do never get a real taste of Pixie dust, and remember how sad that really is.

Bon voyage!