Surreal experience and we now own Aulani points

A_Princess'_Daddy

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I don't post much on the DVC boards, but I just had to share the experience that we just had at the BWV last week because if nothing else, it'll help me process what just happened, as it's not something I can easily share with my friends or family...

As a bit of critical back story, my wife and I have become very good friends with a dear older woman with whom I worked when just starting out in my career, and after my mother passed away a few years ago, our friend has become a second mother to me and a grandmother to our two children (who never knew their grandmother).

She (and her husband, who sadly passed away a few years ago) has been a mentor, coach, friend, etc. to me for over a decade, and we asked her to join us for our spring break trip to the Boardwalk this past week as our guest. Not only did we want to thank her for all that she has done for us, but primarily invited her because we genuinely love having her in our lives and in the lives of our children. We frequently have her to our home for the Holidays, and visit her at her home (in another state) annually, so vacationing together is pretty normal by now.

We booked a 2BR at the BWV, and she had one room, our children slept in the living room, and we took the second bedroom. It was a ton of fun, we paid for everything, and it was a fantastic vacation.

We had to leave to get home, but she decided to stay for a few extra days to visit some friends in Florida, so we said our goodbyes and headed off. Then, last night she called my cell phone, very excited, to tell me that she'd just bought my wife and me 250 points at Aulani (plus another 250 for herself), because she knows that we love Hawaii, that we love Disney, that our two children adore Disney, and she "thought it would be nice for us to have some more points."

Now, "nice" is clearly the understatement of the year, and I'm just stunned. She certainly has her full mental capacities, she has quite significant financial resources, and I know she did it out of the true goodness of her heart, but I feel deeply awkward about a gift of this magnitude. In addition, I'm frankly a bit concerned that she may have gotten hustled by the DVC Guide (hustled isn't the correct term, because nobody could "hustle" her, but more led in a direction that best fit the sales goals of the guide rather than what is best for her).

I'm not really sure what I'm looking for in posting this. I'm certainly not trying to brag or show off, as I'm very embarrassed by it (but the anonymity of the Internet makes me feel safer about sharing it here than with my friends), and I don't think we did anything inappropriate so I'm not looking for absolution, but it's just so very odd. Two days ago we were happy with our 250 BWV points, and now suddenly we own another 250 in Aulani.

Has anybody ever had an experience like this? Any wise words from the long-term DVCers out there? And, while I'm still processing the gift, any input on when Aulani will be opening and when reservations can be made, as apparently I have a few vacations to plan (it came with the standard 250 + 250 points and we'll get another 250 next year, plus she has the same number of points for herself, so we'll be doing some major touring soon).

If nothing else, thank you for allowing me to ramble...
 
Now, "nice" is clearly the understatement of the year, and I'm just stunned. She certainly has her full mental capacities, she has quite significant financial resources, and I know she did it out of the true goodness of her heart, but I feel deeply awkward about a gift of this magnitude. In addition, I'm frankly a bit concerned that she may have gotten hustled by the DVC Guide (hustled isn't the correct term, because nobody could "hustle" her, but more led in a direction that best fit the sales goals of the guide rather than what is best for her).


If nothing else, thank you for allowing me to ramble...

Just accept that good things sometimes happen to good people -- a hard thing to expect in the world we live in now, I know. Congratulations, and may you always have such a close relationship with this your "chosen" family. :angel:
 
What a generous & nice gift - you're lucky to have such a friend in your life, and she no doubt feels the same way. The only down side is now your annual dues have doubled, so just be prepared for that.
 
Others may disagree, but this is how I look at it. She's a grown woman, and she bought you a very generous gift. This is not something you asked for, and in no way did you take advantage of her. Unless you're concerned about the maintenance fees and it puts you in a financial bind, I would thank her profusely, and drag her along on the great vacations you guys have coming your way. :thumbsup2

You still have time to cancel if it's not something you feel right doing, but she obviously had the means and wanted to do it. If my hubby and I continue to be blessed financially, you better believe we'll help our kids/grandkids out. She looks at you no differently, and it was just a super sweet thing of her to do. If she thinks of you as family, it may hurt her feelings if it's a gift you would have accepted from a family member, but not from her. I go back to the fact she wouldn't have done it if she hadn't wanted to, and how she spends her money and what gifts she freely gives is up to her.

I have always said that if I ever had big money, I would have a ball paying off peoples' car loans, home loans, etc. I just think it would be so fun seeing their reactions! I'm sure it was so much fun for her to give you the points knowing how much you love Disney! :cloud9:
 

Wow! First, congratulations! :banana: And, it sounds as if you have been blessed with the gift of a fabulous relationship with a second "mom" - not many people get to have that. :lovestruc

That said, your discomfort is totally understandable. Does she have children of her own? If so, then I would be ready to hear from them. You say she's totally "with it", and I don't know the particulars of any extended relationship you may have with her family, but that's about the only downside I could think of, in terms of "if it was my mom", and being worried about her financial health.

If none of that is a worry, then have you thought of offering to pay her dues for a few years, as a "thank you" back? Then again, a gift is a gift, and shouldn't come with strings attached.....

