String's Atkin's Journal (Please Comment)

[Strings]

Thanks for the support guys. My plans for the day changed a bit. PG called Won at work today to complain about me, so he decided to go over there tonight. He backed me up. PG won't be seeing us until she is willing to apologize. She will never have unsupervized time with Katie. We'll see how long it lasts.

I decided to not make dinner. I took Katie to see Shrek 2. It was very cute. We hit the food court and I had a burger. I went to the Y 3 weight circuits and 40 minutes on the treaddie.
Erin made a exercise goal for the week, so here's mine.
Monday: 40 minutes cardio and weights.
Tues:45 minutes on treaddie, 30 on bike
wednesday: 30 minutes on treadmill, weight
Thursday: 45 on bike, 30 on treadmill.
Friday: 30 on treadmill, weights.
Saturday: rest
Sunday: 30 minute walk.

Recap:
1.)Meds 24/24
2.) Water 24/24
3. Exercise 17/24.
4.) Family 24/24
5.) Meals 24/24

I'm off to bed. Have a good one.
Beth

 

[toystoryduo]

Beth,
for you Beth. I'm sorry that you had/have to go through that with your MIL. I'm also sorry that Katie had to hear what your MIL said as well. I hope that you are both doing much better today. Was the conversation Won had with her productive?

I think that you are right in keeping Katie away from her unless she apologizes to you both and I definitely agree with your decision to NOT allow MIL to have unsupervised visits with Katie. Wow Beth. I am sorry that you have had to go through this. You are a wonderful person and you did not deserve to be treated that way. More for you.

Your exercise goals for this week look great! Keep up the good work!

We're taking our kids to see Shrek2 today. I'm glad you liked it. We're hoping our kids will like it too. I know emily will sit through the whole thing, but Caley may not. However, she always yells,"Shrek!" whenever she sees him.

Have a great day!

Tracy

 

[DoeWDW]

YAY FOR WON!!

I'm so glad he's backing you up on this one, Beth!! MIL sounds like a bit of a bully and sometimes the only way to handle a bully is to stand up to her! Hopefully she'll apologize and learn to hold her tongue and restore relative harmony to the family. The ball's in her court now!

Your exercise plans look great! How have you been feeling physically?? Are the meds helping?

Have a great Tuesday, Beth!

 

[Strings]

Hi Everyone.
Today is errand day. Kate has dance and swimming lessons today. We'll do grocery shopping, and I need to go to the health food store. I also hope to make it to the library. I'll workout when Kate is at swim lessons. Won said he'd swim with her for an extra half hour, so I can finish my workout.

Last night Won came home very frustrated. PG believesI disrespected her. She refuses to apologize, so Won lost his temper. He has cut her off until she apologizes. She even mentioned getting a lawyer because grandparents have vivitation rights. I'd like to see her try. I think she will apologize on Jun 17th. Katie's recital is on the 18th, and I hold the tickets. Even if she does, things won't be the same. I have lost all repect and what little trust I had in her. Pretty pathetic family, but I am not going to budge on this one. I feel sorry for Katie and Won's dad. Katie adores her grandparents, but I won't have her exposed to those vibes or that language. Won's dad is my strongest ally at the moment. He wants to see Katie, and he thinks PG went overboard, but he also has to live with her.

I am trying not to let this affect me. I am very angry at the moment. I have a tendancy to eat when upset, but so farI am still OP.
Plan.
Breakfast was a fried egg and bacon. Green tea.
Lunch will be a salad at meijers.
Dinner will be spinach quiche and salad.
I've had 1 l H2o so far.

Gotta Go,
Beth

 

[lulu202]

Hi, Beth. Aww, Sweetie, I'm so sorry that you're going through this with PG right now. Why is it that some people just don't know how to be kind or to behave? Maybe she was absent that day it was taught in school????????? Whatever her problems, you were right to act as you did and you and your family know it.

