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[Rainydaze]

Poor Vivien hasn't had a soft bm since starting solids. Her pedi does't seem too worried but it still bothers me to find little.....nuggets (sorry, I really can't think of any other way to describe them!!) in her diaper. So weird to go from almost completely liquidy diapers to that.

I'm hoping to get us up, dressed, and out of the house for mass in the morning. Might be a minor miracle. I have a feeling we will be going to afternoon mass instead. Not looking forward to Lent as I decided to give up cokes. We might actually make some nice money for our disney fund as I end up driving through for one wayyy too often!

I am giving up soft drinks for Lent as well, although I'm a Pepsi girl! Today has been rough, especially since my son was up several times last night!

As for the poop issue: the nurse told me that babies have to develop those muscles since breastmilk is almost completely digestible and liquids are easier to pass. The doctor told us to switch to oatmeal since it can be easier to digest with a little apple juice, but I would check with your pediatrician first! When we started veggies and fruits he pooped about six times a day! I think their system just has to get used to being something different than breastmilk or formula!

 

[yellowfish78]

...gotta love poop talk! He went last night and DH got the diaper. I got home from work and asked him "well, what'd it look like? What color? Was it runny?" and all I got was an eye rolling. I'm like this is important stuff here!

We are going to try oatmeal cereal this weekend, then next week start on the veggies. I love seeing him eating but I hate seeing him grow up! I'll have to post a picture of him with his bird mouth...I walked by him with the box of rice cereal yesterday and he opened his mouth with the "feed me" eyes! It was the funniest thing!

 

[Piecey]

Robin, I know what you mean! The hospital I've complained about before on here is redoing their L&D floor and had a memo posted that babies will be in-room with mom for everything other then physician check-ups, where they'll be wheeled to the "temporary nursery" (which was really just a postpartum room) ... I was like, heck no! I sent Lucas to the nursery as much as possible. I kept him while he slept.
I was just afraid of him and afraid that I'd twist the wrong way and the pain would make me jerk and I'd hurt him. After the first day or so I was up and moving and it wasn't so bad.



...random question! Anyone know anything about the pregnancies books written for a dad? My BFF said her husband has been commenting on her stretch marks and stuff (and acting a little disgusted).. Honestly, DH and I have both thought he wasn't ready for a kid but she wanted it badly enough he gave in. I think it's starting to come out in the fact that he's not being very supportive of her at all. I was wondering if one of those books might touch on things like that- for example, maybe it would say "Hey, jerk-face, don't act like your wife's changing body is disgusting."...

 

[december]

Wow, what an idiot! I don't know anything about those books, but I would think that would be common sense! Dh is weird-he thinks pregnant women are so sexy!

 

[Piecey]

I seriously think (okay, we, my DH agrees!) he is one of the most immature people we've met. It's baffling to me some of the stuff he does.
She told us some of the issues they were having- stuff like he got mad at her when she told him he couldn't buy a class ring and tried to kick her out of the house. (That she pays for! He opted to cut his hours back at work and stop applying for better jobs so he could take a ton of classes this semester. She is the total breadwinner. He works 2 days a week at Burger King.) He ended up saying "Fine, I'll just tell my mother I want it!"
I'm excited that she's pregnant but DH and I have both thought he needs to grow up. It's hard for DH when we go out because he feels totally weird around this guy. He's done remarkably well at trying to find common ground with him but I about poo'ed my pants when my friend was here telling us what was going on between them and DH offered to go give him "a talking to"... DH is 7 years older than him. It was hilarious.

 

[harleyquinn]

...random question! Anyone know anything about the pregnancies books written for a dad? My BFF said her husband has been commenting on her stretch marks and stuff (and acting a little disgusted).. Honestly, DH and I have both thought he wasn't ready for a kid but she wanted it badly enough he gave in. I think it's starting to come out in the fact that he's not being very supportive of her at all. I was wondering if one of those books might touch on things like that- for example, maybe it would say "Hey, jerk-face, don't act like your wife's changing body is disgusting."...

