String's Atkin's Journal (Please Comment)

[DoeWDW]

Beth, first things first. Your Katie sounds like such a sweetie!! She is so thoughtful of others - I bet she got that from you!! You and Won should be very proud of Katie and of yourselves.

Now about the MIL - I can believe that she bought a ticket to the recital to watch Katie dance. I CANNOT believe her nerve at going backstage to find Katie and then to bring THREE DOZEN roses????!!!!! I know she loves her granddaughter but 3 dozen roses is a bit excessive for a 4 year old. You handled the whole situation in an amazing way, Beth. You separated them and made sure Katie was safe, and then you took MIL to a private spot so as not to cause a scene but you still got to make your point to her. Beth, you are a saint!! Pat yourself on the back for being clear-headed in a very difficult situation!

And now, I'm afraid my Mom-mode cannot be denied any longer. Beth, you are sick. You need rest, meds, fluids, and more rest. Please do only the absolute necessities and take lots of naps and downtime to let your body heal. All this stress has taken it's toll and now you need to focus on you and feeling better.

Sending you lots of healing pixie dust and a warm gentle hug! Happy Father's Day to Won!

 

[toystoryduo]

Beth,
I have said it before and I will say it again: You are an amazing woman! You did such a great job of keeping your composure with your MIL, especially when you are not feeling well. I hope that today is a much better day for you!

Take good care of you and have a fabulous time with DH and family today! Tell Won we said, Happy Father's Day!"

Tracy

 

[Strings]

Thanks Doe and Tracy. I knew this was the one place I could rant away without needing to worry about what people would think. You guys are so supportive.

I am feeling aquite a bit better today. No fever, throat isn't as sore, and my headache is much less. The only thing is that I have completely lost my voice again. Katie is already starting to take advantage of that. "Whaat Mom, I didn't hear you. You wanted me to clear my plate?" Like I'll buy that one.

I'm still pissed about last night. More at myself for letting that woman get to me and ruin my memories of Katie's recital. Doe, I am definately no saint. I would have loved to cause a huge scene, but I have to face these people in the fall. There were also 6 girls graduating, so it was there last recital. I didn't want to mess things up.

Katie is a classic. I gave her a pink rose on the 1st night, 3 pink roses last night. My Mom gave her 3 yellow roses last night. 3 doz. red roses from MIL. I tiald Katie this morning she could choose 6 flowers to put in a vase in her room. She chose 3 pink and 3 yellow. Those are her favorite colors. I asked if she wanted 1 red one too. She said," Mommy, they look like they are bleeding. I don't like them. I would rather have MiMi's flowers and your flowers because you picked colors that I like. Red is Harmonie's(Korean for grandma) favorite color. She picked flowers for her, not for Katie." I'm telling you this kid has been here before. She is definately an old soul.

I'm definately taking it easy. Kate and I aren't going to mass. I certainly can't talk much less sing. The church my rents like doesn't have a children's room or program, so I said no. We're going to the gourmet market then lunch. We're ordering wings for dinner. No real plans for exercise. Might walk Katie to the park this evening.

Happy Father's Day to all.

Thanks again,
Beth

 

[wilderness01]

Sorry about your MIL. She is also a piece of work. Are you sure we aren't married to brothers? The only difference being my MIL could give a care about any of us and would never make any attempt at seeing anything that was important to her grandchildren. It would take too much effort or thought on her part and she is completely thoughtless and selfish. If it isn't guaranteed to be a good time for her or all about her she bows out. Your MIL sounds like a pushy stalker! I hope you are feeling better soon.

 

[septbride2002]

I love your daughter's comments about the red roses! LOL! I prefer white roses myself. It sounds to me like you are going to have to "go to the mattresses" with your MIL. I hope that Won is still very supportive of your decision and that things with the two of you are okay. Of course you know that you can always rant here!

Your workouts are impressing the Heck out of me! 15 minute miles are awesome! Way to go! DH and I are having trouble running 3 straight minutes! LOL!

Have a great day and as Doe said, relax and try to give your body a chance to get better.

~Amanda

 

[Strings]

