Taking your husband's name

[SandrA9810]

warning : This is just a fun topic... I'm not implying anything about my life.

Every parent seems to go through the torcher of picking out the perfect sounding name for their kids. Now i'm not getting into about crazy names or crazy spellings. Just one that seems to flow nicely, first-middle-last.

Gals: Did you ever sit and think about your boyfriend's last name and wonder if it sounded right with your name??
Guys: Did you ever say your girlfriend's name with your name wondering if it sounded right?
Are there any lovers in your past you're kinda glad that didn't work out in the end because you think the name would sounds awful?

I'm sure any parent has had a hard time picking out the name of their girl... Only to hope later down the line they marry some one, and take on a whole new name.


For me: There's a couple last names that just sound awful if I think about it. One that sounded perfect, and one that would've been alright. Not that all of them were marriage material or anything, just past relationships.

 

[PebblesMK]

warning : This is just a fun topic... I'm not implying anything about my life.

Every parent seems to go through the torcher of picking out the perfect sounding name for their kids. Now i'm not getting into about crazy names or crazy spellings. Just one that seems to flow nicely, first-middle-last.

Gals: Did you ever sit and think about your boyfriend's last name and wonder if it sounded right with your name??
Guys: Did you ever say your girlfriend's name with your name wondering if it sounded right?
Are there any lovers in your past you're kinda glad that didn't work out in the end because you think the name would sounds awful?

I'm sure any parent has had a hard time picking out the name of their girl... Only to hope later down the line they marry some one, and take on a whole new name.


For me: There's a couple last names that just sound awful if I think about it. One that sounded perfect, and one that would've been alright. Not that all of them were marriage material or anything, just past relationships.

I'm quite sure my 3rd grade teacher's parents never gave a second thought to naming her Nova....until she married her husband and got the last name Kane. And I'm not quite sure what my old neighbors parents were thinking when they named him Harold but called him Harry with the last name Glands. Nova Kane and Harry Glands!! hahhahahah Here's hoping my kid doesn't marry a Jar, she'll be Mason Jar!!!!

 

[golfgal]

I have a very German first name that was paired up with a very German last name and now I have a very Irish last name.

I know someone, due to marriage, that is now Kelly Kelly.

 

[Liberty Belle]

warning : This is just a fun topic... I'm not implying anything about my life.

Every parent seems to go through the torcher of picking out the perfect sounding name for their kids. Now i'm not getting into about crazy names or crazy spellings. Just one that seems to flow nicely, first-middle-last.

Gals: Did you ever sit and think about your boyfriend's last name and wonder if it sounded right with your name??
Guys: Did you ever say your girlfriend's name with your name wondering if it sounded right?
Are there any lovers in your past you're kinda glad that didn't work out in the end because you think the name would sounds awful?

I'm sure any parent has had a hard time picking out the name of their girl... Only to hope later down the line they marry some one, and take on a whole new name.


For me: There's a couple last names that just sound awful if I think about it. One that sounded perfect, and one that would've been alright. Not that all of them were marriage material or anything, just past relationships.

Well, first, I always knew I wanted to take my husband's last name (whatever it may have been), mostly because I knew I wanted children and I figured it would be best if we all had the same last name. Other's don't think that way, and that's ok.

Yes, I have tried out my name with past boyfriend's last names (and even past crushes, when I was really young). I would not let it determine if I'd marry him or not.

My maiden name was pretty long and hardly anyone would pronounce it correctly, so most names would have been an improvement. I like/liked my (now) husband's last name and was happy that my name sounded good with it, but if it didn't (say it rhymed or something) it would have bothered me a little, but I am sure I would have gotten over it soon enough.

I only have boy children, so I can't answer your question about giving your girl a name. I have heard of some married couples hyphenating their names when they got married (ie, Jane Smith marries John Jones and their new names are Jane Smith-Jones and John Smith-Jones), so I suppose my boys could change their last names one day, but I doubt it.

 

[erincon23]

I'm fortunate that my first name goes well with my husband's last, but other former boyfriends, not so much. I had a HS teacher whose last name was Christmas... that's right, his wife's name is Mary. DH and I have been married nearly 22 years -- my mom almost always has written checks and envelopes out to me with my maiden name, or maiden name crossed out and then DH's name -- not out of any suppressed problem with DH, I don't think.

 

[SandrA9810]

ohh i'm not saying a last name would determine if he was marriage material. But one of those thing of bottom of the list reason your glad it didn't work out.


I wonder if some one winds up with a strange last name, like kelly kelly, if they hyphenate it...

 

[Becky2005]

Not really but then again I went from a maiden name that was always misspelled by people or mispronounced to a very short 4 letter last name that people still misspell.

I find it hysterical when people misspell it because they just want to put an extra letter at the end that doesn't even affect anything on the name -- it's as if it's just a random letter there. Now people do mispronounce it on occassion too but that makes more sense because it has a silent K at the beginning, so at least that one makes sense when they don't automatically look in the K part when looking something up or sometimes they try to pronounce the K.