Something changes as we begin to get older and also as we start taking care of ourselves, I think. We respect ourselves more and expect that from others. I know that my boundaries have become clearer during the last few years as I've learned more about myself ; I've been able to express them to others in a more effective way. I like being grown up.

to you. Enjoy running errands and working off some of that stress--
Erin

 

[wilderness01]

I am so sorry your family is going through a hard time. I'm glad you and your husband are on the same page. Believe me I know about mean MIL's and how they can manipulate and turn things totally around. Stand your ground and at least you can respect yourself before things get worse. We are now standing our ground with my MIL and will never EVER let her hurt us or the children again. Congrats to you that you are not letting her affect your staying OP. She is not worth it at all. Have a great day.

 

[Strings]

When it rains it pours... Warning: long vent.

I'm not doing well today. I definately can't roll my bear tonight. Katie had dance, and she was goofing off, so she didn't earn her candy treat from the teacher. We went to Meijer's, and neither of us were hungry, so we did our shopping first. I decided I wanted to make lunch at home, so I got Kate a sorbet cone. I asked the server if it was dairy free. She rolled her eyes, and informed me that yes, the definition of sorbet is that it is dairy free. Well, it wasn't. I don't know if it was cross contamination or a dairy ingrediant, but Kate reacted. I ended up in the Er for 3.5 hours. Katie is fine. She had some ongoing asthma and need continuous treatments and steroids. The only problem will be some eczema which we can easily treat. All the frozen food and meat is ruined, not that I care. When we got home PG is in our driveway. Thank God I never gave her a key to our house like she wanted. She goes off on me when she sees Katie. Her lawyer will be very interested in the fact the I fed Katie dairy and caused her to be hospitalized. I told her to get off my property ans the hell out of my life. Katie is crying that reactivated her asthma, so I had to give her more treatments. PG is at my front door yelling her head off. I had to call Won to get her to leave. He was pissed he had to leave work. We look like trailer trash. I live in a very conservative neighborhood. I know of at least 4 people who witnessed that. I am just so tired. I don't know what else to do. I had dinner. Kate didn't go to swim lessons, so I didn't workout. I suppose I could have gone after she was in bed, but I just couldn't manage. About 9PM I had a peanut butter sandwich and a cup of decaf. I suppose I didn't binge, but I wanted to. I'm over my carb count. I need to stay up until midnight to give kate another breathing treatment, and then again at 4AM. This will continue for 48-72 hours, every 4 hours. I don't know if I will send her to school tomorrow. It will depend on how she is doing. She may need a nap. I may have to workout tomorrow night instead of in the afternoon.

I'm sorry that I haven't gotten to all the journals I wanted to today. I am thinking of all of you. Have a good night.
Beth

 

[wilderness01]

Oh Beth I am so sorry about this. It is so frightening to see your child like that. Nurse or not, it is still scarey. We just cope better. You need someone to care for you now. I wish I lived closer to you.......

Not that this will make a difference, but I would call and report that employee, her attitude and the incident. It could be worse the next time with a mother who isn't as well equipped so to speak.

Now to that b of a mother-in-law .......you should have called the police on her. She has no right to treat you like that. She sounds down right explosive. I would have your husband talk with his dad that if she doesn't cut it out you will place a restraining order on her. I know this sounds like Jerry Springer and may inflame the situation, but what else are you to do? Your daughter can not be exposed to her. She sounds whacky enough that I would be worried that she would grab my kid. I'm not saying that she would flee, but she could make a scene and really scare her.


Again I am so sorry. Try to process this and get rid of it. Time heals.......

 

[Strings]

I'm struggling today. Won and I had a long talk today. We think his mom has become seriously unhinged. He is going to talk with his dad today. The ironic thing is that his dad is a psychiatrist. I think she needs medication. I almost, but not quite, feel sorry for her. She is going to be estranged from us at this rate. Once Won cuts someone off, he doesn't forgive. This could become forever even if she gets help. As far as yesterday is concerned, at least she was screaming in Korean. Noone, myself included knows what she said. Springer, here we come.

Wilderness, I called Meijer from the ER. The store director said he would look into the ingrediants.. If they are dairy free, he was tossing the tub. If dairy is an ingrediant, he said he would put a sign up to warn people. Sorry I forgot to mention it. He was very nice, and worried about Katie. I'm sure part of it was fear of being sued, he seemed genuinely concerned.

