Kris (dh) is making me put a notice to go with all of my posts of said situations:
He wants it made clear that he is not blood related to this women.....she is his stepmother, but has been for the past 30 years..........he has only really gotten along with her the past 8, and that is becuase I put my foot down on some (a lot) things, and she started taking prozac,
. The stories of how she was when he was a kid
Kris is the only child of them, as they never had any together. So when the time comes for them to need something they will be sol!!!
I also want to Thank all of you for "listening" and being a great sounding board for all of this crap...........I am going to owe you all a lobstah when this drama ends........................it will end right?!!?
Just tell her it's awfully nice to get all this spruced up before ya'll have to move in to take care of her! or better yet- all of it will be in order for when you put her in a home and put the house on the market!
I don't think you'd be hearing much else after that.
They have so many bills that selling their home won't even cover them...dfil owes a lot to lumber yards etc.........the money they are STEALING is just going for crap! So we won't be taking care of them, as they won't have any money for me to remodel with, and I just learned this week that this is how it goes down I guess,
Is any of this on an email? I would accidently forward it to the Aunt oops!
I am in contact with one of dh's cousins almost daily, and his father is the one who does not talk to dfil at all, so I am making sure that bits and pieces are making their way there without being the one who is telling,lol.
Wendie, sounds like you need a cocktail!!!
Already there my friend....as soon as ross' friends left, I invited Mr Cuervo to sit with me for a moment...........
I am speechless. Your MIL is going to be for an eye opener when she needs a caregiver so while she is squirreling Grandma's money away sprucing up her home she may want to consider some long term care insurance. My DH's Mother did not do a very good job taking care of his Dad when he was ill with cancer an the brunt of it fell to him and his brother. They insisted he be at home as much as possible and she insisted he was elsewhere. They won, but the entire time the poor man was ill and dying she was a terror.
She has had major surgery several times since and DH won't even call to see how she is, let alone care for her or ask me to. It comes back to bite you when you are not doing the right things at the right times.
Some people huh?!!? Dh (Kris) already said "well they are going to be in for a hell of a shock when they are old"
Wendie - I am so sorry things are happening this way. I can't believe the lack of concern about the drug overdose, even thought it seems to be a recurring issue, all it takes is one time and she'll be gone. The curtains can certainly be cared for later.
If you want prayers for your mouth to be kept somewhat shut on Thursday, that's what you'll get from me, but I have to say you're a better woman than me, I couldn't do it.
She went up to see her sister (who is on obvious suicide watch on the psych ward) this evening and took her mother with her, and informed her sister that she is to busy getting her house "spruced" up and ready for grandmother that she won't have time to come see her for awhile. Yep, I am sure that helped martha who is already depressed, and having a hard time detoxing from her anitdepressents...
So as Kris and I say...Karma baby it is all about Karma.....
Well I should probably have asked for the prayers starting asap on the whole hush up thing cause I just sent an email on another issue with them......
Ross has an awards cermony next Monday night from his gifted/talented math/reading classes, and he will be getting numerous awards. They had said that they wouldn't miss it no matter what, and moving her in was not going to change them being involved in his activities. Well what do you know....dfil called here about 20 min ago to say that who was going to sit with grandma couldn't now, and that he would be coming still, but that dmil wouldn't be able to. They could have had grandmothers sister sit with her just like she did a month ago when grandmother lived at home, but they don't want her alone in their home........dmil made a big deal in the background how she would still be helping with the craft on Thursday though....whoop de freakin do.....
soooo I sent off this email (I will post what I wrote) I think it is fine, and polite, but knowing dmil she will take it a whole different way (she always does)......which doesn't bother me to be honest with you.....I have not heard back from her, which is telling me she is po'd at me, tell me what you think:::
Hey,
Well I just told Ross, and he was very upset. He was happy that papa could make it, but still quite sad that mimi will miss it, as this is a big deal, and he is very proud of himself. He is worried now that you guys won't make his tournaments anymore either. SO just to be on the safe side we won't tell him either way on those, (or other things like his plays etc) and if you can make it to them SUPER, and if not he won't know the difference and have hurt feelings, as I think this is just the start of you having a tough time finding someone to watch grandma for you to be able to make his events.
I need to go get him in the shower as he is filthy from playing outside all afternoon. If things don't work out for Thursday, don't worry about it, just please let me know by tomorrow afternoon.
talk soon
love
me
Wendie, I am sorry for all this stress. Some people are just selfish and don't think how they sound. Unfortunately, this woman (and Sis) has some issues and hopefully she will get them worked out so there won't be another time like this.
Does anyone have any salad or veggie recipes? Something light and good with fresh veggies. We have lots of great things growing and I want some ideas!
(We have zucchini, green onions, cucumber, cauliflower, jalapenos, habaneros, bell peppers, eggplant, squash blossoms, tomatoes, cherry tomatoes, grape tomatoes, carrots, peas, okra, green beans and lots of herbs plus raspberries, blueberries and strawberries.)
Well I doubt that dmil will ever change, but I do hope that aunt M will get the help she needs this time. Though she doesn't have the support of her sister which is going to hurt!!!
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I would make a nice stir fry with all but the cucumbers for veggies and then put some nice cheese over it or toss with some pasta, or just a nice pasta salad with the veggies marinated in italian dressing.
The fruit well, just that over a bit of vanilla ice cream would be yummy!!!
Loved them!!! Thank you! They were great with the "Suzie"!!! I haven't had fried pork chops in ages...Andrew helped make them...he was punished today so he helped me all afternoon. He is not punished anymore...he is down with my big kid, named Tom, playing Xbox...
He really is a good boy...he just does really stupid things sometimes...typical, right?
Another parent of a boy who does "typical stupid stuff" Par for the course I think..........they do and then they think........................
Here's a pic of last night's dinner. For the Fried Green Tomatoes, I used the Paula Deen recipe Kathy posted. Well sort of used it, I can't follow anything exactly. I dipped in a mix of flour & cornmeal, and blended the egg & milk with corn starch (from an Emeril recipe.) I really don't like frying so I went easy on myself and used the few leftover grilled shrimp & another lemony bechamel type sauce to top them. It was really good!
Sheryl
Now that is some good eats right there, mmmmmmm!!! I might have to make some of these once the farmers markets have tomatoes in....my grandmother would love them....it would go good with fried zucchini.
, I don't know what to say but that that handsome guy could wear anything and still look good!
....life is good! 
, so DD finally gets her wish. In the middle of the winter she was requesting blueberry pie, and I told her she would have to wait until blueberry season, unless we were going to take out a 2nd mortgage to buy the berries.
