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Angel, I used your advice and got thru to Sue in ALK IPO today. I am so happy that I did! The TA did something with our reservations, and it was very confusing, still don't know what went wrong, but she handled it. She was so nice and has offered to assist in adr's for our trip. She took her time and explained all that we can expect from the staff, and it was apparant that she really likes her lodge.
It has been 10 years since my DH has taken a real vacation, and we are looking forward to having a very relaxing week, as well as enjoying the parks with our family. She left me knowing that we made the correct decision in paying the extra money for the amenities offered. I am so excited!!!!
It has been 10 years since my DH has taken a real vacation, and we are looking forward to having a very relaxing week, as well as enjoying the parks with our family. She left me knowing that we made the correct decision in paying the extra money for the amenities offered. I am so excited!!!!
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Hi Everyone, well the Jerry Springer saga continues, but we have a twist. Three out of the six siblings got tearful phone calls from Dad's wife that she found his Prudential Life Insurance policy, but it does not list her name anywhere. It actually has my brother listed as the beneficiary. Each voice mail message was so bizarre. Granted this is the first time that she's called any of my brothers and sisters, so she started with an apology and letting them know that things have been very difficult for her. On my sisters message, she said that my dad had left her with a ton of debt that she knew nothing about. In all the years I've known my dad, his only credit card was an American Express card. Based on all her past lies, we're not really buying that story. It could possibly be medical bills, but he had Blue Cross/Blue Shield and I don't think you can get better coverage than that. Even if a fraction of her story were true, would she be responsible for any of his debt if her name's not on it? My message was a desperate plea for my brothers cell phone number so that she could get his social security number for the insurance. When she reached my brother, his message was that my dad told her that he was going to update the policy, but never got a chance to do it and that she hoped he was going to share the money with her because she's now in a house that she can't afford. She's lucky she has that. Two weeks before he died, my cousin took over the mortgage on my dad's condo and paid for the down payment on a 3 bedroom double wide because my dad could not handle the 2 flights of stairs in his building. The condo was not in her name, but the trailer is. We have found out through the grapevine that her first phone call, which was obviously not to us, was to a real estate agent.
My brother is working from home today and he has the numbers to call Prudential and see how he can get a copy of the policy. He's not the owner, but a beneficiary, so I don't think that will be a problem. My cousin is in Florida and she was able to get the name of the funeral home, so that will be our next phone call today. The poor man has been there since the 8th and she has done nothing for him. My other brother is concerned that if something is not done soon, he'll end up in a paupers graveyard. I haven't called her back yet, but I do plan on it. We need to first find out if we can get a copy of the policy, if not, then I'll still have to play nice with her so I can get her to fax it up here. We don't even know the amount of the policy, my brother seems to think that it's for $15,000. We'll take the burial expenses out and I'll offer to her that she can send up any statements from my dad's debt and my brother can make those payments. Again, I think that's a big fat lie. At this point, I have no idea what happened to the $5,000 Mutual of Omaha policy that she told me about last week.
Thanks for everyones support. It's really giving me strength to get through all this. And thank you StephH for your insurance wisdom.
Talk to you all soon.
Tammi
My brother is working from home today and he has the numbers to call Prudential and see how he can get a copy of the policy. He's not the owner, but a beneficiary, so I don't think that will be a problem. My cousin is in Florida and she was able to get the name of the funeral home, so that will be our next phone call today. The poor man has been there since the 8th and she has done nothing for him. My other brother is concerned that if something is not done soon, he'll end up in a paupers graveyard. I haven't called her back yet, but I do plan on it. We need to first find out if we can get a copy of the policy, if not, then I'll still have to play nice with her so I can get her to fax it up here. We don't even know the amount of the policy, my brother seems to think that it's for $15,000. We'll take the burial expenses out and I'll offer to her that she can send up any statements from my dad's debt and my brother can make those payments. Again, I think that's a big fat lie. At this point, I have no idea what happened to the $5,000 Mutual of Omaha policy that she told me about last week.
Thanks for everyones support. It's really giving me strength to get through all this. And thank you StephH for your insurance wisdom.
Talk to you all soon.
Tammi
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MinnieSummer, how funny you should mention the BWI vs. the GF. We actually split our honeymoon between these two resorts. Ive also stayed at both of them non-concierge as well.
