No flame here. It's a good question. But you're asking in a forum dedicated to planning for Disney vacations.
I feel that those who are on here are likely the people who would ask and spend time extra time for things that others may not even care about. Everyone has their plans in mind and I would believe that people choose the advice that coordinates with the way they vacation.
For instance, everyone loves FEs and we have never done it. I can see why others like doing it and it's really fun for them, but that's not what we do on vacations, so we don't participate. Lots of people join meets onboard. Although, I'm sure it would be great to meet some of the members here, we don't do that either. But I can see how it could enhance others' experience. Tipping is a sensitive topic here. Some people get defensive about it because they don't feel that you are doing what they would do whether it's appropriate or not. You really just need to take the advice you think that would help your planning and enjoyment of your cruise and ignore the rest.
Although I agree that there are more multilevel planning here that other cruise lines, but I think Disney cruisers are very passionate about
DCL...more so than the other cruise lines. But remember that other cruise lines don't have the whole idea of Disney associated with it and with that comes expectations (good and bad).