Teenage daughter woes

[Annie68]

OK, what happened to my loving little girl? She's been replaced by a moody teen.

 

[floridahippy]

But eventually they come out the other side and they are great to have good times with!!!!!!!!

 

[Christine]

Yes, it is a rough time. I've got a 14 (soon to be 15) year old. I will say that there are days that it seems *better* now versus when she was 12 or 13.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I have a 9yodd who has started with the "attitude" and a almost 15yo (next week), who drives me !

The 9yo will say something to me and then go..."oh no...I am turning into big sis!"

 

[MouseWorshipin]

A good friend of mine tells me that boys come back between 17-19 years, and girls come back between 20-25.


I know it is no solace.

 

[golfgal]

Can I add teenage son woes to this post too?????

 

[always quiet]

I have 2 daughters, one 14 and one 11. At the moment, the 14 yr old is moody, at best, downright miserable at times...........and when she wants something, sickening sweet!! My 11 yr old is still the same loving caring little girl she has always been. I am not kidding myself. I will soon lose this one too!! I figure it will be at least another 7 or 8 yrs before all my kids are "human" again (at which time, my oldest (DS)will be about 24 and I could very well be a grandparent!! ).

 

[Sandy V.]

They do come back to you! Mine is 18 now, and she's great "most" of the time. It's her 16 year old brother that has the "attitude" right now.

 

[CathrynRose]

A good friend of mine tells me that boys come back between 17-19 years, and girls come back between 20-25.


I know it is no solace.

17 - 19 ?!?!? AHHHHHHHHH! I have (at the least 2) more years of this with my son?!?!? Are you kidding me?

Institutionalize me now. Im done...

 

[Annie68]

They do come back to you! Mine is 18 now, and she's great "most" of the time. It's her 16 year old brother that has the "attitude" right now.

OK, you've given me hope. There are just some days when I feel that, although I love her with all of my heart, I just don't like her very much . I wish a quick sprinkle of pixiedust would do the trick!

 

[MBeds]

My daughter will be 11 next month and she's already got the "woes"...From what i read on this thread, i'm in for a lot of years of this... That's just great!!!!

 

[Sandy V.]

OK, you've given me hope. There are just some days when I feel that, although I love her with all of my heart, I just don't like her very much . I wish a quick sprinkle of pixiedust would do the trick!

Glad to help!

You've described how I've felt a lot of the time - I love you, but I don't LIKE you. There have been a lot of moments where I've bit my lip and walked away. Or I've had to lay down the law and be the "meanest mom in the world" when it came to something that she wanted/wanted to do and Dad and I said "No".

Sometimes I've found that the more I tried to "chase" her, the harder she tried to pull away from me. If I just let her know I was there for her if she wanted to talk and I just left it at that without pushing, she would usually come talk to me later that day or the next day.

And now that's she's pretty well "trained", she's going to leave me and go to college. Wah!!

 

[Talking Hands]

They come through and around 19-22 become wonderful again. This too shall pass. Hugs but you will get through it.

 

[mamajoan]

God Love ya!

I have my last two teens.. one is away at college..DS is 18.
DD is 16... and learning to drive...
Two completely different kids...
The older two are DD 26 and DS 25... they are fun....now!

 

[KarenAylwood]

Sometimes I've found that the more I tried to "chase" her, the harder she tried to pull away from me. If I just let her know I was there for her if she wanted to talk and I just left it at that without pushing, she would usually come talk to me later that day or the next day.

And now that's she's pretty well "trained", she's going to leave me and go to college. Wah!!

That's what happened to me. My mom quickly found out that if she gave me more space, I'd talk to her more. When I was 17 she confronted me with the scary S question, and I answered it openly and honestly because we had built up a relationship based on trust. Ever since then we've been best friends.

I'm 23 now and live 500 miles away- I'm planning another mom and daughter trip to Disney (our lucky 13th since I was 10 or so) and we talk every day (sometimes we'll skip a day on the weekends but it's rare).

If you build up that trust and don't hold on too too tightly, you can build a great relationship, even through those pesky teen years (we all have them!).

 

[ozarkmom]

I have a 14 ds, 15 (almost 16) dd and 19 ds in college. Oldest ds never really had much attitude was just a really good kid and fun to be around. 14 ds has a little bit of smart aleck attitude not really bad. Teenage dd can be a total nightmare. It just seems like she woke up one morning moody, crying, yelling, unhappy etc. There have been times when I've cried my eyes out and moments when even though I love her I didn't like her! I pray that this will pass soon. Right now whenever I think the worst has passed and things are back to normal something happens and here we go again with the drama, tears, I hate everyone. So good luck!

 

[angel*lady]

I feel your pain!

 

[Annie68]

It just seems like she woke up one morning moody, crying, yelling, unhappy etc. There have been times when I've cried my eyes out and moments when even though I love her I didn't like her! I pray that this will pass soon. Right now whenever I think the worst has passed and things are back to normal something happens and here we go again with the drama, tears, I hate everyone.

This is my situation exactly! It's comforting to know I'm not alone.

 

[laura001]

I would say my 21 year old was pretty bad, some days she was crazy. It didn't matter what I said, it was wrong and upset her.
We would have a disagreement and she would flip out, I would just say to her that I knew she was upset but that she would just have to apologize to me for being that way, so why do it in the first place. She thinks that is funny now...lol

My youngest DD is 14 right now and is showing no signs of a problem yet, thank goodness.