The BWI does not have a counter service restaurant like Gasparillas at the GF. However, they do have lots of food vendors out on the BoardWalk itself. The have a bakery, a sweet shop, a pizza window, and carts with chicken fingers, hot dogs, etc. In my opinion its a little less convenient than having a counter service restaurant, but its not a major obstacle or anything like that. As far as the Christmas decorations go, the BWI has really pretty ones. They hang massive garlands in the lobby that are beautiful. In the center of the lobby they have this incredible chocolate/gingerbread display that is amazing. The year of our honeymoon they made an entire amusement park out out of chocolate, as well as a carousel. There is also a large tree outside the hotel and they occasionally have choirs or carolers out there in the evenings. The BWI is really a wonderful resort, and the Epcot location is very convenient. However, if you think youll be disappointed if youre not at the GF, then you should consider moving. No one should be disappointed at Disney!
Nancy, the AKL IPO staff is wonderful! Just be sure to contact them prior to 90 days before your trip so they can get all your requests in order before the timeframe for making advanced dining reservations.
Angel, youre getting so close now! Dont worry about the crowdsjust make good use of Fastpass and Extra Magic Hours and you should be just fine.
francie, we have been in mid-May several times. We have found the crowds to be very manageable (I think they are typically pretty bad around the end of May near Memorial Day, but the rest of May is generally relatively light). I guess the heat depends on your perspective. May is generally not sweltering like the summer months, but it can be quite hot. Were major heat weenies
so we think its too hot for our tastes in May. However, most people love the weather then so it might just be our overly zapped by the heat selves.
Tammi, Im so very sorry that the drama is continuing. It sounds like she has told so many lies that she cant even keep them all straight now. That sounds like wonderful news that your brother is the beneficiary of the policyhe can use the proceeds to do what is right. I think you have the totally right idea to not give her the money directly that she says is for debt, but to pay the bills if she can provide them. I have a hunch youre right that all that is a lie too. I also think youre doing the right thing to call the funeral home directly. Its such a shame that she is taking a time like this to be such a heartless person. You shouldnt have to deal with this. My prayers remain with you.
The BWI does not have a counter service restaurant like Gasparillas at the GF. However, they do have lots of food vendors out on the BoardWalk itself. The have a bakery, a sweet shop, a pizza window, and carts with chicken fingers, hot dogs, etc. In my opinion its a little less convenient than having a counter service restaurant, but its not a major obstacle or anything like that. As far as the Christmas decorations go, the BWI has really pretty ones. They hang massive garlands in the lobby that are beautiful. In the center of the lobby they have this incredible chocolate/gingerbread display that is amazing. The year of our honeymoon they made an entire amusement park out out of chocolate, as well as a carousel. There is also a large tree outside the hotel and they occasionally have choirs or carolers out there in the evenings. The BWI is really a wonderful resort, and the Epcot location is very convenient. However, if you think youll be disappointed if youre not at the GF, then you should consider moving. No one should be disappointed at Disney!
Nancy, the AKL IPO staff is wonderful! Just be sure to contact them prior to 90 days before your trip so they can get all your requests in order before the timeframe for making advanced dining reservations.
Angel, youre getting so close now! Dont worry about the crowdsjust make good use of Fastpass and Extra Magic Hours and you should be just fine.
francie, we have been in mid-May several times. We have found the crowds to be very manageable (I think they are typically pretty bad around the end of May near Memorial Day, but the rest of May is generally relatively light). I guess the heat depends on your perspective. May is generally not sweltering like the summer months, but it can be quite hot. Were major heat weenies
so we think its too hot for our tastes in May. However, most people love the weather then so it might just be our overly zapped by the heat selves. Tammi, Im so very sorry that the drama is continuing. It sounds like she has told so many lies that she cant even keep them all straight now. That sounds like wonderful news that your brother is the beneficiary of the policyhe can use the proceeds to do what is right. I think you have the totally right idea to not give her the money directly that she says is for debt, but to pay the bills if she can provide them. I have a hunch youre right that all that is a lie too. I also think youre doing the right thing to call the funeral home directly. Its such a shame that she is taking a time like this to be such a heartless person. You shouldnt have to deal with this. My prayers remain with you.