It went from bad to worse. I had another confrontation with PG. We've contacted a friend of ours who is a lawyer. We're getting a restaining order. She was in my yard. Katie was playing in her sandbox with her friend Zoe. Zoe is 10, she is wonderful, and I trust her with Kate as long as I am in shouting didtance. Zoe came running, I'm in the kitchen with my mom. Zoe says there is a woman who wants Katie to come with her. She wants to take Katie for ice cream. Thank God for Zoe. I went out there. Katie was explaining that she wants to play with Zoe and she's allergic to ice cream. I grab Katie, and give her to my Mom. Mom takes Katie over to Zoe's house for popicles. PG starts screaming at me. I'm a b..... I have no right to keep Katie away from her. I tild her to get off my property. I won't have her in our lives. She is a threat to katie. The woman actually slapped me. Won came upstairs at that point. He picked up his mom and tossed her in the car. He told her to leave. I've never seen him so cold. We told Katie that Harmonie is ill. It makes her confused, and Katie can;t see her right now. We told her that it is not safe to be with Harmonie because she can't think right. katie took it better than I thought. She said she will tell us if she sees harmonie. I really tried to keep this from her, but I can't risk it. I am considering sending Katie to my parents, if this doesn't work. Won calledd his dad. He of course doesn't know any of what has happened this weekend. They are meeting at 830 to discuss matters. Won backs me up completely.
I'm no longer pushing myself. I've done something to my throat. I can't speak at all, and I'm coughing blood. My body has given up on me. I've got a major headache, and I'll go to bed when Katie does at 8PM. I will go to the doctor tomorrow morning. I can't eat, but I am sipping tea. I had 1/2 cup of lc ice cream for dinner. I could barely manage that. Oh did I mention that Aunt Flo just showed up, 9 days early. Pretty sure it is stress related. I'm a mess. I am bawling right now. I need to go get myself under control, so I can help tuck Katie into bed.

I am sorry that I didn't get to all of the journals I wanted to today. I will check in tomorrow, and I will do journals tomorrow as well.

Beth

 

[wilderness01]

I am so sorry for you and your family. Actually I am speechless. This woman is a threat to you and your daughter. I would be worried she would try to take her. Very unbalanced. I for sure would get a restraining order. You probably should have called the police for assault since she slapped you. I feel bad for your husband's father and your husband. He needs to get a handle on his wife before anything gets much worse.

You need to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. This is all too much for one person to take on. I'm glad your husband is backing you. Little ones are so strong and totally adapt/adjust to their situation. I am more worried about you at the moment. Take care of yourself.

 

[lulu201]

Beth. . .I wish I had great words of comfort. All I can offer is a . You need to rest and to save your energy for this storm that you're in. I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this. At least Won and his dad are involved and working together to help Harmonie. It sounds like she's needed help for a long, long time--maybe all this will be the catalyst for getting her well.

Your stories of Katie warm my heart and make me . I'm glad that you can come to your journal and share all the aspects of your life.

Please, Beth, take care of yourself.

Erin

 

[Strings]

Won came to the dr.s appointment with me. I can't talk, so we thought that would be helpful. I am being admitted overnight. I have pneumonia, and will need IV antibiotics. I'm having a PICC line placed, so I can do them myself. I also need a couple of units of blood. I don't have a voice because I have pretty severe swelling around my vocal chords with some small tearing, that is where the blood came from. Note to self: Give lots more drugs to my patients who are being intubated.

I am to take it easy, not eat LC, no exercise, and get lots of rest for at least 10 days. Won is going to work from home, so he can take care of things for the restraining order and care for Katie. My doc made it clear that she will see me every 3 days for the next 2 weeks, and if she isn't happy with my progress, I will be hanging out in the hospital until I am better to her satisfaction. I promise to be a good girl.

I am headed to the hospital now, well sort of. I am making a stop at the bookstore first. It is on the way. I am also taking my laptop, but it will be a dialup connection. I hope to WISH between procedures and lab draws. I promise I will also nap.

Iatie is not going to take this well. She had nightmares all night long. She is going to freak when she hears that I'll be gone overnight. It can't be helped.

Thanks to everyone. I am apologizing in advance, if I don't make it to your journals over the next few days. to all.

Beth

Oh, Won's dad agrees that PG needs counselling and probably medication. He should know, he is a psychiatrist. He says he will try to get her into therapy. I am not holding my breath on that one.

 

[vald1977]

Oh Beth,
I'm sorry I have been absent from your journal all week. So much has happened and I feel bad that I haven't been here to support you. Both you and your sweet Katie will be in my prayers. Please try and get some rest. Katie will be just fine with daddy taking care of her. Let Won do the worrying about his mom. It sounds like he is on top of the situation. You need to concentrate on feeling better.

I'm sending all the prayers, pixie dust, and good feelings I can your way, Beth . Take care and know that I will be thinking of you and Katie.

 

[wilderness01]

OMG Beth. I am so sorry you are so sick. How long were you bleeding to need a couple units of blood? You sort of just glossed over that before.......You now need to let the staff take care of you and get some very much needed rest. No stress at all my friend. Stress plays havoc on one's body, immune system, etc. You know that. Take it easy, easy, easy. Why don't you go to your mom's when you are released? There is nothing like being cared for by your mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You will weather this storm and be a stronger person for it. I'm glad that you and are husband are a strong team and that he is supporting you. Your beautiful daughter will be fine for a day or two without you. You need to be well to care for her, but first you need to give yourself some TLC and recover.

 

[DoeWDW]

Dear Beth, I'm worried about you!! I'm sending you healing pixie dust and good vibes and anything else I can think to send along to help you feel better! Katie will be fine with Won - it will be great bonding time for the two of them! Health professionals do not always make good patients but you'd better do all you can to get better.

