Terri's remains after death

[Tuffcookie]

I guess the anomosity between the Schiavos and Schlindlers will continue. Michael wants to cremate Terri's remains and the Schindlers want to bury her.
At this point, why wouldn't Michael allow her parents this last wish? Or maybe Terri told him, one night when they were watching a documentary on funerals, that she would like to be cremated?

TC

 

[Keli]

I imagine that Michael is so bitter towards her family that their wishes don't hold much weight with him at this point. And vice versa if her parents had power in making this decision.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Is she dead yet? I haven't seen the news since Saturday, so I have no idea what's happened since then.

TOV

 

[Hippychickali]

It's his decision to make. It's not like her parents gave him any reason to take their wishes into consideration. Besides, if he wanted to bury her, they would probably insist on creamation.

Ali

 

[Tigger_Magic]

With all the animosity generated over this, it seems doubtful that Terri will ever rest in peace. There will be a fight over the funeral, over the remains, then the lawsuits filed over wrongful death and malpractice. This is a litigator's dream come true.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Do you know if he is getting any life insurance money from her passing?

I'm not quite clear on that ; haven't been following this that closely because I think it should really be a family matter, not plastered all over the news...

 

[Maleficent13]

This is about the only thing I will weigh in on; I have avoided all the other threads. IMO, it doesn't matter what physically happens to your remains after death; you are way past caring. It would be a show of good faith for Michael to let her parents have their way, but I can certainly understand the animosity at this point as others have said.

 

[Chattyaholic]

Are they still married, or are they divorced? I was thinking they were divorced, but I could be mistaken as I really haven't followed this much.

But if they ARE divorced he shouldn't be the one making any decisions, it should be up to her parents to decide what to do. But if they ARE still married it should be up to him, not her parents IMHO.

My DH knows I would prefer not to have a "traditional" long, dragged out funeral and burial, but to be cremated and just a short private family service. But if that doesn't happen, I'm not gonna know or care anyway!!!

 

[DawnCt1]

I guess the anomosity between the Schiavos and Schlindlers will continue. Michael wants to cremate Terri's remains and the Schindlers want to bury her.
At this point, why wouldn't Michael allow her parents this last wish? Or maybe Terri told him, one night when they were watching a documentary on funerals, that she would like to be cremated?

TC

I think that if Michael truly respected Terri's wishes he would cooperate with the parents. The Schindler's spiritual advisor said that while the Schindlers would like her buried near their home in Florida, they would at least like her to have a Catholic wake with a Catholic service. He said that the body should be present for a Catholic funeral and that is what they are requesting. He intends to cremate her immediately following her death.

 

[jellymanoffspring]

What a shame that they can not compromise even on this point...
have a funeral Mass with the body and then cremate after the Mass...

But at this point any ceremony would be such a circus....I can't even imagine it!!

 

[peachgirl]

I think we should wait until she's dead before using the issue of her funeral to attack her husband yet again.

 

[DawnCt1]

It's his decision to make. It's not like her parents gave him any reason to take their wishes into consideration. Besides, if he wanted to bury her, they would probably insist on creamation.

Ali

Do you really think that Terri would want her parents and siblings to be deprived of an opportunity to mourn her passing? If the spiritual advisor is correct, that it is preferable that the body is present at the funeral mass and that Terri was a "good Catholic", then do you think she would want to bypass the requirements of the Catholic Church?

 

[DawnCt1]

I think we should wait until she's dead before using the issue of her funeral to attack her husband yet again.

His lawyer took the opportunity on Saturday to discuss the after death plans. Perhaps he should have waited.

 

[DawnCt1]

Are they still married, or are they divorced? I was thinking they were divorced, but I could be mistaken as I really haven't followed this much.

But if they ARE divorced he shouldn't be the one making any decisions, it should be up to her parents to decide what to do. But if they ARE still married it should be up to him, not her parents IMHO.

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He is legally married to Terri but he is shacked up with his girlfriend with whom he has produced two children.

 

[jellymanoffspring]

His lawyer took the opportunity on Saturday to discuss the after death plans. Perhaps he should have waited.

And I think that this whole sad situation has shown us that it is important to have these serious discussions "before" the time of need, even if they make us uncomfortable......

( I am not saying that "we " need to discuss them here...but isn't that the point of a community board ..to discuss anything and everything?)

 

[Hippychickali]

Do you really think that Terri would want her parents and siblings to be deprived of an opportunity to mourn her passing? If the spiritual advisor is correct, that it is preferable that the body is present at the funeral mass and that Terri was a "good Catholic", then do you think she would want to bypass the requirements of the Catholic Church?

Well I obviously disagree with your assessment of a "good Catholic". I will assume you are talking specifically about the Roman Catholic church. I don't understand how cremation would "deprive an opportunity" for her loved ones to mourn her passing. Perhaps you could say more.

Ali

 

[lyeag]

You know, if he has been grossly mistreated, and is so angry at the family, I find it hard to believe he wouldn't want an autopsy so he can clear his name and be vindicated.... Think of all the comments that have been made on air about him, he could have one heck of a lawsuit for slander, wouldn't he? If nothing else, he could prove everyone wrong and be left in peace. I don't see that happening if he cremates her. ...

 

[4nana]

Do you know if he is getting any life insurance money from her passing?

I'm not quite clear on that ; haven't been following this that closely because I think it should really be a family matter, not plastered all over the news...

I think many will be relieved when this sad story is over and if possible something positive comes from it.

One news report said, he will inherit one million $'s, but, who knows if it is true. Personally, once she's finally at peace, if he has one ounce of decency in his body, I feel he should let her parents handle arrangements for their child. IMO - to cremate her would be his last slap in their face.

The news says he is staying at Hospice w/Terry.
Why isn't he with and taking a care of his new family?

 

[TimeforMe]

Do you really think that Terri would want her parents and siblings to be deprived of an opportunity to mourn her passing? If the spiritual advisor is correct, that it is preferable that the body is present at the funeral mass and that Terri was a "good Catholic", then do you think she would want to bypass the requirements of the Catholic Church?

That is quite an assumption to make. Why can't people just respect what the husband is doing--I really don't understand why it is everyone's business. My husband is what I consider to be a "good Catholic" and has made it clear that he wants to be cremated. It is nothing to do with being given an opportunity to "mourn his passing". I'm sure her parents will have plenty of opportunity to do that. I just hope this poor woman can RIP soon.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Why would you put someone through an autopsy just to prove yourself? That seems very selfish. I mean, I know the person isn't there anymore, but why go through such an invasive procedure to "clear you name." I think it would be worse if he did that.