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Tammi, I am so sorry that your still going through such pain and that a woman married to your Dad is the root cause of it. It's good that your family is all on the same page and that she cannot use one of you to further her cause, which does seem to be financial. You seem to have found some humor in her antics, and maybe that will help to see this through. I'll be thinking of your family, and will continue to add them to my prayers.
ead79, I have been working on my ADR list, but I seem to have run out of days and have too many restaurants.
Yes, for me it is also about the food, as I am the chief cook and bottle washer in our home. The IPO has my CC info, and I can email my preferences before Oct 3rd, as that is the date they can make the ressies for me. I am not a planner at heart, so trying to determine where we will be eating, as well as the day and time is a little difficult. Thank goodness that I am getting some help and advice, or my family would probably be eating burgers and fries the entire time. 
ead79, I have been working on my ADR list, but I seem to have run out of days and have too many restaurants.
Yes, for me it is also about the food, as I am the chief cook and bottle washer in our home. The IPO has my CC info, and I can email my preferences before Oct 3rd, as that is the date they can make the ressies for me. I am not a planner at heart, so trying to determine where we will be eating, as well as the day and time is a little difficult. Thank goodness that I am getting some help and advice, or my family would probably be eating burgers and fries the entire time. MinnieSummer
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Tammi: I keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hopefully this woman will go away once she realizes that your family is not going to be manipulated.
Ead79: Since you've stayed at BWI, would that be a good place for my mom (81 and moderately disabled) and my dad (you know the story there)? It looks like he is giong to give up on the chemo as both times they have done it he has ended up in the hospital with a negative white blood cell count. He doesn't think the suffering is worth what he is going through and I have to agree. We're waiting to see if what they have done so far has had any effect o the tumors. If it has he may just do a lower dosage but if it hasn't he's going to quit altogether. If that happens I'm hoping I can convince them to come to Florida with me for whatever time remains. That would mean them with us at Christmas and I want to make sure the resort would be okay for them. They won't do a park but they like to sit and people watch. They loved AKL, just sitting in the lobby or on the savannah was a treat.
Ead79: Since you've stayed at BWI, would that be a good place for my mom (81 and moderately disabled) and my dad (you know the story there)? It looks like he is giong to give up on the chemo as both times they have done it he has ended up in the hospital with a negative white blood cell count. He doesn't think the suffering is worth what he is going through and I have to agree. We're waiting to see if what they have done so far has had any effect o the tumors. If it has he may just do a lower dosage but if it hasn't he's going to quit altogether. If that happens I'm hoping I can convince them to come to Florida with me for whatever time remains. That would mean them with us at Christmas and I want to make sure the resort would be okay for them. They won't do a park but they like to sit and people watch. They loved AKL, just sitting in the lobby or on the savannah was a treat.
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Nancy, I can totally identify about the food! We love Disneys restaurants and it there are never enough days to fit in all our favorites. Weve finally given up on eating at every single favorite on every single trip so we can try some new restaurants. Of course there are a couple of places we must do every trip if at all possibleArtist Point, Liberty Tree Tavern, and Le Cellier are some of our very favorites.
MinnieSummer, the BWI is an excellent place to be if youre not planning to go into a park, in my opinion. The BoardWalk itself is a wonderful place to relax and people watch, and in the evening there is lots of entertainment like jugglers, face painting, carnival games, etc. If they are willing to rent electric scooters then they could also get around Crescent Lake to spend time relaxing at the Yacht and Beach Clubs as well as the Swan and Dolphin. I understand their love of AKL as I feel that way too. Its probably the #1 resort to relax at (since you can watch the savannah activities), but the BWI would certainly get my #2 vote. I will warn you that the hallways at the BWI are extremely long. I would have a note made on my reservation to request a room near the elevators and would reiterate that request at check in so your parents dont have a long walk. Also, I dont know if youve seen it or not, but during the Christmas season they add on a section at the end of Illuminations. Its set to Let There Be Peace on Earth and it is incredibly moving. Perhaps you could book an Illuminations cruise so your parents could see that without actually entering the park. If not, I believe you can see at least some of Illuminations from the bridge by the BWI.
Im so sorry to hear that your dad is having such a tough time with the chemo. I wish there was a way to treat cancer without so many awful side effects. Sometimes I truly do believe that its best to just try to enjoy the time we have left. My grandmother has decided not to have open-heart surgery (she probably wouldnt survive it) even though without it she will eventually die. She thinks its best to be healthy as long as possible and enjoy her time, so I understand where youre coming from with that. Please know that he and your entire family are in my prayers.
