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[Piecey]

So on days when kidlet only wants to be held, what do you guys do?

I put him down to make breakfast and he SCREAMED until I picked him up again.


Doesn't wanna bounce, play with his toys, swing, etc. He wants held!

So here I am w/ wiggleworm in my lap. Any suggestions? What do you guys do?

 

[caitty13]

So on days when kidlet only wants to be held, what do you guys do?

I put him down to make breakfast and he SCREAMED until I picked him up again.


Doesn't wanna bounce, play with his toys, swing, etc. He wants held!

So here I am w/ wiggleworm in my lap. Any suggestions? What do you guys do?

Have you tried using a carrier of some kind? Then you can atleast have 2 free hands and maybe he will fall asleep. I know my little one always fall aslep that way.

 

[harleyquinn]

It does suck! I don't have a great place to pump at work-the women's bathroom. But it has become a routine. And pretty much everyone knows why I am in there so long, so it isn't like I get dirty looks anymore! Every day at 9am and 12pm, I'm heading down the hall with my black bag. You can tell the kids want to ask so bad what I do everyday, but they are scared to!My boss is so crazy, and not very politically correct, and always has a comment. One day he asked me if I had them even! I told dh I wish I had the guts to turn around and ask him what he thought.

I hate when I have to go to other schools for teacher workdays. Last fall, I had to go to the oldest school in the county, out in the middle of nowhere, and couldn't find anywhere to pump! The bathrooms didn't have plug ins-none of them! Finally, they put me in a supply closet behind the principal's office, and I put something in front of the window. And they acted like I was being a PIA to ask for help finding someplace private. I was supposed to go back there for our last 2 workdays, but my boss (see above-I really do love working for him) let me stay at our school and work in my room instead. He is retiring this year, and we are so going to miss him.

Thanks for the perspective! I really am super lucky!

So on days when kidlet only wants to be held, what do you guys do?

I put him down to make breakfast and he SCREAMED until I picked him up again.


Doesn't wanna bounce, play with his toys, swing, etc. He wants held!

So here I am w/ wiggleworm in my lap. Any suggestions? What do you guys do?

Honestly? I hold her for a while and then try all the other places you mentioned. We hold her a LOT!

Lily is finally sleeping in her cribs for naps!! My aunt starting putting her in there on her tummy 3 days ago and she sleeps like a champ now! It's sssoooo awesome!!! She rolls over and everything so I'm not worried about SIDS, but we still check her every 2 minutes. I'm hoping we can get her doing it at night for the first shift (7-10 or so) and then I can take her to bed with me.

 

[Piecey]

That is awesome Sarah!!


..and we have a carrier but he's waaay too heavy for me to tote around all day. He's over 20lbs now and I'm a wimp. He didn't really like being in at Disney, either, so I'm not sure about now... he just wants to touch things and try to eat them everywhere he is. He got pissed @ me when I wouldn't let him chow down on my slipper. Gr.

If this constant screaming doesn't stop I'm calling the pediatrician on Monday. I have read stuff online that said yeah, teething hurts, but their entire attitude shouldn't change and he totally has! Gone is my happy little boy and this screaming mutant is in his place. He is not happy EVER.
He did lay down for a nap, though, so I am grateful for that...

 

[sbell111]

... Sbell, very cute pictures of your LO. How are you settling into fatherhood?

Who knows? There are moments when I am the greatest, most intuitive dad out there and then there are days when I can't get a grip on anything and Sarah cries just by looking at me.

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

..and we have a carrier but he's waaay too heavy for me to tote around all day. He's over 20lbs now and I'm a wimp. He didn't really like being in at Disney, either, so I'm not sure about now... he just wants to touch things and try to eat them everywhere he is. He got pissed @ me when I wouldn't let him chow down on my slipper. Gr.

If this constant screaming doesn't stop I'm calling the pediatrician on Monday. I have read stuff online that said yeah, teething hurts, but their entire attitude shouldn't change and he totally has! Gone is my happy little boy and this screaming mutant is in his place. He is not happy EVER.
He did lay down for a nap, though, so I am grateful for that...

That sounds pretty dead on if it is teething. There are some days our LO is a totally different little person and is drooling and screaming like crazy. Then there are days like today where he's happy but still chomping down on everything in sight. Have you tried a frozen teether or waffle? Sounds funny, but he might really like it. Just watch for any pieces that will eventually fall off and take them away. Does he have teeth poking out already? I know the erupting is the worst part.