What a jerk!

DH read, My Boys Can Swim and Be Prepared: a practical handbook for new dads They're both funny and a lot shorter than their female counterparts.

I saw this on amazon: Babies and Other Hazards of Sex: How to Make a Tiny Person in Only 9 Months, with Tools You Probably Have around the Home


I'm not sure any of them could get the message across, but I know DH really appreciated the Be Prepared one.

I still remember one day I came home and DH said, "Do you know what hemorroids are?!" And I was like, "yeah and I knew about them before I got preggers, and I love you so much that I still agreed to have your child!"

 

[Piecey]

Oh, god. hemmoroids. I think the thought of them is the only thing that might have stopped me from having a kid!!! I didn't get them with Lucas and will be so upset if I get them this time around. someone just shoot me!!!!!!!!


Sarah, it seems like the My Boys Can Swim reviews on Amazon were the most towards what I was looking for. Think your DH would remember if it talked about the changes in our bodies and stuff like that? People on the reviews said their husband's seemed to 'get it' more after reading it.

 

[harleyquinn]

I seriously think (okay, we, my DH agrees!) he is one of the most immature people we've met. It's baffling to me some of the stuff he does.
She told us some of the issues they were having- stuff like he got mad at her when she told him he couldn't buy a class ring and tried to kick her out of the house. (That she pays for! He opted to cut his hours back at work and stop applying for better jobs so he could take a ton of classes this semester. She is the total breadwinner. He works 2 days a week at Burger King.) He ended up saying "Fine, I'll just tell my mother I want it!"
I'm excited that she's pregnant but DH and I have both thought he needs to grow up. It's hard for DH when we go out because he feels totally weird around this guy. He's done remarkably well at trying to find common ground with him but I about poo'ed my pants when my friend was here telling us what was going on between them and DH offered to go give him "a talking to"... DH is 7 years older than him. It was hilarious.

Wow! That's awful...good for your DH! How long have they been married?
We were kinda the opposite. I told DH from the start that I was willing to have kids, but he would have to do A LOT of the work. I would not be one of those wives (like my mom) who tried to do everything by herself. If DH wasn't 110% committed to having a baby, we probably would stayed child-free.

 

[harleyquinn]

Oh, god. hemmoroids. I think the thought of them is the only thing that might have stopped me from having a kid!!! I didn't get them with Lucas and will be so upset if I get them this time around. someone just shoot me!!!!!!!!


Sarah, it seems like the My Boys Can Swim reviews on Amazon were the most towards what I was looking for. Think your DH would remember if it talked about the changes in our bodies and stuff like that? People on the reviews said their husband's seemed to 'get it' more after reading it.

I know this is TMI...I was terrified by hemmoroids and I did get a very light case, but it really wasn't that bad. I read the most important thing was to do everything you could not to get them before delivery time (being extra careful if you were constipated and stuff...I took metamucil to counteract the evil prenatals). It seemed to take forever to go away and it was super weird, but not too painful after the first week or so. You'll probably be spared going with the C section.

DH should be home any minute. I'll ask him which one he recommends for that situation...he's going to love giving book advice to the librarian! lol

 

[Piecey]

I know I'm not cut out to do it all but I knew I'd HAVE to if we had kids.. and I wanted kids. So I'm stuck.. and I made the choice that i thought I could live with best. I wouldn't have stayed married to him if I'd chosen not to have kids. I would have resented the heck out of him for it. He doesn't help with the house AT ALL.
He tried to tell me it was my fault he doesn't help because I get mad at him when he does clean. Uh, no. I get mad when he doesn't know what something is and just throws it away. He could clean bathrooms, change sheets, do laundry, dishes, vaccum, mop, etc. but NOPE! I make those points and he just starts yelling again. It would be funny if it weren't so irritating.

