The baby "M" is here. She had the cord wrapped around her neck 3 times and she had pooped inside too. They had to work on her for a bit to get her breathing and still are having to closely monitor her. She is just over 5 pounds. No word on if she is exhibiting signs of drug withdrawal.
We are now in wait and see mode. The niece "F" was lucky to have been given the spinal block and honestly lucky to have had the c-section because she has arthritis in her hips and a regular delivery without drugs and without any sort of childbirth classes would have been torture. "F" is telling her mom that she hates rehab and wants to go to jail instead. [Let's see, hmmm, 6 months in rehab with your baby that you claim to want or 2 years in jail without your baby?!?!?]
We are waiting to see what she chooses. The alcoholic baby daddy is out of the picture, yet again.
His mom is a lesbian and doesn't want him to take any responsibility for this mess without a paternity test. [No rocks being thrown over here on that one.]
"F"'s mom, Gabby's sister, "B", is still in the hospital herself recovering from ovarian cancer surgery done yesterday. "B" is suffering from an uncontrolled seizure disorder and most likely will not be deemed fit to adopt the child from "F" if "F" goes to jail. Florida doesn't allow gays and lesbians to adopt, so that leaves us out as potential parents, even though out of the entire family, we are the best suited, most stable, and most economically blessed potential family unit that baby "M" could be placed with. All of this means that it's quite possible that baby "M" could end up in the Florida foster care system.
[deep breath] We decided a few months ago that we would only make the move to take on the job of parenting this child if "F" and the baby daddy, both, 100% free and clear gave up rights and let Gabby kinship adopt first, in Florida, and then I would do a second parent adoption here in Georgia. Of course, all of this is based on "IF" we could get Florida to agree to let Gabby adopt the baby in the first place, even with parental blessings. We discussed it and we would be completely open to letting baby "M" know who her actual mom was and would never shut "F" or baby daddy out on her progess throughout her life's journey. Honestly, I don't see this happening. Which has it's good and it's bad sides.
I worry so much about the care that this baby is going to need. She is going to need at least one parent who is going to fight for her. "F" is so not ready to be a mother. She is barely even an adult herself and when you add in the self absorbed behaviors that go along with drug addiction, it's just not the best situation for that baby to be in. It makes me incredibly sad.
Oh, and one last thing, for those of you that are wondering, "F" is in jail for robbing Gabby's mom of thousands of dollars worth of jewelry and pawning it to get money to pay for drugs. Gabby's mom pressed charges and "F" was slapped with a sentence of 3 months mandatory with more time optionally applied in rehab and 2 years of probation, or 2 years in jail, still with probation afterwards. The judge was not one to usually be so easy on people, but it was just before the holidays and he decided to go easy on her. I was shocked that she wasn't taken to rehab right away, but that's another story.
Thanks for the prayers. If you don't mind, please keep them coming because this situation is far from settled, especially for baby "M".
Been there done that on the "can't adopt, even if it's family thing." 
Finally a mostly positive update! "F" decided to go back to rehab instead of jail! 
She should be going back to the rehab center on Saturday. Because "F" only had the spinal block and has had no drugs in the hospital, they will count her hospital time as time spent in rehab. The change of heart seems to be brought on by a genuine case of falling in love with a newborn. 
