Stupid comments about pregnancy

[DisKim]

Has anyone ever said something really insensitive to you right after they are told that you're pregnant? Let me preface this story by saying that I'm a teacher and plan on continuing to work just like I did with my other two children. I am going to have my DH's young cousin in class this year (there is no other teacher for the course). My husband's aunt (her grandmother) found out we're pregnant yesterday and her first comment was, "how will you teach my granddaughter?". That just hit a nerve. I hate the thought of leaving my students and I'm planning on as little time out as possible. Of course, this comment was followed up by someone else saying, "of course, you'll be staying home now with three." I don't understand why people can't just say, "congratulations." Am I just being hormonal and sensitive? I was so miserable yesterday that I started to second guess the idea of having this baby (obviously, it's a little late now).

 

[cvemom]

Many congratulationc !!!!Enjoy !!!!!! Keep teaching !!!!Share your joy with everyone. This is your time to shine no matter what anyone says.

Have a Mickey Bar and forget what she said.

 

[RobinMarie]

Kim,

You are right. no matter WHAT the circumstances are, whenever someone tells you they are pregnant, I wish we'd all automatically say, "CONGRATULATIONS."

You can't really insult someone by saying it, and you will only send a positive vibe to the person. It seems no matter WHAT the circumstances people say the silliest things.

Congratulations to you!

 

[DisKim]

Thanks, at least the DISers are saying "congrats" to me!

 

[Serena]

I've noticed that people are saying the stupidest stuff these days. I'm afraid I would have said something they wouldn't have liked in return.
Hang in there, and congratulations.

 

[Lars624]

Congratulations!

 

[Minniespal]

Congrats !!!!!

 

[4greatboys]

Congrats on your pg! Some people just say stupid things. I guess
some people dont know how to engage their brains before their mouths. We had an amnio with ds 3 and 4 and found out the sex both times but still my mil would ask with ds #4 every dr visit, oh is it still a boy What?? I didnt know babies changed sex in the womb. Yes its still a boy and we were darn happy about it.

 

[sweet angel]

Congrats to you!

This isn't exactly what you meant, but my neighbor (27, recently married and childless) said the other day, "When I get pregnant, I'm going to find out my due date and then schedule a c-section." I asked her why and her response was, "I don't want to go through all that pain." I was speechless.

 

[huey duey & luey]

Congratulations! As long as you and your family are happy about the newest addition ignore what everyone else says.
Tara

 

[Keli]

Congratulations!

(BTW, you shouldn't rethink your decision to add a blessing to your family, especially for someone who's comments are so selfish they blow my mind.)

 

[Hillbeans]

Congratulations!

I don't know what it is about people when they are around a pregnant person, but they ask the dumbest things and make the rudest comments.

In addition, everyone thinks it's their business to find out if you're having a boy or a girl and touch your stomach.

Hang in there!

 

[onecoolmama]

Congrats!!!

Yes, my cousin (she is a teenager) just said to me the other day, oh my gosh, I never want to be pregnant. I dont ever want anyone to see my stomach stick out.

Hey, if she has that attitude though, she probably shouldn't have kids right?

 

[tkd lisa]

Absolutely! It created a bit of a rift with my mother when I was pregnant with my first child. I had made a point to tell her first (after my DH of course!). We went over to her house before going to a planned dinner with my in-laws. When we told her, she said "Can you afford a child?" Now my DH and I both had very good jobs, owned our house, and had never asked her for anything! I walked out in absolute tears! The in-laws reaction was much better! I ended up writing my mother a letter explaining how badly she had hurt my feelings. She never apologized, but was much more polite with my 2nd pregnancy.

I truly believe that people just don't think before speaking. And then most of them aren't willing to just admit that fact. I have been known to put my foot in my mouth, but I will always say I'm sorry. It doesn't take away the poor remark, but at least it admits I knew it was wrong!

BTW, Congratulations on your baby! Enjoy the pregnancy, and whatever you and your family decide to do once that baby is here I'm sure will work out great!

 

[browneyes]

When I had my 2nd ultrasound and found out I was having a boy, the tech said I was the lucky one of the day. Of all the women that had ultrasounds that day, I was the only one having a boy. I just rolled my eyes at her. I was just happy to see my baby was healthy. Boy or girl.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Congrats
And I know it is hard but just ingore the stupid people with insensitive comments.

 

[SpecialK]

My MIL had two topics during my first prenancy: how she lost twins during the 3rd month and all the people she knew who had had handicapped children. Think she thought I was too old (39) to be PG? After my mis. before DS#2, she said, "Well, DS#1 will be okay as an only child." Hello!?!?!?

So - IGNORE the comments and enjoy every minute of this time! Congrats to you and yours!

 

[mrsltg]

People are just stupid. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!! How excited you must be to be expecting another bundle!!! (see, that wasn't so hard!!!)

When I was about 15 years pregnant with Dierdre , I had a waitress tell me, "OMG, You are HUGE!!! Are you having twins? Triplets, Quadruplets???" My DH was signing the check at that point and I told him, "skip the tip, dear." Being no fool, he obliged quickly and so avoided an outburst by the Maternity Monster!!!

Yes, people say stupid things all of the time. When my ds passed away, I mean literally, when he passed away, the nurse turned to me and said, "Don't worry, you're young. You can have another baby." Well, that obviously makes everything better, now doesn't it???!!!

Just ignore the stupid people...

Best Wishes for a healthy pregnancy!!!

Erin

 

[luvmydogs]

A co-worker said to me, "You must be having a girl 'cause she's taking all your beauty from you!" I had pre-eclampsia during my pregnancy and always did look a little sickly, but that comment certainly didn't make me feel any better. By the way, I had a boy!

A big CONGRATULATIONS! on your new baby bundle!

 

[KristiKelly]

4 days before DS was due I was still working. I remember this really, really redneck lady that worked in the office walked up to me & said "D***, you're f***ing huge". I could have pinched her skinny little redneck head off. I remember looking at her & saying "well gee, you really know how to make somebody feel good, don't you?" I should have just let her see how huge I was & sat on her.