Team Focker Watch Chat - in the 11th Hour

[KatGarcia]

Kat I'm thinking of you and sending lots of love across the ocean

Thanks Jo!

We are here for you.

Kat- I am really, really sorry about the junk that going on.

Thanks you guys, i really means everything to me!

KAT says that the therapy with KC was hard. She is super bummed. They are going back for another session.

Are you sure you can make it to October emotionally if things don’t improve? This is so tough. I’m sorry that you are hurting.

I have no idea if i can make it, but financially i am just stuck. it's prob why it took him so long to say anything to me, knowing i am stuck in a lot of ways. My options are limited but i am really trying to figure out how to stay up here becauyse i'd really like to.

Kat-

Oh Kat...I am so sorry.

thanks!

Dawn, probably a good move regarding the change in classes. Sounds like she took it well.


Kat, I don't have your number, but if you wanted to PM it to me I would send you nice text messages

I'll PM u

Look what I found on Disney Shopping! I want to buy this for the kids for Halloween.

I just saw it in the store yesterday! Very cool! I want one!

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nothing new here. still bad, still stinky. just trying to make it through each day as best i can. i am realizing i need to deal with things slowly, that its the only way i can do it. Any of you who have been through this can you give me any tips on how to get through? I am trying to be strong but its so hard. I know I will need to be stronger than I have ever been to do this, and its just rough.

We are actually spending the day home today. We went out with some friends last night, which was good. we are still talking a lot about things, and have resigned to talking anytime we have anything to say.

The worst thing that has all too honestly come out of his mouth is that he is attracted to someone else. I know that he isnt running around, and i know hes not trying to, but now i cant get the thought of him being close to anyone else out of my head. its a layer to this BS i didn't need. I'm trying not to freak constantly.

this is just hard. i really appreciate all of you soo sooo much!

 

[mrsksomeday]

The best advice I can give you is to not keep your feelings inside, let them out. If you need to cry, cry. Crying in the shower is good. If you need to hit something to get the anger out (not him, a pillow or something soft so you won't hurt yourself) do it. Get the emotions out in the open because if you don't they manifest themselves in the worst ways.

If you are crying please make sure to drink plenty of water, don't let yourself get dehydrated.

It is good that you are being completely honest with each other even if it hurts, because lies and hiding things are much worse in the long run. Keep talking to us and your friends, it really does help .

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Oh, Kat. I just have no idea what to say... I'm so sorry you're going through this.

 

[Hedy]

Kat. Janet, etc.
Things are quieter here. The godmother was a houseguest for the past week. Poor baby-she's lost her DH and dad in the past 4 months (she's having a memorial would have been his 85th shin-dig up here this week). She's holding in a lot, which makes me worry about her-she won't let herself grieve, or at least show it. I'm considering inviting her to join me one day in October at WDW, but am trying to figure out what would work best.

 

[englishrose47]

Another double job day !! I'm TIRED!!!!Had a good day at work my Boss was over all day!! We basically just hung out , she was hiding !!! I did get a lot of my work done though and it was great to have her there to ask questions as they came up!! She is going to Disney next year andof course I am helping her !!!
My second job was busy and had work as usual !!! Some how I have to convince my mind that I am not a teenager any more When a consumer has an excercise goal I don't have todance, run, jump up and down etc with them!! But guess who does !!! Me the Old Gal , not the young uns !!! But I have FUN!!!!!!

 

[DisneyJo]

Jo- You will find plenty to do... I have faith in you!
Wait... why are you going to MNSSHP with 50 others?

Me and all the 09 Moms, some of the 08 Moms and some of their families are going to MNSSHP in a few weeks time, we even have private viewing up on the Main Street Station for the parades and fireworks

I love it! Maybe I need it for Reid, and put it up for several years.

And you'd have to test it out, right?

Kristel: Perhaps they'll mistake Jo and her friends for a Brazillian touring group?

Hey And please let us know about Janet

The worst thing that has all too honestly come out of his mouth is that he is attracted to someone else. I know that he isnt running around, and i know hes not trying to, but now i cant get the thought of him being close to anyone else out of my head. its a layer to this BS i didn't need. I'm trying not to freak constantly.