We love Disneys restaurants and it there are never enough days to fit in all our favorites. Weve finally given up on eating at every single favorite on every single trip so we can try some new restaurants. Of course there are a couple of places we must do every trip if at all possibleArtist Point, Liberty Tree Tavern, and Le Cellier are some of our very favorites. MinnieSummer, the BWI is an excellent place to be if youre not planning to go into a park, in my opinion. The BoardWalk itself is a wonderful place to relax and people watch, and in the evening there is lots of entertainment like jugglers, face painting, carnival games, etc. If they are willing to rent electric scooters then they could also get around Crescent Lake to spend time relaxing at the Yacht and Beach Clubs as well as the Swan and Dolphin. I understand their love of AKL as I feel that way too. Its probably the #1 resort to relax at (since you can watch the savannah activities), but the BWI would certainly get my #2 vote. I will warn you that the hallways at the BWI are extremely long. I would have a note made on my reservation to request a room near the elevators and would reiterate that request at check in so your parents dont have a long walk. Also, I dont know if youve seen it or not, but during the Christmas season they add on a section at the end of Illuminations. Its set to Let There Be Peace on Earth and it is incredibly moving. Perhaps you could book an Illuminations cruise so your parents could see that without actually entering the park. If not, I believe you can see at least some of Illuminations from the bridge by the BWI.
Im so sorry to hear that your dad is having such a tough time with the chemo. I wish there was a way to treat cancer without so many awful side effects. Sometimes I truly do believe that its best to just try to enjoy the time we have left. My grandmother has decided not to have open-heart surgery (she probably wouldnt survive it) even though without it she will eventually die. She thinks its best to be healthy as long as possible and enjoy her time, so I understand where youre coming from with that. Please know that he and your entire family are in my prayers.
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Well, I just got home from work and spoke with my brother. There is a life insurance policy with Prudential for around $17,000. They are sending him all the paperwork and did report that she called them and requested everything be sent to her. They declined the request because she is not the beneficiary, so that explains the tearful messages yesterday. The customer service person at Prudential was extremely helpful and gave my brother the policy number and all the information he needed to call the funeral home. With that, they should be able to finally cremate him and we can have a proper burial. My brother called the funeral home next. It's Brownile-Maxwell in Melbourne Florida. Well, they don't deal with insurance agencies, they accept cash or credit card and that's it. What kind of funeral home does business that way? Even if we do pay cash, they will only release his body to her and will not arrange to have him sent to our own local funeral home. Now I need to figure out how in the world I'm going to get her to sign the declaration of release. I can almost guarantee that she won't do it until she see's some money. I have to call her in a little while, I just have no idea what to say. I'm not a good liar, but I really think I need to come up with a good one because she is not going to give him to us just based on the goodness of her heart. The saga continues.
Tammi
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Tammi: Good heavens! It IS very Jerry-Springer-like. 
I'm sorry that the funeral home isn't willing to help you, but I guess since she IS his wife, she's the only person who has the authority to authorize the cremation.
I hope that you've been able to at least get her to agree to sign the papers. Please keep us updated.
I'm sorry that the funeral home isn't willing to help you, but I guess since she IS his wife, she's the only person who has the authority to authorize the cremation. I hope that you've been able to at least get her to agree to sign the papers. Please keep us updated.
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Ok, fellow lizards, indulge me for a moment.
I've been WAITING for Cinderella to come out on DVD (I saw it advertised somewhere, but didn't see what the date was). I just read this in the AllEars newsletter:
I think I should be the girl chosen on the day of the release, because not only will I be at Walt Disneyworld that day, but it's my BIRTHDAY!
Oh, wait, it does say "little girl," doesn't it? I'm 5'2", does that count as little?
Sorry, I just couldn't resist. I'm getting so excited--my trip is almost here!!!
I've been WAITING for Cinderella to come out on DVD (I saw it advertised somewhere, but didn't see what the date was). I just read this in the AllEars newsletter:
I think I should be the girl chosen on the day of the release, because not only will I be at Walt Disneyworld that day, but it's my BIRTHDAY!
Oh, wait, it does say "little girl," doesn't it? I'm 5'2", does that count as little?
