WHEW! I finally caught up I sure missed a lot around here. I am going to be reply to some things but Im sure some of these things were long resolved, but I figured I would put my two cents in here and there.
Anyone use baby carriers? I would really like to get into babywearing.
We have a baby Ktan (
http://babyktan.com/) and LOVE IT. It is great because of all the different ways you can use it. Isabel naps in it usually once a day with Daddy in the cradle position. It is great only it shrinks in the dryer (we did it once and had to stretch it back out).
We SOOOO want to do a cruise!! But.. We cant. We cant get a passport for my oldest, because we cant find his dad. Yee-HAW.
On the DS-11 form (that you have to fill out for a passport) it says:
IF ONLY ONE PARENT APPEARS YOU MUST ALSO SUBMIT ONE OF THE FOLLOWING:
- Second Parent's notarized statement consenting to passport issuance for the child,
- Primary Evidence of sole authority to apply OR
- A written statement (made under penalty of perjury) explaining the second parent's unavailability.
It seems like you would be able to at least do teh third one and get it notarized or something.
Hi fellow moms! I'm a new(ish) mom, new to DIS and new to discussion boards in general!
Any suggestions for getting my 6 month old to sleep through the night? He wakes up at least 3 times a night to feed, sometimes as many as 6 times a night!
I WISH I could help. My baby doesnt go to bed earlier than midnight, and until a couple days ago she would stay asleep until around 6/7 am, but the last couple nights has been waking up to eat. So it changes, and I am envious of people who get their babies down at a decent hour and then those babies sleep until morning!
My guestimate was right, my due date is 8/31.
She said assuming my water doesn't break/I don't start contracting I can go to 40 weeks.
CONGRATS CONGRATS CONGRATS!! How exciting! Glad you were able to see your peanut!
Now that Lucas is more responsive and "talking" (total jabber) and laughing and reaching for us, DH is more interested. He plays with Lucas more, feeds him more, has really picked up on the diaper changes. He'll disappear with him now where as before he'd whine/complain that he didn't want to do anything.
I'm not sure how much is that DH is getting help for his issues now or if it is that Lucas has changed from a little tiny baby to someone he can interact with. He's much more fun now.
Since DH started seeing these people he's only had one of his "tantrums" (the psychologist's word) and it wasn't that bad. He didn't say anything cruel/hateful to me (or about Lucas) and I managed to get him out of it within an hour. Before it was happening 1-2x a week and he'd be in it for hours upon hours.
Yay for progress.
So glad to hear that your DH is doing much, much better!
She was moved up to the 1 yr old at daycare yesterday-after the owner told me last Thu that she wouldn't move her up until I started back to school in August (she will be 1 2 wks before school is out, and won't be going to daycare all summer). I guess she is upset about the change-we loved her other teacher-and she is clinging to me (and my ****s!)) right now!!!! I just sent dh to get supper, because I can't get up to cook. She is asleep next to me, but if I move she screams!
Sarah, I hope I don't cause any trouble with my comment on your other thread. I just can't get over how rude some people can be!
For those who haven't read it, someone posted that it was CRUEL to take babies to WDW. I guess I'm cruel for living in MS, because it is hot as Hades here all summer too!
First off, I hope your daycare issues can be resolved soon! Ive read the newer posts, hopefully you can move her soon so that she isnt so miserable ANDI hope that you dont have to pay for the summer!
Second it is silly that people think it is CRUEL to take a baby in August I live in Miami so we must be super cruel to have a baby here! Orlando doesnt get ocean breezes at night but Miami can be way hotter! That is so ignorant as long as you take precautions (shade, sunscreen, keep baby hydrated and take breaks) it will work out just fine. Im, going to have to go over and read this thread. We are hoping for
free dining and taking our LO in August and shell be younger than Lily!
Lily only got up once last night...probably cuz she didn't got to bed til 11:30.
At least I got to watch all of Lost!! lol
We go to her Dr on Friday and I'm not looking forward to the conversations...yes, we started solids, but she hates them...yes, she's still sleeping with me..lol I won't tell him about the co-sleeping.
I think she really wants to sleep in her crib, but she just won't stay in there for more than an hour. I know I shouldn't go running in there unless she's really crying, but I hate hearing her cry at all.
