Hay kids I'm home from home.jet lag humor!
I have to vent a little here and I hope all of you don't mind. I hate to complain, because she can't help it, but Hailey has me on my last nerve tonight. My van is being worked on and I'm currently driving a car. Well, my van has the on-board DVD player and Hailey likes to watch movies no matter how short the trip is.
On Tuesdays and Thursdays for this summer, the last therapist is taking evening classes at a local college. Because the school is on my way home and she would be late if she waited for me to get home before she left, we meet in the parking lot and Hailey switches cars and rides home with me.
Tonight when I got to the school Hailey got out of the therapist's car and when she realized I wanted her to get in the car I was driving, she had a complete meltdown. One of the big problems with autism is it causes a fixation on a routine. Well, she was having none of getting in the car. She planted her feet and grabbed onto the car door and wouldn't budge. She screamed at me the whole time I tried to get her in the car and no amount of reasoning would change her mind. I honestly think she believed the van was somewhere else in the parking lot.
Anyway, to get her in the car, we had to pry her hands off the car door and physically push her in the back seat. I belted her in, shut the door and took off. She screamed and scratched her arms or hit her legs the entire way home. Thankfully the trip only took about 10 minutes because I was ignoring the speed limit and traffic was light. At that point I was more concerned about her safety than a speeding ticket.
That one incident has thrown her off for the rest of the night. She has gone from TV to CD player to computer game and hasn't been satisfied with anything. Every minute or two she comes to get me to have me turn on something, change something, or get her something. (Bad mother to feel that way, I know). I'm having a vodka tonic now and Kenny is running interference right now to give me a little break.
Anyway, sorry to vent and I know I have now come across as a horrible, terrible mother, but I feel somewhat better just telling someone. I normally have better coping skills, but I am hormonal today and tired from a stressful day at work. But thanks for letting me vent. Wendy......are you out there......I'm rambling like you say you do.
I can only imagine how hard that was for you. Please vent here whenever the need arises
I have to vent a little here and I hope all of you don't mind. I hate to complain, because she can't help it, but Hailey has me on my last nerve tonight. My van is being worked on and I'm currently driving a car. Well, my van has the on-board DVD player and Hailey likes to watch movies no matter how short the trip is.
On Tuesdays and Thursdays for this summer, the last therapist is taking evening classes at a local college. Because the school is on my way home and she would be late if she waited for me to get home before she left, we meet in the parking lot and Hailey switches cars and rides home with me.
Tonight when I got to the school Hailey got out of the therapist's car and when she realized I wanted her to get in the car I was driving, she had a complete meltdown. One of the big problems with autism is it causes a fixation on a routine. Well, she was having none of getting in the car. She planted her feet and grabbed onto the car door and wouldn't budge. She screamed at me the whole time I tried to get her in the car and no amount of reasoning would change her mind. I honestly think she believed the van was somewhere else in the parking lot.
Anyway, to get her in the car, we had to pry her hands off the car door and physically push her in the back seat. I belted her in, shut the door and took off. She screamed and scratched her arms or hit her legs the entire way home. Thankfully the trip only took about 10 minutes because I was ignoring the speed limit and traffic was light. At that point I was more concerned about her safety than a speeding ticket.
That one incident has thrown her off for the rest of the night. She has gone from TV to CD player to computer game and hasn't been satisfied with anything. Every minute or two she comes to get me to have me turn on something, change something, or get her something. (Bad mother to feel that way, I know). I'm having a vodka tonic now and Kenny is running interference right now to give me a little break.
Anyway, sorry to vent and I know I have now come across as a horrible, terrible mother, but I feel somewhat better just telling someone. I normally have better coping skills, but I am hormonal today and tired from a stressful day at work. But thanks for letting me vent. Wendy......are you out there......I'm rambling like you say you do.
Thanks a bunch
Bad Mother???????? This is the first time you have ever expressed any frustration with Hailey's moods and the special considerations that you need to give her in order to make her feel safe and secure. I try to compare my patience or more truthfully, my lack of patience with one little girl who has ADHD tendencies with parents who run homes, work and satill maintain sanity all the while mothering children with special needs. I fail miserably next to Mom's like you.
Cold soup he would think I am crazy....gosh, I love gazpacho too.Anyway, sorry to vent and I know I have now come across as a horrible, terrible mother, but I feel somewhat better just telling someone. I normally have better coping skills, but I am hormonal today and tired from a stressful day at work. But thanks for letting me vent. Wendy......are you out there......I'm rambling like you say you do.
hugs your way. There are alot of us here anytime you need a break. This is going to be a major thing for her, empowering and scary at the same time. You are allowed to miss her, that says alot about your relationship and you as a person. She must really appreciate everything you all did for her. I know family was my strength when my ex left. Little did I know then what a favor he was doing me.
Hope you have a wonderful day!
I know you're missing her, but she must be doing better, no?
