The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 30

[Blueeyes101817]

Morning all! HAPPY FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!!!

off to work, then coming home to do nothng tonight!

have a great day

 

[tinknme]

I can take trips without them, I have had 2 at Disney where they were not with me. I went to Europe with Gary & now we are going to Vegas. When my mother was alive Gary & I took a lot of trips & the boys stayed with her. My boys are growing & someday they will be out on their own. I want every moment I can have with them now & Disney is a place we all enjoy together. To see their faces & reactions is priceless, I want these memories for us all.

As for the gifts, my boys don't expect them.

Ok moms and Tom. You all will probably not speak to me ever again but, I need to ask this question.

Why? to the bold in Janet's post. I have read this a lot on all boards here and just can't figure it out.

I know everyone loves their kids and wants to take them places or do things with them, but why can't you do things without them and more then once?
When Dawn and I were young, my parents went to a lot of places without us. We might get sad that they were going to be away, but we understood that kids don't always go and we didn't expect to go the next time that they went. We also didn't expect a gift(s) just because we couldn't go.

 

[tinknme]

Chanon hope I did not upset you, I was not making fun of you

 

[tinknme]

Deb we all want to go back to US, but I am going to wait for the Harry Potter park to open.

 

[tinknme]

I have to drop Camy off at the vet & then head to work, have a great morning all!

 

[bethbuchall]

So I have a serious question from Cassidy:

She is starting to try and start looking at colleges and she said I could ask the DDA because she trusts you all

Where did you go to college and would you recommend it to her??

So that you know...she is looking at music or teaching....or both if her mom has her way She is definitely a fine arts kid.

I can't keep up with all of you! But I knew this was going to be a hard week for that.

I went to Johns Hopkins for 1 year and then transferred to RIT (Rochester Institute of Technology). They were both great schools, but I don't think either would be right for what she wants to do.

We are doing the same for Matthew. I think he is looking for a Pharmacy program right now which limits where he can go. He also wants to stay in the north east. If anyone has any recommendations, let us know (though I hope I don't miss the posts).

Have a great day, DDA! I don't think I'll be back until Monday.

Also, could someone please e-mail or PM me if there are any more updates on Rees (or anything else big going on for someone). Thanks!

 

[yellowfish78]

Chanon hope I did not upset you, I was not making fun of you

No worries!

 

[Tammi67]

Ok moms and Tom. You all will probably not speak to me ever again but, I need to ask this question.

Why? to the bold in Janet's post. I have read this a lot on all boards here and just can't figure it out.

I know everyone loves their kids and wants to take them places or do things with them, but why can't you do things without them and more then once?
When Dawn and I were young, my parents went to a lot of places without us. We might get sad that they were going to be away, but we understood that kids don't always go and we didn't expect to go the next time that they went. We also didn't expect a gift(s) just because we couldn't go.

Luckily I don't have this problem with my kids. I have gone to WDW twice now without them and they were fine with it, as long as I promised to bring them back something. But maybe it's because they are only 7 & 5, not closer to preteen/teenage years. I think the answer in this situation is that it's because it's DISNEY, a place that our kids love just as much as we do. I would venture to bet if a lot of parents told their kids they were going to San Fransisco or Boston or Washington, DC for an adult vacation, they wouldn't get the same grief that they get when they go to WDW without them.

 

[tmfranlk]

Thank you! I somehow missed the fact all these months that Rachel is your sister! Is there an odd circumstance there, or was she just a surprise? My youngest sister will be 16 in March. She was a surprise.

Yup, BIG surprise. As a friend of my mom's once told her "she was so kind so go to such lengths to teach her teenagers that birth control isn't 100% reliable." She was born just before I turned 20. Kristi was 17 and Erin was 15.

 

[KristineN]

Well, for us there are child care issues...in some ways it is a LOT easier taking them with.

I absolutely enjoyed the trip to WDW just Bill & I...but not sure how soon we would do it again w/out them. We just have such a crazy/fun time with all of them (remind me that I said that)

As far as gifts...I think we spent $25 bucks a kid...more trinkety type stuff...I'm not sure they expected it or not...but we enjoyed getting the stuff and giving it to them.

Ok moms and Tom. You all will probably not speak to me ever again but, I need to ask this question.

Why? to the bold in Janet's post. I have read this a lot on all boards here and just can't figure it out.

I know everyone loves their kids and wants to take them places or do things with them, but why can't you do things without them and more then once?
When Dawn and I were young, my parents went to a lot of places without us. We might get sad that they were going to be away, but we understood that kids don't always go and we didn't expect to go the next time that they went. We also didn't expect a gift(s) just because we couldn't go.

 

[Mommy2EmMoLu]

Morning all...

I need some opinions on a situation.

