Suspension from school

[mumom95]

I'd spend the day trying to figure out where to hide the body.

 

[Handbag Lady]

The one time I got out of school suspension, my dad went to the school and set it up so I wasn't out of school.. I went to all my classes as usual, except my dad went with me. Never got in trouble again. I'll do this with my daughter if need be. I like the idea of moving dirt from one side of the yard to the other too.

I like this one!



I'd hire a babysitter, even if my kid was 15 or 16. And then make sure the babysitter was an ex-marine or something along those lines. Or a cop.

 

[MomRN]

Well, it would depend on the crime. A teenager that defends his or her self, or brings Tylenol to school, or a nail file... I probably wouldn't do much. I wouldn't make it fun and exciting, but I don't know I would add to the punishment.

Now, if it were for something that would be against home rules... cheating, starting a fight, drugs... well, my answer would depend on the severity of the crime.

Also, why do they give out-of school suspension for skipping school? Makes no sense to me what-so-ever...

To the previous poster that mentioned accompany the student to school.. I have told my husband I wouldn't hesitate to do that. Want to skip school? Let me escort you to your classes...

 

[Debbie]

I always had a nice clean house when my son got suspended -- that, and he would get a week's grounding for every day of the suspension.

I even got a phone call at work after school one day. The elder (and more "suspension experienced" boy): "It's okay, Mom. I already have him washing the floors."

If the kids had something due, I did let them take time away from wall, floors, cleaning shelves to complete their work.

I had one of my girls suspended. I disagreed with the suspension, but I understood. She didn't have to clean, just work on school work.

Generally, while I agree with C.Ann about the workload relating somehow to the crime, unfortunately that wasn't possible with some of my boys' suspensions....of course if it had, maybe I would have been more mellow.

 

[pipersmom]

I would check around for menial labor type volunteer opportunities in your community. Just because he isn't in school, doesn't mean he can't learn something for the day.. (besides that it's no fun being suspended)..lol!

 

[aprilgail2]

When you are suspended here they have to provide you with a home teacher so right after school ends your home teacher shows up at your house (a parent MUST be home!) and you start your school day. Costs us more money for the darn kids that are suspended and expelled because they can't be denied their education even though they are suspended!
My daughters friends older brother was suspended for most of the past year- why???? Well....he hated geting up in the mornings so as long as he was suspended/expelled he could sleep late and his teacher would show up in the afternoon when he was awake!! Mom just said "oh he stays up late and gets up late so the early morning school wasn't working for him".....okkkkkkk....tell me how that works out for the next 30 years with his employers!!!

 

[NotAmused]

I wish more parents around here had the same view of punishment as you all seem to have! At one of the schools I work at, the same students are constantly being put in In School Suspension and some of them even act up there....which gets them Out of School Suspension. They are obviously not quite understanding the consequences of their actions. Last week, a boy had a day of suspension and came back with a sunburn.....his older cousin decided to bring him to the beach. What a "punishment"

 

[Disney Doll]

Assuming I had a job that I could take paid time off for, probably what others here have mentioned. I'd make sure it was a day full of tedious work. I'd let my kid know that this is the type of work they can expect to have after highschool if they keep screwing up, since no college will accept a disapline case. Even if the kid was old enough to stay home alone, I'd take time off anyway. Nothing like having a parent look over your sholder while polishing the silver to add an extra "something" to your punishment!

My brother did this with his step-son (with his wife's blessing). Kid flunked senior year of high school. For no good reason other than that it was "not cool" to be a good student. He really was anice kid and smart and didn't give them a lot of trouble but just seemed to get stupid in his senior year of HS. That summer, coincidentally , my brother decided to build a brick walk from the front sidewalk around the side of his fairly large colonial house and into the backyard where it culminated in a lovely patio. LOTS of hauling of bricks and sand and cement and all the other stuff one needs to do a job like that. And stepson did it all. And every time he complained, my brother would simply say "Get used to it because this is the kind of work you will be doing without a good education".

Amamzingly enough, stepson quickly decided to get his GED and go to college and is now a very wonderful successful 30-something year old man doing something with computers.

 

[karibritt01]

I always had a nice clean house when my son got suspended -- that, and he would get a week's grounding for every day of the suspension.

Not sounding like this punishment worked out to well for you!

 

[Silly Little Pixie]

Or you could do what one of the parents of one of my students did -- take him skiing!

The child came back to school the next day and said "I don't have to listen to you, because if you suspend me again my dad will just do something fun with me again."

One of my other students got between me and the child and said "Your father is an idiot. I got suspended and my mom made me clean the bathroom with a toothbrush -- it was awful, but she's a smart mom because I've never been suspended again. Either your father doesn't love you or he's an idiot".

A few weeks later at the first kid's parent teacher conference the Dad complained that the child didn't have a lot of friends. I told him I agreed, and said "kids this age can be so cruel, the other day one of the students said " . . ." and I quoted the whole thing to him.

