The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 18

[UP Disney]

We are having our own little drama here. DS Scott (18yo) brought a "friend" home with him for a couple of days. She is leaving in the morning, which was the plan from the start, but now they are fighting, he thinks he's awful because he said something to offend her that he didn't mean and got defensive when she tried to talk about it, yada, yada, yada.

Well, she is nice and all, and I feel bad for him but.....

I will be happy just to have Scott to myself finally, after him being away for 4 months. And they are just so young that I don't think they should be taking things so seriously anyway. Well, let's just say I won't feel awful when she goes, but I do feel bad for him, and I know how hard relationships are when you're young.

Meanwhile, DS and DDIL were over with the baby last night for dinner, and they are doing great, but DDIL does not want to put the baby down or let anyone else hold her, which I understand to some degree, but on the other hand she needs to let us help a little.

Life is always interesting anyway.....

It is too bad that she doesn't ask for more help. I know I wanted all that I could get when my girls were born. It made me feel great to have others hold her and help me out.

I am very happy that I won't be the mother of the groom. I know that I really wanted help from my mother when I had my babies. My MIL is not a baby person so I'm not sure if I would have asked for more from her or not. I know I had to force her to hold my babies so that I could get a picture of them with their grandmother. She smoked like a fiend for many years and we thought we'd lose her when the kids were tiny. I'm so glad that she stopped smoking and she is still with us. The girls have a great relationship with her now. She just really doesn't care for babies.

I'm sorry that Scott is having problems with his GF. I know that I'm not thrilled with Katrina's BF. He was supposed to bring her home for a dentist appt. today and at the last minute decided that he didn't want to so she had to cancel it. I have to remember when she has to come home that I have to make plans to go get her because this isn't the first time it happened. I sure wish she would realize that she shouldn't put up with things like this.

 

[UP Disney]

Your DDIL sounds like a typical first time mommy. I had a really hard time letting anybody hold Katie. I just wanted her all to myself. Finally, my mother took me aside and told me that I was potentially hurting Katie, as she wasn't getting used to anyone but me, and that could make things difficult for both of us as she got older.

Let's hope your DDIL gets it sooner rather than later.

I was soooo not like that with either of mine. When we were alone, I definitely took advantage of all the hugs & snuggles. However, when others were around, the more attention they got from others, the better in my mind. When Katrina was only a couple of weeks old, they had a baby shower for me (she was 5 weeks early and the party had been scheduled for 2 weeks before I was due). All the ladies had fun oohing and aahing over her. I was the first in our group to have kids.

 

[my3princes]

Hi everyone!!! 100 more pages for a total of 130 since I left....Christmas around the corner...ummm...I don't think I've doing any catching up. We had a GREAT time!!! Unfortunatley, my phone was being stupid and I didn't get to meet up with Bernadette. In the course of our 10 days we did nearly everything that we wanted to. We missed a couple of MK shows due to timing and missed out on meeting Annie as she was out on a mission that day so Terra was a little sad about that.

It was amazing the crowd difference between yesterday and the rest of the week. Granted we were at MK on a Sunday, but even MGM was kind of busy. The crowd prep was on though as Sunday there were suddenly many more chains set up to accommodate longer lines this week.

Thank you for all of the wonderful Christmas cards we came up to! Your families are just beautiful. Vicki, I especially liked the bookmarks. Very touching especially after having just made my trip to visit with Goofy on Saturday night. Denise, the Leave a Legacy tile looks great.

If there is anything big that I missed out on, please catch me up. Otherwise, I'll try to grasp what I can as I follow along this week. Hopefully, I'll make it on some this week, but it's looking like a crazy one trying to get ready for Christmas and finish Rachel's new room (or at least make it sleepable).

I hope that everyone is doing well. You have all be in my thoughts and prayers this week. I took over 1200 pictures myself (not including the 100s of not so great ones that I deleted due to a storage issue...more on that later) plus have 235 on PhotoPass. Once I can do a little sorting I'll get some posted in the next week or so. I'll try to get a mini trip report up as well. We had so many highlights that I want to share as soon as I can!!!

Merry Christmas week everyone!

Welcome back. We missed you too. Can't wait to here more about your trip. Last night we had a nice time chatting amongst ourselves. It has been a long time since so many of us were able to get together. Take a deep breath and enjoy the holidays.

Deb

 

[my3princes]

Chris and the boys should be home from Karate soon so I guess that I'd better come up with something to feed them. Be back later.

Deb

 

[ellenbenny]

It is too bad that she doesn't ask for more help. I know I wanted all that I could get when my girls were born. It made me feel great to have others hold her and help me out.