I have 2 girlfriends that I've known since 8th grade. We have been getting together every year since 10th grade on Christmas Eve. Of the 2, Amy lives about 40 minutes from me and Dana. Amy is the one who just had a baby in Sept. I emailed them both the other day to start thinking about Christmas Eve since it is my turn to host it.

Amy emailed me back wanting to know if we could get together on the 22nd or 23rd instead. She says that with her taking maternity leave she will have to work Xmas eve and she is not sure if she will get out early. I know a ton of people who work for the govt, which she does, and it is almost a guarantee that she will get out early.

Now this is not the first time that Xmas eve has fell on a work day but it is her first with a new baby. Dana and I think that she is getting pulled from her family and other friends to spend Christmas Eve with them and doesn't want to tell us.

I don't want to sound mean but I really think that we need to keep it to Xmas eve. We've done it that way every year for the last 18, with the exception of one year. Amy's fiance at the time, had to work. Dana and I hated it, it just didn't feel right. We really like the tradition of the whole night. And it's nice that our husbands and children are a part of it now too. Even my Jewish husband feels strongly that it should be Xmas eve. And my family does Xmas breakfast on the Sunday before Xmas and Dana gets together with her DH's family the Saturday before so it would be hard to find a time that works for the 2 of us.

So your opinions please:

Do we keep it Xmas eve and tell Amy to get there when she can. The earliest we would get together would be 5pm but most likely 6pm.

Or do we change it to the weekend.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Thank you for answering.

Also want you to know I'm not picking on you. You were just the first to post about not being able to go agin without the kids. I see that type of post on the CB a lot and like I stated could never figure out why.

I can take trips without them, I have had 2 at Disney where they were not with me. I went to Europe with Gary & now we are going to Vegas. When my mother was alive Gary & I took a lot of trips & the boys stayed with her. My boys are growing & someday they will be out on their own. I want every moment I can have with them now & Disney is a place we all enjoy together. To see their faces & reactions is priceless, I want these memories for us all.

As for the gifts, my boys don't expect them.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Thank you for answering.

Luckily I don't have this problem with my kids. I have gone to WDW twice now without them and they were fine with it, as long as I promised to bring them back something. But maybe it's because they are only 7 & 5, not closer to preteen/teenage years. I think the answer in this situation is that it's because it's DISNEY, a place that our kids love just as much as we do. I would venture to bet if a lot of parents told their kids they were going to San Fransisco or Boston or Washington, DC for an adult vacation, they wouldn't get the same grief that they get when they go to WDW without them.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Thank you for answering.

Well, for us there are child care issues...in some ways it is a LOT easier taking them with.

I absolutely enjoyed the trip to WDW just Bill & I...but not sure how soon we would do it again w/out them. We just have such a crazy/fun time with all of them (remind me that I said that)

As far as gifts...I think we spent $25 bucks a kid...more trinkety type stuff...I'm not sure they expected it or not...but we enjoyed getting the stuff and giving it to them.

 

[tinker1bell]

Apparently it's really funny. I have cats that sleep on my pillow above my head AND Bob has this habit of pushing all the covers off him to the foot of the bed. They then somehow get tangled in his feet, and I can never get them back to where they belong. So I scooch down. I guess I'm used to sleeping all scrunched up at the foot of the bed.

I guess that would be funny. Hal takes the covers too, so I have a blanket for myself that i wrap around me. Sometimes I look like a mummy

 

[Pooh67_68]

Robyn

I would keep it Christmas Eve and just tell Amy to get there when she can.

 

[tmfranlk]

So I have a serious question from Cassidy:

She is starting to try and start looking at colleges and she said I could ask the DDA because she trusts you all

Where did you go to college and would you recommend it to her??

So that you know...she is looking at music or teaching....or both if her mom has her way She is definitely a fine arts kid.

I went to a small private school in OK - Oklahoma City University. They have a nice music program with a beautiful new music building! Dance, music and vocal music are one of their bigger "schools" in the university. One of the girls I knew in college, Kelli O'Hara, is now on Broadway and has been nominated twice for a Tony Award. It's small and not in the most exciting place, but I liked it and really liked knowing the faculty as I would sometimes have them for a couple of classes over the years. The teaching department is not large, but is good. The school has been growing since I graduated and has several beautiful, new buildings.

Phil studied music at Pomona College in CA. He studied primarily Music Composition and has nothing but raves about the music department. He actually wanted to study psychology, but the composition staff was so spectacular at that time that he felt he would be remiss to miss the opportunity. He has nothing but good things to say about the school. He took me to the campus one time and it is beautiful! It is just north of Los Angeles.

 

[tinker1bell]

Ok moms and Tom. You all will probably not speak to me ever again but, I need to ask this question.

Why? to the bold in Janet's post. I have read this a lot on all boards here and just can't figure it out.