Who knows? There are moments when I am the greatest, most intuitive dad out there and then there are days when I can't get a grip on anything and Sarah cries just by looking at me.

Oh dear. Hang in there. It's amazing how that little bundle can charm and confuse all at the same time. Don't feel bad. Somedays both of my boys want nothing but their dad and he feels like a star. Then there are days where they don't want to be held or give hugs and he feels rotten. I think they conspire with other babies and make a big game out of it.

 

[Adi12982]

Update on me:

Saturday an hour or so after lunch (or first meal of the day) I started to feel bad - my stomach, but also my right side and right side lower abdomen. I thought at first that what I had for lunch made me sick. I spent the day in pain and with nausea. I ate dinner that my mother-in-law made (like an everything soup - beef, chorizo, garbanzo's, potatoes, etc.). I wasn't so great on my stomach, like I was hoping some of the broth at least would be. I tried to lay down and get some rest starting after dinner. That did not work, I was in quite a bit of pain, so I just kept tossing and turning. DH suggested I shower, I decided to bathe. I got some temporary relief. I took a tylenol and soon after that I stated throwing up (total of three time - 10pm, midnight, and 1 am). DH was mainly taking care of the baby on his own, giving her bottles of expressed milk and I would pump while she was eating. I barely slept all night - the pain kept waking me up. I felt more terrible in the morning because I hadn't slept. Around 10am she wouldn't settle after the feeding so I put her on the breast and she immediately calmed down and went to sleep. After her next feeding I showered and DH and I headed to Urgent care. The doctor there believed that it could be an issue with my ovary, my vitals were good, but I had a fever of 101. He said that an ultrasound would be the best diagnostic and they only had a CT scan, he transferred me to their affiliated Hospital (which actually are a huge chunk of the hospitals in Miami - they have bought out a lot of them) - so he told me to choose the one I preferred. DH and I decided to go by the house (we'd left the baby with his parents) and pick up my breast pump, we figured going through the ER would take forever. The ER at Baptist Hospital in Miami is brand new, and pretty great layout/setup. Within 10 minutes of arriving I was triaged and taken to my own room. This was about 4pm. By 7pm the doctor finally came by to evaluate me - my White Blood Cells (WBC) were really high - 17. She pushed all over my stomach and I had pain when she pressed, but no rebound pain like you normally have with appendicitis. She wanted to rule out my appendix and see what was going on because there was some infection somewhere based on my WBC, so they sent me for a CT scan.

Around 15 minutes after my CT scan was over the Doctor came in and let me know it was my appendix and it appeared perforated! YIKES! That meant surgery. SO, we had to call the in-laws and let them know they needed to keep the baby and called my mom to let her know. Two hours later, at around 10pm the finally started an IV on me with antibiotics, gave me potassium because mine was a little low, and got me to sign all sorts of consent forms. IT was still another hour until the tech from the surgical department came to get me. They then finished prepping me in pre-op, and were amazed I still had not taken anything for pain (only one dose of tylenol for the fever). After signing more consent forms and meeting the anesthesiologist and my surgeon I was finally taken to the ER just before midnight. I remember the ER being freezing cold, scooting onto the table and him starting the sedation with the oxygen mask, but not much after that. I woke up around 1:15 am in post op, thrilled I was awake, but having trouble keeping my eyes open. Around 2am they let DH come back to see me. Around 2:40am I was taken to my room. DH, my mom and my brother were there. I sent DH home with the milk I had pumped while I was in the ER (a couple bottles - thankfully I'd had 6 feedings worth in the fridge when I left for the ER).

I was in the Hospital until Wednesday around 4pm. From after the surgery until Tuesday morning I was running HIGH fevers 101-102.8. My room was 50 degrees and I was still feeling hot (during the times I wasn't having chills). It was because the appendix was perforated and there was infection. Thankfully, according to the surgeon, my body had done a good job of walling off what had come out of the appendix, so they were able to do the surgery laproscopially (sp?) and not open. So this is the crazy journey I've been on to start the year. Now I'm working on getting better and increasing my milk supply. Isabel is putting up a good battle - giving up BFing has crossed my mind - but I am trying to push through it. I think part of the problem is that I don't have enough to make her completely satisfied, so she is freaking out sometimes. I just talked to my midwife and she told me to push through it, and not even give her any bottles for the next 24-48 hours. SO I guess that I how I will spend my recuperation - nursing on demand and praying more milk comes in. Thankfully DH is fully on board and supportive.

