Teenager Wetting The Bed.. Mini update.. Dr says..

[lap3]

There may be another issue other than what the others have mentioned. Meaning, it may be a psychological issue. Bedwetting can be a sign of the individual trying to get attention. Things you or he might want to think about is:
1)Are there are problems at home?
2)Does he feel neglected in family matters?
3)Since he has a stepfather, does he feel that his mother is spending more time with his stepdad and not enough with him?

Now, I'm not a psychologist but maybe he should consider seeing one. Just a thought...

Good luck!

 

[Pagan Moon]

There may be another issue other than what the others have mentioned. Meaning, it may be a psychological issue. Bedwetting can be a sign of the individual trying to get attention. Things you or he might want to think about is:
1)Are there are problems at home?
2)Does he feel neglected in family matters?
3)Since he has a stepfather, does he feel that his mother is spending more time with his stepdad and not enough with him?

Now, I'm not a psychologist but maybe he should consider seeing one. Just a thought...

Good luck!

Those were the first questions I asked him. And he said No to all of them. His Step Dad is better to him then his own dad. Both his parents take or at least ask him to go or do everything they do. He said his Mom even just started to leave him home alone for more then 2 hours. He keeps reminding her he is almost 16 and will be driving soon. His Step Dad is a practical joker, even when you ask him to be serious, you have to expect at least 1 unserious comment from him and I think that is why my cousin won't tell him.

I also asked him if he has any problems at or with school, he is in 10th grade, but he said no and his grades last marking period were good.

 

[poohandwendy]

He does not need to tell his mother that he is wetting the bed, if he is embarrassed about it. All he has to say is that he thinks he needs to see a doctor because he is having problems with urinating. She will know that a doctors visit is in order.

I would bet it is a urinary tract problem. Not uncommon and usually easily resolved.

Best of luck to your friend. I hope he sees a doctor soon, because if it is a medical problem it will only get worse.

 

[Lil_Tink]

Maybe he could try telling your dad, since he's a guy. It could be very simple or serious. If not, have him go to the doctor first. I beleive over some age you do not need your parents there. But he should go there ASAP. I hope its something simple and easy to fix.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would suggest that you, your cousin and his mom have a private talk. You need to set it up and start it. I might say, "Aunt XYZ, I want to take ABC (cousin) to the Drs to get his urinary tract checked out. Can we have your health insurance card. And then see what happens.

 

[Pagan Moon]

He is home from school and I talked to him. I asked some more questions and I even called a Dr's office out of the phone book for ideas of what it may be. I had a list of questions to ask my cousin and he said no to all of them. No burn, No itch, No pain, No noticable extra potty trips, Doesn't happen every day, Doesn't happen during the day and then the Dr's office said he needs to see his own DR asap. So now we are going to talk to Mom tonight and go to the DR tomorrow.

I'll keep you posted

Please, Wish us luck

 

[SeeDisney]

Have you tried WEB MD?

Perhaps he should not drink any fluids a couple of hours or so before bedtime.

Is he extremely worried or stressed about something?

Also, IMHO, it could be out of habit as well.


I will admit, a few times though, I remember wetting the bed myself when I was a teen too.

Good luck!

 

[mtblujeans]

He needs to go to a doctor. He has a legitimate medical situation going on. I know someone who had to have very minor surgery to correct a problem very similar sounding. It's OK that he say something to the person legally responsible for him and they talk to a doctor. He should not be afraid to take care of himself....he has a looooong life of making his own care decisions and he needs to get comfortable with making the decisions! It's a good thing he has you there to contact about things like this....

 

[pfishgirl]

I too vote for tell mom and call the dr to get a check up... Since this is something that has just started, there may be a bladder or urinary infection and the dr will put your cousin on medication to fight the infection.

P & PD for a simple and fast recovery

and to you for being there and being so concerned for your cousin. I'm sure everything will turn out just fine.

 

[jbdreamer]

Actually, this is more common then you may think. My 14 year old cousin has had bed wetting issues his whole life. He still wears dipars to bed. The problem is, he is a deep sleeper and can't wake up to go to the bathroom. Apparently this is herditary and is most common in boys. I don't think medicaly anything can be done for my cousin.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

No advice I just wanted to say what a great cousin you are. I am very close to my younger cousins (they are 13 and 15) and I would hope that if they couldn't go to their parents, they would feel comfortable enough to come to me, my mom or my sister.

 

[Judy from Boise]

I would also worry most about Diabetes. Ask him if he is always hungry and eating, but losing weight. This along with being thirsty are the classic three sign of Diabates. Many kids and teens get diagnosed because of bedwetting.

 

[Sparx]

I know everyone else has said this, but he needs to go to the doctor. It could be something as simple as a bladder infection or something like Type I. BTW, you are a great cousin for helping him with this. (((hugs)))

 

[Angelrose]

You are such a good cousin. Please let us know how he makes out at the doctors.

