Suggestions on destressing????

[tinkerbell105354]

Hey everyone! It's been a while since I've posted because I have been soooooooooo busy! We are down to 2 weeks until our wedding and then off to our honeymoon to Disney! Due to some financial issues, we are no longer staying at the AKL, but rather camping at Fort Wilderness. Other than the heat, I think we will have more fun camping. We love to do it and it seems a fitting way to experience Disney. I read in a post earlier that somebody was more excited about their honeymoon in Disney than their wedding at this point and I must say that I totally agree!!!! My maid of honor is also my only bridesmaid and my fiance's sister and she is HORRIBLE!!!! She has not offered to help with anything!!! And then when she finally did say she would go with me today to pick out my hairdo for the wedding, she couldn't even do that!!! My future MIL is driving me up the wall!!!! She is making my dress, which is absolutely gorgeous, but she won't just finish it already! Hello...two weeks until the wedding!!! And she said she would do my veil last weekend and that didn't get done. Then she's decided she wants to make the cake, which is fine, but I told her at least 3 or 4 times that I want to decorate it and I think it is going in one ear and right out the other. Plus, she wants to make like literally 10 cakes for my reception. There are only going to be 80 people there and we are grilling out (beach theme wedding) and having a meal! My fiance could care less about anything except to complain about it and I have pretty much had it! I need some suggestions from you all as to how to destress and get through the next two weeks!

 

[Slsguy]

I'd like you to meet friend Johny Walker, Jack Daniels and Bud Weiser...

Sorry could't resist.

In all seriousness, sounds like you need some time away from everyone that is stressing you out. We are 5 weeks out and trying to tie up loose ends - making Cd's as favors, ordering linens, table names (she wants names, not numbers - long story!) etc. When I sense tension and start to stress, I try to walk away. Take the dog for walk, go gorcery shopping, gym, whatever it takes. It's easier said then done, I realize this, but it has to be done...

Just create some space, take a deep breath, and remind yourself this is supposed to be the best day of your life....

 

[Fairy_Tale_Bride]

Hey everyone! It's been a while since I've posted because I have been soooooooooo busy! We are down to 2 weeks until our wedding and then off to our honeymoon to Disney! Due to some financial issues, we are no longer staying at the AKL, but rather camping at Fort Wilderness. Other than the heat, I think we will have more fun camping. We love to do it and it seems a fitting way to experience Disney. I read in a post earlier that somebody was more excited about their honeymoon in Disney than their wedding at this point and I must say that I totally agree!!!! My maid of honor is also my only bridesmaid and my fiance's sister and she is HORRIBLE!!!! She has not offered to help with anything!!! And then when she finally did say she would go with me today to pick out my hairdo for the wedding, she couldn't even do that!!! My future MIL is driving me up the wall!!!! She is making my dress, which is absolutely gorgeous, but she won't just finish it already! Hello...two weeks until the wedding!!! And she said she would do my veil last weekend and that didn't get done. Then she's decided she wants to make the cake, which is fine, but I told her at least 3 or 4 times that I want to decorate it and I think it is going in one ear and right out the other. Plus, she wants to make like literally 10 cakes for my reception. There are only going to be 80 people there and we are grilling out (beach theme wedding) and having a meal! My fiance could care less about anything except to complain about it and I have pretty much had it! I need some suggestions from you all as to how to destress and get through the next two weeks!

I feel your pain. Take a deep breath! It will all be perfect once it gets here and you'll be so happy when the wedding is over...haha! I know I was ready for it to be over with already! It's just so much stress and anticipation! When it's over...you can look back at it fondly. I know my DH got on my nerves BIG TIME!!! Mainly, at the beginning of planning. My Mom and I finally had to say...butt out...haha! Then, you can relax and have the time of your lives! I know we had to cut back on our honeymoon too. We had to switch resorts to save money, which added stress...we had to move to another Resort in the middle of Tropical Storm Alberto!! Not a good thing...but it's some thing to enjoy looking back at. Good luck and don't stress! I promise it will all come together. Just know it's YOUR DAY and worry just about YOU!

 

[tinkerbell105354]

Thank you all! I am having a strawberry daiquiri as I type. Things are slightly better for the time being. I just want to be in Disney already! Any more destress suggestions, because I know with just 12 days to go, there's probably some serious stress in my future!

 

[Gradar1]

My favorite thing to destress is to light a few candles, run a bubble bath, make a drink , and relax in the tub! I've also got a reusable eye mask that I can stick in the freezer for 15 minute, or in the microwave for 15 seconds, that I use when I just need to get rid of a stress headache and calm down....no worries though! In order to see the rainbow, you have to endure the rain! I'm sure that your wedding beautiful, no matter how stressed out you are now!