Hope you are all doing significantly better!

 

[december]

OMG! What a horrible way to start the new year! I'm glad you are better, and I hope your milk supply improves.

I really should have gone to the dr over Christmas. I was having some "auras" again, like I did with my seizures years ago. I haven't had any problems in almost 9 yrs. It really freaked me out-enough that I tried to get an appt several times but I couldn't get through to a human being! Now I think it was a bad sinus infection, and I had fluid behind my eardrums, but at the time I was pretty much hysterical. I didn't want to go, though, because I was afraid of being put on meds and having to wean Katie. I just can't imagine giving up bfing yet.

We had school today. Most of the area schools were out due to ice, but we made it through. I'm glad, because I'd much rather be out for our weather makeup day in April!

Patsy, Katie doesn't have any teeth yet! I keep expecting to see a nub every day. And when she wants to be held......she gets held. She is so spoiled. I guess that is the danger of having an "old" mother!

 

[Adi12982]

I'm hoping they count the baby because if they do we're eligible!
Unfortunately, we'll only be eligible until April- DH will get a raise for his "anniversary" at work and that'll bump us back out.

I'll take 4 months, though! I just want the formula paid for with Lucas, that'd be an amazing help! It's Similac here on WIC which is what Lucas eats...

I know my BIL's girlfriend said they just changed the WIC guidelines here. You can't get Juicy Juice here anymore. I forget what she said they replaced it wtih, though... I know when she was telling me about it she gave me a glass of store-brand pineapple juice so I figure it's gotten pretty restrictive. lol.

I filled out the application online and hopefully I hear something soon. That'd be sweet!

AT least in Florida once you certify, you do not have to re-certify until after the baby is born, so that raise wouldn't matter until after the new baby is here After the baby I re-certified and we don't have to again until the baby's 1! So even of things change, we get those WIC checks until October. Not sure how they do it in other states.

Did I miss news about the u/s I was looking, but didn't see any.

My girlfriend with twins updated her FB status. She lost both boys NYE, but mentioned they were fighters and tried their best.

I am so, so, so sad to hear this. Glad the boys were fighters but so sad for your friends loss.

Do/Did any of you kinda still hate being a parent at this point? I totally love Lily. I rarely lose my patience with her or actually feel anything negative towards her. But, in general, I really do not enjoy this at all. I miss being able to do whatever I want whenever I want to. I miss my husband in every way! I miss my friends. I miss the general confidence I had in life. I feel like a failure cuz I can't get Lily in her crib for naps. She has developed a 7-8 pm bedtime which is great, except she won't sleep in the damn crib or anywhere else except someone's arms. In every other way she is great. But I still don't like my life right now. I figure the "it gets better' phrase works here too?

I always thought I was too selfish to be a good parent. Everyone said that I wasn't and that you get over it, but right now...it sucks.

Thanks for letting me unload!

I know I missed the bulk of this discussion, but I do have some days that I feel this way. I've always wanted to be a mom as long as I can remember, but I think with all the health issues I've had since the birth have just not helped. When I got home from the hospital on Wednesday after my appy, I was trying to feed her and she was rejecting me (it had been almost 48 hours since she was on the breast, and the 48 hours before she was on the breast was only for two feedings, because we were only allowed to have her there in the hospital for so long). Anyhow, somedays I totally feel like that. And like you said somewhere else I love DD but sometimes I don't love being a mom. I sometimes get frustrated that my life revolves around breastfeeding - during the day she is still eating every two hours, so I am on a two hour timer (and that sucks)! I would love to just pick up and go to the movies or go out sometimes, but can't. But then I think of all my blessings and it makes it all worth it. I mean one gummy grin or a coo and all else in the world just melts away.

So on days when kidlet only wants to be held, what do you guys do?

I use a baby k'tan carrier (http://www.babyktan.com/) - it has loads of different ways you put the baby in so depending on what she needs, I alternate how I put her in.

OMG! What a horrible way to start the new year! I'm glad you are better, and I hope your milk supply improves.

