Stuff no one told you before having kids

[princesspumpkin]

Once they get to be about 8 you automatically become stupid.

OMg, that is soooo true. DD and I were going back and forth on an issue, at which time I said "do you think you know more than I do?" She said "A little", and I said "Then pack your bags!" Amazing!

 

[budbeerlady]

I think it is amazing how she can be just like her parents, and she is only 5. And I didnt know how many nights when she was a baby I would watch her all night to make sure she was alright when she had a cold. The poor thing would sniffle and I would have a heart attack! Or how hard I would cry the day she started kindergarten even though she was in daycare.

 

[mainewmn]

I guess people told me but I never understood it, how much I would love them! There are so many things I could complain about here that my boys do but you know what, my boys are 15 and 13 now and I will miss the things they do to drive me crazy when they go away. If there is one thing I would love to do is to slow down the time, they grow up SOOO fast and I hate it!

 

[Barb D]

Breastfeeding HURTS.

 

[mookie]

That the terrible two's really aren't as terrible as the TRYING three's.

 

[MamaLema]

I now hide food in my clothes hamper

I see those days in my future

 

[FSUGrad97]

I used to hate it when my mom would lick her thumb and clean off my face.
It was a strange day when I caught myself doing the same thing to my DD!

It kills me how fast they grow up...it seems like just yesterday, we brought her home and she was so tiny, and now she's almost 2.5 and is so opinionated (yes, she gets it from me!).

 

[Castlebound]

Nobody told me that a toddler who doesn't want a nap will do anything to stay awake. Which for my DD would include poop art on the crib rails and the wall behind the crib! I think I still have nightmares about that little stage my DD went through!

 

[FreshTressa]

That all those times you worried they would never leave your bed were in vain...because they do, and then you miss that they ever did.

I would never sweat the small stuff if I were to do it again. I would let my babies do things in their own sweet time, because it goes by so fast and they all grow up eventually.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

That I would cry so much : )


I cried when my DD made her 1st cheer squad I cried when she won horse shows , I cried when she graduated , i cried when she left home, I cried 3 weeks ago when she became engaged : )

I cried when my son won his first wrestling match , I cried when he walked off the mat for the last time as a HS student and he did it a State placer! I cry everytime I think of how far off the colleges that want him to wrestle next year for them are .

 

[MAKmom]

And as much as people told me about the teen years, I really thought, "Oh, not me an my kids!" The first time I heard that he wouldn't go into the WalMart with me, because I looked like a hillbilly. The first time I heard, "God! You are so lame!" And especially, my personal favorite..."That makes no sense! You think you can...This is no fair! I hate you!" People can talk about it 'till the cows come home, it is waaay different when you hear it from your kids.

...although here on the DIS, no kids say stuff like mine. All the parents have perfect teens with whom they have intellectual agreement, and total family harmony!

I have a 9 & 11 dd who say that to me. DD 11 has a problems with Birkenstocks & Crocs.


What I did'nt realize was I would never get to go to the bathroom in peace again.Someone always wants to vist or talk to me. Its been 19 years now. My 19 year old used to put her baby fingers under the door trying to get to me....when she was'nt in there with me.

 

[rileyroosmom]

That you don't mind catching throw up in your hands!!! LOL

 

[Disneycrazymom]

How much you want your life to be set aside for them. I thought I would want to work but really felt so blessed to be able to stay home with them. Just this year as DD went to Kindergarten was I ready to go back to work.

How true about the eating. I have a hockey playing, 13 year old boy! He is never full. EVER!!! Thin as a rail but taller than me already. He must have a hollow leg!

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Nobody ever told me that I would get 'baptized' on an average of 3-4 times DAILY in the first few weeks of DS' life.

TOV`

 

[L107ANGEL]

Great thread!!
That it does go quickly. More then one can imagine. I repeat another poster, dont sweat the small stuff.
That you will have tears and smiles. They are gifts, cherish them.
That you are not expected to be perfect, just to be there is sometimes enough.
That when they leave it hurts!! Worst pain I ever felt in my life.
That they are human and will make mistakes just as we did. Love them anyway.
I have more, but I don't want to drag on!

 

[ceiligh1]

Someone else on the board has said this in another thread that the work isnt equal for the mom and dad no matter how hard you try. I didnt think about how much I was going to be alone in raising him. My DH tries to help but since I breastfed my son I had to get up almost every hour at night and go to DS roomto feed him, sleep on the couch because it was the only place DS would go to sleep and then get up in the morning to have my DH tell me how tired he is.
THat Breastfeeding sometimes just isnt easy, quick, or a bonding experience-sometimes it is stressfull, painfull and tearfull and you will repeat it in an hour.
Finally, the big realization for me was plastic as a decoration/ accessory. I never thought I would have all these plastic toys around my house. I thought it would be confined to DS room. I dont know what I was thinking. I have even found myself wearing his linking toys out in public. I am just glad I had a boy, I would not have been able to live with all the pink in the house if we had a girl.
That I would be very happy to sit at home on a sat. watching my son try to stand up with a big grin on my face. That he would bring so much happiness and laughter with him where ever he goes.

 

[Sandy51]

That nights are sooo long when your child is sick. I always felt so much better when it became daylight. And the same is true for sick grandsons, too.


Sandy

 

[mamacatnv]

That the terrible two's really aren't as terrible as the TRYING three's.

The trying 3's have nothing on the F'ing 4's and just when it seems like things are going along smoothly, along come the Negative/Nasty 8's & 9's.

When you have a screamer after checking all the obvious; hunger, cold, wet etc.... It is okay to put them into their crib where they are safe while screaming and take a long hot shower with the radio turned up. My DS hardly slept and cried for 9 solid months. My Pediatrician had 4 boys of his own and this was the best piece of advice he ever gave me, It saved my sanity.

I also was unprepared for how competitive moms could be with each other. I was very careful to have a circle of supportive friends as we have never had any family close by.

MamaCatNV

 

[Buckalew11]

No one ever told me that right after you give birth that you can be gassy. No one ever told me that those sweet commercials with mom holding baby in the nursey had the volume turned all the way down!

People told me they grow up fast but I didn't understand that. DD is 12 and if I blink she'll be away at college...

 

[lucyanna girl]

No one told me when my daughter was born that I had just meet my best friend.
No one told me that no matter how much I truly adore my daughter-in-law it would hurt just a little to know my son no longer loves me the most, even tho I know that's the way it has to be and would not have it be any other way. After all, when he was four he asked me to "marry with him".
No one ever told me that I could watch my heart walk around on two feet.