Sorry, I just couldn't resist. I'm getting so excited--my trip is almost here!!!
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Tammi, Im glad that you were able to find out about the insurance policy. It seems ridiculous to me that the funeral home wont deal with insurance companies. I dont even know if this is possible, but would it be possible to call another funeral home and get your father transferred to them (one that deals with insurance companies). At least your brother will have control of the insurance proceeds. This is just plain wrong of this woman. I hope that you will be able to get her to sign the necessary paperwork.
Steph, I read about the Cinderella princess thing in the newsletter too. How neat! I wouldve LOVED to do that as a kid, and I must admit that I wouldnt mind it now either. Im 52 also, so I think that should count!
I hope that you will be able to get her to sign the necessary paperwork. Steph, I read about the Cinderella princess thing in the newsletter too. How neat! I wouldve LOVED to do that as a kid, and I must admit that I wouldnt mind it now either.
Im 52 also, so I think that should count! minniesota
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Tammi - You poor dear. Stick to your guns and get this handled the way you want. I agree with ead79 - could you transfer his body to a different funeral home? You wonder if she didn't plan to use that home knowing they would only take cash or cc! You hang in there and keep us posted. (There is some humor in all of this - in a twisted kind of way) - hope that you and your siblings will have a hearty laugh sometime down the road.
Steph and ead79 - Another 5'2" here and yes, I think it counts!
Steph and Angel - Our time is almost here! If you want to PM me with your cell numbers, we could try and connect once we're there. Or set something up now? Let me know! I'm so excited!!!
I'm frantically packing for NYC - leave in the morning and home on Sunday. Then it's off to GF next Saturday! DH and I have 8th row center seats for Hairspray Friday night and plan on hitting Little Italy for the Italian Festival. I can't wait!
Hope all is going well with all of the lizards and I'll check in when I return from NY.
I'm putting out some bruscetta, pesto pasta salad and a nice bottle of Donnafugata. It's early, but hey, I'm on vacation!!
Steph and ead79 - Another 5'2" here and yes, I think it counts!
Steph and Angel - Our time is almost here! If you want to PM me with your cell numbers, we could try and connect once we're there. Or set something up now? Let me know! I'm so excited!!!
I'm frantically packing for NYC - leave in the morning and home on Sunday. Then it's off to GF next Saturday! DH and I have 8th row center seats for Hairspray Friday night and plan on hitting Little Italy for the Italian Festival. I can't wait!
Hope all is going well with all of the lizards and I'll check in when I return from NY.
I'm putting out some bruscetta, pesto pasta salad and a nice bottle of Donnafugata. It's early, but hey, I'm on vacation!!
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minniesota said:
I think we should try to set a date and time now--although I realize that when we get there, things can change, I also think if we put it off, we'll never get around to it.
We're doing Animal Kingdom on Tuesday, with a late dinner at Narcoose's. Anyone up for a 6pm meeting that day? I forget--which resorts are we all staying at? I'm at GF.
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Hi everyone,
Well we are just about ready for our vacation. I have managed to de-stress and feel a little more normal now.
Yesterday I signed closing papers for the sale of my dads house. The people buying it are to close on the 30th but we will be On Vacation in WDW so the title company had us sign early. It feels good to have some closure, but at the same time a bit sad.
Tammi Gosh, this is just getting harder and harder for you and your family. I am so very sorry. How did your phone call go to her the other day? I hope you all can get resolution to this whole mess. I feel she is trying to get away with you and your family taking care of every financial item while she increases her bank account. I do not understand why the funeral home will not work with you. They may not understand that his wife does not intend to cover the costs. You are in my thoughts and prayers that God may give you knowledge and discernment in all of this.
Elizabeth - Thank you for you suggestion regarding Fastpass and Extra magic hours. Sometimes I forget the simplest things. How is your new position at work going? I hope you like it. I know you said in your PM that you have a lot more work. You certainly deserve a good job with good people.
Minniesota - I have PMd you. It would be great to get together. I just realized you may not get my message. I hope you have access to a computer on your trip. We are leaving tomorrow night, so you will not get the message until after we are in Disney. Maybe it will have to be cell phone communication.
Steph H - We are at The Poly September 24 30, then AKL Sept. 30 Oct 7th. What date are you referring to for a before dinner get together?
