Taking a newborn out for Thanksgiving

[jenrose66]

I will have a 10 day old for Thanksgiving this year

Anyway me and DH are having this huge disagreement over our holiday plans. I don't want to do anything. I feel we should stay home and celebrate with just the 5 of us. Both DS's are sick with colds, sore throats, etc... as are DH and I, so it's bad enough that the baby is exposed to our germs. I feel like taking her to a family gathering with 20 people is not the smartest thing to do at the height of cold and flu season.

DH wants to go to family dinner. He says I have a sickness and it's ridiculous to not go places for fear of getting sick. Well, what if the baby ends up in the hospital with RSV or something terrible, then was stupid family dinner worth it?

I don't know why I don't get a break. I just birthed a child last Monday. DH is already back at work. I'm sleep deprived and sick. Am I being unreasonable about Thanksgiving?

I'm not saying you're going to change my opinion, but honesty is appreciated.

 

[LMulligan]

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. I might be overly cautious or crazy but, as a first-time mom with a three week old baby, I don't feel comfortable taking my son out until he gets his first round of shots. That's just my humble opinion as I am not an MD

Feel better and have a great holiday whatever you decide!

Lisa

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

You just had a baby--like..JUST HAD A BABY! Your vote trumps his, sorry to him. If his family is that petty. Well then, too bad.

Your body is still recovering. You need rest...not to hang out with 20 different people.

I have had 4 and I usually don't do anything that isn't obligatory or what I consider low key until AFTER the 2nd or 3rd week.

Now--I have gone to the mall, gone to the grocery store, gone to a friends house. But these were not big to do things.

You just had a baby--stay home. He can feel free to take your other children if it is that important. While RSV is a concern, you overdoing it should be of equal concern. You become more susceptible to illness if you do too much, too soon, too fast.

IF it is that important to him--have him pick you up a turkey pot pie, and have him take the kids for the day while you stay home and snuggle and rest with the newborn.

 

[golfgal]

Honestly, the baby has already been exposed to your colds, etc. and if she is going to get sick, she will get sick. I would be MORE concerned about you passing your colds on to others at the dinner personally. I wouldn't be happy if your family showed up at my place sick on Thanksgiving. I don't want to get sick, thanks.

 

[NikitaZee]

You're not being unreasonable. We had the same dilemma when my oldest was a newborn - big family Christmas, we were pretty much expected to go. Luckily, my husband and I both agreed he was too little to be at a big gathering, where everyone would be in his face, wanting to hold him, etc. Also luckily for us - our family had the same pediatrician, who advised us not to bring him around a crowd when he was only a couple of weeks old. We didn't go, and had a nice holiday just the three of us. Good luck - sounds like you need some rest. Tell your husband he can go by himself if it means that much to him - and bring you a nice plate of leftovers!

 

[SydSim]

Honestly, the baby has already been exposed to your colds, etc. and if she is going to get sick, she will get sick. I would be MORE concerned about you passing your colds on to others at the dinner personally. I wouldn't be happy if your family showed up at my place sick on Thanksgiving. I don't want to get sick, thanks.

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[jenrose66]

Honestly, the baby has already been exposed to your colds, etc. and if she is going to get sick, she will get sick. I would be MORE concerned about you passing your colds on to others at the dinner personally. I wouldn't be happy if your family showed up at my place sick on Thanksgiving. I don't want to get sick, thanks.

I agree with you. We are full of germs thanks to DS at pre-k. His family knows we are sick they don't care. Dh's sister is harassing him asking if we are coming even though I said we weren't going.

 

[LuLuO]

If I were you, I'd stay home. Maybe if DH wants to go out so bad, you can stay home with the baby and he and the other kids can go out.

 

[honugirl]

Please don't bring your sick kids to Thanksgiving dinner. I have a lowered immune system and quite frankly, I have finals in the next 2 weeks and if I were to get sick and miss my finals because parts of my family decided they needed to come to Thanksgiving with sick kids, there would be some serious heck to pay.

 

[crz4mm2]

Nevermind you just had a baby.... There are many viral illnesses around right now. You do NOT want your baby exposed (mostly unknowingly) to any of them.
Stay home.

 

[C.Ann]

I will have a 10 day old for Thanksgiving this year

Anyway me and DH are having this huge disagreement over our holiday plans. I don't want to do anything. I feel we should stay home and celebrate with just the 5 of us. Both DS's are sick with colds, sore throats, etc... as are DH and I, so it's bad enough that the baby is exposed to our germs. I feel like taking her to a family gathering with 20 people is not the smartest thing to do at the height of cold and flu season.

