Tell me it's going to be ok!

[cajunrose]

I have our whole trip booked...ADR's, room, everything. My inlaws have said they are now coming. My FIL is sick (heart) and honestly, it's debatable whether or not he will still be with us for the trip. He is stubborn and wouldn't ride in one of those motorized carts. I have 7 days planned in the parks.

Is it possible to add them? Can I add them to the ADR's this late? We are going May 27-June 5. I'm nervous about it all. I have meticulously planned this. They threw me for a loop here.

Thanks
Stephenie

 

[Desnik]

To add people to your ADR's they will make you cancel your ressie and rebook. So, I would call and check if they have a ressie for your bigger party at the time and place you want and then cancel your original ressie once you know they have room for you. Otherwise you can book your in-laws at their own table and just ask to be seated near each other when you get there.
Will you have to add them to your rome or book them their own? I would do that first then work on the ADR's.

 

[Kimmumum]

Save up your patience because you are going to need it. Make sure that you have your (and theirs) expectations on the table. Let them know what you plan to do, when/where you plan on eating etc. If they don't want to go along with the program let them know you will leave them back at the hotel. It sounds harsh but so is them inviting themselves on your trip.

We are going to DC over Spring Break with my inlaws. We will be there for 8 days and have a list of places a mile long of things we want to see. My inlaws want to see 3 things. We have told them we will catch up with them. They also eat every meal at a sit down restaurant. My boys are perfectly happy grabbing a hot dog on the run most of the time. We will eat with them every so often. They can either join us or not but this is my first (and probably only time) time going to DC and I'm not going to waste time waiting for them.

Good luck!!

 

[amystevekai&bump]

Hi, I've just added my mom to our holiday for 12th May until 27th May - I rang Disney to change my adrs - I was able to change all of them except for 1 (o'hanas dinner) - so fingers crossed it will be ok for you too!!

 

[cajunrose]

Thank you for the advice. Instead of just 2 of them, 3 are coming. I'm having a panic attack. I'm just going to change/add them to what I can and what I can't..we aren't canceling. UGH!!!

They are getting their own two rooms...well, I'm booking them with their credit card. They REALLY don't know what they are getting themselves into.
I told them about the dining plan. They said "well, we really don't want to eat at the same place every day." DOH. I had to explain that there are a out 10 million places to eat at disney. Then they were ok with that. Then they were appalled that we were going to spend all 8 days of our vacation IN disney world. Imagine that.

They will want a sit down meal for breakfast every day. NOT HAPPENING for us. We aren't breakfast eaters. We will eat our breakfast bar on the busses and be done with it.

I'm almost in tears over this. My DH won't be happy either when he hears. He is out of commission for another few days so I'm on my own in dealing with this.

Thanks for the ear.

Stephenie

 

[minkydog]

I agree with the above poster: you need to pray for patience. At least they have their own rooms. It sounds like they just want to be near you all, especially since the FIL is ill.My bet is it doesn't take them long to figure out the benefits of an ECV. They may be perfectly content to just take it easy. At any rate, they're coming so you might as well make the best of things.

Try not to panic. This is totally doable. My family includes my DS12 who is autistic/severe MR and my DH who has disabling lung disease--flexibility is my byword. I have never planned a WDW trip more than one month in advance, including ADRs. Sometimes we don't get the ideal times or places, but if we stay flexible something always comes through. I would strongly suggest that you not try to do everything together. Your FIL will probably need rest, especially with the heat. Perhaps they can go have a nice leisurely breakfast while you all go to the park. Maybe plan to meet up for an early supper somewhere and spend a couple hours together. By then FIL will likely need a break, so you go your separate ways.

Let go of the idea that you will have the perfect trip--you can have a great time,but its not going to be the same as the original trip you planned. Let that go. This is a new plan, Disney in the slow lane, if you will. It can be very enjoyable with the right attitude.

 

[cajunrose]

Oh man...what a logistical nightmare this is turning out to be. My Inlaws can't even figure out how to look up room info. Not only am I trying to finalize MY plans, I have to plan their entire trip. I REALLY don't think they'll be able to go. So I'm trying to decide about the ressies I have made. Do I try to get them for 6 people and run the risk of them not being able to go or so I leave it at 3 and run the risk of them being able to come.

I was SO looking forward to my little family's FIRST alone vacation. We have been married 7 years. Before I sound greedy or selfish, let me say that we spent a month out there for Christmas (they live in Oregon, I live in Louisiana). It was nothing but fighting and arguing like little kids. My husband and FIL being the worst of them all. I don't want my magical trip to become a bickering "who's got bigger parts" fest. I a envisioning my daughter's magical birthday trip not so magical anymore.

I just need to try to get in a better frame of mind. Try to work out the logistics and then just suck it up. I know I have to.

I must add...I DID invite them. Back in October when FIL was well. He has had a heart attack and a stroke since then and is not the same man. He's mean and bitter and yells at everybody all the time and makes my daughter cry. He was a man that could walk 10 miles with not even blinking an eye. This is not the man we used to know. My daughter didn't even interact with him much at christmas time b/c all he did was yell at her to be quiet and leave him alone. It broke my heart and my husbands.

Anyway, I have to get ready for work.

Thanks for listening.
Stephenie