The only way Isabel sleeps without being held is if she is swaddled. We have to hold her until she is out cold! Then once she wakes up for her 5/6 am feed she comes to bed with us.
Have you tried swaddling? I am a big fan and actually swaddled Allison until about 8 mos(too long I know, but it worked!)
We are still swaddling Isabel who is 4.5 months, and I see no end in sight! She will not sleep alone without it, and even still not more than 5 or so hours.
Soo.. this is just a question, please don't read it as criticism...
But am I the only one that doesn't follow all that stuff? I don't read books/webpages/pamhplets or any of that to figure out what to do with Lucas.
I read a little when I was pregnant and it just wasn't for me.
Lucas isn't typical and I had a hard time using that stuff as a reference. Some stuff says babies won't overeat, but the link Sarah just posted says that they can be overfed. It makes my head spin! How do you choose which to follow?
Lucas isn't on a schedule (other than his 1 daily nap)... he gets a bottle when he acts hungry. Some days he'll eat 30oz, some he'll eat over 40oz. I don't give him baby food everyday and sorta wish I would have skipped that stage all together. I've started giving him whole green beans, bread, toast, crackers, steamed carrots, etc... If I see something simple in the kitchen I'll usually give him some of it (dairy excluded)...
I just can't do what those books want. Or even the WIC people. They scold you about juice before 1yr, they want them to eat jarred baby food 3x a day- I don't have it in me to do that so I don't. Lucas still eats and I'm fairly certain he'll grow up just fine... Maybe I'm wrong, though.
The only thing I use and generally follow is kellymom.com for breastfeeding help other than that we do our own thing. I do read sometimes for guidance, but I apply things to my own babys personality we still swaddle her, she sometimes sleep is in the crib, sometimes with us. We still havent done any vaccines, not sure which we will do. And I breastfeed even though most people, family included, dont understand why I dont just give her bottles. Ive also been getting a lot of crap from family for not starting solids until 6 months, we arent going to do cereal first (maybe not at all), and not giving water (my mom, mil, and grandmother think it is just cruel I dont not understanding that both B< and formula is mostly water!). So, I say do your own thing, you know your child better than anyone else. For some the books are the way to go, for others they are just suggestions to get ideas and still others dont need them at all!
Sarah - Alex still gets up at least 2-3 times a night still and he's in a crib (he's almost 22 weeks now?)...he's down by 7:30p-8pm and then up around 11p and 3a to eat. He's up for good around 7am with me though since I'm out the door by 8am.
So you're not alone in the night waking!
I'm right there with ya!
Same here (although Isabel is ½ in the crib ½ with me if DH leaves she will not sleep again unless I put her in the bed with me).
I just can't do schedules. I am not a person who can stick to one. I get depressed with the monotony of it all day in and day out.
We dont either I envy people who can have one though. Id love to know when she will eat/sleep, etc. and I would LOVE for Isabel to have an earlier bedtime. However I do know my baby she will usually eat, play for a little, nap for 30 minutes, wake up and play a little and then eat and then the cycle stats again. . . but the times dont always match up and I never get her off to bed at the exact same time. We do a similar night ritual each night bath before her last feeding, she eats, change diaper, swaddle and then rock her until she is limp so we can put her down!
Friend just called!!! Her ultrasound was today and she got great news!!
She measured right on to her due date based off of LMP- 7w1d. Heartbeat of 150!!!
I can't really say anything on Facebook, she isn't telling people yet b/c of her miscarriage. So I am sharing with you guys because I am so excited for her!!!
That is sooooo exciting Patsy!
We have a bad sleeper at our house too! Viv is always up at least twice a night AND I can't get her down before about 11pm. I can deal with the nighttime waking but the late bedtime is killing me. I feel like I never get anything done at home! Of course I'm a night owl too so my daughter comes by it honest at least. .
I know it stinks, but it is good to hear my baby isnt the only one! I feel sometimes like Im failing because my in-laws always talk about how their kids always went to bed at 7 and slept well on their own, etc etc. But babys are all just different!
Thanks! I have the thought of biting in the back of my mind all the time. Especially now that my LO has 8 teeth!
4 top 4 bottom as of this weekend.
Ive worried about what will happen when Isabel gets teeth!