I am going to do baby steps today. I hope to stay op today, but it will be minute to minute. I am really tired, actually exhausted. Katie seems to be in pretty good spirits. I woke her at 8AMfor her treatment. She has some eczema, but seems ok. If she stays happy, I'll let her go to school. I'll work out if she goes to school.

I'm off to check out some journals.
Beth

 

[toystoryduo]

Oh Beth.... Huge for you today. How is Katie doing? We 'll be saying prayers for her and for your family. I am so very sorry that you have had to go through this.

Beth, you are such an amazing woman. You take excellent care of your family, you work hard, you are working out and eating healthy, and you find the time to post encouragement and inspiration in our journals. I appreciate the blessing that you have been in my life and I know others do too.

I am sorry that your MIL is blind and can not see this. You are right in keeping Katie away from her. You and Won are amazing parents and you definitely don't need PG to influence Katie's thinking.

Beth, honey, while you are taking care of your precious Katie today, please find some quiet time where you can relax and take some time for yourself. Like wilderness01, I wish I lived closer to you so I could come and help you out. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Please know that God will give you the strength to overcome this and that we will be here for you too.

Remember Joshua 1:5.

Tracy

 

[Strings]

Thanks Wilderness and Tracy.

I'm hanging in there. So far no PG today, but I am on edge. I keep thinking she will show up out of the bleu. I'm going to tell preschool that she is not to have acess to Katie. She was our emergency contact, so she could sign Kate out. Better safe than sorry.

 

[DoeWDW]

Beth, I would definitely get PG off the list at preschool - you'll feel better! Next time she shows up uninvited and starts screaming at the front door, I think I'd call the police or at least her husband and let them deal with her.

Poor Katie! Next time you get a call from Meijer's asking about her, I'd casually mention the ruined groceries - maybe they'll replace them! I hope she's feeling all better!

Sometime today, Beth, when things are calm, I think you really need to treat yourself to a nap, or anything else that induces relaxation - a good book, maybe?? You've been through a lot lately and all those hormones from the stress are racing around your body, putting you on edge. You need time to decompress.

Please take good care of you.

 

[vald1977]

Oh Beth. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this with PG. I think it's a wise idea to take her off Katie's list. You just never know sometimes what people will do. I can't imagine how stressful this whole thing must be.

Poor Katie. I hope she is feeling better today. That must have been so scary and then to have to deal with more turmoil when you get home... I am just at a loss, Beth. I will be keeping you, Dh and Katie in my prayers.

Now on to a lighter subject .

I didn't even get to watch AI last night. I had a meeting and could have taped it but I feel like you do and I don't even care who wins at this point. Bottom line is last year's top two were so great that it was bound to be a let down this year. I just love Clay and Reub ! They give me goosebumps when they sing. I never got that feeling from anyone this year although I did really like Jennifer and George. Like you said, there's always next season .

I hope you have a quiet non-stressful day, Beth. I will be thinking of you .

 

[Strings]

Just a vent...

I'm not holding it together well today. I thought it was all undercontrol this afternoon. I dropped Kate off at school, and she did fine. I went to the Y and did 2 weight circuits and 3.75 miles on the treaddie. 4 if you include my warm up. Came home, and it all fell apart. I put some brats on to boil, will grill later. Ran down to change over the laundry. Katie wants to ride her bike. Sorry kid, I've got to make the colelaw. We'll go after dinner. Now Kate is a smart kid, and she is stubborn. She knows that a tantrum right now will give her sn asthma attack, and my undivided attention, and possibly her way. Full tantum, so she gets a breathing treatment. Sorry you still can't go on a bike ride, I still need to make the slaw. Another tantrum, asthma, treatment. No bike, but I threw her in the tub, and she is happy. I am ready to strangle her. DH should be home soon. Still nothing from PG.

Ok I am done, and I feel a little better. Thanks for the vent. Sorry that I'm such a downer at the moment. I am ready for 2004 to be done . How long until 2005?
Beth

 

[DoeWDW]

Vent away, Beth. Know that I'm keeping you in my prayers and sending good vibes your way. Truly wish I could do more, my friend.

You'll get through this, I promise. Things will look brighter soon. You've just gotta hang in there until then and if venting helps then feel free.

