The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 18

[my3princes]

Nope just the only one who might have still had internet.

This is a fly by posting. Just wanted to let everyone know I am doing well. My internet crashed Thursday night before midnight and well the DSL company called this morning Monday to say that I have internet again, because we had called and complained. Of course we were the first to report it and not a high priority as me and one other person has this DSL line no one else. Plus they were trying to blame it on our DSL modem.

Called a third time with a different DSL modem and they still couldn't locate our DSL modem on their system, turns out they were wrong and it really was on their end. I'm just glad it happened after my classes were pretty much finished.

I'm off to New York City in a bit for the day to go to Radio City Music Hall and hopefully the World Of Disney. Have a great day everyone. Sending prayers, and to all of you.

Becky It's good to see you posting again. Utility companies can certainly be pitas. I finally cut back on our telephone service as they couldn't make my caller id work properly. They kept saying it was my phone, but I replaced the phone and it still didn't work so instead of paying $54 a month for unlimited local, call waiting, caller id and *69, I have cut back to just a basic local plan for $18 per month. Since I don't have dialup I don't need unlimited local. I say when life throws you salt make margaritas
Have a nice time in NYC.

 

[my3princes]

58 more posts to the milestone. I'll be in and out of here today. I need to accomplish a lot and so far my nephew is being a real brat. Hopefully the time out that he is in now will reprogram him to use his best behavior when at my house. My brother is on a camping trip so he has just been with my SIL this weekend and for some reason he always becomes a brat when that happens. I have already heard enough whining and complaining to last the week

 

[tinknme]

When does everyone start arriving home from Disney?

 

[dumby]

Okay this morning it is around 18-20 degrees. DS18 told me his heater in his car does not work.

My dryer want dry my clothes and don't have money to fix it right now.

I am behind in my work. BUT I HAVE WORK and that is a good thing.

We don't have the money to buy a christmas tree and the one we had broke.

It sure is a funny thing this MONEY business kind of like men You can't live with it and you can't live without it.

and the biggest thing:

DS6 who we have custody of asked me who his real dad is. When he was 4 months old his dad, my brother, was killed in a car accident. I started babysitting him while his mom worked afer that. Finally things in her life got so out of hand (men, drugs, etc) that I asked her for custody and she let me have him. She comes to see him about every 2-6 weeks. Never a set time just whenever she remembers she has a child. What gets me is he ADORES her.

Well he has been saying things lately about me not being his real mom. (He calls me mom and his real mom by her first name.) We have both explained to him that she had some things going on in her life and it was best for him to live with me and he seemed okay with that. BUT now he wants to know who his real dad it.

We did not intentionally not tell him about my brother but he started calling DH dad and we just never really knew how to deal with it so we thought when he got old enough we would sit him down and explain it. By old enough I was thinking in his teens. NOT.

He asked me on the way to school if his real moms latest man friend was his real dad since she was his real mom. SO TONIGHT we will have a talk with him. I sure hope he can understand this and deal with it okay. My heart just breaks for him because his real mom, although she loves him, she does not want the responsibility and it is already hurting him that she gave him away.

If you all have any advise on how to handle this just post away.

Well that is my update. Hope everyone has a great week.

 

[Tammi67]

Good morning, DDA! Just a quick post to say HI!

I have a very busy day today. Lesson plans to finish, a luncheon where I am the featured speaker, a full day of teaching and then my Holiday Choral Concert at the college. I may not be on here tonight, so don't worry if I'm not!

Karen - I forgot to respond to your post last night. I would like to try to meet up with you while we are both at WDW. We need to put our itineraries together and see what might work.

Have great days, everyone!

I know I missed you, but enjoy your busy day! Where is your luncheon?

 

[Tammi67]

I'm off to New York City in a bit for the day to go to Radio City Music Hall and hopefully the World Of Disney.

Sounds like fun. Enjoy!

 

[Tammi67]

When does everyone start arriving home from Disney?

I thought today, but I could be mistaken.

 

[Tammi67]

Okay this morning it is around 18-20 degrees. DS18 told me his heater in his car does not work.

My dryer want dry my clothes and don't have money to fix it right now.

I am behind in my work. BUT I HAVE WORK and that is a good thing.

We don't have the money to buy a christmas tree and the one we had broke.

It sure is a funny thing this MONEY business kind of like men You can't live with it and you can't live without it.

and the biggest thing:

DS6 who we have custody of asked me who his real dad is. When he was 4 months old his dad, my brother, was killed in a car accident. I started babysitting him while his mom worked afer that. Finally things in her life got so out of hand (men, drugs, etc) that I asked her for custody and she let me have him. She comes to see him about every 2-6 weeks. Never a set time just whenever she remembers she has a child. What gets me is he ADORES her.

Well he has been saying things lately about me not being his real mom. (He calls me mom and his real mom by her first name.) We have both explained to him that she had some things going on in her life and it was best for him to live with me and he seemed okay with that. BUT now he wants to know who his real dad it.

We did not intentionally not tell him about my brother but he started calling DH dad and we just never really knew how to deal with it so we thought when he got old enough we would sit him down and explain it. By old enough I was thinking in his teens. NOT.

He asked me on the way to school if his real moms latest man friend was his real dad since she was his real mom. SO TONIGHT we will have a talk with him. I sure hope he can understand this and deal with it okay. My heart just breaks for him because his real mom, although she loves him, she does not want the responsibility and it is already hurting him that she gave him away.

