Well, I was on the phone the entire day today. I talked with 3 of my friends who are long term nannies, I talked with the placement agent, I talked with DH. DH said there is just something about the job that pays all that money that he can't quite place. Somethign that makes him a little uneasy. The more I thought about it, the more I thought that as the time to start that job approached the more apprehensive I would feel. I really wanted the job with the little girl. I hemmed and hawed, and I finally called the agent and told her that I am just not comfortable and I don't think that job with all the money would be s good fit for me long term. Obviously she was not happy to hear that, but at least she wasn't ugly. Then I called the mom with the little girl and told her they win! They are the family I want to work for.
It is NOT less money, it is more, just not as MUCH more as the other family. But this little girl loves to go out and do things like Chuck E. Cheese which DS also loves and would have been off limits in that other job. So I was really happy. Until...
Momboss came home and I told her I chose a family and I will start either June 18 or 25. She freaked out on me and told me that I basically stabbed her in the back and that tomorrow will be my last day.

She said we had a deal. Um, yes. The deal is that if I find a job before the end of August that I will TAKE IT and give them as much notice as I can. I think a MONTH notice is pretty generous, considering my written contract says two weeks. But this is an at-will employment state so if she wants me to be fired tomorrow then that's that. I told her it is a MONTH away and that I don't think she really wants for me to leave like this, but she was FURIOUS and said that I have to do what's best for my family and she has to do what's best for hers. So, leaving the kids alone after tomorrow is best? School is over! Or bringing in a stranger to temp for them is best for her family? Or treating me like dirt when I have NEVER concealed any of my interviews or intentions is best for her family? Hmm. OK.
Dadboss came in just as she told me to get out. So I very calmly and politely explained to Dadboss that I did choose a family and that I would let the new family know I couldn't start before June 25. He thought for a second, said that gives them more than a month to find a replacement and that will be fine. And he congratulated me. He was very nice and didn't yell at me or tell me I am fired. So we'll see what sort of greeting I get tomorrow. I told Momboss to call my friend who said she will help out, but I almost think she doesn't WANT a solution - she wants to be mad at me.