The Mad Chatters thread Part 7

[paigevz]

Lord, give me strength to stick to it..............he's begging to go now and rationalizing his behavior.............

 

[paigevz]

Hi Paige!
I'm so sorry....
That is so sad and so hard!

And it's a real bummer that little son lost his fun too! Maybe not going would have more impact if you took little son and left big son home with Dad, or grandma... I know it's not the family day you planned though.

Dh suggested that, but Little son doesn't know what he's missing. He has been asking to go to Build a Bear workshop, so I may take him there later.............

 

[paigevz]

But the parents are mental. You are probably a great mom...so there's the difference.

..............don't feel much like a great mom right now, and I'm fairly sure I'm mental too..............

 

[Tiffer]

..............don't feel much like a great mom right now, and I'm fairly sure I'm mental too..............

Yeah, we're all mental, but they're mental in a different way.....kids can curse from birth on up. Oldest son refers to his dad as D**che bag, A** Hole, etc.

Ex-h calls the house and sone calls him fat A**....

klids hit, dictate all ascpects of daily life (different than the average)...destroy people's prperty, scratch cars, egg houses, break lawn mowers, just a few examples...no reprocussions....


Brag about how the son is the cool kid at school....cool b/c he has no rules or boundaries and other kids are in awe of that....then the boy got kicked out....

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Of course you're mental! It is a pre-requisite for parenthood. If we weren't there would be no children.....

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Yeah, we're all mental, but they're mental in a different way.....kids can curse from birth on up. Oldest son refers to his dad as D**che bag, A** Hole, etc.

Ex-h calls the house and sone calls him fat A**....

klids hit, dictate all ascpects of daily life (different than the average)...destroy people's prperty, scratch cars, egg houses, break lawn mowers, just a few examples...no reprocussions....


Brag about how the son is the cool kid at school....cool b/c he has no rules or boundaries and other kids are in awe of that....then the boy got kicked out....

Wow! That sounds more like a parenting issue than a mental health issue to me though. Sorry your family has to deal with it.

 

[paigevz]

Just so you all don't think my son is a huge brat, he has had more to deal with than most 11 year olds...............

Help me stick to it guys! I so want to cave and take him anyway, and we all know that feeling sorry for kids is the WORST thing you can do to them.................

 

[Rella Bella]

Hi Steph


Hi Tiff


Didn't mean to not answer just got called away for a minute...



I tell ya girls... if there ever was a full disclosure statement need to get pregnant there might be fewer kids.

It never occurred to me it could be so wonderful and yet so impossibly hard to be a parent!
Most of the time the good outweighs the bad... but it's no picnic!

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Just so you all don't think my son is a huge brat, he has had more to deal with than most 11 year olds...............

Help me stick to it guys! I so want to cave and take him anyway, and we all know that feeling sorry for kids is the WORST thing you can do to them.................

Think of the long run.....If he knows that you are going to stick with what you say, he will be less likely to challenge it.

And I don't think he is a brat at all. I think he is 11.....which is synonymous with brat, but you know...

 

[paigevz]

Yes, I think the tween years have pretty much clinched the deal on me deciding not to try for another baby.............

I've still got a preschooler, and I'm feeling too old to start over yet again.

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Hi Steph


Hi Tiff


Didn't mean to not answer just got called away for a minute...



I tell ya girls... if there ever was a full disclosure statement need to get pregnant there might be fewer kids.

It never occurred to me it could be so wonderful and yet so impossibly hard to be a parent!
Most of the time the good outweighs the bad... but it's no picnic!

It most definitely does. And who else is going to take care of you when you are old? Of course, I am certain I am nursinghome bound, but you know, there is a little sliver of hope anyway.

 

[paigevz]

It most definitely does. And who else is going to take care of you when you are old? Of course, I am certain I am nursinghome bound, but you know, there is a little sliver of hope anyway.

So what's wrong with nursing homes? Meals ready, friends around...........someone to clean. Guilt for your children...............

Versus staying in their house while they work all day??? Hmmm..........

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

So what's wrong with nursing homes? Meals ready, friends around...........someone to clean. Guilt for your children...............

Versus staying in their house while they work all day??? Hmmm..........

But they smell. That is my only real complaint...

 

[Tiffer]

Wow! That sounds more like a parenting issue than a mental health issue to me though. Sorry your family has to deal with it.

Combination of both......

Tahnkfully, they were in laws and I am getting divorced....

 

[paigevz]

But they smell. That is my only real complaint...

Your sense of smell fades as you get older................

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Combination of both......

Tahnkfully, they were in laws and I am getting divorced....

Woops......I just PM'd you.....

I didn't know that! I am sorry you are going through that too! Or are you like me? By the time the divorce actually came, I was happy about it!

I was walking into the courthouse the day of the divorce, and one of the judges that I knew was walking with me, and asked what case I was there for. I told him mine, that I was getting divorced. He started telling me how sorry he was, and I said "Why? I am happy about it!" He just kinda looked at me funny....

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Your sense of smell fades as you get older................

Well, as long as our kids coordinate, so we end up in the same one, I can live with that

 

[Rella Bella]

Just so you all don't think my son is a huge brat, he has had more to deal with than most 11 year olds...............

Help me stick to it guys! I so want to cave and take him anyway, and we all know that feeling sorry for kids is the WORST thing you can do to them.................

As I say to my DS... much more often than I'd like....

"When you beg, you make it impossible for me to change my mind, because if I did I would only be teaching you that begging works."

Stay strong Paige... you can do it!

IF he calms down, maybe you can do something else fun... but you can't give into that... it will just make it 10 times worse next time.

 

[paigevz]

Well, as long as our kids coordinate, so we end up in the same one, I can live with that

Hmmm...........we should start our own DIS nursing home..................invitation only, of course. And Bonnie has no invitation privileges, 'cause you know she'll invite them all!

 

[paigevz]

I know, RB, it's just such a shame...............well, there's always next year.