 

[calanniebu]

two words - window shopping! I like to escape to the mall (leaving the CCs at home) and just walk around, browse and relax. It gets my mind off the stress of the wedding. We're planning and paying for everything ourselves (at home wedding with a disneymoon) which makes things easier in the sense of we're paying for it so the decisions are solely ours to make ... but also harder for the same reason!

And don't worry, we are also very much looking forward to our disneymoon because it will be just us on vacation something that hasn't happened in a while ... and our first time to disney as a married couple!

 

[twojo21]

keep your eye on the prize, your about to be married to the man you love. as for destressing take a day off of wedding planning, do some yoga, take a bubble bath, have a nice meal out & a drink with your fiance, play some music, go to the spa for a massage, etc. ask for some help with those last minute details. consider a cupcake cake a friend of ours did this for guests with different flavors & a nice heart shaped cake for you & your hubby. cupcakes are so easy, especially in comparison to making 10 cakes the day before.

purchase a battery operated fan for the tent while on your disneymoon. best of luck with everything!

 

[littleladykaty]

Oh my hunny, I HEAR YOU!!!! I am so lucky that one of my bridesmaids totally took the responsibility of getting my bridal shower together b/c had it been up to my sisters...well I'd have been lucky to have a beer at the Dirty D tavern! I have guests...FAMILY MEMBERS that just took it upon themselves to write in "And GUEST" on their response cards...I don't recall inviting anyone called GUEST! $105 per person and people are just taking it upon themselves to invite dates without even ASKING!! RUDE RUDE RUDE! Not to mention the people that said they were not coming (after we called them b/c they hadn't sent their rsvp's back) and then we find their rsvp's in the mail "accepting with pleasure" TWO WEEKS LATE!!!

It just kills me how rude and insensitive people can be...we are trying to PLAN people...there is a reason that we added a RETURN BY date on the rsvp card!

RAR!

now see...that's how you destress...come to the DIS, have a bit of a vent and you feel so much better!!!

remember to breathe...at the end of the day you'll be married and off on your honeymoon!! I'm looking more forward to the honeymoon than I am to the ceremony!!!!

 

[disneybridetobe]

Ooh! Ooh! I need to join in! I'm very happy this thread emerged because I'm having a horrible time! I need to de-stress!
My FTW is planned, booked, and settled- but not paid for. I can't wait to get the bill so it can be finalized! I'm just terrified that my mom will renege on her offer to pay for it, even though we have our half of the bill from my dad.

My mom apparently needs to keep up with her boyfriend's daughter's wedding, and have a SECOND reception in PA, where she lives for ONLY "my side", and not DF's family!! Every other day there's a new life-or-death catastrophic emergency regarding linen colors and dance floor sizes... and invitations. Which started off a whole new explosion...

My DF's Dad's Girlfriend and her daughter are throwing me a bridal shower out of the kindness of their hearts. (My mom was indignant that it "Is not her place to throw me a bridal shower.") They had a little mishap with the invitations and now my mother is screaming that its so RUDE that it's now 2 weeks out and no one has gotten their invitation. She went so far as to say it's a slap in the face!

My mother is acting like a spoiled bridezilla!!! She doesnt think the Disney thing is good enough, or a "real" wedding!! She's complaning about money when I'm having an INTIMATE wedding, and spending like $120 on floral, and $100 to upgrade my cake!! (And we have $$$$ to cover almost 1/2 from my dad!) She's read WAYYYY too many etiquette books and now shes gotten carried away with it, and now she's to the point of being rude. Shes suddenly taken on this pseudo-wealthy snooty attitude, and now she's too good for everyone else.. ::sigh::

I need good vibes...sent this way!!
Kim

 

[tinkerbell105354]

two words - window shopping! I like to escape to the mall (leaving the CCs at home) and just walk around, browse and relax. It gets my mind off the stress of the wedding. We're planning and paying for everything ourselves (at home wedding with a disneymoon) which makes things easier in the sense of we're paying for it so the decisions are solely ours to make ... but also harder for the same reason!

And don't worry, we are also very much looking forward to our disneymoon because it will be just us on vacation something that hasn't happened in a while ... and our first time to disney as a married couple!

We are paying for everything ourselves too. We paid for the honeymoon and have paid for the wedding stuff, except for the stuff to make my wedding dress, which my future MIL insisted on paying for since she made my dress. I agree that it helps in some ways, but definitely makes it worse at other times.

 

[tinkerbell105354]

To Disneybride2be...I'm sending some good vibes your way and you can send some back to me . I just hope that everything comes together ok and doesn't turn out to be a huge disaster. Thanks for the advice. I am always eager for more! 12 Days to go! 13 days and I will finally be in Disney!

 

[disneybridetobe]

To Disneybride2be...I'm sending some good vibes your way and you can send some back to me . I just hope that everything comes together ok and doesn't turn out to be a huge disaster. Thanks for the advice. I am always eager for more! 12 Days to go! 13 days and I will finally be in Disney!

Good Vibes, my dear! Good vibes!