Every year around the holiday time and then again at the end of school the class parent usually sends out a letter saying they are collecting money for a gift for the teacher (which usually turns out to be a gift certificate). I have been the class parent in my children's classrooms many times, so I know the drill. With that in mind, I am having second thoughts on doing a collection for my DS's 3rd grade class (I'm the only class parent there).
Let me explain. I did the whole letter thing at the holiday time and out of 18 kids we only collected $30.00 (I asked for $5.00 each). I have also had to collect money for the class parties (as per the teachers request). For the parties we requested $2.00 from each student. Well, again the same 6 people contributed and I wound up spending my own money for the crafts and whatever else wasn't covered. Also for the parties I asked for donations such as paper goods, chips, juice, etc. And guess what, only 1 person helped out there. I am the only parent that has ever gone on the class trips. I laid out extra money for the parties and crafts so the kids wouldn't miss out on things - its not their fault the parents are not sending in the money.
This teacher has a reputation of being mean. He isn't mean, he just has a lot of rules. My poor DS gets in trouble on daily basis (for talking too much). The kids have learned so much. This is my youngest child and I think that he got the best 3rd grade education he could have gotten even though he got in trouble a lot - but he knew the rules. This teacher also doesn't have much of a personality. But I liked his teaching methods. One thing he did is he always had something positive to say; even if my son got a low mark on a test, the teacher would write something like "good try".
Okay, I'm probably rambling at this point. So my question is would it be bad of me to not collect. If I don't collect I will send him a $25 g.c. from my son to somewhere around here (I like the home depot idea). I feel like he deserves more than that, but I'm afraid I won't get much more. Also there is a rumor that he is retiring in June. Also with the holiday collection I just signed the card from "your 3rd grade class" so that none of the kids would feel bad.
What do you guys think?