Does anyone else have a DH that thinks cleaning is just throwing away everything that he is unsure of?
*eta* I tried to tell him that if he cleaned like that one more time I'd accidentally mistake his XBox 360 for a piece of trash while he was at work... he didn't like that very much


Oh, and Sarah.. they've been married almost 2 years.

 

[harleyquinn]

DH says to try My boys can swim first since it's light-hearted. And to tell him that she may have stretch marks, but her B-oobs are bigger.


OMG My dad was just fired from his job at Sears after 37 years.

 

[december]

What happened Sarah? I'm so sorry-with this economy, and being an older person, I know I'd be freaking out!

Dh "helps".....which aggravates me. I hate that housework is seen as my "job" but when he is doing it he is doing me some kind of favor! He does ok, and surprises me sometimes. I'm trying to train ds12 to be better! I work full time, plus school, plus the kids. I think I do my fair share!

 

[Maggimus]

Sarah-- you can get biogaia at a lot of places. Our local kroger doesnt carry it but said they could get it in the next day from a kroger nearby. We went to a different pharmacy and got it. Its in the pharmacy section bc it has to be refrigerated in order for the live bacterias to thrive.

 

[harleyquinn]

He did something incredibly stupid and got caught.

My dad is the most loyal, trustworthy guy. He is by far their best employee in his department. I can't tell you guys enough without giving out too many details, but basically he stole something (he doesn't work for the department store, so it's not like that) that amounted to about $50, was caught in a way that he could have easily lied about and got away with, but he immediately confessed and paid back what he had taken. So in a way I totally know he deserves it, but this is so horrible...they're going to probably lose the house, have no health insurance, only one car. I can't believe he was so stupid.

 

[december]

I'm so sorry. My dad lost his job my junior year of high school. My mother barely makes anything as a cafeteria worker-mainly her spending money and Christmas money. We were scared to death. It got pretty bad (I was working at Fred's Dollar Store and pitched in what I could, but my little sister was still in middle school). It took years to recover, long after he had found another job.

If dh lost his, I don't know what we would do. And with the state financial problems right now, I'm not even so sure about mine anymore.....

 

[staley7580]

I know I'm not cut out to do it all but I knew I'd HAVE to if we had kids.. and I wanted kids. So I'm stuck.. and I made the choice that i thought I could live with best. I wouldn't have stayed married to him if I'd chosen not to have kids. I would have resented the heck out of him for it. He doesn't help with the house AT ALL.
He tried to tell me it was my fault he doesn't help because I get mad at him when he does clean. Uh, no. I get mad when he doesn't know what something is and just throws it away. He could clean bathrooms, change sheets, do laundry, dishes, vaccum, mop, etc. but NOPE! I make those points and he just starts yelling again. It would be funny if it weren't so irritating.

Does anyone else have a DH that thinks cleaning is just throwing away everything that he is unsure of?
*eta* I tried to tell him that if he cleaned like that one more time I'd accidentally mistake his XBox 360 for a piece of trash while he was at work... he didn't like that very much


Oh, and Sarah.. they've been married almost 2 years.

I do almost everything. When we moved in together, I told him that NO WAY was I going to take care of him like his mom did. He didnt know how to do anything. It was like having a toddler... I had to teach him how to load the dishwasher, do the laundry, make top ramen... Seriously, it was bad. But I put the smack down. Now his jobs are to take out the garbage, do the laundry... only because we have to go to the laundry mat, and it is a pain in the booty for me to run down with all the kids while he is at work. I still fold and put it away.. Plus he cleans the kitchen. But I do everything else.. bill paying, taking care of the kids... which got WAY harder when we had the twins. I am 100% in charge of them. He can play with them, but I the "boss" ANd basically everything else I do. It works for us..

DH says to try My boys can swim first since it's light-hearted. And to tell him that she may have stretch marks, but her B-oobs are bigger.


OMG My dad was just fired from his job at Sears after 37 years.

Oh no!!!!

