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[staley7580]

Check out the epic bad parenting thread if you need a laugh!
Thread is here

OMG. I laughed so hard I peed!!!

 

[staley7580]

Okay... it looks funky and off.. But here is our Santa Pic. It looks better in person, Not sure what happened in my scanner!

 

[DannysMom]

It's not the same over on the moms-to-be-thread. I miss you guys! It just isn't the same. We all meshed together well!

Awwwww, you can hang in both spots. I don't think anyone here will kick you out just 'cause you're pregnant!

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Awwwww, you can hang in both spots. I don't think anyone here will kick you out just 'cause you're pregnant!

Being pregnant doesn't change the fact that you are a new mom! In fact, it just makes you a NEWER mom!

 

[Piecey]

Random question- I'm going through all my "important papers" becauseI need Piglet's SS card for my WIC appointment.

I came across the RhoGAM card they gave me when I got my injection after Lucas was born- it's got the lot number and stuff on it. Any reason to keep that??

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Random question- I'm going through all my "important papers" becauseI need Piglet's SS card for my WIC appointment.

I came across the RhoGAM card they gave me when I got my injection after Lucas was born- it's got the lot number and stuff on it. Any reason to keep that??

You know, that's a really good question! I still have mine from my daughter...over 12 years ago! I'm thinking we can probably throw them out. With my luck though, the second I throw it out, I will need it for some reason or another.

 

[Piecey]

I've been out of the loop for the holidays, but I do see that Piecey has some exciting news! Congrats, Patsy!

Thanks!

I'm way out of the loop and behind on this thread, but here's a couple pics of the Wiggly One:

Thank you for sharing! She is beautiful.

We really miss being able to go see a movie whenever we feel like it. Also, it seems like it takes three hours to leave the house to run a ten minute errand. I hate that.

[Note to self: When Sarah tells you that it gets better, she's lying.]

If my parents take Lucas for a night the first thing DH and I do is check out Fandango! I've gotten into movies for free for years so it's something DH and I have been spoiled about- from the moment he met me we'd see a movie almost every weekend! It's so strange to see previews now and really want to see it but knowing it'll be awhile for the DVD...

I hate that, too! About the packing stuff up! DH thinks I'm crazy that if I need to run to CVS I wait on him to get home. By the time I pack Lucas up (because who knows what might happen while we're gone!) and lug him in the store (him + his carseat is over 50lbs now) I'm exhausted and it's taken a half hour. I'd rather just wait for him to get home so I can spend 10 minutes on the errand and not feel like I'm getting a workout!
I'm actually waiting on him to get home tonight.

I hear everyone talk about loving being a parent and I just ehhh.

This KILLED me when Lucas was first born. Everyone told me that he was the most amazing thing, and didn't I feel like my life was complete now, and wasn't holding him for the first time just the BEST?
Except it wasn't.
I felt nothing that first time I held him except exhaustion and felt so disconnected from his birth that it didn't click that he was mine.
I'm getting better but I still sometimes get so frustrated I just need a break.
My parents take him at least once a month, though, so that is awesome!

DH has some issues too. I didn't understand his POV at first, because he actually gets alone time after we go to bed around 8 or 9. He has 2 or 3 hours to himself that I would kill for right now. But his thing is that he needs time to be with his friends. He needs that social interaction that I totally don't. So he's going to go back to playing Star Wars with his friends every other Saturday night. Hopefully I'll survive!

DH drives me nuts with this!!! I asked him if he'd chill with Lucas for me to get stuff done. As in, he would do whatever Lucas needed and I'd do what I wanted w/o having to worry about Lucas.
He argued with me that I got "A few hours of Lucas-free time when he napped" (Except I did laundry, dishes, made dinner, etc. when Lucas naps!) I tried to explain to him that he gets a TON of Lucas-free time when he goes to work but he says it isn't the same.
He thinks he should get a break when he comes home and on the weekends but I don't because I'm home all the time. It makes no sense to me because Lucas is a 24/7 job!

Patsy- First off... Congrats!!!!!

Thanks~

I'm more concerned about my Praxis Saturday-taking library media and school counseling. I have to be at the testing site at 7:30am, and if we get ice there is no way I can make it! I emailed and asked what the procedure would be if roads are closed, and asked if I could just move the test to March (next available date).

Good luck on your Praxis~!


I have to go. Lucas is having a fussy day.. I think the other incisor on the bottom is cutting through and he's just being a little PITA.
I'm hoping he'll cuddle with me and watch a movie in bed. fingers crossed.