Glad to hear that Won and FIL are going to try to help your MIL. She sounds like she needs some psychiatric help. I'll keep her in my prayers. Hopefully she'll get better and no longer be a cause for concern around Katie. I'd be so very scared if I had a relative acting that way around my child. Maybe both you and Katie can hang out with your parents for a few weeks after you are feeling better.

Hug!

 

[Strings]

I'm borrowing my boss's computer. I couldn't make a good connection on mine, and I told her I needed to send 1 email. I get my PICC line at 5pm, which means 8. I have a roommate because they don't have any privates available.She is 83. She is on her 5th husband, Lou, whom she insists on calling Louis. She has a full face of makeup and is wearing white satin pajamas. She is taking full advantage of the call light and room service. If I was her nurse, she would drive me crazy, but she is interesting company. My girlfriends Cathy and Patty are bringing me dinner. Won has Katie at home. My mom is coming back to watch her during the day tomorrow. That way Kate doesn't miss camp. She may spend the night. We'll see.

I've gotten my 1st antibiotic, and I'm waiting for the type and cross to complete before I get my blood. After that is done, I just sit here until my Dr. releases me. Wilderness, I have chronic anemia. I take iron tid. My hemeglobin is usually around 9. but it is 8.3 right now. With my period being so heavy and just starting, and my being ill, they want to give me a boost. No biggie.

Thanks for all the pixie dust. I promise to try to be a good patient. It helps that my nurse knows me, and is giving me some freedom. I'm wandering around attatched to my IV pole.

I'll check in tomorrow when I get home.
Beth

 

[toystoryduo]

Oh Beth,
My heart goes out to you. I have read your last three posts and cried for you. You have been through so much and yet, I know that you will make it through this because you are such a strong and amazing woman.

Beth... Please do whatever is necessary to get you healthy again. Won will do a great job taking care of Katie. Plus, it sounds like your mom will be there to help out too. That's wonderful because you will need your rest.

If there is anything that I can do for you, please let me know. I am definitely sending tons of , prayers, , and your way.

"Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." ~ Isaiah 41:10

God's best to you, Beth!

Tracy

 

[vald1977]

Thanks for the update, Beth. Take care .

 

[lulu201]

Good morning, Beth. Here's a . I hope you (and your room mate ) had a restful night. Take some time today to think about YOUR needs, both emotionally and physically, and then make sure those needs are met!

You're in my thoughts and prayers,
Erin

 

[septbride2002]

Oh Beth! You have been through h*ll this week haven't you? You and your family are in my prayers. Thank Goodness for Zoe and that she came to you about your MIL. I cannot believe that woman would try to lure your daughter out of the yard without your consent. HELLO! That's called kidnapping and is a federal offense. Sheesh - I doubt you'll have problems with the restraining order. You probably should have contacted the police and at least issued a statement in regards to the assault and battery even if you didn't press charges and also a statement about the attempted kidnapping - which I'm sorry is exactly what your MIL did. This will help with your restraining order request.

Now onto your health - you are to listen to what the Dr.'s say and take care of yourself. I want you resting, sleeping, and not stressing out. Let Won take care of you and the house and you just worry about you.

I'm sending lots of good vibes, happy thoughts, , and prayers your way.

~Amanda

 

[wilderness01]

Hi Beth,

Hope you slept as well as you can in a hospital. Ok, that makes me feel better that you have a low Hb. I thought maybe you had a bleed somewhere. Hope you are starting to feel a little better. Rest, rest, rest and push your fluids.

 

[DoeWDW]

Dear Beth, I hope you're resting comfortably and being amused by your roommate (she sounds like a hoot!! ). I'm sending prayers and pixie dust your way for a good day today.

 

[Strings]

Well, My roomate was very entertaining until about midnight. She has sundowners. She got very confused and paranoid. I spent the entire night babysitting her. i got maybe 3 hours of sleep. I'm gald to be home. Actually, I had a great visit with my girlfriends. They brough me dinner. We split orders of lasagne, fettucini alfredo, and spinach ravioli. Patty brought a thermos of Margaritas, and ben and Jerry's Caramel sutra and chunky monkey for dessert. I'll quote Patty, "If you are going off program for a few days, you should enjoy it." We had fun just eating and talking. We don't get together often enough. My mom is staying the week. Thank god, she is in education. I can rest, Won can work, and Katie can go to camp and bond with MiMi.

I am feeling better. It is amazing what a little extra blood can do. I will be on IV antibiotics for the next 2 weeks. I have a dr appointment tomorrow for more blood work. I am taking it easy. My mom will be watching me like a hawk, so no worries.

I want to thank everyone on this board. You posts have brightened my day. I appreciate all the and prayers. I am going to eat lunch, cuddle with Katie, then take a nap. I'll do journals this afternoon.

Thanks again,
Beth