If you all have any advise on how to handle this just post away.

Well that is my update. Hope everyone has a great week.

WOW, Delinda. I hope you can give him a good enough explanation without confusing him. My advice would be to bring out pictures of his dad, from all ages. Maybe if you had some of your family when you were all growing up. Explain to him that he was your brother, and that he died much too young. I'm not sure if I would bring up the car accident or not. Do you have pictures of DS and his dad together? That would help. I would be completely honest and not beat around the bush. However, just answer questions simply. When my grandmother died, I found that being honest and answering my kids questions without going into a lot of detail made it easier for them to understand it. Good luck.

 

[Tammi67]

OK, I have 2 hours of alone time to get things done. I need to frost Nicholas' cupcakes and take them to school at 11:30. I need to do one more load of laundry, and I would like to get the tree up and the lights on it. Then the kids can help decorate it tonight. I can't wait till I get a prelit tree and one that doesn't have to have each branch assembled! I'm going to be on the lookout for a nice one on 26th!!!

I'm going to set the laptop up in the kitchen so I can monitor things while I am working.

 

[dumby]

see below double post

 

[dumby]

WOW, Delinda. I hope you can give him a good enough explanation without confusing him. My advice would be to bring out pictures of his dad, from all ages. Maybe if you had some of your family when you were all growing up. Explain to him that he was your brother, and that he died much too young. I'm not sure if I would bring up the car accident or not. Do you have pictures of DS and his dad together? That would help. I would be completely honest and not beat around the bush. However, just answer questions simply. When my grandmother died, I found that being honest and answering my kids questions without going into a lot of detail made it easier for them to understand it. Good luck.

Thanks Tammy for the advise. I do not have any pictures of him with his dad and not sure that there are any. I will call mom to find out. And you are rigth maybe I should not mention the car accident unless he ask specifically how his dad died. I know when he was around four he heard me tell a doctor that his dad died in a car accident and he got really upset because he thought I was talking about DH so frim then on we never mentioned it.
Thanks again for the advise. Happy birthday to Nicholas. Hope you get you tree up. My niece bought one after xmas last year for 75% off. It is gorgeous.

 

[Tammi67]

Here's our Santa picture from yesterday.

 

[dumby]

Here's our Santa picture from yesterday.

OMG That is beautiful. Your children are very photogenic. I love it.

 

[dumby]

Tammy did you take that picture or was it taken at the Santa place?
That Santa looks so real.

 

[my3princes]

Okay this morning it is around 18-20 degrees. DS18 told me his heater in his car does not work.

My dryer want dry my clothes and don't have money to fix it right now.

I am behind in my work. BUT I HAVE WORK and that is a good thing.

We don't have the money to buy a christmas tree and the one we had broke.

It sure is a funny thing this MONEY business kind of like men You can't live with it and you can't live without it.

and the biggest thing:

DS6 who we have custody of asked me who his real dad is. When he was 4 months old his dad, my brother, was killed in a car accident. I started babysitting him while his mom worked afer that. Finally things in her life got so out of hand (men, drugs, etc) that I asked her for custody and she let me have him. She comes to see him about every 2-6 weeks. Never a set time just whenever she remembers she has a child. What gets me is he ADORES her.

Well he has been saying things lately about me not being his real mom. (He calls me mom and his real mom by her first name.) We have both explained to him that she had some things going on in her life and it was best for him to live with me and he seemed okay with that. BUT now he wants to know who his real dad it.

We did not intentionally not tell him about my brother but he started calling DH dad and we just never really knew how to deal with it so we thought when he got old enough we would sit him down and explain it. By old enough I was thinking in his teens. NOT.

He asked me on the way to school if his real moms latest man friend was his real dad since she was his real mom. SO TONIGHT we will have a talk with him. I sure hope he can understand this and deal with it okay. My heart just breaks for him because his real mom, although she loves him, she does not want the responsibility and it is already hurting him that she gave him away.

If you all have any advise on how to handle this just post away.

Well that is my update. Hope everyone has a great week.

No advice for you, but I'm sure you'll know how to handle it when the time comes. And we were all stressing over the kids finding out about Santa or the Easter bunny Hearing things like this sure puts other things into perspective. Good Luck.

 

[my3princes]

Here's our Santa picture from yesterday.

Was that just a snapshot? It looks like you had professional photos done. And what a great Santa. I love it!!!

 

[my3princes]

43 more posts until the milestone. It looks like I've got plenty of time to get things done at the rate this is moving. Who not vacationing needs a milestone? I'm all set, but will help get you there.

Deb

 

[MinnieMouseMom]

43 more posts until the milestone. It looks like I've got plenty of time to get things done at the rate this is moving. Who not vacationing needs a milestone? I'm all set, but will help get you there.

Deb

I do, but I'll be heading off to work after bit, so I'll help for someone else.

 

[dumby]

No advice for you, but I'm sure you'll know how to handle it when the time comes. And we were all stressing over the kids finding out about Santa or the Easter bunny Hearing things like this sure puts other things into perspective. Good Luck.

I know this is not funny but for some reason I had never thought about it this way and it really made me LOL. Thanks.

 

[Tammi67]

Tammy did you take that picture or was it taken at the Santa place?
That Santa looks so real.

Thanks, Delinda. It was taken by the elves. Yes, we are lucky. Our mall always has the "real" Santa.