the show Mike and Molly...does this bother anyone else?

[Angelhalo]

I think - at least for women - black women are much more self confident, no matter what their size.

I think self confidence shiiiiiines, and a confident heavy black woman just is more "attractive" than an insecure heavy white woman. JMO.

I think you're right Cat.

 

[disykat]

Might just be regional differences, but I see bigger women with skinny/average men all the time. Women often gain weight after having babies, so I don't think it's uncommon at all.

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I was going to say the same thing. My husband is a small, wirey guy and I've weighed more than him most of the time we've known each other. Right before our wedding, I lost a few pounds and he gained a few so we weighed the same - 125. It didn't last long, I gained some weight on the honeymoon and he lost some!

 

[redlight]

hollywood's perception on what is overweight is so whacked anymore i'm just glad they picked out two actors that are actually overweight.i could see them trying to pass off a couple of size 8's as big people.

ita.

 

[JoiseyMom]

Hey Hollywood, I have an idea! Stop thinking fat woman can only find fat men.

Just once I would like a show that shows an obese woman with a totally hot husband! Kind of like the reverse of King of Queens. Fat Doug had hot Carrie.

Oh yeah, and I have been to a few OA meetings and EVERY PERSON in the room is NOT obese.

Thank you.

Days Of Our Lives did. Chloes parents, her dad was hot and her mom was heavy.

 

[redlight]

Days Of Our Lives did. Chloes parents, her dad was hot and her mom was heavy.

I loved Craig and Nancy as a couple.

 

[honugirl]

As a fat chick, I can reliably say that guys don't date fat chicks. They just don't. In fact, when I was younger I was constantly bullied by the "hot" guys because I was overweight (probably due to my undiagnosed Cushing's Disease). Now guys don't even look at me or ask me out, even the nerdy guys.

There was a period of time a few years ago that my pit tumor stopped producing excess hormones for an unknown reason and I was able to get down to 145 pounds and was extremely athletic. My Cinderella at the ball beautiful period only lasted a very short time, but when guys look at those pictures I see their faces light up, then they see me now and I'm a complete turnoff.

So those of you that are overweight and have found good men, good for you, you are extremely lucky.

I know I'm facing the rest of my life being alone and it sucks.

 

[Handbag Lady]

As a fat chick, I can reliably say that guys don't date fat chicks. They just don't. In fact, when I was younger I was constantly bullied by the "hot" guys because I was overweight (probably due to my undiagnosed Cushing's Disease). Now guys don't even look at me or ask me out, even the nerdy guys.

There was a period of time a few years ago that my pit tumor stopped producing excess hormones for an unknown reason and I was able to get down to 145 pounds and was extremely athletic. My Cinderella at the ball beautiful period only lasted a very short time, but when guys look at those pictures I see their faces light up, then they see me now and I'm a complete turnoff.

So those of you that are overweight and have found good men, good for you, you are extremely lucky.

I know I'm facing the rest of my life being alone and it sucks.

But you are not a complete turnoff. I'm plus-sized and I would never say that about myself. My sparkling personality always comes to the rescue. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places? There are good guys out there; I snagged one. And if I can get one, you can too.



I love Mike and Molly. I don't find the fat jokes any worse than any other show and think the two main characters are really good, strong characters.

And to answer a previous poster, didn't the actress who plays Molly play Suki in Gilmore Girls? Her husband on that show was really good looking and normal. Does that count?

 

[honugirl]

But you are not a complete turnoff. I'm plus-sized and I would never say that about myself. My sparkling personality always comes to the rescue. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places? There are good guys out there; I snagged one. And if I can get one, you can too.

That's great that you found someone. Maybe I am looking in the wrong places, I don't know. I haven't been asked out on a date since I was 145 pounds. It could be my age. I'm only in my early 30's and I think guys are a lot more jerky and shallow at this age. Maybe when I hit 40+ they'll be better. All the good ones I know are married or gay, which doesn't help me at all.

 

[lisaviolet]

I think self confidence shiiiiiines, and a confident heavy black woman just is more "attractive" than an insecure heavy white woman. JMO.

Very interesting reading some of these replies. I'm overweight and married to a thin, atheletic, muscular man. I think he is pretty handsome and he still gets some googly eyes from females so I guess they agree.

My husband has caught flack from people from the first moment we started dating. Poor guy has been called a chubby chaser, told he was doing a good thing for a "nice" girl, told he could do a whole lot better/hotter, and variety of other things. When we were younger and would go out all kinds of ladies would try to interupt us or get him to dance or whatever. I've said many times "lady, he isn't looking for an STD keep on walking..."

I've seen Mike and Molly a few times. I really didn't like it because of all the fat people jokes. I think it's great concept and they are a cute tv couple but I think the jokes over the top.

I think you're right Cat.

On the bold about self confidence - I wonder about both of these woman - probably exuded a je ne sais quoi. I LOVE women like that. . Like there's sumtin' sumtin'.

Ricki Lake has stated that she had no issues finding men - nada - when she was extremely overweight. She always had men around her.

And Whoopi Goldberg is not fat - however, she is not *society's* idea of sexual attractiveness. (not supporting people's ways -meaning she doesn't buy into looking the part so to speak and we're led to believe there is a look). And she too has said she has never had issues with having people attracted to her either - no shortage of men. (Although weirdly enough she has said very few - if any black men asked her out)



And both actresses were referring to times that included before they were famous. So no "boy your money is sexy".

And lovemygoofy - I added your post b/c I KNOW you have a je ne sais quoi about you. It's evident JUST in your posts.

 

[redlight]

And to answer a previous poster, didn't the actress who plays Molly play Suki in Gilmore Girls? Her husband on that show was really good looking and normal. Does that count?

