TandLMommy28
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So I had another chat with Grumpola last night about why on earth he finds it necessary to sigh and roll his eyes if I so much as speak the word, "Disney."
Basically, what I took from the conversation is that he has no desire to go, it's a waste of time, it's a waste of money and it's just stressing him to even think about going. He'd rather spend the money fixing up his truck or paying off some bills or building up the savings account. "Family vacations are important but Disney vacations are just a silly waste." That's basically what he told me. He'll go because it's important to me and he's sure it will be "fine" but don't expect him to come home raving about how great it was. I told him I've been making myself SICK working 2x as much as normal to make sure that even with our trip, we have enough money in savings.
And I told him that all we do is pay off bills (we made a big mess when we were first married that we are still fixing but in the first half of this year we paid off BOTH cars so I think a little break from the super tight budget to have some fun is in order!). I know we can afford to do this. I am the one who does our budget because while I work as a writer, my degree is actually in accounting. I'm good with money.
He just looked completely disgusted the more I talked. And you have to understand that we've been married for seven years this month and this is the first time we've ever really disagreed on something bigger than where to have dinner. I told him that it's not fair that he rolls his eyes every time I talk about Disney but it's perfectly OK to make me listen to him talk for hours on end about people at work I don't know, car repairs he wants to do that I don't understand and plots of TV shows that I have no interest in. But I listen because I care about HIM. And I don't think it's fair that he can't show me the same courtesy about this trip.
We are also completely in disagreement about when to leave. I want to leave Friday afternoon and knock out the first 4 to 5 hours of the trip since we have over 1,000 miles to go. That would leave less strain of getting through that many miles on Saturday. He is completely against this. I guess to him it would be starting the misery a full day early. Sigh...
I really don't know what to do at this point. The more I try to tell him about the fun things I have planned, the more upset he gets. I've tried telling him how much it means to me because of my family trip when I was 14. I've tried showing him pictures, showing him the budget. He just rolls his eyes and changes the subject.
I'm beginning to think this magical vacation could ruin our marriage.
Basically, what I took from the conversation is that he has no desire to go, it's a waste of time, it's a waste of money and it's just stressing him to even think about going. He'd rather spend the money fixing up his truck or paying off some bills or building up the savings account. "Family vacations are important but Disney vacations are just a silly waste." That's basically what he told me. He'll go because it's important to me and he's sure it will be "fine" but don't expect him to come home raving about how great it was. I told him I've been making myself SICK working 2x as much as normal to make sure that even with our trip, we have enough money in savings.
And I told him that all we do is pay off bills (we made a big mess when we were first married that we are still fixing but in the first half of this year we paid off BOTH cars so I think a little break from the super tight budget to have some fun is in order!). I know we can afford to do this. I am the one who does our budget because while I work as a writer, my degree is actually in accounting. I'm good with money.
He just looked completely disgusted the more I talked. And you have to understand that we've been married for seven years this month and this is the first time we've ever really disagreed on something bigger than where to have dinner. I told him that it's not fair that he rolls his eyes every time I talk about Disney but it's perfectly OK to make me listen to him talk for hours on end about people at work I don't know, car repairs he wants to do that I don't understand and plots of TV shows that I have no interest in. But I listen because I care about HIM. And I don't think it's fair that he can't show me the same courtesy about this trip.
We are also completely in disagreement about when to leave. I want to leave Friday afternoon and knock out the first 4 to 5 hours of the trip since we have over 1,000 miles to go. That would leave less strain of getting through that many miles on Saturday. He is completely against this. I guess to him it would be starting the misery a full day early. Sigh...
I really don't know what to do at this point. The more I try to tell him about the fun things I have planned, the more upset he gets. I've tried telling him how much it means to me because of my family trip when I was 14. I've tried showing him pictures, showing him the budget. He just rolls his eyes and changes the subject.
I'm beginning to think this magical vacation could ruin our marriage.