The Birds and the Bees"..... would you rathher

[Big Cuddly Bear]

teach you kids about it, or have it taught to them by schools?

I would much rather I teach them than they learn it in school, if for no other reason that I will know what I told them and what I didn't, with 100% certainty.

 

[DVCLiz]

teach you kids about it, or have it taught to them by schools?

I would much rather I teach them than they learn it in school, if for no other reason that I will know what I told them and what I didn't, with 100% certainty.

I think you should add a third poll option - "On the street, where we all learned it."

 

[momof1princess]

I think you should add a third poll option - "On the street, where we all learned it."

ROFL!

 

[Handbag Lady]

You need an other.


If I were a parent, I would want to teach them. But, I would also want the school to teach them because some parents don't, and I don't want my kid to miss this lesson so the other kids would feel weird. What if there is a new STD I don't know about? What if my kid is the ONLY one not in the class, the kids would notice.

 

[Squirrel!!!]

I am medical, so am super comfortable with the conversation. My DD was a little too helpful giving a little farm education at Equestrian camp this summer as a result.

However, if I had had to wait for my mom to give the talk when I was a kid...I would still be waiting.

 

[mamacatnv]

I would choose both

DS went to public school and combined with what we taught he is well informed.

DD attends a charter school - no school program and it continually amazes me the things we haven't thought of to go over with her. I miss the safety net of the school program and the conversations it prompted.

 

[disykat]

I would also like them to get it both places.

Our district always had materials to preview if you wanted to know what they were covering, so I felt comfortable with what they were teaching. I also felt it was a great conversation starter.

 

[postage stamp]

I would also like both. I remember having questions that I could never in a million years have asked my mom, even though I KNEW my mom would answer them honestly, but I could ask Mrs. Campbell without a problem.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I voted school. I think children are actually less embarrassed to ask questions in an abstract setting then when immediately picturing their own parents.

(I don't, however, substitute for health teachers, for just this reason!)

But I agree with several other posters, that the conversation does and should continue at home.

 

[Acklander]

Another one who votes for both, because I don't know what my child missed, or what I forgot to go over or whatever. I guess I think of it like religion. Many people teach religion in the home, but still send their kids to Sunday school. It just reinforces what they learn in the home.

 

[NMAmy]

I would also like both. I remember having questions that I could never in a million years have asked my mom, even though I KNEW my mom would answer them honestly, but I could ask Mrs. Campbell without a problem.

I don't know, dd came home from school and told me, "I don't think Mrs. X knows much about sex. Some of the kids had questions and she told them they should get more information from their parents. I knew the answer but didn't tell them." Thank heavens.

I also agree with both. DD and I talked about everything from the time she was tiny so she didn't really have a problem asking me anything but I think it's good to have the school go over it as well, in case I'd forgotten something.

 

[mjkacmom]

My kids get the full disclosure around the age of 10, with numerous conversations after. Our schools teach sexuality in health in the 8th grade - way too late. I want my children to be comfortable talking to me about sex way before they're done with puberty, when the walls are up. My ds12 knows that no means no, to respect girls/women, and even if she says she's on the pill, STD's are out there, and if he gets someone pregnant, and she decides to keep the baby, he will be emotionally and financially tied to her for the rest of his life.

 

[MushyMushy]

I'd want both. I started my kids with the basics way early, so there was never one big talk. But the oldest wasn't ever comfortable hearing it, so I'd like for him to get it at school too. The youngest, well, she's a freakin sponge and wants to know everything -- even things I'm so not comfortable telling her. Like DVCLiz said, learn it on the street, kid.

 

[sunnyday123]

Defintely both. I'm very open, however DD does not want to hear anything from me-although she is getting better. She goes to a private school, so they won't do the sex ed classes ( like they should ) but they do have a class about modesty which basically tells them not to be loosie goosies and respect themselves.

I still want her to know everything else, and do talk to her-I just have to be loud because she leaves the room. I plan on getting her some Judy Bloom books.