NancyG 56 - Ten years since your last real vacation. Wow. You need to make this one extra special. You will be so happy with AKL concierge. I will try to do a trip report when we return. I am so happy you will be staying at such a magical place.
I hope to do a pre-trip report on all that we have planned. I will try to get it done tonight. Have a great afternoon.
Angel
Well we are just about ready for our vacation. I have managed to de-stress and feel a little more normal now.
Yesterday I signed closing papers for the sale of my dads house. The people buying it are to close on the 30th but we will be On Vacation in WDW so the title company had us sign early. It feels good to have some closure, but at the same time a bit sad. Tammi Gosh, this is just getting harder and harder for you and your family. I am so very sorry. How did your phone call go to her the other day? I hope you all can get resolution to this whole mess. I feel she is trying to get away with you and your family taking care of every financial item while she increases her bank account. I do not understand why the funeral home will not work with you. They may not understand that his wife does not intend to cover the costs. You are in my thoughts and prayers that God may give you knowledge and discernment in all of this.
Elizabeth - Thank you for you suggestion regarding Fastpass and Extra magic hours. Sometimes I forget the simplest things. How is your new position at work going? I hope you like it. I know you said in your PM that you have a lot more work. You certainly deserve a good job with good people.
Minniesota - I have PMd you. It would be great to get together. I just realized you may not get my message. I hope you have access to a computer on your trip. We are leaving tomorrow night, so you will not get the message until after we are in Disney. Maybe it will have to be cell phone communication.
Steph H - We are at The Poly September 24 30, then AKL Sept. 30 Oct 7th. What date are you referring to for a before dinner get together?
NancyG 56 - Ten years since your last real vacation. Wow. You need to make this one extra special. You will be so happy with AKL concierge. I will try to do a trip report when we return. I am so happy you will be staying at such a magical place.
I hope to do a pre-trip report on all that we have planned. I will try to get it done tonight. Have a great afternoon.
Angel
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Angel: Sorry, I didn't realize you had a two-week trip! I'm only there October 1-8, so I was thinking October 4. I also didn't realize that Minniesota had left. 
We'll have to try cell phone communication after all, I guess. I'll PM you my cell #.
Hugs to all!
We'll have to try cell phone communication after all, I guess. I'll PM you my cell #. Hugs to all!
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Hi everyone. I leave for WDW AKL tonight through Sunday and then 4am monday for my parents house. My DD's 7th is this weekend so I hope we have a good weekend at the world. After that, she'll at home with DD and I'll be in PA trying to sort out my dad's issues. They had to give him a blood transfusion this week and it has made a huge difference but they can't do that after every chemo or it defeats the purpose so I don't know what is going to happen. I don't look forward to this trip at all.
Tami: I really hope the situation with that woman gets sorted out soon. I can only imagine the anguish you must be experiencing. I will keep you in my prayers.
See you all when I get back.
Tami: I really hope the situation with that woman gets sorted out soon. I can only imagine the anguish you must be experiencing. I will keep you in my prayers.
See you all when I get back.
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Minniesummer: I am thinking about your Dad, and hope that your trip will not be too painful. It is so hard to watch a parent go through this illness. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I know that a trip is not what you want to do right now, but I hope that you are able to relax a bit.
Tammi: I can't believe that that woman is still putting your family through this pain. I cannot understand the type of person who would treat her husband in such a disrespectful manner, especially when his children are trying to do the right thing. Please let us know how you are doing. In the meantime I continue to pray for your family.
Angel: I hope that your trip is magical indeed, hope to hear all about it. Have Fun! Yes it has been 10 years for my DH to take a vacation. That is why we are trying to take any pressure away from him while he is there. He enjoys my DGD, and she did ask him to take her to visit Pluto and the rest of her friends who live where Mickey lives. She said no one else could take her, so he was hooked.
Steph: You are right....you should be Cinderella even if for just one day. Enjoy your trip!
Tammi: I can't believe that that woman is still putting your family through this pain. I cannot understand the type of person who would treat her husband in such a disrespectful manner, especially when his children are trying to do the right thing. Please let us know how you are doing. In the meantime I continue to pray for your family.
Angel: I hope that your trip is magical indeed, hope to hear all about it. Have Fun! Yes it has been 10 years for my DH to take a vacation. That is why we are trying to take any pressure away from him while he is there. He enjoys my DGD, and she did ask him to take her to visit Pluto and the rest of her friends who live where Mickey lives. She said no one else could take her, so he was hooked.
