Teen Parenting.

[Disney.Ears]

Right.
Its not like you will DIE if you dont.
Just dont have sex, unless youre ready to take on the responsibility of a baby.


Right.




Youre missing it.
Theres no need to get angry, I dont think youre quite understanding what we are trying to explain.

You just dont have sex until youre a grownup.
If you have sex, prepare that there could be a 50 percent chance of having a baby, EVEN IF you use protection.

I know right? It's not gonna kill you to wait.
It's like sex can wait. Don't ruin your teen years/early 20's. Like the Candies Foundation ads in Seventeen magazine. There's a picture of a baby's crib and it says "Not what you imagined your first crib being right?" Like you're skipping everything so fast!

I don't thinks she's understanding either..

Yeah, premarital sex is unneccessary? People just do it...to do it? And they don't know what can happen. And then they're pregnant and it's like OMG! But when you're married you know you and the man/woman are READY for whatever happens. Because hopefully you're stable enough to handle a child and you know the man won't run off (hopefully).

 

[life of the party]

I am not jumping to conclusions ,
and i am getting angry and i am allowed to be .

my sister had a baby at 18 and she is a good mother and you are trying to act like what she did was a bad thing .

it was not the BEST thing to do , but it was in no way harmful my neice, laura .

she has a great life, a loving family, and is very happy .


i do admit it would have been better for her not to have had the baby but it is not WRONG what she did , it is what happened and she cant change that .

 

[OneTreeHill]

I know right? It's not gonna kill you to wait.
It's like sex can wait. Don't ruin your teen years/early 20's. Like the Candies Foundation ads in Seventeen magazine. There's a picture of a baby's crib and it says "Not what you imagined your first crib being right?" Like you're skipping everything so fast!

I don't thinks she's understanding either..

Yeah, premarital sex is unneccessary? People just do it...to do it? And they don't know what can happen. And then they're pregnant and it's like OMG! But when you're married you know you and the man/woman are READY for whatever happens. Because hopefully you're stable enough to handle a child and you know the man won't run off (hopefully).

Exactly!

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

I know right? It's not gonna kill you to wait.
It's like sex can wait. Don't ruin your teen years/early 20's. Like the Candies Foundation ads in Seventeen magazine. There's a picture of a baby's crib and it says "Not what you imagined your first crib being right?" Like you're skipping everything so fast!

I don't thinks she's understanding either..

Yeah, premarital sex is unneccessary? People just do it...to do it? And they don't know what can happen. And then they're pregnant and it's like OMG! But when you're married you know you and the man/woman are READY for whatever happens. Because hopefully you're stable enough to handle a child and you know the man won't run off (hopefully).

Exactly!!!!
Yes, I agree completely!!
I love the way you worded that.
Brilliant!!

 

[Babyjustrun]

I believe in pre-marital sex.
Not for fun, that's just stupid, and not with random people.
I believe that if you love someone and have been with them for a long time, it is not wrong. Protection should be taken (multiple forms, relying solely on condoms is not a good idea).
It's probably a horrible thing to say, but a part of marriage is sex. And if your partner doesn't fufill your needs, and you're stuck with them forever...
That wouldn't be great.

 

[OneTreeHill]

I am not jumping to conclusions ,
and i am getting angry and i am allowed to be .

my sister had a baby at 18 and she is a good mother and you are trying to act like what she did was a bad thing .

it was not the BEST thing to do , but it was in no way harmful my neice, laura .

she has a great life, a loving family, and is very happy .


i do admit it would have been better for her not to have had the baby but it is not WRONG what she did , it is what happened and she cant change that .

I'm not saying that she is a bad mother at all.
I bet she is a great mother.
I'm just saying that teens in general aren't ready emotionally or physically to handle a baby. But things happen.
I'm not saying teen mothers will be bad mothers. I am saying in general, teens should not have kids, because they are still just kids themselves. But things happen, and I'm sure she turned out to be a greaet mother.

Sorry if that was confusing. :]

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

I believe in pre-marital sex.
Not for fun, that's just stupid, and not with random people.
I believe that if you love someone and have been with them for a long time, it is not wrong. Protection should be taken (multiple forms, relying solely on condoms is not a good idea).
It's probably a horrible thing to say, but a part of marriage is sex. And if your partner doesn't fufill your needs, and you're stuck with them forever...
That wouldn't be great.

If you truely love them, and they love you, then they WOULD fufill your needs.

Am I the only one thats ever read the alice books?
In one part of it, Alice asks her aunt what its like to have sex and she said "it isnt like the movies, its different, you have to give the man directions sometimes an-" "WHAT!? thats embarassing!!" "if you truely love him and hes in love with you, it is, if youre nervious to do that then he shouldnt be in your bed to begin with".


I hope that made sense.

If you love somone and they love you, they will fufill your needs.

 

[Disney.Ears]

Exactly!!!!
Yes, I agree completely!!
I love the way you worded that.
Brilliant!!

Thank you.
The Candies ads actually get me excited, because at least they're showing teens nationally, what could happen to them. Just don't do it, and you won't have to worry about anything.

 

[BabyPiglet]

It was harmful for your neice. Babies born to people who are too young can come premature. Teenagers don't always know the necessity of pre-natal care. Teens don't always know all the little things involved in raising children. Her parents could have not supported her and she would have been alone financially. There's a ton of different things that could've gone wrong, because she wasn't a mature, stable adult. My cousin had a baby at 16 and she has now lost custody of her, married someone who she barely knew, and had another baby. Her second child was put in foster care for a couple months and WHILE he was in there she got pregnant again. Do you understand how irresponsible that is? She wasn't ready when she started having sex, and now it's ruined her life so far. I know this could happen to adults too, but like I said. You shouldn't have a baby until you are STABLE. Having a child while you are a teenager is completely WRONG for both children involved.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I don't mean emotionally.
And I'm not taking that any further.
I would personally really would not want to have to tell a man everything I want him to do...