Yes, Melissa McCarthy played Suki. I liked the way her romance and then marriage with Jackson was portrayed (I didn't think Jackson was all that good looking).

 

[CathrynRose]

I know I'm facing the rest of my life being alone and it sucks.

JMO - You need to stop thinking like this. It will only make you feel miserable, and if you think it too much, it *will* become your reality.

There is someone, in fact several someone's, for everyone. Work it.

 

[redlight]

-snort- I completely misread that...




Agree. I've always noticed that in "white" society, being super crazy thin is the most desired body type (if the media is the regulator of such things), whereas women who have a more Ethnic look to them seem to be more socially accepted when it comes to having curves (J. Lo, Beyonce, Kim Kardashian, etc.).

There are very few blonde haired/blue eyed actresses who have much junk in their trunk, but plenty of added curves up top, IYKWIM.

I think you might be right about that.

 

[cm8]

Hey Hollywood, I have an idea! Stop thinking fat woman can only find fat men.

Just once I would like a show that shows an obese woman with a totally hot husband! Kind of like the reverse of King of Queens. Fat Doug had hot Carrie.

Oh yeah, and I have been to a few OA meetings and EVERY PERSON in the room is NOT obese.

Thank you.

 

[Handbag Lady]

That's great that you found someone. Maybe I am looking in the wrong places, I don't know. I haven't been asked out on a date since I was 145 pounds. It could be my age. I'm only in my early 30's and I think guys are a lot more jerky and shallow at this age. Maybe when I hit 40+ they'll be better. All the good ones I know are married or gay, which doesn't help me at all.

OOh, go a bit older! Not you, your potential suitor! And I didn't marry until later in life so don't go comparing yourself to the timeframe of others.

Yes, Melissa McCarthy played Suki. I liked the way her romance and then marriage with Jackson was portrayed (I didn't think Jackson was all that good looking).

See, I found him very attractive by his actions.

 

[honugirl]

JMO - You need to stop thinking like this. It will only make you feel miserable, and if you think it too much, it *will* become your reality.

There is someone, in fact several someone's, for everyone. Work it.

I'm working on just being OK by myself. If a guy wants me, he's going to have to work his rear off to prove to me he's worth my time and energy.

OOh, go a bit older! Not you, your potential suitor! And I didn't marry until later in life so don't go comparing yourself to the timeframe of others.

I was thinking about going older, but being back in school sort of limits the potential supply of guys over the age of 18...

 

[disneychrista]

And to answer a previous poster, didn't the actress who plays Molly play Suki in Gilmore Girls? Her husband on that show was really good looking and normal. Does that count?

Yes she did, that is what got me watching this show. But I have to disagree. Jackson was an average looking chubby guy. I do think Melissa McCarthy is an attractive woman.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

As a fat chick, I can reliably say that guys don't date fat chicks. They just don't. In fact, when I was younger I was constantly bullied by the "hot" guys because I was overweight (probably due to my undiagnosed Cushing's Disease). Now guys don't even look at me or ask me out, even the nerdy guys.

There was a period of time a few years ago that my pit tumor stopped producing excess hormones for an unknown reason and I was able to get down to 145 pounds and was extremely athletic. My Cinderella at the ball beautiful period only lasted a very short time, but when guys look at those pictures I see their faces light up, then they see me now and I'm a complete turnoff.

So those of you that are overweight and have found good men, good for you, you are extremely lucky.

I know I'm facing the rest of my life being alone and it sucks.

I'm a good 75 pounds overweight right now and I have no problems attracting men when I want to. And contrary to what other posters have said, most of the men I attract are not overweight themselves.

I was miserable in high school and always thought to myself "you are too fat and no one will ever love you. Once I hit about 20 and said "**** it, I am what I am and guys are going to have to accept that" the men started to line up.

It is not the weight holding you back, it is the attitude. Attitude is not easy to change but once you do, things get much better.

 

[ols386]

As a fat chick, I can reliably say that guys don't date fat chicks. They just don't. In fact, when I was younger I was constantly bullied by the "hot" guys because I was overweight (probably due to my undiagnosed Cushing's Disease). Now guys don't even look at me or ask me out, even the nerdy guys.

There was a period of time a few years ago that my pit tumor stopped producing excess hormones for an unknown reason and I was able to get down to 145 pounds and was extremely athletic. My Cinderella at the ball beautiful period only lasted a very short time, but when guys look at those pictures I see their faces light up, then they see me now and I'm a complete turnoff.

So those of you that are overweight and have found good men, good for you, you are extremely lucky.

I know I'm facing the rest of my life being alone and it sucks.

I do understand what you are saying. I used to be overweight when I was single a few years ago. Guys were not the least bit interested. Then I lost 65 pounds, and it was a different story. So I agree with you to a certain extent.

I wouldn't give up on finding someone to share your life with though. You just haven't met/found that person yet. I bet you have a ton of positive attributes. You just haven't met the right person(s) who appreciate you and everything that I'm sure you have to offer in a relationship.

Hang in there!

 

[MushyMushy]

I'm a good 75 pounds overweight right now and I have no problems attracting men when I want to. And contrary to what other posters have said, most of the men I attract are not overweight themselves.

I was miserable in high school and always thought to myself "you are too fat and no one will ever love you. Once I hit about 20 and said "**** it, I am what I am and guys are going to have to accept that" the men started to line up.

It is not the weight holding you back, it is the attitude. Attitude is not easy to change but once you do, things get much better.

I totally agree. I have never had a problem finding dates whether at 120s or, er, much higher. In fact, the guys I met at my highest weights were much nicer and more prone to look at what's inside. The key is liking yourself and putting forth your best qualities.

 

[LisaNJ25]

You obviously never saw the last year of the show. Carrie was fat. Doug slimmed down at one point, then ballooned back the next year.

If I am not mistaken she just had a baby.