Steph: You are right....you should be Cinderella even if for just one day. Enjoy your trip!
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My gosh, Minniesota, MinnieSummer and Angel, I wanted to wish you a good trip but I missed you. I hope you are having a wonderful time.
Nancy and Steph, enjoy your vacation. This is a great time of year to be at Disney.
I have what should be the final update on my dad's situation. I filled you in on the insurance policy and her request to have all the paperwork sent to her instead of my brother. Obviously Prudential would not do that, so the tables had been turned and I finally had some leverage. I called her Tuesday night and she started screaming and swearing at me that I never return her calls and I'm probably going to keep the money for myself and do whatever I want with my dad. I was so taken back. These accusations from the woman who didn't call me for a full day after my dad died. I asked her to calm down and we could discuss the situation as adults and I was in no way looking to make a profit. I pretty much lied and said that because the funeral home she selected wouldn't take insurance and the policy was in my brothers name, we needed her to sign over the release papers so that we could move him to another funeral home. I dangled the carrot and said that while we were taking care of that, she could spend some time pulling out all those bills that she mentioned my dad having and we could pay them off with the insurance. I got the exact answer that I expected and that was that she in fact did not have any statements because they were all lost in the move from the condo to the trailer. I said that was fine, it would take a few weeks for the check to be processed anyway and that was enough time for the credit cards monthly bills to be mailed. Then she mentioned that it was really just the trailer she was concerned about and I said that was fine, we could put the balance towards the mortgage. She told me there was no mortgage, but she was worried that the monthly utility expenses on the trailer would be too much for her. Then she said that my father lied when he told her that he had changed over the insurance policy into her name and I asked about the Mutual of Omaha policy and wasn't that one in her name. She said yes, but the Prudential one was much bigger. I kept the conversation on track though and finally had her promise that she would sign the release on Wednesday morning. I know you won't be surprised to hear that by 3pm on Wednesday, I still hadn't heard from her and my brother verified with the funeral home that she hadn't been in touch with them yet. In an earlier post, I mentioned that this funeral home concerned me, but in hindsight, they have done their best to help us. My brother had a lengthy discussion with the director and he offered to ship my dad's remains and take care of everything we needed. We assured him that as soon as he had the release paper, we would call within minutes with a credit card. Thursday came and my family members were starting to look for blood. I asked them to give me one more chance with her, so I called and left a very long, intense message. I told her that if she had loved my father at all, she would not be hesitating to make sure that he was taken care of. For 2 weeks he has been on ice in the funeral home and that it's a disgraceful way to treat a loved one. Not more than 15 minutes later, she called me back. Apologizing profusely that she had slept the day away on Wednesday and didn't wake up until 5:05 when the funeral home was closed. Once again, I waited by the phone and finally we got the call at about noon time that he was ours. We picked out urns, paid for everything and he will be shipped to us on Wednesday. She has called me twice and my sister once with tearful messages about us not letting her know about his funeral services. She wants to know what she has ever done to us. There's not enough time in the day to go over that list. I have to say that while I'm pretty sure I was justified, I am not proud of what I had to do to get my dad back. He left no will, so I don't know 100% that he wanted his children to split the insurance. My husband said that if he went to all the trouble to purchase a $5000 Mutual of Omaha policy for her, when he could have just changed her name on the Prudential one, then it is exactly what he wanted. We're not talking a life changing amount of money either. Between the 6 of us, less the burial expenses and taxes, we might end up with about $1750 a piece. I just wish I knew for sure that it's what he intended.
My DH was so nice and took me away on Friday for some much needed relaxation. He arranged for a massage, a suite and a nice dinner for our anniversary.
I do feel like a huge weight has been lifted on my shoulders and we can go forward with planning a service. I do know that he wanted something very simple at the graveside and a bagpipe playing the Old Rugged Cross.
Tammi
Nancy and Steph, enjoy your vacation. This is a great time of year to be at Disney.
