The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 7

[UP Disney]

I had a couple odd things happen this weekend and I wanted to get everyone's thoughts on the second one.

First-we saw two different proposals this past week. The first was at the Rockies game and was so sweet with both the girl and guy end up crying. The second they both end up crying also but different reasons. This one was at the Nuggets game on national tv the guy gets down on one knee, long proposal, beautiful ring...the girl runs off the court and the guy leaves the opposite direction dejected. Poor guy.

Second- this one kinda creeped me out afterward. We had a piano recital and one of the mom's of one of the young men who played came up and commented on how much Cassidy has turned into a young woman......talking the physical sense her, how she was getting the curves in the right places. This woman and I are friends and I was so uncomfortable...felt like she was sizing Cassidy up for this young man. She did come back and go to mundane stuff. These two will be in marching band together next year. Would you have been creeped out? or am I really nuts?

I would find it very strange if any mom (any person actually) came up to me in a public place and started talking about how my daughter was developing. It is one thing if you two were best friends and were in the privacy of your home. Very strange!!!

 

[Glynis]

I had a couple odd things happen this weekend and I wanted to get everyone's thoughts on the second one.

First-we saw two different proposals this past week. The first was at the Rockies game and was so sweet with both the girl and guy end up crying. The second they both end up crying also but different reasons. This one was at the Nuggets game on national tv the guy gets down on one knee, long proposal, beautiful ring...the girl runs off the court and the guy leaves the opposite direction dejected. Poor guy.

Second- this one kinda creeped me out afterward. We had a piano recital and one of the mom's of one of the young men who played came up and commented on how much Cassidy has turned into a young woman......talking the physical sense her, how she was getting the curves in the right places. This woman and I are friends and I was so uncomfortable...felt like she was sizing Cassidy up for this young man. She did come back and go to mundane stuff. These two will be in marching band together next year. Would you have been creeped out? or am I really nuts?

Bummer on the second proposal! That would be really depressing.

As to the comments on Cassidy. I'm always uncomfortable with people talking about my kids in this way. There are just things that really shouldn't be commented on. I'm sure it was probably innocent, but I would feel creeped out, too.

 

[UP Disney]

I'm so excited. I just got my tie-dye airwalks from Marti. They are so pretty!!!! I immediately took off my plain blue ones and put these on. Thanks Marti. I'm sorry they didn't work for you but your loss is definitely my gain. Now, if only I could win the lottery so that I could convince my DH that I can afford to go on the DDA trip (of course, I'd probably have to buy a lottery ticket first). I'm so jealous of those of you that are going to be able to meet. The DC meet is out for me because that is while I'm at Girl Scout camp. I'm going to keep my eyes on future meets though.

 

[Moonbeams]

Paula -- Where in NorCal do you live? I was born in San Jose, grew up in Los Gatos and Danville, then went to school at Santa Clara University. All my mom's side of the family is still in SF, Napa, SJ, San Bruno, Sacramento, etc.

Jennifer

 

[Moonbeams]

Theresa -- I got all my girl curves early. And family friends and relatives were always commenting on it to me. I made me sooooo uncomfortable. In hindsight, I think they were really commenting on how much and how quickly I had changed. With a younger child you would say "Look how tall you got" and what you really also mean is that they are growing up so fast. Commenting on a young woman's curves is the same thing as commenting how fast she has grown up. But it feels different due to the s#x aspect to it. I wouldn't worry about it. And I'd try to make Cassidy feel like it is nice to be noticed vs. being creeped out by it. A lot of young women feel invisible, so if you can help her see that she is beautiful and noticeable, maybe she won't feel so invisible.

Jennifer

 

[UP Disney]

Theresa -- I got all my girl curves early. And family friends and relatives were always commenting on it to me. I made me sooooo uncomfortable. In hindsight, I think they were really commenting on how much and how quickly I had changed. With a younger child you would say "Look how tall you got" and what you really also mean is that they are growing up so fast. Commenting on a young woman's curves is the same thing as commenting how fast she has grown up. But it feels different due to the s#x aspect to it. I wouldn't worry about it. And I'd try to make Cassidy feel like it is nice to be noticed vs. being creeped out by it. A lot of young women feel invisible, so if you can help her see that she is beautiful and noticeable, maybe she won't feel so invisible.

Jennifer

I wouldn't know about any of this since I still don't have "those" curves. My poor girls have the same afflliction as me.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

Theresa

although the woman's comments might have been inappropriate - she probably didn't mean anything by them - does she have daughters or only a son - this might be why she didn't think it was inapporpriate - I wouldn't worry baout it

as for the second proposal - how could he have no idea that she might say no - although maybe he did it so publicly so she would say yes - I would say that she is a total ***** and he is better off without her b/c any woman with a heart would have said yes and then let him down privately at a later time to spare him the public embarassment

 

[ellenbenny]

Here are a few pictures of the birthday girl.

Tammi, Alyssa is absolutely beautiful! I'm glad she enjoyed her birthday and that you all had a nice dinner.