Have a wonderful first vacation in Hawaii - I'm sure you'll all be going together, and perhaps that is all she would love to have in return!
 
I understand it is a lot to take in and so totally unexpected. I think I would be in shock as well. But, I'm sure this is bringing that sweet lady a lot of joy to think of the happiness her gift will bring you over the years. Sometimes it's hard to be the recipient, but I say, accept graciously and enjoy. She knows you well enough to know you will appreciate this unexpected windfall and is wise enough to know she can't "take it with her". Good for all of you!
 
(it came with the standard 250 + 250 points and we'll get another 250 next year, plus she has the same number of points for herself, so we'll be doing some major touring soon).

If nothing else, thank you for allowing me to ramble...

Congratulations! OMG what a nice gift :goodvibes I think you're very lucky, and it is a bit awkward I guess. She must really appreciate all that you do for her as well.

I have a question though---why are you getting 250 + 250? We were told that Aulani doesn't come with 2010 points, because it is not built...?
 
Wow, what a great story. :goodvibes It sounds like you both are very lucky to have each other. Enjoy your new points!
 
I think you are lucky and I also think that she is lucky. She may be hoping to be included in your future trips to WDW and Hawaii. These may be places that she would find hard or not so fun to visit on her own. You have obviously given her great joy by including her in your lives and sharing your BWV points and now she is reciprocating.
We are vacationing in Hawaii right now and it is just the best. It is very hard to leave Hawaii so I planned a BWV trip for a few weeks after we return home to ease the pain. You can do the same. Enjoy! :thumbsup2
 
I think you are lucky and I also think that she is lucky. She may be hoping to be included in your future trips to WDW and Hawaii. These may be places that she would find hard or not so fun to visit on her own. You have obviously given her great joy by including her in your lives and sharing your BWV points and now she is reciprocating.
We are vacationing in Hawaii right now and it is just the best. It is very hard to leave Hawaii so I planned a BWV trip for a few weeks after we return home to ease the pain. You can do the same. Enjoy! :thumbsup2

Hope you have a great time in Hawaii, and enjoy your BWV trip. We have been going down over spring break the last few years this time of year, but my son made the freshman baseball team, and the team plays over spring break. Really miss the flowers at Epcot. :sad1: Fortunately, we're going in July for 10 days (BCVs). I can't wait!
 
I think you are lucky and I also think that she is lucky. She may be hoping to be included in your future trips to WDW and Hawaii. These may be places that she would find hard or not so fun to visit on her own. You have obviously given her great joy by including her in your lives and sharing your BWV points and now she is reciprocating.
We are vacationing in Hawaii right now and it is just the best. It is very hard to leave Hawaii so I planned a BWV trip for a few weeks after we return home to ease the pain. You can do the same. Enjoy! :thumbsup2

I agree with this entirely.
 
What a very generous gift!!!!!!!!!

Not sure if this is possible, but you may want to inquire about splitting the 250 points into 2, 125 point contracts just in case schedules, maintance fees ect... get in the way of future plans and you feel you may want to sell a part (but not all) of this wonderful gift!

Enjoy her company you cannot put a price on memories!
 
I don't know her financial situation or if she has any kids, but the best gifts are those that you get to see others enjoy.

Small side story here... My DW's grandmother has a pretty vast fortune and four grandchildren that could use a little help. Granted all her grandkids do well in life, but its $100 for Christmas and out to breakfast for your birthday, nothing more, nothing less. It's her money and she can use it as she pleases, we all get that. But, from our standpoint, it would be nice for her to see how everyone uses before she passes.
 
Don't underestimate the gift that you and your family have been and continue to give her - friendship. It's the best thing in the world. :flower3:

Logistically - Aulani opens the end of August this year. Reservations have been open to owners for awhile and are now open to non-owners since it's within the 7 months mark so start your planning and reserving!

Have fun!!
 
i can understand how you'd feel uncomfortable with this because I would too. but then i'd get over it and be doing this :banana: for a year or so!!!!

Enjoy and be thankful she's in your life (and not just because she got you DVC points!)
 
I agree with everyone - she wanted to do something nice for your family and she did. Accept it graciously, enjoy the points, and your time with her as well.
 
To say that I am jealous would be an understatement.

There are people who truly gain happiness through spreading happiness to others. My father is one of those people -- he is happy when the people around him are happy. And if someone has the means to purchase a special gift for someone - even if that someone isn't really family - I can see why they would do it. I'd like to think that I would do something similar if I had the means and someone was that close to me later in life.

If I were in your position, I would only feel "weird" if:
a) she had family that would be upset by the gift
b) she wasn't 100% "with it"

If neither of the above are issues, I'd say "enjoy!!!!!"
 
I agree with everyone - she wanted to do something nice for your family and she did. Accept it graciously, enjoy the points, and your time with her as well.

I think this is very well said. It is obvious that your family has brought as much great joy and love to her life as she has brought to all of yours. What a loving and generous gift. You are so lucky to have each other. Such a blessing.
 




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