I have what should be the final update on my dad's situation. I filled you in on the insurance policy and her request to have all the paperwork sent to her instead of my brother. Obviously Prudential would not do that, so the tables had been turned and I finally had some leverage. I called her Tuesday night and she started screaming and swearing at me that I never return her calls and I'm probably going to keep the money for myself and do whatever I want with my dad. I was so taken back. These accusations from the woman who didn't call me for a full day after my dad died. I asked her to calm down and we could discuss the situation as adults and I was in no way looking to make a profit. I pretty much lied and said that because the funeral home she selected wouldn't take insurance and the policy was in my brothers name, we needed her to sign over the release papers so that we could move him to another funeral home. I dangled the carrot and said that while we were taking care of that, she could spend some time pulling out all those bills that she mentioned my dad having and we could pay them off with the insurance. I got the exact answer that I expected and that was that she in fact did not have any statements because they were all lost in the move from the condo to the trailer. I said that was fine, it would take a few weeks for the check to be processed anyway and that was enough time for the credit cards monthly bills to be mailed. Then she mentioned that it was really just the trailer she was concerned about and I said that was fine, we could put the balance towards the mortgage. She told me there was no mortgage, but she was worried that the monthly utility expenses on the trailer would be too much for her. Then she said that my father lied when he told her that he had changed over the insurance policy into her name and I asked about the Mutual of Omaha policy and wasn't that one in her name. She said yes, but the Prudential one was much bigger. I kept the conversation on track though and finally had her promise that she would sign the release on Wednesday morning. I know you won't be surprised to hear that by 3pm on Wednesday, I still hadn't heard from her and my brother verified with the funeral home that she hadn't been in touch with them yet. In an earlier post, I mentioned that this funeral home concerned me, but in hindsight, they have done their best to help us. My brother had a lengthy discussion with the director and he offered to ship my dad's remains and take care of everything we needed. We assured him that as soon as he had the release paper, we would call within minutes with a credit card. Thursday came and my family members were starting to look for blood. I asked them to give me one more chance with her, so I called and left a very long, intense message. I told her that if she had loved my father at all, she would not be hesitating to make sure that he was taken care of. For 2 weeks he has been on ice in the funeral home and that it's a disgraceful way to treat a loved one. Not more than 15 minutes later, she called me back. Apologizing profusely that she had slept the day away on Wednesday and didn't wake up until 5:05 when the funeral home was closed. Once again, I waited by the phone and finally we got the call at about noon time that he was ours. We picked out urns, paid for everything and he will be shipped to us on Wednesday. She has called me twice and my sister once with tearful messages about us not letting her know about his funeral services. She wants to know what she has ever done to us. There's not enough time in the day to go over that list. I have to say that while I'm pretty sure I was justified, I am not proud of what I had to do to get my dad back. He left no will, so I don't know 100% that he wanted his children to split the insurance. My husband said that if he went to all the trouble to purchase a $5000 Mutual of Omaha policy for her, when he could have just changed her name on the Prudential one, then it is exactly what he wanted. We're not talking a life changing amount of money either. Between the 6 of us, less the burial expenses and taxes, we might end up with about $1750 a piece. I just wish I knew for sure that it's what he intended.
My DH was so nice and took me away on Friday for some much needed relaxation. He arranged for a massage, a suite and a nice dinner for our anniversary.
I do feel like a huge weight has been lifted on my shoulders and we can go forward with planning a service. I do know that he wanted something very simple at the graveside and a bagpipe playing the Old Rugged Cross.
Tammi
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Angel, I hope you're having a fantastic time at WDW! Thanks for asking about my job. I like it so far since it's much higher level work, but at the same time it makes me tense to not really know what I'm doing. I think it will improve as I get more of my bearings though.
MinnieSummer, I hope you have a wonderful trip too! I'm so sorry for what your dad and your family are going through right now. and prayers are with you.
Tammi, I am so glad that you were able to get your father's remains. I know that must be a tremendous weight lifted off of you. Sometimes money truly brings out the very worst in people, and it sounds like that's what it has done with his wife. Such a shame. The service with the Old Rugged Cross sounds beautiful.
MinnieSummer, I hope you have a wonderful trip too! I'm so sorry for what your dad and your family are going through right now.
and prayers are with you.Tammi, I am so glad that you were able to get your father's remains. I know that must be a tremendous weight lifted off of you. Sometimes money truly brings out the very worst in people, and it sounds like that's what it has done with his wife. Such a shame. The service with the Old Rugged Cross sounds beautiful.
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