I
Speaking of poop, DH said I have to ask you guys
...did you every have trouble with blow outs? We have from time to time, but lately it's happened just about every poop. It goes up her back. We went up a size and that didn't seem to help. I'm thinking we might need to try Huggies? I seem to remember them having a different waistband? We've tried Pampers and Target brand.
Weve had a few blowouts. I think Breast Milk poop is especially liquid (Isabel has never had a solid poop in her life) and so that can lead to them. Had the WORST blowout ever the other day at iHop, ugh! I had to rinse her off in the sink, LOL, and change her out of a cute outfit into a onesie, ugh! Such a nasty mess!
Giving up bf'ing is one of the hardest things in the world...the men just can't understand. It sucks when we're not the ones who choose when to quit, but these kidlets know what's best for them, I guess.
Im so thankful DH is really on board with BF a few times when it was super hard and I wanted to give up, he is the reason that I didnt!
So I had to come here to talk out my feelings where other moms would understand me...
For the sake of Isabelle's (lack of) weight gain, DH and I have decided that it is probably in her best interest to go to bottle feeding instead of BF'ing so we know exactly how much she is getting on any given day (and we're also hoping the AR formula will lessen the spit up). At her 6 month check up she was only 12.12, so we go back in a week for a weight check up. Granted, she has essentially doubled her birth weight (6.10), but the doctor isn't pleased with how little she is growing; she's on the very bottom curve (3rd percentile) of the growth charts now, whereas before, she was at least like on the 10th or 15th percentile.
I know this is probably what's best for her, but I'm having a VERY hard time giving up the BF.
I really didn't think I would be that way, and my DH doesn't understand at all. It is a very bittersweet thing for me. At first it was overwhelming having her latched on to me for what felt like all day, but now it's just something I'm used to, and I enjoy that time with her. I know giving her the bottles she's still up on me, and close, but it's just not the same. I guess on a positive note, at least I know she will take bottles (from me), as we've supplemented ~1 bottle a day all along.
Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest, and I know you other mamas will understand / appreciate where I'm coming from more than my DH does.
((HUGS))) have you thought of supplementing instead of giving it up cold, just so you dont feel such a great loss and so that she still gets the anti-bodies and such?
Does anyone have a little one that fights sleep? E has been doing this the past week or so. It is really starting to get old!!
AGH! Isabel does she SCREAMS everytime she is sleepy and I mean bloody murder she wants to stay awake but shes sleepy, it is soooo hard!
If you feel uncomfortable about it-- you can give 1 tsp of Karo syrup (I used dark) for every 2oz of water given (I put in his formula bottles in the beginning). This is completely safe, i havent heard of a pediatrician or specialist or warns against it, and can be started as early as birth. It is moving and helps things pass along. This didn't phase Jake very much.... and he was put on laxitives, which still didn't help too much. Don't get scared, but if he is taking longer and longer to go every time you may want to make sure things arent backing up. Babies can get impacted, thats just the reality. Karo syrup isnt harmful and sure beats the alternitive which is a laxitive (which a lot of babies are on). Poop is very important... and i make sure Jake is regular now.
I do want to brag on an over-the-counter probiotic for babies that was suggested to us by Jakes GI Specialist. It is called BioGaia... and let me tell you- it is WONDERFUL. 5 drops daily... and it gets rid of gas. Jake is a very very gassy baby and has trouble clearing gas from the gut (I believe there is scarring and problems due to his allergy going 4 months without being detected-- we had to go through several pediatricians and different offices to get someone to help us. I am all for mother knows best-- we really do!). Anyway.... i think if I had baby with colic i would give it a try as well. It adds good bacteria to the body and is amazing. Anyone else heard of it?
Ill keep the Karo Syrup in mind when we start solids, just in case! And I sent you a PM about the BioGaia
I agree with the others, keep at least one session...
I know my DH would feel the same way as yours. I complained SO MUCH in the beginning. I had so many moments where I almost gave up because it was so hard, between that and my baby blues, I was hard to be around.
But it gets so much easier and it's a wonderful experience...and you had 6 months of it so congrats on that!
Lily pretty much fights it all the time. She just wants to play, play, play. She's always been super alert. I get home and she has to show me all the things she can do (click her tongue, wave, give me five, blow kisses). I think she's so proud of herself and excited to learn new things. Like someone else said, it's always at it's worse when she's learned something new. When she learned to click her tongue, she actually fell asleep doing it, cuz she didn't want to stop.