(A little background info -- parents were divorced. Dad was court ordered to pay for the private school of Mom's choice -- which was us. So, Dad went out of his way to encourage his kid to behave badly so that he'd get expelled. In this case, the child had thrown a brick at my head).

CLASSY!!!!!!!!

They must be so proud. I'm also a teacher- so I can totally see this happening at my school too.

 

[bobcat]

DS went to work with me and had a lot of manual labor those days. I don't think I've had so many projects finished in two days.

 

[castleview]

I'd be taking the day off and riding my child's butt all day. If that can't be done, can your child come with you? A co-worker of mine did that and I swear it worked out better because he was so ashamed of everyone knowing what he did. I don't know what you're situation is, but I hope it can be handled effectively.

 

[castleview]

Or you could do what one of the parents of one of my students did -- take him skiing!

The child came back to school the next day and said "I don't have to listen to you, because if you suspend me again my dad will just do something fun with me again."

One of my other students got between me and the child and said "Your father is an idiot. I got suspended and my mom made me clean the bathroom with a toothbrush -- it was awful, but she's a smart mom because I've never been suspended again. Either your father doesn't love you or he's an idiot".

A few weeks later at the first kid's parent teacher conference the Dad complained that the child didn't have a lot of friends. I told him I agreed, and said "kids this age can be so cruel, the other day one of the students said " . . ." and I quoted the whole thing to him.

(A little background info -- parents were divorced. Dad was court ordered to pay for the private school of Mom's choice -- which was us. So, Dad went out of his way to encourage his kid to behave badly so that he'd get expelled. In this case, the child had thrown a brick at my head).

Good Lord! Some people are so screwed up. I'm sure his dad would have loved paying the bill if you were seriously injured.

 

[golfgal]

Or you could do what one of the parents of one of my students did -- take him skiing!

The child came back to school the next day and said "I don't have to listen to you, because if you suspend me again my dad will just do something fun with me again."

One of my other students got between me and the child and said "Your father is an idiot. I got suspended and my mom made me clean the bathroom with a toothbrush -- it was awful, but she's a smart mom because I've never been suspended again. Either your father doesn't love you or he's an idiot".

A few weeks later at the first kid's parent teacher conference the Dad complained that the child didn't have a lot of friends. I told him I agreed, and said "kids this age can be so cruel, the other day one of the students said " . . ." and I quoted the whole thing to him.

(A little background info -- parents were divorced. Dad was court ordered to pay for the private school of Mom's choice -- which was us. So, Dad went out of his way to encourage his kid to behave badly so that he'd get expelled. In this case, the child had thrown a brick at my head).

Now go post this story on Torinsmom's post about the NC Judge ready to fire all the teachers and principals if all the students don't do well . Poor kid.

 

[Inigo]

I like the idea of moving dirt from one side of the yard to the other too.

It's not moving the dirt. It's moving the hole!! You have to say it right!

 

[Inigo]

The moving the hole thing is why my kids say they never got suspended, not even an in-school. They knew mom meant it.

Fortunately, I ended up with good kids. I don't know how I got such good kids, but I'm so glad I did.

 

[CathrynRose]

Fortunately, I ended up with good kids. I don't know how I got such good kids, but I'm so glad I did.

I've got good kids too - but they've also both have been suspended.

 

[Briarmom]

It totally would depend on the crime. Over 300 of us did 'Senior Skip Day' when we didn't really have one...most of us* got suspended (although it was in school and they had to do it in shifts). My mother was fine with me doing it, and we even went shopping.

*The people who were caught with the dd of the Chief of Police partying at the lake with beer somehow escaped punishment.

 

[hereyago]

DD's middle school has ISS trailer, she hasn't gone there and she knows she better not.

But with that said, back in the day, I had 3 ISS, I along with all my classmates but 1 skipped a class that had a drill sargeant-seriously she used to be one-for a substitute that we had before.

My ISS wasn't boring though. We did our work. The ISS teacher who knew what the students were there for asked us to repeat it anyway, then asked if we would do it again. I said yes, I am sorry but that woman was off the chain.

We would be doing our work in ISS and the teacher would ask us questions to try to make us think. LIke, if we had a kid and they did what we did, what would we do.

And 1 guy ended up getting beat up by other ISS students in the bathroom, so that was awkward.


BUT: the downside that most affected me was: the other regular teachers especially the teacher that had been out that day was really disappointed, that was the worst part.

We never had that sub again.

 

[Debbie]

I've got good kids too - but they've also both have been suspended.

Teen years weren't fun with my boys when I was going through them, but now I know that it was my perception. The one who gave me the most grief is now the one that I can count on-without asking. A couple of years ago DH and I were away for the night. DS came home from university on the weekend to make sure his sisters were okay (I had made arrangements, honest!) AND drove to DD's work (½ km away-that's 500 m), to follow as she biked home after her shift-to make sure that she got home safely. That same DD was suspended when "the look" made her crumble. Absolutely not necessary (and the "crime" was not an issue). After the first suspension with my oldest, I learned it wasn't the end of the world, the kids aren't bad (just kids!) and we would all live through it.

(ps. as a teacher, that first one mortified me)