My ex-boyfriend had a rather generic last name, so it would have been easier than my maiden name too.

I haven't got the foggiest idea if my DD will change her name, keep it or who knows what.

 

[SydSim]

Before having DD, I did consider her potential first name and how it sounded with our last name. If we had a daughter, she would have both last names. Her name sounded much better with the two last names. If we had a son, the name that we picked out didn't sound right with both last names, so he would just have DH's last name.

 

[bdoyledimou]

I only have boy children, so I can't answer your question about giving your girl a name. I have heard of some married couples hyphenating their names when they got married (ie, Jane Smith marries John Jones and their new names are Jane Smith-Jones and John Smith-Jones), so I suppose my boys could change their last names one day, but I doubt it.

I did this.
I took my wifes last name and we hyphenated it. When we regestered our new id the city clerk actually had to look up oif it was allowed for men to to do it (in a city of 2 million it was that rare...)

Now that I have two kids, (boy and girl) I really hope they dont do the same... the last name would just get HUGE!!!!

 

[Acklander]

When I was pregnant with my kids we used to joke about if it was a girl we couldn't name her Crystal because combined with DH's last name it has a VERY strong drug reference. Fast forward 25 years and my DIL is named Crystal and she chose to take on DS's last name. Oh well, we tried.

 

[gregokdisney]

I was eager to take my husband's name because my maiden name is very unusual and difficult to spell. Pair that with a sort of obscure first name, and I spent the first 22 years of my life spelling both first and last name.

My husband's (and now my) last name is very Anglo-Saxon, and is a common man's first name. I was sure I was done spelling the last name, at least, but I still have to spell it. Apparently it isn't as common as I thought.

 

[TheBigBadWolf]

I'm glad that my DH's last name is almost the same as my maiden name, minus the "son". Kind of like if my name was Johnson, his was John (not the actual names). My family jokingly told him his name was "close enough". What is strange is his grandmother's maiden name was the same as my maiden name. Hopefully we're not too closely related, but since he was born and raised 1500 miles across the country from me, I'm not too worried about it.

 

[LisaInNc]

I was always sensitive about changing my name. I dated one guy that had the same last name as me.

Too bad that one didn't work out.

I didn't want to change mine because my brother and myself are the last in our family and it's not like HE is going to reproduce but when I got proposed to...my DBF knew about the aversion to changing my name and built that into the proposal...that pinhead! It was will you marry me and take my name in marriage.

He was holding something shiny....what was I to do? I would have changed my name to Lisa Pizza if it got me that ring!

Lisa

 

[Kitzka]

I have always loved my name and never thought about taking a boyfriend's last name. I always hoped my husband to be would take my last name which is a very common Vietnamese last name (like smith in the us). I was also aware of the fact that my first name was very Anglo and I was proud of my Asian heritage. I didn't want to lose that part of my name when I married.

The man I married was not in love with his name but also was not willing to take my name so when we got married we kept our own last names. When we had DD we agreed to have her last name be both of our last names with no hypen so her last name would be Duy Jones (not her actual last name).

She is the only one with that last name anywhere in the US and loves it. I hope she chooses to keep her last name but its up to her. She has said she will give her children her last name as their middle name when she has kids but she is only 12 so time will tell.

Lara

 

[SandrA9810]

kari has a Kn last name, only the K is pronounced. My g'mother's maiden name is Kn with the K pronounced. So when i saw the spelling of her name, and i said it correctly, her draw dropped. Her last name is always mispronounced.

Mine is irish with an O, except my mom took out the apostrphe. So people always try to mush it it together. I think it's fairly simple.... Guess not.

 

[Jingle]

I didn't go back to my maiden name when I got divorced because I liked my ex's better and then I had the same last name as my kids.

I knew someone who's name when she got married was Grace Grace. Similar to the Kelly Kelly name from an earlier post.

 

[kimblebee]

I took my now ex husbands last name and our daughter has his name. I haven't changed mine back to my maiden name because I want it to be the same as my daughters. I know one day she may get married and change her name but for now I like us being the same.

When we were trying to pick out names we did have a bit of a difficult time because of our last name. My favorite girls name was Penny but Penny Moore was just cruel. Same with my favorite boys name, Noah. Although, in hindsight, Noah Moore would have been accurate as she is an only child

 

[Inigo]

I had to change my "if I ever have a daughter, this is what I want to name her" name because I married DH. If I had used the name I loved, she would have had rhyming names. I'm glad it worked out, because her first and middle names (she goes by her middle name) and nickname fit her perfectly. The other name wouldn't have "fit" her personality so well.

 

[MickeySP]

I took my exes last name but changed mine back when we were annulled.

My son had his changed to mine also. When I married the 2nd time I kept my name so my DS & I had the same last name.

 

[Colleen27]

When I was a teen, I used to think that anything would be better than my long, frequently misprounced Irish last name... Until I met DH, who has an even longer, even more frequently mispronounced, impossible to spell Polish surname.

I joke that he should know I really love him by the fact that I took his name.