But I normally notice the biggest fights with a growth spurt. She'll be like that for days and then suddenly start sleeping a lot more.
Sounds cool! Where do you get them?
Same here (about the wanting to give up AND the fighting sleep). I think we are going through a growth spurt now, ugh!
Dh is weird-he thinks pregnant women are so sexy!
Add mine to that club well, he at least thought I was sexy pregnant, lol!
I might try to get out of the breastfeeding consult because I'm not due for a few more months and!!! we won't be eligible after DH goes to court next month.. so I could probably avoid it by just asking if I can do it next time. Except there won't be a next time.
We had to do a class on BFing it isnt too bad if you have to do it. Just explain your situation (that you cant anyhow, b/c of surgery, right??). But it isnt such a big deal. We had to do a class again when Isabel was born, and most people were doing formula anyhow. I have to do another once she starts solids too I guess they dont think I can figure that out either, lol!
So, we are supplementing formula, because BFing is just not going the best. When I do nurse, E wants to eat every 2 hours, like clockwork.
Isabel will be 5 months in 9 days and she still BF every two hours, like clockwork, during the day.
Guess what I did tonight??? I went to my friends house and held little Charlie all evening!! SHe was the sickest of the triplets... the one no one thought would make it.. and she was the first home from the hospital!! OMG! She is gorgeous!!
I wanted to snatch her up and take her home with me. I am so happy for my friends.. Their babies are all coming home.
Im SOOO THRILLED that they are ok! And lucky you got to hold her
Adi - Wow, that seems like a lot to have gone through over the past month. Hopefully you're recovering well now. How's your little girl doing?
Shes doing good! I should post pictures soon!
I did go through so much since having her first I was admitted to the hospital for low spinal fluid around my brain b/c the fluid was leaking after the 12+ pokes I got for the epidural. Then Beginning of the year I got appendicitis (perforated appendix). Two weeks later I was back in and admitted for infection/abscess, I was sent home with a PICC line (permanent IV) and had to get IV meds every day for three weeks, things are better now, still some pain and swelling, but better!
Welcome back!!
THANKS
Glad to be back!
On a positive note, DH's job is probably safe. The union sent out an email that basically said "calm the heck down, people." I guess the district has to file papers in April just to have the option to let go of staff, but they plan on restructuring and having a very minimal staff loss, if any at all. Most actual cuts will be from retiriments and resignations. So we think DH is safe.
YEAY! My DH was laid off right after Isabel was born, but just got a great job offer!
Ours did a car seat check before we could leave (which was good, because I couldn't remember how to adjust the straps, and the nurse had a seat just like it, so she showed me!).
One thing I found funny was that when we were checking in on the L&D floor, they asked us a bunch of questions, and one of them was "Do you have a place to go when you are discharged with heat, water, and electricity?" I wa taken aback by the question, but the nurse said they had quite a few people that had nowhere to go with the baby.
They came to the car to be sure we had one and watched us buckle her in.
I was asked the same about heat, water, electricity before I was discharged too!
You guys are scaring me. Lucas has never had a blow out. I've never had to change an outfit because he got poop on it.
LUCKY! We had to first NIGHT Isabel was home! However BM poop is liquid, at least for Isabel!
Ok I'm going to try a go at breastfeeding again and was wondering when I should expect the hind milk to pass to him during the feeding? Also when should I change breasts? Thanks
I keep offering the same breast until she wont take it anymore and then switch, at first Id try to get her to stay on the same one for at least 15 minutes, but now she eats faster, so when she pulls off I keep offering it until she gets mad at me/wont take it anymore. Hope it goes well! Maybe try a nipple shield if it doesnt go well. Isabel had gotten much better and then two weeks ago gave me a BLISTER on one of my nipples ugh I had to feed through the pain and thankfully it is better!
The poor kid. He only takes cat naps at daycare, but he only napped once, and that's only for about 30 minutes. Usually at daycare he'll take 2-3 30-40 minute naps. His nap was up from his nap at 11:30. Normally this kid goes to bed by 6:15 the latest and sleeps til I get him up at 6:15-6:30. He was screaming, we tried everything to calm him. and eventually i realized he was just way overtired! He finally fell asleept around 7:45, poor little guy.
