The Hangout Thread; The Place where JP's gals like to Gossip

[I Am What I Am]

i just...i hear how the men in Brave are basically plot devices and yeah, that sucks

but like...i'm not going to get worked up over it or give it more than a mildly judging look.


because people of my gender and race have been regulated to plot devices for DECADES and no one seems to really care. And when we do say something, we get dismissed with "It's just a movie. Stop taking everything so seriously!" and like...no. Media is an product of our society. Society's opinions are projected into the media we consume and unless we actively point out and work to fix the problematic areas, we will continue to have problematic media. It's a cycle.

so people can get the hell out with the condescending "It's just a movie" crap. You don't have a problem with it? Fine, but I do and I'm going to talk about why it bothers me.

 

[I Am What I Am]

One thing that's really bothering me is the exclusion of Black Widow from The Avengers merchandise.

When the stuff just has Iron Man, Hulk, Thor and Captain America, I'm more lenient because those four are the most popular and okay, the Avengers includes Hawkeye and Black Widow but i get it. I don't really like it but I get it.

it's when the merchandise includes Hawkeye and leaves out only Natasha that really angers me.

Natasha had a HUGE part in the movie and these manufacturers are excluding her because "SUPERHEROES ARE FOR BOYS AND SHE'S A GIRL BOYS WON'T LIKE ICKY GIRL STUFF!!!!1" and it just...it infuriates me.

newsflash: there is nothing wrong with boys having a girl on their merchandise.
there is nothing wrong with having a girl on a team of superheroes
there is nothing wrong with being a girl, period.
i wish more people would actually realize that.

 

[I Am What I Am]

in case it's not obvious, i am very interested/invested in social justice issues.



i can go for a long time once i get started.

which is about once a day.

 

[scarscar93]

if Disney ever made their own version of Pride & Prejudice I'd call/fight for permanent dibs on being Lizzy in future MMs

 

[I Am What I Am]

protip: telling somone who's upset about something "don't take it so personally. stop being so sensitve!" isn't helpful.

it's dismissive of that person's feelings and experiences.

you do not get to tell somone what to feel or how to react. you are not the ultimate authority on what is upsetting/offensive.


(disclaimer: obviously all "yous" are general, and are not directed towards any specific person)

 

[scarscar93]

protip: telling somone who's upset about something "don't take it so personally. stop being so sensitve!" isn't helpful.

it's dismissive of that person's feelings and experiences.

you do not get to tell somone what to feel or how to react. you are not the ultimate authority on what is upsetting/offensive.


(disclaimer: obviously all "yous" are general, and are not directed towards any specific person)

this.

so much.

in 8th grade I had a panic attack and the school nurse told me to just get over myself.

 

[scarscar93]

how do you respond politely when someone you wouldn't date says they'd date you

uh

 

[CowboyErin]

I just started watching Once Upon a Time. It is so good omg

hm I've never seen it, but I really want to.

 

[carlandellie]

hm I've never seen it, but I really want to.

You should start watching it! I think Sarah does, and I know Drew does. We could have a whole fam(ily)

 

[Mickeysgirl34]

hm I've never seen it, but I really want to.

You should! I love once upon a time
It's a really great show

 

[charliebrown]

how do you respond politely when someone you wouldn't date says they'd date you

uh

something along the lines of "well thanks, but im really busy, getting ready for _______."
does that work?

 

[CowboyErin]

You should start watching it! I think Sarah does, and I know Drew does. We could have a whole fam(ily)

I should! Where can I find all the episodes?

 

[carlandellie]

I should! Where can I find all the episodes?

I'm pretty sure Hulu has all of them.

 

[CowboyErin]

I'm pretty sure Hulu has all of them.

Thank you!

 

[Mickeysgirl34]

 

[CowboyErin]

gpoy

 

[grandfloluver]

One Direction: We'll see you in 2013.
Me: I'll see you on my computer screen.

 

[grandfloluver]

Best pick up line
Boy: Hey, I like that band
Even better pick up line
Boy: Hey I'm in that band

 

[charliebrown]

Best pick up line
Boy: Hey, I like that band
Even better pick up line
Boy: Hey I'm in that band

haha.
to bad no one know the Cosby Sweaters.(my band)

 

[grandfloluver]

have you ever seen someone so attractive that you can’t even look at them because it’s like you’re embarrassing yourself

omg yes