I'm so so sorry kat

I'm considering inviting her to join me one day in October at WDW, but am trying to figure out what would work best.

Awww that's so sweet of you

Me the Old Gal , not the young uns !!! But I have FUN!!!!!!

Rosie I can just see you doing that Any news on the job?



Ellie is going shopping with 3 friends this afternoon, 3 of the Mums will be in town but she's growing up and I don't like it Then they're going back with 1 of the Moms for tea and a sleepover. Jess and I are visiting friends and then hopefully going to do a few holes of golf

Also the 2 friends who I helped plan their WDW trips are coming home 1 today and 1 tomorrow, hope they had fun!

 

[Muffinygood]

Ellie is going shopping with 3 friends this afternoon, 3 of the Mums will be in town but she's growing up and I don't like it Then they're going back with 1 of the Moms for tea and a sleepover. Jess and I are visiting friends and then hopefully going to do a few holes of golf

Also the 2 friends who I helped plan their WDW trips are coming home 1 today and 1 tomorrow, hope they had fun!

It's hard when they are able to go off alone. SD is driving now. All of his friends already have their driver's license. Our rule is that he can't drive with any of his friends and it's going to cause a huge row. I just know it. He's smart and his friends are pretty good kids, but you know how badly we drove when WE started!? LOL Being a mom was much easier during the toddling/teletubby years...

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I called Janet but she didn't answer her cell phone. That has me VERY concerned. I don't have her home number so I can't call Jim. What should we do?


I'm off to deliver SD to tennis (hopefully his knee doesn't get worse) and then I'm seeing Dr. Seigle today.
Fingers crossed friends!

MEL

 

[HomeschoolMama]

I called Janet but she didn't answer her cell phone. That has me VERY concerned. I don't have her home number so I can't call Jim. What should we do?


I'm off to deliver SD to tennis (hopefully his knee doesn't get worse) and then I'm seeing Dr. Seigle today.
Fingers crossed friends!

MEL

She has me worried too.

Good thoughts onthe Dr. Seigle visit.

 

[englishrose47]

JoIn regads to thejob spoke to them agian yesterday and they had my application and it sounds just as good !! I wasnplanning till next year to do an escorting , but she aid se marked that I was a Disne expert on the applic . and was emailingthe gal who hires and sending me another aplication for my boss !!

 

[DisneyJo]

I called Janet but she didn't answer her cell phone. That has me VERY concerned. I don't have her home number so I can't call Jim. What should we do?

Oh no, does anyone have her home number???? And good luck to you for your Dr Siegle visit

JoIn regads to thejob spoke to them agian yesterday and they had my application and it sounds just as good !! I wasnplanning till next year to do an escorting , but she aid se marked that I was a Disne expert on the applic . and was emailingthe gal who hires and sending me another aplication for my boss !!

Sounds very promising Rosie

 

[PrincessV]

Any of you who have been through this can you give me any tips on how to get through? I am trying to be strong but its so hard. I know I will need to be stronger than I have ever been to do this, and its just rough.

First:
Second: You're absolutely right - you have to find strength. But I'll ditto Mrs.K - you also need to release. Cry, scream, go for a walk, punch a pillow; physical release will help a LOT. My situation was very different, but I think in any divorce situation this wisdom is the same: you must take care of YOU.



Thanks all for the Janet updates. I don't have any numbers for her, either.

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Greetings from work and school land! This return from vacation has actually been a LOT better than the last one, thank goodness. Leo is loving 2nd grade so far and seems heaps happier at his new school. PHEW!

Work is okay; some strange things happened in my absence, but some good things, too, so it's a wash. I'll take it.

The ex is officially in the land of potatoes. No sign of child support; FL suspended his driver's license due to non-payment, but that doesn't seem to have gotten his attention. Doubt I'll see a penny for a long, long time. Dirtbag. Leo's feeling a lot less angry about Daddy being gone, though. He finally spoke with him on the phone a few days ago and it went well. Again, PHEW!


Happy Thursday all!

 

[debraW76]

Me and all the 09 Moms, some of the 08 Moms and some of their families are going to MNSSHP in a few weeks time, we even have private viewing up on the Main Street Station for the parades and fireworks

So does that mean if we wear a pink shirt we can sit in the special section with you ???