I am very happy that I won't be the mother of the groom. I know that I really wanted help from my mother when I had my babies. My MIL is not a baby person so I'm not sure if I would have asked for more from her or not. I know I had to force her to hold my babies so that I could get a picture of them with their grandmother. She smoked like a fiend for many years and we thought we'd lose her when the kids were tiny. I'm so glad that she stopped smoking and she is still with us. The girls have a great relationship with her now. She just really doesn't care for babies.

I'm sorry that Scott is having problems with his GF. I know that I'm not thrilled with Katrina's BF. He was supposed to bring her home for a dentist appt. today and at the last minute decided that he didn't want to so she had to cancel it. I have to remember when she has to come home that I have to make plans to go get her because this isn't the first time it happened. I sure wish she would realize that she shouldn't put up with things like this.

Thanks Vicki, I guess I was more like you, because I would have loved all the help I could get when I had my babies, but I didn't even have any family in town with the first one, and noone came to visit right away. I was only 22 years old, and I was exhausted and emotional and nervous, so help would have been appreciated. And my mother is a little like your MIL, not exactly into babies.

And I have always said that having only boys isn't such a great thing later on, because I believe that girls are usually closer with their mothers than boys are, and that couples tend to spend more time with the girls family. Although I'm sure there are exceptions to that, it seems true with many families that I know.

 

[UP Disney]

Thanks Vicki, I guess I was more like you, because I would have loved all the help I could get when I had my babies, but I didn't even have any family in town with the first one, and noone came to visit right away. I was only 22 years old, and I was exhausted and emotional and nervous, so help would have been appreciated. And my mother is a little like your MIL, not exactly into babies.

And I have always said that having only boys isn't such a great thing later on, because I believe that girls are usually closer with their mothers than boys are, and that couples tend to spend more time with the girls family. Although I'm sure there are exceptions to that, it seems true with many families that I know.

That would have been my concern with boys. I know that we are closer to my family than to Chuck's. Part of that is that his parents aren't as affectionate as mine. I know Mom is a lot more worried about her relationship with my brothers wife for the reasons you listed.

 

[mommykds]

Tammi, Ellen, & Glynis,

Thanks for the Christmas cards!!!!!!!

 

[ellenbenny]

That would have been my concern with boys. I know that we are closer to my family than to Chuck's. Part of that is that his parents aren't as affectionate as mine. I know Mom is a lot more worried about her relationship with my brothers wife for the reasons you listed.

I was definitely not terribly close with my x-MIL, just didn't hit it off too well with her, although she is the one that came and helped me out when my 2nd DS was born, my mother never offered.

Now I am very close with my current MIL, but I never had her around when I had my babies, so not sure how that would have gone as she can be somewhat controlling. But I actually enjoy my MIL's company more than my own mother. I feel bad saying that, I love my mother very much, but we just don't have as much in common. And yet I still have always been close to her, just don't always enjoy it as much as I would like to.

My DH's family is all local, so we get together with them more than with my family, but with my family, my sister and BIL and DH and I definitely spend way more time with my Mom than my brother and SIL do.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Welcome to Tree 2006, Part 2! We bought a tree at Target with no lights. DH bought some separate lights to go on it. Multi colored.

So my big, beautiful, white lighted, musical tree is being packed back in the box and this new tree will go up. Stupid cat. I told DH we should put her in the kennel until after Christmas so I can have my fabulous tree. But he said no. Boarding the cat for a week would cost almost as much as a second tree, and we already bought a second tree. Might as well just deal with it.

 

[mommykds]

Jen,
Sorry...

 

[Tammi67]

Got the card today, Tom. Beautiful. Thanks!

Welcome home Tia.

Ellen - sorry for all the drama regarding your son. Hopefully DDIL will wisen up as time goes by. Right now she is still on cloud 9 so after she comes down a little maybe she will be more appreciative of the help.

Elizabeth - what is up with your crazy cat? I never heard of a cat that liked to chew on wires. I wonder what the attraction is. Mine prefers to chew on the needles.

 

[tinknme]

Evening all!

Tammi for getting the 2 bedroom at OKW

Jen I am sorry to hear about the break-up

Elizabeth I keep picturing the cat in Christmas Vacation

Welcome back Tia!

Amy sounds like you have been very busy! Wish I loved to bake like some of you, but it is just not in me lol

I have the next 3 days off from work Hopefully my curtains will get put up!

 

[PNO4TE]

And I thought they (Tim and Ty) said the project wasn't going to interfere with RL very much. I sure am glad I didn't sign up!