 

[toystoryduo]

Beth,
Hey girl! I can't tell you how many times I have wondered when 2005 will get here myself. It's funny because at the beginning of the year, DH and I decided that we were going to claim 2004 as our year. We're still waiting......

This has been such a difficult year for so many and many times I lack the words of comfort that my heart wants to say. I want you to know that you and your family are in our prayers. Beth, I pray that you can find some time in the very near future for you. Time to relax and time to treat yourself like a .

There is a saying that you can't have a rainbow without the rain. Right now, it's pretty stormy for you, but just remember that your rainbow is right around the corner. (Hopefully with a pot of gold at the end of it. ) When you see that rainbow, remember that God is with you and He will help you get through this.

Remember, we are all here for you.

Tracy

 

[Strings]

Well, I'm doing a bit better. I got angry. I an feeling much more able to cope now that I am angry. I am not about to let that woman mess with my life or my family. I have things I need to do for me and my family. I am not going to let her derail me. I will stay OP and keep exercising. I will live my life. If she tries anything, she will have a fight. I will do what is necessary for my family. I have come to the conclusion that she needs help from a therapist, and until she gets it, she is a threat to my family. If she gets help, we will reconsider our stand then. Won is supporting me in this. I know itis hard for him to deal with, but Katie is our priority.

I stayed OP yesterday, but everything was VERY HIGH in sodium, so I feel bloated. I plan to
I have a meeting for Katie's summer camp at the Y tonight, and I'll work out then. I'm busy again today, but I'll try to get journals.

Thank you all for your support. It has helped me stay OP and keep me grounded. I would have totally fallen apart for a long time without this board and all of you. Ok, off int o the day.
Beth

 

[septbride2002]

I am steaming mad at the moment! How dare you MIL treat you this way! What is it with MIL's that think they can run everyone's life? Good for you and Won for standing your ground and not letting her antics become the way that she gets her way. I say cut her off - you don't need her in your life anyway.

She even mentioned getting a lawyer because grandparents have vivitation rights

This is from the AARP Website:

State laws may provide legal remedies for grandparents who are being denied visits with their grandchildren. Grandparents should be aware, however, that no state grants an automatic right to visitation. Judges are required to consider the circumstances of the individual family in deciding if a child would benefit from visits with grandparents. In all 50 states, the best interest of the child is used as a basis for determining whether to order visitation.

In other aspects of visitation, individual state laws differ widely. Some states do not permit grandparents to petition for visitation when their grandchildren's parents are married and both parents oppose visitation. Some states allow grandparents to petition for visitation even after a child is adopted by a step-parent. Some states consider an established grandparent-grandchild relationship as a factor in deciding visitation petitions.

And Beth let me apologize for not reading your journal sooner and posting to you. I am kicking myself right now. You are always writing in my journal and I have fallen behind in reading yours.

~Amanda

 

[lulu202]

to you, dear Beth. I hope that when you're at the gym tonight you can stop over at a punching bag, do a little PG visualization, and let loose!

Amanda, what great info for Beth to have! If anything, that can give you some peace of mind, Beth. Maybe you want to have it typed out and handy for PG if she comes over ranting and raving like a maniac again.

OK, now that I've called MIL a maniac, let me just say that it's wise of you to see her as someone who is ill. Being clinical will help you to distance yourself from her craziness.

Take care, sweetie. I gotta work!

Erin

 

[Strings]

I am doing much better today. I am exhausted but in control. I ended up needing a snack this afternoon. The salad at lunch just did't cut it. I whipped some cream wth Divinci chocolate SF syrup and had 5 strawberries with it. The leftover was used in a coffee. It was decaf, but I just needed the coffee experience. I need to switch over to green tea, and only have 1 cup of coffee a day. Hmm, June goal, we'll see. I'm at 3.5 liters of water. I'll probably end up at 5. I'll drink some with dinner and during/sfter my workout.

I don't think PG will go for visitation rights. Won's dad would have to be involved, and that isn't something he'd be willing to do. I think it was a threat, so I would back down. If it does happen, Won's best friend is a VERY good lawyer. I'll tear her apart. I'm trying to stay rationale about this.

Thanks again for all the support.

Beth