 

[Glynis]

as for the second proposal - how could he have no idea that she might say no - although maybe he did it so publicly so she would say yes - I would say that she is a total ***** and he is better off without her b/c any woman with a heart would have said yes and then let him down privately at a later time to spare him the public embarassment

I thought the same thing! Why in the world would you propose to someone without a pretty good idea that they would say yes? Alan and I discussed marriage at length long before he ever proposed. We both knew it was where we were heading.

 

[yellowfish78]

Amy - How was lunch?

 

[Glynis]

Can I just say that you people are making it incredibly difficult for me to come up with excuses NOT to study for my last final? This has been a really slow day, and you've left me with nothing to do but catch up on my cramming.

 

[tmfranlk]

And if you still want to go to Cracker Barrell - there's one on the 192 - just to the right of the Sherberth Road exit - by Animal Kingdom Lodge

I'll just hit Mom and Dad up for taking me a couple of tweeks later when they are here!! We stayed right by that Cracker Barrel when I tagged along with Mom and Dad last year and never could make it over there. Even the nights I wanted to just grab a dessert to go we missed the closing time.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

I thought the same thing! Why in the world would you propose to someone without a pretty good idea that they would say yes? Alan and I discussed marriage at length long before he ever proposed. We both knew it was where we were heading.

Steve knew I would say yes

we got married on New Year's Eve and the year before and the year after our wedding we attended 23 weddings!!!

For a while before he proposed to me - it seemed like every conversation went like this

K: "Guess who got engaged"
S: "Who?"
K: "NOT ME!!" followed by who had gotten engaged

we got engaged right before Christmas and Nancy told him if my Christmas present wasn't small and shiny - he didn't need to come to Christmas dinner he knew I was ready!!!! Luckily Steve already had the ring!!!

 

[tmfranlk]

Thanks Glynis. I've missed being able to chat with everyone on here. How far away from you is your mother?

We didn't end up at IHOP. Once I told her that they don't sing happy birthday at IHOP she opted for the 'peanut place' (where you get a bucket of peanuts on the table and you can throw the shells on the floor), otherwise known as Logan's Steakhouse. YUM! Our waiter took her up front and center in the restaurant and announced to everyone that it was her 4th bday and everyone sang. She felt so special. I will post some pics when I have time.

YUM!! That's another favorite of mine. I LOVE their rolls. I was so happy to find a place near Boston that is either the same company or at least close enough!

 

[tmfranlk]

Did I miss something? Tia… are you crashing the DDA meet? If you are I am one jealous lady. I won’t hold it against you, but I may not be able to reply to your posts for a few days, it might hurt too much knowing that you are going and I am not.






Ok, I’ve changed my mind; I will be jealous and reply to your posts. (I will just cry inside)

If it helps, maybe I'll crash a trip of yours to DL!

 

[babytrees]

Thanks all for the support with Cassidy, the poor girl has her mom's affliction of b&b. Thankfully Cassidy wasn't around to hear the comments...then I would have been totally mortified. I did try and get her back on the benign...how Cassidy has gotten taller and that. Her response was well yeah she's got the right curves..... . It had me wondering if her son had said something to her. He is her one and only so I am not sure she's been around enough teenage girls to know that it's odd.

As soon as I saw the girl run off the court I turned to Jim and said why the heck would anyone propose, espescially in front of a national audience, if you were not 100% sure the girl was going to say yes. The girl was dressed like a hootchie mama so I also said her was better off without her!!

 

[KMH1]

Amy - How was lunch?

Fattening!

Thanks for the head's up on the AAA discount!

Amy

 

[KMH1]

The night before Kevin was planning on proposing to me, we were driving to my friend's rehearsal dinner, and we got into an argument about his mom paying for the refinishing of our hardwood floors (I was adament that I didn't want her to pay for it!). I got so mad, I blurted out, "If you were to propose to me right now, I'd say no!!!!" (real mature, I know )

Luckily, he knew it was one of my hot-headed moments, and he still proposed the next day before we left to go to my friend's wedding. I tried to keep it a secret all night, because I didn't want to take anything away from her day, but I did tell her before we left the reception. I also relented and "let" his mom pay for the floors, and now I wish, she'd volunteer to pay for more things like that!

Amy

 

[KMH1]

Glynis, congratulations on passing your 2000th post! Good luck with your cramming.

Tammi, great pictures of Alyssa!

Dawn, I'm glad that Christopher had a good swimming lesson!

I'm glad to read that the sick kiddos are feeling better today, but here's some more to help soothe those daily frustrating moments with other people who rub us the wrong way!

Amy

 

[Cinderumbrella]

I wouldn't know about any of this since I still don't have "those" curves. My poor girls have the same afflliction as me.

I'm still waiting for mine too!!!!!!!! The only time my girls ever looked their best was in the first few weeks of my pregnancy. I jumped a full cup size in a matter of days and my co-workers wondered if I had them "done" (I wish ). But my boss was too clever, she put 2+2 together fast and realized that I was pregnant...
But seriously, that might make me a little uncomfortable hearing someone talk that way about my child....