Thanks! It has been pretty bad, but thankfully I'm on the mend and the baby isn't so mad at me anymore.

My midwife just called me back (I called earlier today and left a message) and she told me to not give her any bottles for at least 24-48 hours, so we'll try that. Hopefully that will get my supply up.

 

[staley7580]

So on days when kidlet only wants to be held, what do you guys do?

I put him down to make breakfast and he SCREAMED until I picked him up again.


Doesn't wanna bounce, play with his toys, swing, etc. He wants held!

So here I am w/ wiggleworm in my lap. Any suggestions? What do you guys do?

Mine are both teething HARD CORE right now. They are each cutting at least two teeth.. Which just isnt fair, because Vinny JUST cut two teeth. So he is workin on 5 and 6, and Jazzy is working on 3 and 4. Anyways.. They are super clingy, and just want to be held.. by ME! Neither has slept more then an hour at a time in a week. So I have been up for days. Yesterday my husband got up for work, and I was still up. again. For the third day in a row.. He has the nerve to get mad at ME. You need to sleep!! NO SH*T! If only I could!

Anyways.. What do I do? I hold them. For me, they will only want to be held and snuggle with me for so long. So I will take what I can get.

Adi.. OMG!! How awful for you.

 

[staley7580]

HELP!!!!

okay.. I know I am being majorly spazzy about this trip. But here is my issue. If we stay at the POR... which has kinda been the plan all along, right? We will all be stuck in one tiny room for 10 nights. YIKES. Right?

NOW.. I can book a package deal, AND an extra room with the room only discount at the POP. It would only cost $136. more for a whole extra room. Sounds good, right? I think so too. We would have two rooms.. we could have some grown up time after putting the kids down.. You know, all that jazz.

PROBLEM. My mom doesnt want to stay at the POP. I know that we could say.. you stay where you want, we stay where we want. But really. She is my mom, and that would break her heart. I just tried to call her, but she didnt answer the phone. I dont know. What to do.. What to do.. I WANT the extra room. We NEED the extra room. We could also add an extra room on at the POR, but it would obviously be more expensive.

 

[Piecey]

I'd go for the extra room at POP.

I love POP! We stayed at Coronado in October and I hated it. Maybe I'm crazy but I love how loud the colors/designs are at the value resorts. It's just a room- and POP is the newest hotel on property.

Their bus service is great- their cafeteria is one of the best. Multiple pools, etc.

I say POP. I'd tell your mom that it's geared more towards kiddos and so not only would you enjoy it more, but your kids would love all the giant characters and details POP has!

 

[staley7580]

Thanks Patsy! All the kid stuff is exactly why she doesnt want to do it. She isnt exactly a kid person. she REALLY doesnt like kids. But I think we have figured on a plan to satisfy everyone! We are doing the first week while my mom is there at POR.. She is only going to be there until the 8th.. Then on the 8th we are checking out and heading over to the POP! For two rooms for 3 nights is only $556. Its the best of both worlds!! (yeah.. I quoted Hannah Montana there.) plus this way we can relax a little from what I am thinking will be a stressful week. now I wish we had planned for a few extra days. Oh well. Im sure we will go back eventually.

 

[ADAMANDLISA]

Tell your Mom a room is only for sleeping! I would stay in a tent to go to Disney (although we love camping and would love to stay in a tent anywhere)!

What about All-Star Movies? It's just themed with the characters!

How were the teething twins last night? Luca actually slept until a little after 6 this morning.Too bad the other two were up a half hour before that.

 

[hotveggy]

Thanks Patsy! All the kid stuff is exactly why she doesnt want to do it. She isnt exactly a kid person. she REALLY doesnt like kids. But I think we have figured on a plan to satisfy everyone! We are doing the first week while my mom is there at POR.. She is only going to be there until the 8th.. Then on the 8th we are checking out and heading over to the POP! For two rooms for 3 nights is only $556. Its the best of both worlds!! (yeah.. I quoted Hannah Montana there.) plus this way we can relax a little from what I am thinking will be a stressful week. now I wish we had planned for a few extra days. Oh well. Im sure we will go back eventually.

Have you looked at the family suites at All Star Music? Not sure the price difference there vs getting 2 rooms at POP.

I am with Patsy- I like the bold loud colors! We have always stayed at ASMo or POP when we went except for our honeymoon when we stayed at POR.

