The end is near...

[Mishetta]

As some of you know, my Mother suffers from Bone Marrow Cancer. She was diagnosed last July so she has survived nearly a year already. She lives with us & I am her sole caregiver since I am an only child. Our lives have basically stopped. We've cancelled vacations, our child's sports schedule had to be cut down, etc...lots of family changes.

Anyway, she is down to needing a blood transfusion every 3 days now. Her bone marrow no longer produces blood. Well, we've spent many a day in ER & she has been in & out of the hospital every few days. Once she gets a tranfusion, everything is fine & we go out to eat to her fave restaurants (just to get her to eat). She really has no quality of life because we stay home all the time. Her platelet count is down to 2000 (very serious) & due to this, I don't take her anywhere for fear of her catching germs. She doesn't want to go anywhere though.

Today the Oncologist said to us "it's up to you how long you want to continue doing this. When you're tired of back & forth to hospital for tranfusions then you just do nothing & the end will come."

My Mom said she'll try to hang in there a little while longer but the end is very near & I'm sooooo sad, I just don't know what to do. If she were suffering pain, it would be easy to let go but all she suffers from is weakness....

Sorry this is so long. I just needed to let this heaviness off my heart.

I think I'll go wash the floor again.....

 

[Steve H.]

 

[kejoda]

Mishetta, I'm so sorry. I lost my Mom to breast cancer and it was so hard to see her sick. Like your Mom she didn't have a lot of pain. At the end she went into a coma and it was another 3 weeks when we lost her.

Anyway I don't have any answers for you but a lot of support and an ear if you need one. I'm just a pm away. {{{HUGS}}}

 

[#1 Disney Fan]

~*~*~*~*Hugs Mishetta~*~*~*~*~*~*



I'm at a loss for words.

 

[krazyboutWDW]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you and your family. I know that you must be exhausted from all of the stress. It is so hard to lose a parent (I know -- I've lost both). I will keep your mom and your family in my prayers. I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

 

[caitycaity]

i know how it feels. my grandfather was diagnosed last year with pancreatic cancer and decided that he didn't want any treatment. it is hard to let go.

 

[lizzie64]

Lots of hugs Mischetta,

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It must be very hard on you. My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers and I am preparing myself for what is to come. She lives in Florida with my very unsympathetic father, who just wants to live his life.

Remain strong and I will keep you both in my prayers.

Liz

 

[Rajah]

I'm sorry. *HUGS*, P&PD for you and your family.

 

[charlie,nj]

Sorry to hear the sad news..

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Oh Mishetta, I can feel the sadness in your words. {{{HUGS}}}

My father passed away when I was much younger. He had terminal cancer and he made the call to not receive anymore chemotherapy treatments. I can remember being so proud of him for making that very difficult decision. I knew it meant losing him earlier but it would be on his terms. His greatest fear was dying in the hospital. We were blessed with the angels from Hospice, an organization I will always be ever so grateful for.

Please PM me anytime if you just need someone to talk to. You and your family will be in my prayers.

 

[tc]

I am so sorry to hear this. I knew she was battling, but didn't realize the end was so near. Prayers and pd continue to come. God bless you while you and she share this last bit together.

 

[Minnesota!]

I am so sorry to hear this. My grandpa had the same thing and he passed away May of 2002. I know that it is hard to watch a person die, as my own father had colon cancer and I watched him deteriorate and die. It is so sad, and so hard. Please know that we are all here for you, and if you need anything, just let us know.

(((hugs to you, your mom and your family)))...

 

[Sonya]

I'm so very sorry. I wish I could make everything alright for you.

 

[dizneenut]

{{{hugs}}}, Rose. I'm so sorry. I've had your mom in my prayers and I will continue to pray for her and you.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Dear Mishetta, I positively ache for you and yours.

Hold your dear mother's hand and tell her often how much she means to you. It's such a long hard battle sometimes, isn't it?

My heart and prayers go with you.

~Patti

 

[Debi]

{{{Hugs}}}, Mishetta. I lost my father to a brain tumor, so I know exactally what you're going through with taking a parent to and from the hospital on a regular basis. If you need anything, I'm only an e-mail or PM away. Again, a huge {{{hug}}}.

 

[Mishetta]

Thank you all so much for your kind words. If I could just find some strength to get through this....you'd think after all this time that I'd be prepared. I have cried every single day since Mom was diagnosed. You'd think I would be tired of living this way! I argue with myself too saying, that this is just the circle of life & now it's time for my dear sweet Mom to move on to make room for others on this earth but why couldn't she have just a little more time with us? My 18 month old won't remember her. My 7 y/o will remember some but as he gets older, his grandma will just be a fading memory.

This poor woman sacrificed her whole life for me, especially after my dad passed away when I was 8 y/o. The strength she found to learn enough english to find a job (sewing in a sweat shop on Long Island) & to learn how to drive, all within a month of my dad's passing, leaving her alone in the U.S. to raise a young daughter. I would have curled up & died. All the strength she had & now it's almost ironic that her passing will be due to lack of strength.

I'm sorry for all of you that have already lost your parents. What a horrible thing to go through. Even my DH is so emotional right now. I had to go alone to the cemetery to buy the final piece of real estate because my DH was just sobbing like a baby. I wish all Mother's had son-in-law's like my Mom has.

Okay....time for washing #3 on my floor. I'm going to have a very clean house by the time this is all over!

 

[TwinMom7]

My dear, dear friend....I am so sorry for you. You have been there for me over the past six months, and I wish there was more I could do for you!

All I can say is that I will pray for you and for your mother - that God choses the right time to take her home.

My prayers and thoughts will be with you...and you know I'm only a PM away.

 

[tater bug]

{{{hugs}}} to you. Your sadness comes through your e-mail. Dealing with losing a parent is never easy. Prayers for your Mom and for you. I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

 

[SuiteDisney]

I'm so sorry that your Mom is going through this. How lucky she is to have you. Don't be afraid to tell her every day how much you love her. (((hugs)))