 

[Nutsy]

Actually, this is more common then you may think. My 14 year old cousin has had bed wetting issues his whole life. He still wears dipars to bed. The problem is, he is a deep sleeper and can't wake up to go to the bathroom. Apparently this is herditary and is most common in boys. I don't think medicaly anything can be done for my cousin.

Yes you are correct....bed wetting is more common in boys than in girls. My youngest DS now 16 was a bed wetter all his life until the magical age of 14 when he became less frequent and all of a sudden stopped. We went to docs, naturopaths etc........but nothing they suggested worked......not even a bed wetting alarm. In the end he grew out of it and thankfully the timing was perfect as we were heading to the US for our trip of a lifetime to DL and he never wet once in the 3 weeks we were away and hadn't wet a week before we left either. Hasn't wet the bed since.

It is heritary too and if one of both parents were bed wetters then the chances of having a bed wetter yourself are very much increased. I was a bed wetter until I was 14 also and DH can't remember if he was, but we've been told that he most probably would have been, due to DS being a bed wetter for so long.


Pagan Moon.......I really do hope this business with your cousin is not something sinister.

 

[Jennasis]

How awesome that he trusts you enough to come to you! It's great to have a person in your life whom you can depend on like that.

#1 if his problem is simply bladder control, there are actual drugs now that can help bed wetters (even young children). He needn't be embarassed of seeing a doctor as they've seen it all!

He could have a small bladder and drinking liquids after a certain hour could be causing the problem. He could be a deep sleep and not noticing the "urge to go". In fact up until I was 13 I wet the bed. I would actually have dreams that I was on the toilet, and then wake up to a wet bed!

It could be a bladder or urinary infection.

It could be diabetes.

Only his doctor can tell!

I would offer to accompany him when he talks to his mom. Perhaps you can surf the web for info on young adult and bed wetting and be armed with a few statistics for her as well.

 

[Pagan Moon]

Hi All !! sorry it took me long to respond..

Mini Update.... Until Later !!

Wednesday he chickened out telling Mom because Dad was not feeling well and came home early...

Thursday he called me, can you come over, no problem out the door I went.. Here is how it goes.. Mom, can we talk to you.. She looks at me, I say, I already know and think it is best if you know too.. Mom says ok sit down with me, What's going on with you two This time.. Cousin explains like he did to me what has been happening.. Mom says, well I am glad you finally decided to tell me.. Cousin says, you knew already... Mom says yes and the DR too We have just been waiting on you to be ready enough and if you didn't say anything soon, I was going to have to ask you because the DR is concerned as well.. Cousin, oh wow, sorry Mom.. Mom gives great big bear hug.. no reason to be sorry, I'm just glad you told me, you know you can tell me anything.. both of you... more hugs for both of us know.. Cousin says, umm Mom and give a funny/concerned look.. Mom says, don't worry, he doesn't know yet.. Cousin says dang you're good.. Mom says well he may have to know, but for now, lets see what the DR has to say.. Cousin and I both say "thanks Mom" "we love you" and we both run upstairs to cousin's room..

I talked to my Aunt later before I left to let her know everythimng he has said to me so far.. and I had to ask.. How did you know.. She said on the 28th, he was acting strange, he covers and sheets were all pushed up at the end of the bed and he even got up and showered right away, which is not like him so she thought like we all did.. uh oh.. could it be a wet dream or something.. Then she was putting away laundry and decided maybe I will check out the closet, see if anything is different.. she was looking for wet clothes or magazines she said.. nope nothing, then remembered the special cabinet in his bed that he use to hide in when younger.. and uh oh.. there it is.. the pack of depends underware.. she said she wanted to say something but, called the DR instead for advice..

so now "we" are all going to the Dr's today to see what is happening with my cousin and hoping that it is something simple or antibiodic controlable..

PLEASE send us some of your extra Prayers and Pixie Dust today !! and I will be back tonight to fill you all in on whatever else developes..

Thanks agin

 

[Sandy V.]

Glad that you two told Mom, although she was pretty intuitive to read all of the signs and figure it out beforehand. She sounds like a great mother; waiting for him to come forward while she asked the Dr. quietly for advice just in case. You are a great cousin!!

Us Moms - we're pretty hard to fool!!

 

[piglet too]

It sounds like his mom is great! I hope that it is something real simple and that teh doctor can help him out. Knowing that his mom knows will probablly came as a big relief to him.

 

[Pagan Moon]

Pagan Moon.......I really do hope this business with your cousin is not something sinister.

umm Not sure what you mean here.. (please forgive me if I am in the wrong here since I don't know your intention on this statement) But WHY would I make something like this up I am using my own name even to post this.. I am honestly telling the truth and was looking for honest people's opinion because I love and care about my cousin and his health.. Plus I have been posting back and forth answering questions of helpful disers.. Again, if this is NOT what you meant, I am sorry, but that is the only defination I know of sinister..