The ex is officially in the land of potatoes.

Oh, Janet's eyes were bothering her before her trip. She was diagnosed with Iriscitis. That's an inflammation of the iris of your eye. I have that. The technical diagnoses of my eye issue is Glaucoma 2nd degree with Iriscitis. That means that the inflammation of my iris caused the eye pressure to go up (normal is around 12 or so) to 70. They did emergency surgery to lower it.
Drops are used to treat Iriscitis. They are prednisone drops (a steroid) which unfortunately RAISES eye pressure. She was doing the drops before she left and the redness and pain were improving for her. Then she called me shortly after she got to FL and said the drops were hurting her really bad. I told her they shouldn't, they should eliminate the pain but she should talk to her Dr.
She later told me when I texted her that she had an upper resp. infection and a sinus infection. She was REALLY sick! She couldn't eat or get out of bed.

Thanks for the recap. I couldn't remember everything but knew it was bad. I'm still praying for her.

Kat, I will second what Mrs.K and V have said.

You need a strong support system. My support group was my mom, my SIL and two very good friends. There were nights when my mom would come over and just hold me while I cried for hours. I became an insomniac - I would go nights without sleeping. Then there were days when I would bring the kids over to my SILs house and just sleep on her couch because I felt safer there becuase I knew she loved me and my apartment felt cold and empty. I had two other friends that I could call and talk to about anything and be completely honest with them. But they live far away and I needed the physical contact too. I needed hugs, I needed someone to hold my hand, I needed someone to cry with me.

You know we all love you but you also need someone physically there for you. Do you have family or close friends whom you trust that can be there for you?

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We will have a new boss come Monday. Not looking forward to the changes. I'm afraid he is going to expect me to work everyday

Trying to get my desk somewhat cleaned off before he starts. Oh and the guys wants us to all go out to eat today and tomorrow since we dont know what his stance will be on that either.

Oh well. It was fun while it lasted.

Delta came home yesterday with another sad face. It wasn't a happy night in our house last night.

And my niece who gets the kids off the bus for me three days a week has found a job in a vet's office. I am happy for her since she really wanted this job (she thinks she wants to be a vet). But it means we have to make changes to our schedules . We have several options and are just evaluating them to see what is best for the kids. She hasn't told me when her last day will be yet.

All around

 

[Disneyland_Mama]

Janet Update:

I spoke with Janet this morning - she sounds sooooo much better. Her sinus infection is pretty much take care of, but her eyes are still shot. She's got a Dr. appt. this afternoon and will text me when she gets home with an update. She sends lots of hugs for all the get well wishes.

nothing new here. still bad, still stinky. just trying to make it through each day as best i can. i am realizing i need to deal with things slowly, that its the only way i can do it. Any of you who have been through this can you give me any tips on how to get through? I am trying to be strong but its so hard. I know I will need to be stronger than I have ever been to do this, and its just rough.

Kat, this is going to be very hard for you. I've never been through a divorce, but I have been through a separation and that was tough enough. Like V and Tracy said, cry, scream, beat up a pillow (or an Xbox ) - whatever you need to do to release that anger and hurt. Then you pick yourself up, dig deep, and be the strong gal we all know you are. Whatever happens, you will be OK. Whatever the outcome, divorce or reconciliation, you will be a stronger person in the end.

 

[KatGarcia]

Just wanted to stop by and say that i love you all so much. it means everything to me that you all care and are offering advice and text msgs and love and hugs in general.

We have spent the last few days together just hanging out and enjoying each others company. We have talked a little and made some small changes but are working towards the bigger ones. I know i can only do one bit at a time, its keeping me sane. It's odd because we are still in the same house but its seeming to be deal-able if nothing else.

I am just looking fwd to therapy again, it seemed to really help getting it out. I have my BFF in Florida who i have been leaning on the most. I am trying to be more open with my other friends but its so private its hard to tell people. there are very few people in our lives that know.

Anyways need to do the laundry. much love!