Good Luck with the teeth, I feel your pain!

 

[hotveggy]

So on days when kidlet only wants to be held, what do you guys do?

I put him down to make breakfast and he SCREAMED until I picked him up again.


Doesn't wanna bounce, play with his toys, swing, etc. He wants held!

So here I am w/ wiggleworm in my lap. Any suggestions? What do you guys do?

If he is still acting this way, it may be something other than his teeth. Allison had an ear infection a few weeks ago that I totally missed for a few days because I was attributing it to teething! She was totally not herself... I would call the pedi on Monday if he is still not acting any better.

Good Luck.
Ps- congrats on the news (i haven't been able to post lately). DH and I are still debating when and IF there will be another baby. I had originally planned to start trying again in March when Allie turns one. Who knows!

 

[hotveggy]

Update on me:
I was in the Hospital until Wednesday around 4pm. From after the surgery until Tuesday morning I was running HIGH fevers 101-102.8. My room was 50 degrees and I was still feeling hot (during the times I wasn't having chills). It was because the appendix was perforated and there was infection. Thankfully, according to the surgeon, my body had done a good job of walling off what had come out of the appendix, so they were able to do the surgery laproscopially (sp?) and not open. So this is the crazy journey I've been on to start the year. Now I'm working on getting better and increasing my milk supply. Isabel is putting up a good battle - giving up BFing has crossed my mind - but I am trying to push through it. I think part of the problem is that I don't have enough to make her completely satisfied, so she is freaking out sometimes. I just talked to my midwife and she told me to push through it, and not even give her any bottles for the next 24-48 hours. SO I guess that I how I will spend my recuperation - nursing on demand and praying more milk comes in. Thankfully DH is fully on board and supportive.

Hope you are all doing significantly better!

Yuck, that stinks. Hope you feel better soon. I had an appy in college that ended up not being my appendix after they sent it to pathology. I remember the recovery was pretty rough for the first week in terms of gas pains and such. I can't imagaine going through that AND having to care for a baby! I hope that your milk rebounds. Aren't there some herbal supplements that are supposed to increase your supply?

Good luck.

 

[harleyquinn]

Wow! Away for one whole day!

Adi--Hope the milk issues are doing better today. Your body will react and start making more milk, don't worry the LO won't starve, it might just be a couple of difficult days. ( I sound like a know-it-all).

The trundle rooms at POR are surprisingly large IMO, but I totally understand the need for more space (and a second bathroom!!)

 

[december]

Glad to hear that about the trundle rooms at POR! There will be 6 of us (me, ds12, dd10, Katie, my sister, and her ds7) in one for 7 nights in June! Some on the TGM boards were talking about how small and uncomfortable they are, but they were comparing them to the Poly! Out of my price range! We don't spend much time in the room, and I'm excited about trying a mod, and the kids getting a nicer pool with a slide.

Ds12 is mad about not staying at All Star Sports again. That is where we stayed on our 1st 2 trips, and loved it! The 2nd time, they had just refurbed all the rooms, and they are nice. We would stay there again, but I got a code that made it affordable, then talked my sister into going, so we would fit anyway. I'm excited about the boat to DTD too.

 

[harleyquinn]

Glad to hear that about the trundle rooms at POR! There will be 6 of us (me, ds12, dd10, Katie, my sister, and her ds7) in one for 7 nights in June! Some on the TGM boards were talking about how small and uncomfortable they are, but they were comparing them to the Poly! Out of my price range! We don't spend much time in the room, and I'm excited about trying a mod, and the kids getting a nicer pool with a slide.

Ds12 is mad about not staying at All Star Sports again. That is where we stayed on our 1st 2 trips, and loved it! The 2nd time, they had just refurbed all the rooms, and they are nice. We would stay there again, but I got a code that made it affordable, then talked my sister into going, so we would fit anyway. I'm excited about the boat to DTD too.

Well, that crew might be a tough fit, but the resort is fantastic. Totally my fav on property. And Alligator Bayou ids our favorite part of the resort too. We liked it better than the mansions.

Let me know if you have any questions about it! I love to gush about POR.

I keep trying to get the PIN code that is being emailed around. We got the one that ends in June, but we want to go in August. We're thinking about staying at WL, because value season at the deluxes starts before it does at the mods. And a 40% PIN would go a long way to help!