Teenage Girls

[tkd lisa]

Living this now too! Luckily, DD's friends are pretty good kids, so I don't get any rub-off behavior. I actually found the mood swings got better once she started her period. At least they were a bit more predictable.

Last fall, when she was 11 1/2, I had the absolute classic pre-teen hormonally swinging girl argument. DD was refusing to do her homework, so I sent her to her room until she was ready to work. She slammed into her room, and yelled "I'll just stay in here, and not eat, and then I'll die and you'll be happy!" Followed by the slamming door. She fell asleep about 5 minutes later, and when she woke up the next morning, it was like nothing had ever happened!

Now I KNOW that I never did anything like that (yeah, right!). I have told my husband that since I was the perfect child I must be paying for his sins, since my kids are what is politely known as "challenging"!

 

[Serena]

Plain and simply, teenage girls are crazy. They make no sense and their sole purpose is to frustrate you.

LOL, my 18 yo is much better these days. Yeah she's still frustrating, but it's not the "in your face" kind of stuff.
I've got a 12 yo that hasn't hit the crazies yet. But I see it coming.

Good luck everyone and try to stay sane until they get through it. They will get through it, believe me, now the parents may not, but they will.

 

[stinkerbelle]

My SIL is 15 and, well, god bless my MIL! She had SIL 13 years after DH (DH and my BIL are 2 years apart). So this 'raising a girl' thing is all new to her.

Was at a picnic not too long ago with them, SIL got caught in a huge lie she told...MIL turns to me and says "It was so much easier with boys!"

I'll never forget when I was 13/14 my mom and I got into a huge fight, she said "You hate it here? Fine - get out! I don't want to look at you anymore!" She put a bunch of my stuff in a bag and threw it by the front door. I yelled at her "Yeah I hate it here, but I'm going to stay just to tick you off!" She fumed for a minute then broke out laughing.

I do have to agree with the other posters...I probably put my mom through hell, but once I hit college...we were best buds. And now, we're closer then ever.

 

[NMAmy]

Thank you so much for all the encouraging replies (only about 10 years of hell, well...I guess it COULD be worse...although I'm not sure how!)

I really appreciate being able to vent on here instead of to her. I know it's just normal behavior but sheesh, it's frustrating sometimes.

I do have it better than I did last year. Her dad lives in New Mexico and in January between problems with some girls at school (including the one she's so hot to mimic right now) and pressure from her dad, she decided to stay there. It was terrible at the time but it has made her much more appreciative of me. When no friends are around, she talks to me and hugs me and kisses me. We really missed each other. She promised her dad she'd stay till the end of the school year, then she was on the first plane back home to stay. I haven't gotten any comments about going to live with her dad again either!

She told me last night that this friend of hers (whose mother is a really nice woman but lets this child do whatever she wants) that J's mom had told her that she didn't want J to live with them anymore. DD thought that was just awful. I told her that J's mom was probably just angry and frustrated at the time and didn't mean what she said. I told her that I knew what it was like to have your child live somewhere else and it was terrible. I got big hugs and kisses after that. So, at least we didn't have to go to bed fussing at each other. That makes a good night in my life lately! I'm not holding my breath about today though!