 

[harleyquinn]

The thread was hopping cuz I couldn't shut up! lol

 

[staley7580]

I have a hard time going places just me and the kids since the twins were born. I will do it.. Its just rough. Especially since they are out of their infant seats now. They are just to heavy to carry both of them down the stairs and out to the van. and when they were in their cars seats?? YIKES! I did notice then when people see some poor woman with two infant carriers, and two slightly older kids struggling to get through a door, or through a store.. they tend to jump up and help. A lot! I dont know how many times I have had people offer to carry a baby for me! Its too funny, in a normal situation, can you imagine offering to carry some strangers kid? The first time it happened, I was like.. WTH?? NO you cant carry my kid! Then they realize what they said, and are like.. DUH! But it happens ALL the time! People just want to help. Its crazy. (and no.. I dont let anyone carry my kid!) But how nice to offer to help, you know?

My husband actually took all four kids to the store ON HIS OWN the other day. It was part of my birthday present.. I couldnt believe it. But he was gone for about an hour, and I laid in bed and read. AND.. He came home with presents! For ME!! I never get presents. Unless I buy them myself. AND I made him take care of the kids all on his own for a week.. He is going to be home alone with them for 4 days in a month, so I had to be sure he could handle it. Plus I had about 10 books I wanted to read.

 

[Piecey]

I know someone on here told me to post deals if I saw them...

CVS has all their products B1G1 50% off.

If you have a CVS card and the CVS has one of the coupon printer machines (you scan your card and coupons print out) it'll print off a $2 off a $10 CVS brand purchase coupon.

If you use drop-ins..
I've been buying the boxes of the 100ct CVS brand bottle liners. They're smaller than playtex but I only ever give Lucas 6oz at a time anyway so they work fine.
They're (here anyway) 6.99 a box then you get the second one for 3.49 for a total of 10.48. Use the $2 coupon and it's pretty much the same price as buying 1 box of Playtex 100 count.

 

[rparmfamily]

I think some of the adjustment is figuring out what works best for you.

I don't take Amelia's carseat out of the car at all anymore, unless she just crashed and we are eating dinner somewhere. I either put her in the Ergo, use my stroller (I have a lightweight Maclaren) or put her in the cart and use one of those cart covers. They are heavy and wiggly now!

Now that the older kids have school, performances, sports, swim lessons, want beach time, playground time, movies, store,etc Amelia just get dragged everywhere, poor baby doesn't have a choice and neither do I LOL!

I will add that I didn't fully enjoy my first (DD9) until she was about 9 months old and was crawling/sitting. She was a tough baby. Cried all the time. Wasn't happy unless I was holding her and walking around and even then she crabbed. She didn't nurse good and I didn't really know any better so I was bummed she was on formula and had a lot of guilt over that. Parenthood was a whole heck of a lot harder than I thought it would be!!!

I currently struggle with finding time for myself. DH and I fight (well I tell him and he just rolls his eyes, he's mature like that sometimes) about how I NEED time to myself. And NO, taking Amelia to Target WITH me while he watches the older 2 (easy!!!) is NOT a break!!! I need a break from the baby LOL. From all the kids. But what I've learned is I have to make the time myself. I LOATHE "asking" him if I can do something, he sure as heck doesn't ask me. I try to point this out...if he wants to shower or pee, he doesn't say hey watch the baby....but I do!!! Makes me crazy really. He argues that I don't need to ask but if I drop the baby in his lap tell him I'm showering he gets mad. So I ask...ugg!!!!

Anyway, that's the rant from me for the day. Oh, and I've not been away from Amelia except for about 1.5 hrs when I did go to Target late one night around Christmas. DH and I haven't had any time together since March, ugg!

 

[harleyquinn]

I really appreciate everyone's stories!

My DH is fantastic about everything. I really need to show him some more appreciation. lol Wish I could!

I really do have it good. My family is awesome. They love watching her and she loves them. I should be counting my blessings instead of whinning!

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

So, Luca is walking all around the house now and is in the process of weaning himself even though I hadn't planned on stopping yet. I'm feeling sad....he's our last baby and he's leaving that stage.

DH and I started TTC on our wedding night. After 10 1/2 months, we finally did only to lose that one on the day before our 1st anniversary. I had to have surgery 4 months later and after I recovered, I got pregnant with DS#1.

I nursed him until he was about 6 1/2 months pregnant as we knew we wanted to start trying again. Literally got pg with DS#2 that week. I ended up weaning him at 6 1/2 months also because I hadn't had a break in so long.

Obviously we didn't wait too long for Luca either.

So, I've been pregnant and nursing for most of the last 5 1/2 years. I guess I don't know how to be any other way and this is where I'm having trouble. I feel like I'm losing my identity.

Sorry for the rambling...just needed to get that out. I have to get past this, or DH is going to get really mad when I ask him to reverse his surgery.