 

[OneTreeHill]

I think you should wait until you're married, or at least engaged until you have sex.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Sorry my posts are all crammed together, the DIS is being stupid for me.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I think you should wait until you're married, or at least engaged until you have sex.

Engaged would probably be good.

 

[life of the party]

okay guys i totaly , honestly, and seriously GET what you are saying .

i understand , dont think that im just set on what i believe in , i get it .

but what YOU are not getting is what i have been through with hearing my parents scream about finding out , the pregnancy , the new apartment with the babys father , the birth , people rumors , whispers , trying to hide it from my friends , but wanting to talk about it all the time and so much more .

and then seeing the little baby that makes me so happy every day of my life and seeing her with her mother .

YOU dont get it , and you probably never will .

i have been through hell and back with stuff i will never tell about on the dis that has to do with all that stuff , and when there are people using sterio-types that are things you have seen in a way i cant explain to you , it hurts.. bad .

you guys will never get it , and i dont expect you too .

done with this thread , bye .

 

[Sparx]

If you truely love them, and they love you, then they WOULD fufill your needs.

Am I the only one thats ever read the alice books?
In one part of it, Alice asks her aunt what its like to have sex and she said "it isnt like the movies, its different, you have to give the man directions sometimes an-" "WHAT!? thats embarassing!!" "if you truely love him and hes in love with you, it is, if youre nervious to do that then he shouldnt be in your bed to begin with".


I hope that made sense.

If you love somone and they love you, they will fufill your needs.

um.
no.
some people
just
dont
mesh.
and no amount of love will fix that.


sex is an act between two mature consenting people. and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. abstinence only is not good education, cause, to be honest, it doesnt work. flat out. it does not work.
educate teenagers in methods of contraception, because you cant make them not have sex if they want to, but you can make them safer and healthier.


it is no ones business if youve had sex or not. and its no ones job to look down on you if you have, which is what a lot of this thread has turned into.


if you want to save sex till marriage, thats fine. personally, i wouldnt commit the rest of my life to someone i dont know inside and out, for lack of a better term.


it is your choice if you choose to have sex. but, if you do or if you dont, you need to know the good bad and ugly of it. and part of that is methods of contraception and protection.

 

[OneTreeHill]

um.
no.
some people
just
dont
mesh.
and no amount of love will fix that.


sex is an act between two mature consenting people. and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. abstinence only is not good education, cause, to be honest, it doesnt work. flat out. it does not work.
educate teenagers in methods of contraception, because you cant make them not have sex if they want to, but you can make them safer and healthier.


it is no ones business if youve had sex or not. and its no ones job to look down on you if you have, which is what a lot of this thread has turned into.


if you want to save sex till marriage, thats fine. personally, i wouldnt commit the rest of my life to someone i dont know inside and out, for lack of a better term.


it is your choice if you choose to have sex. but, if you do or if you dont, you need to know the good bad and ugly of it. and part of that is methods of contraception and protection.

I completely agree.
It is a personal choice as to whether or not you have sex.
I, personally, will wait till marriage.
Waiting for marriage is not for everyone, and I totally understand that.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

One last post from the old woman -- then I'm gone. Just wanted to say that I realize this thread is about teen pregnancy and I appreciate you guys humoring me and letting me chime in, but the one thing that hasn't been mentioned yet is sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS. When I was a teen, the worst that usually happened was pregnancy. Not the end of the world by any means, but not the direction you wanted to go in. Now with AIDS, it really is playing Russian roulette. Sex is not worth dying for and you'd never know by looking at someone who is infected, that they are infected. Make smart choices and above all else protect yourselves.

 

[Disney.Ears]

One last post from the old woman -- then I'm gone. Just wanted to say that I realize this thread is about teen pregnancy and I appreciate you guys humoring me and letting me chime in, but the one thing that hasn't been mentioned yet is sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS. When I was a teen, the worst that usually happened was pregnancy. Not the end of the world by any means, but not the direction you wanted to go in. Now with AIDS, it really is playing Russian roulette. Sex is not worth dying for and you'd never know by looking at someone who is infected, that they are infected. Make smart choices and above all else protect yourselves.

I totally forgot about STDS. That's another thing that you risk when you have sex. It's just so...Idk. There's so much that can happen. Thanks for pointing that out Sex isn't worth dying for, it's just..I don't know how to put it. But I agree.

 

[Babyjustrun]

On the comment of STI's...
Don't use BC or the shot as your single point of protection. Even if you're getting the shot, you should be using a condom to protect from STI's (as well as back-up).

 

[BabyPiglet]

okay guys i totaly , honestly, and seriously GET what you are saying .

i understand , dont think that im just set on what i believe in , i get it .

but what YOU are not getting is what i have been through with hearing my parents scream about finding out , the pregnancy , the new apartment with the babys father , the birth , people rumors , whispers , trying to hide it from my friends , but wanting to talk about it all the time and so much more .

and then seeing the little baby that makes me so happy every day of my life and seeing her with her mother .

YOU dont get it , and you probably never will .

i have been through hell and back with stuff i will never tell about on the dis that has to do with all that stuff , and when there are people using sterio-types that are things you have seen in a way i cant explain to you , it hurts.. bad .

you guys will never get it , and i dont expect you too .

done with this thread , bye .

How can you judge that you've been through 'so much more' than everyone else here. I completely 'get' having a close family member being a pregnant teen.

I really hate people saying that nobody else gets it. How the hell do you know what we understand and what we don't.