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

Sarah-- you can get biogaia at a lot of places. Our local kroger doesnt carry it but said they could get it in the next day from a kroger nearby. We went to a different pharmacy and got it. Its in the pharmacy section bc it has to be refrigerated in order for the live bacterias to thrive.

About how much do they run? I know there are the pills, sticks, and drops. My DSIL is thinking of doing something my nephew.

Now his jobs are to take out the garbage, do the laundry...

You mean he can FOLD? DH isn't allowed to fold the laundry, with the exception of socks.

The hospital I've complained about before on here is redoing their L&D floor and had a memo posted that babies will be in-room with mom for everything other then physician check-ups, where they'll be wheeled to the "temporary nursery" (which was really just a postpartum room) ...

...random question! Anyone know anything about the pregnancies books written for a dad? My BFF said her husband has been commenting on her stretch marks and stuff (and acting a little disgusted).. Honestly, DH and I have both thought he wasn't ready for a kid but she wanted it badly enough he gave in. I think it's starting to come out in the fact that he's not being very supportive of her at all. I was wondering if one of those books might touch on things like that- for example, maybe it would say "Hey, jerk-face, don't act like your wife's changing body is disgusting."...

Wow, that is crazy. I have a friend whose husband is afraid of most things that have to do with blood or accidents, etc and I have no idea how he's going to react to a baby being born. He said he wants to wait in the waiting room or hide behind the curtain. I said, no curtain if it's not a c-section! Do you think you will have the new baby stay in your room this time since you will be an ol' pro? This baby I was way more relaxed and able to enjoy a lot more.

 

[Piecey]

Were you asking me if I am going to keep this baby in my room? No. I like that Lucas was in his room from Day 1. This one will be the same way... if I ever get around to cleaning out the guest room and creating a nursery.
I'm currently trying to figure out if I want to keep the guest bedroom suite in the basement or put it up on Craig's List or in our yard sale. Yard sale is how I'm hoping to buy furniture for this kiddo. All proceeds go to a new crib and stuff like that and any extra goes into a WDW fund. I'm shooting for 2012 now!


Staley, I'm jealous. But I only have 1 kid so...
Sometime I wonder if I'm being ridiculous, expecting some help from him. He helps with Lucas on the weekends some now.. more than he used to. So he walks the dog (and complains about it constantly), works and goes to school.
I do all bills, laundry, cleaning, go to school and the majority of Lucas' care falls to me. I even drug him to a baby shower this weekend because DH didn't want to worry about him while he did school. I don't get breaks like that and it frustrates me a little bit.
Is it crazy to expect some help? I tried to talk to him a bit when he got home because I was all hormonal and upset about it after I posted earlier. He listened which is a vast improvement to before! He always saw that stuff before (pre-therapy) as an attack and jumped into Mr. Defense mode.

Sarah, I'm sorry about your dad. That is terrible. I hope he can find something else...

I thought hard before I quit my job, just because it seemed crazy with this economy to give something up. DH is pretty secure, though... federal employee and all. He works for BPD(Bureau of Public Debt) which is a division of the Treasury. They're responsible for "managing the debt of the United States".. we joke that we have so much debt he'll always have a job.

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

Hi, no sorry I meant at the hospital. Came back to edit, LO had to nurse... NOW!

I was so much more relaxed after my second was born. I remember our pediatrician came in and asked to hold to the baby. DH was sitting on the couch holding him like a football and stood up and handed him over 1, 2, 3. The doctor laughed and said I can tell you've done this before. Most new dads will take a while to get up and hand the baby over.

Sarah, I hope everything will work out for your dad.

 

[Piecey]

Ah, no. Nursery- take the baby away!


Since I know some of you guys get WIC.. I've got a question. I now have a ton of kidney and pinto beans in the can. I have no idea what to use them for. I stocked up (before I got at WIC) because I use them to make Taco Soup.. but now that I've got WIC I've got more beans than I know what to do with. So what do you make with all the canned beans?