I know everyone loves their kids and wants to take them places or do things with them, but why can't you do things without them and more then once?
When Dawn and I were young, my parents went to a lot of places without us. We might get sad that they were going to be away, but we understood that kids don't always go and we didn't expect to go the next time that they went. We also didn't expect a gift(s) just because we couldn't go.

I think it is the dynamics of each family and how it is presented. For the five of us kids, it was a matter of money and we understood. We were not happy but we understood.
I know that Hal and I told the kids that there were times we would go away alone and then times we would take them. Us going away did not always mean gifts either.

For my family, I think once I can get them there in three years, they will finally see why I love going so much. We unfortunately did not go to WDW when the kids were young except for a day trip. It was a matter of money and probably not enough knowledge about it.

 

[my3princes]

Deb we all want to go back to US, but I am going to wait for the Harry Potter park to open.

I'm thinking it's a good excuse to go to Orlando and it will give me a night at MNSSHP. Chris and the boys really enjoy the rides at US and we haven't been in years. Chris also wants a trip to stay onsight to have front of the line priveledges. I'm selfish and don't want to give up WDW time if we are going for a WDW trip. Since we won't have APs next October this could make us all happy

Has anyone stayed onsight at US? Is the Club level worth the cost? So many questions that I have no idea about.

Luckily I don't have this problem with my kids. I have gone to WDW twice now without them and they were fine with it, as long as I promised to bring them back something. But maybe it's because they are only 7 & 5, not closer to preteen/teenage years. I think the answer in this situation is that it's because it's DISNEY, a place that our kids love just as much as we do. I would venture to bet if a lot of parents told their kids they were going to San Fransisco or Boston or Washington, DC for an adult vacation, they wouldn't get the same grief that they get when they go to WDW without them.

We brought the kids back gifts because we wanted too, they were just happy to have us home. Our kids were fine with us being gone. For us WDW is our "Family Place". Whenever we talk about a family vacation it always ends up back there. The kids were good about us going, but they were very envious of everything we did. That being said if we wanted to go anywhere else in the World they would gladly send us off alone

Morning all...

I need some opinions on a situation.

I have 2 girlfriends that I've known since 8th grade. We have been getting together every year since 10th grade on Christmas Eve. Of the 2, Amy lives about 40 minutes from me and Dana. Amy is the one who just had a baby in Sept. I emailed them both the other day to start thinking about Christmas Eve since it is my turn to host it.

Amy emailed me back wanting to know if we could get together on the 22nd or 23rd instead. She says that with her taking maternity leave she will have to work Xmas eve and she is not sure if she will get out early. I know a ton of people who work for the govt, which she does, and it is almost a guarantee that she will get out early.

Now this is not the first time that Xmas eve has fell on a work day but it is her first with a new baby. Dana and I think that she is getting pulled from her family and other friends to spend Christmas Eve with them and doesn't want to tell us.

I don't want to sound mean but I really think that we need to keep it to Xmas eve. We've done it that way every year for the last 18, with the exception of one year. Amy's fiance at the time, had to work. Dana and I hated it, it just didn't feel right. We really like the tradition of the whole night. And it's nice that our husbands and children are a part of it now too. Even my Jewish husband feels strongly that it should be Xmas eve. And my family does Xmas breakfast on the Sunday before Xmas and Dana gets together with her DH's family the Saturday before so it would be hard to find a time that works for the 2 of us.

So your opinions please:

Do we keep it Xmas eve and tell Amy to get there when she can. The earliest we would get together would be 5pm but most likely 6pm.

Or do we change it to the weekend.

We have found over the years that traditions change. Everyone's lives are so busy with so many people pulling us this way or that. Our holidays have changed so much over the last 15 years and while things seem strange for a year or two the new tradition will take hold at some point. Change is hard, but often necessary. I say pick a date that works for all and create a new Christmas Eve Tradition.

I have always taken my kids trick or treating and couldn't imagine not being able to, but the schedule for next week was made out a week early due to my boss leaving town to care for his wife. I am scheduled to work on Halloween. While I am disappointed life will go on. I will get them ready and my Mom and/or Chris will do the honors this year. Disappointed yes, end of the world, no.

 

[my3princes]

I guess it is a good thing that I was up early today as I just spend the last 3 hours stressing over Hunter's kid party tomorrow. The plan was mini golf, but the weather forecast is a complete washout I tried bowling, rock climbing, swimming and movies, but nothing worked out. I was at wits end and just decided to have the party at the golf place as the table is under cover, we would just have to come up with activities at the table. Then it dawned on me that there is a new pizza place that just opened and my Mother does a ton of business with them. I met the man yesterday and he was so nice. Mom had him call me and he is willing to do a party for us. He will also let the kids make their own pizzas and cook them. I know the kids will love this . Now I'm searching around for chef hats and aprons for the kids. I'll have to come up with a couple of quiet games too to help pass time. I'm excited, I think this will be more fun than mini golf