 

[englishrose47]

Kat even though I am divorced I really didn't go thru the heartbreak you are I was more fiscally devasted and had major depression for a long time !! Well that's when I got into the wonderful field I am now into !! It filled my life with JOY and the money ain't bad !! I see Judy going thru the heartbreak in spite of all SIL has done she still loves him and prolly always will !!I agree wth everyone else . cry scream etc.....But take care of you !!For me it was by caring for others that I was able to care for me !!! You will know what you have to do for YOU !!!

 

[Disneyland_Mama]

Janet Update:

She went to the Dr. today. She's out of commission for another week, they want her to see a specialist. Her diagnosis is still iritis.

Please send her lots of virtual hugs and good mojo!

 

[mrsksomeday]

Many hugs and thoughts and prayers for Janet and Kat.

 

[lazydoxy66]

Hello Fockers!!!

DAWN found a Disney ToT Clue game.

That's so cute!

JV thinks she is weird for not completing her scrap books in chronological order.

I think that would make you a good movie maker. They never shoot anything in order. It’s someone else’s job to put it together in the right way. Maybe you need an assistant.

ANGELA’s family finally showed up. She waited so long that by the time they got there she felt skunky and had to take a bath before they went out.

Where'd you go?

MEL says Janet had a sinus and upper respiratory infection. She was very sick.

T says Janet is doing much better but is still having issues with her eyes. The eye doctor says she is still out for another week and she will see a specialist.

Thanks T and Mel!

KAT says that KC admitted that he is ‘attracted’ to somebody else. They are still working through all the issues. There is another therapy session scheduled.

That just sux. I’d rather know the truth, but it just sux. I know you can get through this. Keep talking to us. Get it out. Know you are loved and admired.

TRACY gave some good advice to Kat.

You are so smart and caring!!

HEDY is trying to help her godmother with the grief of losing her father and DH in the past 4 months.

I think that getting her to WDW would be wonderful if you can work it out.

ROSIE is doing double duty again. Plus an exercise routine with one of her consumers. She said the escort service has her down as a Disney expert. They are sending an application to her bass as well.

Please rest up!! I can’t wait to see what your first escort job is.

JO says Ellie is shopping with friends, on her own, no mom. Jo’s bummed. She will get to hear about the trips she helped plan in the next couple of days when they return.

Poor momma! The little birds are getting ready to handle the world on their own!!! That’s what you taught them to do. Big hugs!!

Let us know what your friends say.

V says the return from Disney went better than usual. Leo is doing great at the new school. No support from the ex in Idaho. Leo’s dealing with the move of his dad fine.

I’m glad things are going well for you and Leo. Sorry about the deadbeat.

DEB will have a new boss on Monday. They have to change their schedules around for the kids due to their niece’s acceptance of a job at a vet’s office.

Good luck with the new boss and the new schedule.

JANET- The Fockers and the Enchanters are all pulling for you. You know we all love ya' and want to see ya' back real soon!!!
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This was on my porch yesterday:

Woohoo! I had just ordered it 2 days before. That's fast!

These were on sale for $7 and $8. Donald is for Rockie.

Here's our MNSSHP PJs.$19.99/ea. The stuffed animals are on the shirts. I also ordered barrett Minnie ears for Rockie from another site.

Close-ups

I'll post pictures of the other stuff when it comes.

Have a great evening and tomorrow everyone!

 

[englishrose47]

Kristel My "BASS" will be glad to hear she is now a Fish!!!She has been called much worse Sometimes our people have very "colorful language "

I just repacked my shipping boxes and can get away with 2 !!!! My suitcas is packed but of course I will be repackinh next week and the week after to double check !!

 

[1Princess1Prince2006]

Hi Fockers! I read along today but just didn't quite have the time to quote everyone.

I want to say thanks to everyone for the pic love of Lindsey for her first day of school. She had a good day and likes it so far.

Kat - to you. Everyone has given you great advice and I would probably say the same.

T - Thanks for the Janet update. Much to her.

Hi everyone else!

Linds had school today and DR and I just bummed around the house doing some light cleaning and laundry. I guess my aunt and cousin are coming to our house and we are having a garage sale this weekend. I was trying to go around the house to see if I could find anything to sell but really found nothing. I still have tomorrow to look around so we'll see what happens.

Hope everyone had a good day and night everyone!