The little things that get you....

[AllyandJack]

I'm leaving for WDW today for Super Soap. I'm using my Passporter from last year since it's just a weekend trip. Last night, as I was putting all my stuff in the pockets, I looked in the back. There was my Nana's address at the nursing home. She was so proud of the post card I sent her last year. She told everyone who would listen how I sent her that from WDW. It's my first trip since she died and I won't be sending her a post card. For some reason, this is making me cry.

So, what was your "moment"? I know we all miss our loved ones around holidays and stuff, but what are the little things that make you miss them?

 

[Tiffann4k]

I have not lost any loved ones but big for you

 

[Missy1961]

First, to you. Second, enjoy your trip!

My mom passed away Feb. 24, 2001. We were very close, and we had similar tastes in clothes, food & we both loved to read. I had recommended a series of books to her--the Mitford series--and she loved them. In March 2001 I got an email from Amazon telling me a new book in the series was coming out in April. My first thought was "I've got to tell Mom" and then I realized she wasn't home to share the news. So I know the feeling.

 

[florida-again]

I was never really close with my grandfather, but for some reason I miss him so much.
He lived just a few moments away from me. He only died 5 years ago.

The people who moved into his house have changed the outside of it so much that I'm sometimes not even sure which house was his (I never knew what number it was, I always knew it because it was so familiar)

I wanted to show BF where my Grandpa used to live, but I wasn't sure which house was his. I got really upset when I kept pointing at all different houses saying 'it's that one, no wait, it's that one...'

 

[smilie]

At Christmas time my Grandfather used to turn off all of the lights, light a candle and come in the room singing "Holy Night". For some reason it turned into something funny that always made us laugh, but I'll miss that again this year. He lost his battle with cancer a year ago in August.

 

[C.Ann]

I was out shopping with my DD the other night and happened across some videos that I know my DH would have loved for Christmas.. I managed to "hold it together", but it made me terribly sad when I realized I wouldn't be shopping for him this year..

Those "sneak attacks" - when you're not expecting them - are the worse, but in the long run it really helps the grieving progress..

I'm sorry about your Nana, but I'll bet she would be real happy to know that you're going to WDW again..

 

[florida-again]

I was out shopping with my DD the other night and happened across some videos that I know my DH would have loved for Christmas.. I managed to "hold it together", but it made me terribly sad when I realized I wouldn't be shopping for him this year..

Those "sneak attacks" - when you're not expecting them - are the worse, but in the long run it really helps the grieving progress..

I'm sorry about your Nana, but I'll bet she would be real happy to know that you're going to WDW again..

C.Ann, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. I hope you have the best christmas possible with lovely memories of your past christmasses together.
And to everyone for their losses.

 

[lil mermaid]

I have been having those little moments often lately. My eyes are brown and my DH's eyes are blue. DD's eyes are blue - but not a brightish blue like my DH's eyes. They are a dark blue just like my Nana's were - and have that same mischievous twinkle! I look at DD and she is starting to look so much like my Nana. It makes me sad that she didn't get to meet her (she died in 1996.)

to you, and have a great trip.

 

[SC Minnie]

When we sing or I hear Amazing Grace I tear up. It was my Grandmothers favorite song and I miss her. I am so much like her. She died 2 months before DH and I got married. I really wish she could have been there and could have known the grandaughter that was named after her (I usd to sing Amazing Grace to DD when she was a baby as a lullaby).

 

[slo]

Everytime my DD starts to sing nicely I miss think of my Grandpa and wish he could hear her. He always wanted me to take singing lessons, but I never wanted to. If he were still here, he would sit and listen to my DD sing for as long as she wanted to sing. I guess he is listening up in heaven

 

[mrsltg]

Last year I had two. My son died on Mother's Day of '04 and when we went on our cruise to "get away" I saw a brother and sister and the brother was obviously slow and the sister was so protective of him. It made me wonder if my dd would have been the same way. Also, my Nana died in October last year. When we were putting up Christmas decorations the song "I'll Be Home for Christmas" came on. That made me weep.

It's amazing how much you can miss people.

Erin

 

[lecach]

My moments arent really related to the holidays - but to little things that bring memories back that make me cry.

My Grandma had taught me to sew when I was young. I was the only one in the family interested in learning. It was a connection we always had. So when she passed away my Grandpa asked if I would like her sewing machine and all her sewing supplies. Of course I happily accepted. As I was going thru her dresser of fabrics and notions I found a scrap of the material that she had used to sew me a baby blanket. I still have the blanket. At the time I think I was 25 years old - so her still having that scrap was quite notable. Now she probably had just forgotten all about it. But I chose to believe that it had meant so much to her that she had kept it. I cried. Now I have the scrap and the blanket carefully tucked away together. At the time I had accepted her death and I was over the tears. But that little scrap of fabric brought it all back to me. So I can certainly relate to you finding that address.

Another "moment" I had recently: I now have a healthy 11 month old son. But I lost my first pregnancy about 3 months before I conceived him. I wore my red shoes the other day and the memories of the day I found out came rushing back. See I remember sitting there in the ultrasound room waiting on the Dr. to come do our first ultrasound. She was late and I remember thinking "boy - my red shoes sure do smell". Shortly after that we were told that the pregnancy wasnt viable. So whenever I wear those red shoes - which isnt very often - I think about the horror of that day. I could throw the shoes away - they only match one shirt and they were cheap. But I choose to keep them to remind me of what I lost and the beautiful gift that I now have - my son Nathan.

 

[AllyandJack]

I am so sorry for each of your losses.

It is the sneak attacks that get you the most. You EXPECT to feel some sadness around certain things, but when they hit you out of the blue, it's hard to deal with it.

It's good to know I'm not alone in crying over the little things.

 

[Stitchfans]

Yes, to you. Hope you have a very nice trip.

I understand what you are talking about. When ever something happy like one of my DDs accomplishing something, or something stressful happens, oh heck lets say every day life experiences I often run to the phone to call my mom like I always did before she died. We would talk for hours. Often she and I would walk and talk for hours while I pushed DD now 24 in a stroller. Many times I forget still and call her number and dad will answer. Of course I share what is on my mind with him, but its not the same. He loves me but doesn't know what to say like mom did. He has a totally different outlook on life so different from mom. His wife, Cheryl is real sweet and understanding, but she's not mom, and its not the same. Often I will share with her though.

Times like those I sure wish I at least had a sister.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

My DD6 came in last night from playing in the leaves and just out of the blue looks at my Mom and said I really wish I could see my Grandpa. Well my Mom says maybe you can see him this weekend. She say no Meme, your husband, Mommy's Daddy. And starts to cry. I lost my Father 8 years ago and my DD will never know my father. We show her pictures and talk about him. But it got to me how out of the blue it was.