Michelle67
<font color=darkorchid>I guess I shouldn't wonder
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I don't know anything about this family, and neither does anybody else here, really, other than that some know what is shown on television, which is an entertainment venue edited to show and focus on what they choose to show. But these threads always seem to bring up some prejudices that bother me.
I guess I have a different perspective on all of this because my husband is one of twelve children. They were miraculously raised without health insurance, and without public assistance. They didn't have any big slush fund to take care of emergencies. They lived paycheck to paycheck. My FIL worked hard all his life to support his family, and paid their bills. Yes, if one of the kids got very sick or had an accident, then there was a huge bill that was going to have to be paid somehow, a little at a time. Yes, they sometimes struggled to make ends meet. (But then, the same can often be said of parents with only one or two children) I guess some would say that my ILs had no right to have those children, since they couldn't cover everything/anything that could possibly happen. Personally, I'm glad they did, since my husband was one of the last and is a treasure whom I am very grateful to have in my life. The vast majority of his siblings have grown up to be terrific, productive members of society (a couple have gotten into some trouble along the way, but that again can also be said of only-children sometimes). They have great work ethics, and know how to be self-sufficient and live within their means. They know you have to work for what you want, and that even working hard doesn't mean you're always going to get what you want. They know how to fix and make do, instead of throw away and buy new. They learned a lot of very valuable lessons from growing up on a tight budget with a lot of other people's needs besides their own to consider.
Why do some people assume that if your family is large you must be a leech on society, raising a bunch of other leeches? Isn't that just as wrong as assuming that just because some people have only one child, that child MUST be an obnoxious, spoiled brat who is never disciplined and thinks the entire world revolves around them?
I guess I have a different perspective on all of this because my husband is one of twelve children. They were miraculously raised without health insurance, and without public assistance. They didn't have any big slush fund to take care of emergencies. They lived paycheck to paycheck. My FIL worked hard all his life to support his family, and paid their bills. Yes, if one of the kids got very sick or had an accident, then there was a huge bill that was going to have to be paid somehow, a little at a time. Yes, they sometimes struggled to make ends meet. (But then, the same can often be said of parents with only one or two children) I guess some would say that my ILs had no right to have those children, since they couldn't cover everything/anything that could possibly happen. Personally, I'm glad they did, since my husband was one of the last and is a treasure whom I am very grateful to have in my life. The vast majority of his siblings have grown up to be terrific, productive members of society (a couple have gotten into some trouble along the way, but that again can also be said of only-children sometimes). They have great work ethics, and know how to be self-sufficient and live within their means. They know you have to work for what you want, and that even working hard doesn't mean you're always going to get what you want. They know how to fix and make do, instead of throw away and buy new. They learned a lot of very valuable lessons from growing up on a tight budget with a lot of other people's needs besides their own to consider.
Why do some people assume that if your family is large you must be a leech on society, raising a bunch of other leeches? Isn't that just as wrong as assuming that just because some people have only one child, that child MUST be an obnoxious, spoiled brat who is never disciplined and thinks the entire world revolves around them?