DH wants to go to family dinner. He says I have a sickness and it's ridiculous to not go places for fear of getting sick. Well, what if the baby ends up in the hospital with RSV or something terrible, then was stupid family dinner worth it?

I don't know why I don't get a break. I just birthed a child last Monday. DH is already back at work. I'm sleep deprived and sick. Am I being unreasonable about Thanksgiving?

I'm not saying you're going to change my opinion, but honesty is appreciated.

You just had a baby 10 days ago? You have a 4 yr. old and a 1 yr. old that are already sick? You & your DH are sick as well?

And Thanksgiving is the day after tomorrow??

No - I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.. Who wants to go out when they're not feeling well (having given birth just 10 days ago), having 2 little ones sick already, and mingle with 20 other people??

"Mom" and the kids would be staying home.. End of story..

Hope all of you feel better soon!

 

[tink_lover]

If I were you, I'd stay home. Maybe if DH wants to go out so bad, you can stay home with the baby and he and the other kids can go out.

ITA! Your husband should be supporting YOU - but if he insists on going, let him take the older 2 while you and baby stay home, nap and snuggle in. He can bring you leftovers (Take care of yourself, I remember having a 4 year old, 2 year old and baby. It was a busy time and it's important for MOM to be happy)

 

[monkeybug]

I will have a 10 day old for Thanksgiving this year

Anyway me and DH are having this huge disagreement over our holiday plans. I don't want to do anything. I feel we should stay home and celebrate with just the 5 of us. Both DS's are sick with colds, sore throats, etc... as are DH and I, so it's bad enough that the baby is exposed to our germs. I feel like taking her to a family gathering with 20 people is not the smartest thing to do at the height of cold and flu season.

DH wants to go to family dinner. He says I have a sickness and it's ridiculous to not go places for fear of getting sick. Well, what if the baby ends up in the hospital with RSV or something terrible, then was stupid family dinner worth it


I'm not saying you're going to change my opinion, but honesty is appreciated.

As someone who had a baby hospitalized for a week with RSV, I don't think you are being unreasonable at all!
Scariest experience of my life watching my baby boy struggle for every breath.
Granted I don't think RSV season really kicks off for another month or so, but still.
Not to mention that you aren't feeling well. Your body is still healing and you need to rest mama!!

 

[ZachnElli]

I wouldn't go just for the reason you are all sick, not because you just had a baby. I was always out and about with my kids as newborns.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I will have a 10 day old for Thanksgiving this year

Anyway me and DH are having this huge disagreement over our holiday plans. I don't want to do anything. I feel we should stay home and celebrate with just the 5 of us. Both DS's are sick with colds, sore throats, etc... as are DH and I, so it's bad enough that the baby is exposed to our germs. I feel like taking her to a family gathering with 20 people is not the smartest thing to do at the height of cold and flu season.

DH wants to go to family dinner. He says I have a sickness and it's ridiculous to not go places for fear of getting sick. Well, what if the baby ends up in the hospital with RSV or something terrible, then was stupid family dinner worth it?

I don't know why I don't get a break. I just birthed a child last Monday. DH is already back at work. I'm sleep deprived and sick. Am I being unreasonable about Thanksgiving?

I'm not saying you're going to change my opinion, but honesty is appreciated.

You are allowed a break. You just have to put your foot down.

And for the love of all things keep your germs AT HOME. Your dh is very inconsiderate of others and you.

 

[shortbun]

In our family, if you're sick...stay home and we'll send you a plate. Maybe your DH can go and take one of the kids if they are feeling better. Many people don't take babies out until they are older. Big family parties are an awful place for a baby and especially a new mother.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I could see my DH being the same way, wanting to "show off" his baby girl, and that is fine... BUT... You aren't feeling it, and HELLO! You are all SICK! Keep your germs at home. Show off and celebrate 30 days later, at Christmas...

 

[wilderness01]

As someone who had a baby hospitalized for a week with RSV, I don't think you are being unreasonable at all!
Scariest experience of my life watching my baby boy struggle for every breath.
Granted I don't think RSV season really kicks off for another month or so, but still.
Not to mention that you aren't feeling well. Your body is still healing and you need to rest mama!!

RSV season is here already.

OP, the nurses should have specifically told you to keep the baby out of large crowds for the first month. I know that is on our discharge instructions.

Stay home, and rest. Not only should your new baby not be exposed to everyone, you shouldn't be exposing everyone to your germs. Sorry your husband is being a butthead and unsupportive.

 

[abckidsmom]

Echoing the others. I'd stay home first because you're all sick, and second because the postpartum lady doesn't want to go.

I've had family show up to holidays sick, adn it drives me crazy!

 

[wilderness01]

Forgot to say, feel better soon. Rest, rest and rest.