 

[harleyquinn]

Just think of all the free time you'll have! lol

I was thinking the other day that we're going to have to start TTC in about 5 more months. It seems crazy close to me! I don't really want to be preggers again that soon! But I REALLY want to time it out so that DH is home with the infant over his summer break. So we planned on trying this summer and then stopping if we don't get preggers by a certain time. Then we'd try again next summer and keep going til it happened.

I'm already trying to pick out new names, but having one has been so tough for me so far, the thought of 2 is rather terrifying!

 

[Piecey]

Oh, Sarah... do I definitely understand how the thought of two is terrifying. I didn't know if you'd decided to have another one or not. That is awesome.
Maybe we'll be over there together again for awhile...

I am exhausted. And dragging. I don't know if I was this tired with Lucas or if I'm just more tired because of Lucas... but it's bad.
I know the whole "first-trimester fatigue" and all but dang.

 

[harleyquinn]

Oh we'll have another if we can. I can't stand the thought of DD being an only child. Not sure why, but I just can't. lol

Plus for as much trouble as I've having getting over my old life, I know I will be fine with everything soon. And once I am, I might as well have 2!

 

[Piecey]

That is sorta where I was. I couldn't stand the thought of Lucas being an only child, even though the idea of another c-section and such wasn't terribly appealing.


I am so torn right now! I really need help but the person I'd ask if the person I need help about. Ugh.
I realized yesterday that the due date I selected for myself (which is prolly fairly accurate) is my friend's birthday. Then Tom goes "Wow, this just keeps getting suckier and suckier for you" I asked him what he meant and he reminded me that she's been talking for almost a year now about how everyone in their family has kids around or on their birthdays!
I still haven't told her I'm pregnant. Told Tom that I wanted to wait for the ultrasound/heartbeat or something. I know I'm just being a wuss and putting it off and I need to just tell her. :-/
Thought about crossing my fingers she tells me she is pregnant this month, too... but if she calls me to tell me she isn't and I have to tell her I am that probably makes it that much worse.

Ughhhh. I just need to grow a pair.

 

[Laura]

Oy, hang in there, Patsy. I hope your friend has some good news of her own very soon! And I hope the pregnancy fatigue gets better soon too.

My DH has been great. I've gone back to school to get a master's degree, so two nights a week (classes) and a lot of weekends (studying) he's been Dad all by himself. Fortunately, my father loves to come over and help out so DH can get some stuff done or just have someone else tend to her. My dad's just nuts about DD--as are we all! So when DH wants to go spend time with his friends, he can!!!

Luckily for me, the daycare is in my building so I spend time with DD during the day... but being away from her with both work and school just sucks sometimes and I get really sad about it. It's not forever, and DD won't even remember that I went to school, but it still stinks.

 

[Piecey]

Thanks! I attirubte my extra fatigue today to DH's snoring last night.

I cannot imagine going for my masters! That is awesome, way to go!
How old is Lydia now? I can't remember when she was born, just know she is older than Lucas.


..also, question. I can give Tylenol for teething, right? Not a biggie?
I've only given him one dose a day so far... but this tooth is driving him nuts. I went to get him out of his crib this morning and he (of course) had a finger in his mouth. When I touched him he JUMPED and started screaming immediately. It freaked me out! The only thing I can figure out is that maybe I scared him and he jabbed his finger into his gums and it really hurt. As soon as I picked him he stopped crying and coo'ed at me so that was a relief. Or really good crocodile tears.
Anyway, the Tylenol... he calms down and takes a nap after I give it to him. Which he doesn't usually do- he only ever takes 1 nap a day in his crib about 3:30-4pm these days but if i give him the Tylenol he catnaps downstairs with me. Right now he's passed out in his swing.

I just don't know what else to do for him. He has started taking a binky. He puts it in his mouth then he chomps down and pulls it out. It makes a bizarre popping sound. Anyone elses LO do that?? I guess it must feel good.
He won't take his teething rings or frozen washclothes. Just binkys, fingers, and lots of cuddles.

 

[harleyquinn]

I just don't know what else to do for him. He has started taking a binky. He puts it in his mouth then he chomps down and pulls it out. It makes a bizarre popping sound. Anyone elses LO do that?? I guess it must feel good.
He won't take his teething rings or frozen washclothes. Just binkys, fingers, and lots of cuddles.

Yeah, tylenol is totally fine. We give it to Lily on occasion when she gets inconsolable for some undetectable reason. I figure it's either teething or some other kind of pain since every other thing we try doesn't work. It's only happened a couple of times.

I find it impossible to tell if her teeth are bothering her or not. She tends to drool or suck on fingers or all the other signs when I know she's not feeling any pain.

I wish I was one of those people that can read the baby's signs like nobodies business. I guess a lot of the time I can. And I do find sometimes I have a weird six sense of figuring out exactly what is wrong with seemingly no cues. But actually reading cues? Not very good at it.