You and me both! I would have let down the team.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Ellen - Well, maybe DS won't bring friends home for break anymore! I am so not looking forward to that sort of thing! Hopefully DDIL will lighten up and accept a little help. (Or even just learn to share the baby!) My sister's baby wouldn't tolerate any of us last Christmas - she was 3 months old. After awhile it comes back to haunt moms who constantly hold their babies (meaning they never put them down) and moms who never let anyone else hold the baby. When DS was born my mom came by occasionally, but there were more nannies than you could shake a stick at! Plus all the moms from the play group my little charges attended.

Tia - Welcome home! I'm looking forward to hearing more about your trip!

Elin & Jen - Thank you for the e-cards!!

Deb - Thank you for the updated address list!

Vicki - Thank you for telling me the list was in my e-mail! Amazing what all I found in there!

Tammi - My friend has a theory that the cat chews because we declawed her. She chews other things, too. Like the spindles on the back of my dining room chairs, the wooden knobs on the dresser in the bedroom, the cord to the fax machine (which I finally unplugged), my Crocs. She chews like a puppy! But she will be 2 years old in April so she should be past chewing ANYTHING!

 

[ReAnSt]

Thank you Jen, Elin, Tammi, Ellen, Glynis, and Tom for your card, e-card or postcard. They made my day much nicer. I love seeing everyone's handwriting, as typing is just not the same thing.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

We are taking a break from tree drama. The old tree is all packed safe in the box. The new tree is still in the box because I just can't seem to make a decision about whether or not I really want to put it up. I couldn't face another evening of arranging branches. So now we are back where we started.

 

[ellenbenny]

We are taking a break from tree drama. The old tree is all packed safe in the box. The new tree is still in the box because I just can't seem to make a decision about whether or not I really want to put it up. I couldn't face another evening of arranging branches. So now we are back where we started.

Have you ever tried the bitter apple spray to try to stop the chewing? I have to admit I've never had a problem with a cat chewing, and I have had declawed cats, so I'm not sure I agree that's the cause, but who knows? We used the bitter apple spray to try to get our dog to stop chewing when she was a puppy and had mild success, but I have heard it works on cats too.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Hi everyone!!! 100 more pages for a total of 130 since I left....Christmas around the corner...ummm...I don't think I've doing any catching up. We had a GREAT time!!! Unfortunatley, my phone was being stupid and I didn't get to meet up with Bernadette. In the course of our 10 days we did nearly everything that we wanted to. We missed a couple of MK shows due to timing and missed out on meeting Annie as she was out on a mission that day so Terra was a little sad about that.

It was amazing the crowd difference between yesterday and the rest of the week. Granted we were at MK on a Sunday, but even MGM was kind of busy. The crowd prep was on though as Sunday there were suddenly many more chains set up to accommodate longer lines this week.

Thank you for all of the wonderful Christmas cards we came up to! Your families are just beautiful. Vicki, I especially liked the bookmarks. Very touching especially after having just made my trip to visit with Goofy on Saturday night. Denise, the Leave a Legacy tile looks great.

If there is anything big that I missed out on, please catch me up. Otherwise, I'll try to grasp what I can as I follow along this week. Hopefully, I'll make it on some this week, but it's looking like a crazy one trying to get ready for Christmas and finish Rachel's new room (or at least make it sleepable).

I hope that everyone is doing well. You have all be in my thoughts and prayers this week. I took over 1200 pictures myself (not including the 100s of not so great ones that I deleted due to a storage issue...more on that later) plus have 235 on PhotoPass. Once I can do a little sorting I'll get some posted in the next week or so. I'll try to get a mini trip report up as well. We had so many highlights that I want to share as soon as I can!!!

Merry Christmas week everyone!

Welcome back!

 

[PNO4TE]

Just here long enough to say HI to everyone. I am off to eat dinner and unwind from a very long day. I did read everything up to this point and won't remember everything. But...

Deb - hope you find some answers SOON!

Tia - welcome home!

Jen -

Ellen - I am glad you will get your son to yourself soon. Also hope your DDIL gets really tired and lets you hold that darling baby!

See you in the morning, DDA!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Ellen - Bitter Apple was actually one of my very first thoughts. Until I was on my back under that tree and saw how MANY wires there are. There are MILES of wires, and they aren't very easily accessible. Well, not accessible to me with a spray bottle. Much easier for an evil cat. It turns out the reason some of the lights were out when DH plugged them back in this afternoon was because some of the spliced wires had come apart. She didn't actually manage to sever a new spot in under 6 hours. But I don't trust her.